How To Beat The Odds And GET The Woman You Want, or: Hot Women Wear Headphones For A REASON!

I would be incorrect if I said that
online dating is always a mistake. If
you MUST be 24 hours a day, 7 days
a week, in locations where there are
no women, then online dating makes
sense.

If you are very shy and would like to
start with talking to women online
instead of in person, this might be
a good idea for some guys as well.

HOWEVER, otherwise, the EFFORT and TIME
that must be spent to find the right woman
ONLINE over weeks and possibly MONTHS if
not YEARS is actually FAR, FAR GREATER
than what it takes to just go for a stroll
and meet a TON of incredible women in
just one AFTERNOON.

This is another reason why taking BOOTCAMP
with me is so powerful: It is because you
learn how to waltz right up to women
and attract them on the SPOT.  And it is not
some kind of THEORY; you actually get to
PROVE IT in front of your own EYES.

Any by "PROVE IT" I mean the following
kinds of things happen:

1. The woman gives you her email.
2. She gives you her number.
3. She buys you a drink.
4. She gets girly and giggly with you
even though you are not super funny.
5. She kisses you.
6. She makes out with you.

Number 6 tends to happen more in clubs,
but in general, the bottom line is that
you can TELL the women are actually
INTERESTED instead of just saying
things such as, "I have to go".   

Focusing your energy on meeting women online
tends to also make you needy as when you finally
meet a woman you are interested in online, you
start to get insecure if she does not respond
right away, and it does not help to know that
if she is attractive or even not so attractive
she probably has a thousand messages in her
inbox from other guys because it is SO EASY
for any guy to just click SEND and send a
message to her INBOX.

Meeting women and approaching women in person
takes a lot more SKILL and hence you get rid
of most of the so called "competition".

PLUS, by getting lots of women from meeting
them in person from cold approaches, you
also become SUPER EMPOWERED AND CONFIDENT
AND SECURE and if you DO decide to go back
to online dating, you actually COMMUNICATE
in a way that SHOWS you are not needy
and in a way that shows you are fun.

It will then show even in your messages
back and forth with women on the online
dating site.

It will also show in your profiles online,
because it is EASIER to put up a playful,
confident, or intriguing profile when you
are feeling EMPOWERED with women as
opposed to feeling NEEDY.

However, what you are at your best online
is NOTHING compared to what you are at your
best IN PERSON. You have MUCH MORE POWER
to attract in PERSON.

And when you see how many women you have
choices from when you master the skill of
approaching in cold approaches, you will
not feel the desire to go back to online
dating.

Online, a woman does not get to feel your
personality since she does not get to see
your body language, your expressions, your
tonality, etc.

You lose some of the HUMAN TOUCH online.

But in REAL LIFE, you get to reveal WAY MORE
PERSONALITY, way more of the HUMAN TOUCH.

NUMBER TWO: HOT WOMEN, HEADPHONES, MOVING 

If you look around at hot women, you will notice
a LOT of them have headphones on, and you will
notice they do not often stay STATIONARY in
one place for long in places like malls or
stores, etc.

Some guys complain about this, saying it
makes it harder to approach women.

I used to be one of those guys.

But guess what?
Women being hot and being harder to STOP
and to get them into chat mode compared
to getting other women to stop and chat
is NOT a coincidence.

Hotties NEED to make themselves harder to stop
or they will never get to move through the world
without spending ALL DAY talking to EVERY GUY
that sees them.

The HEADPHONES is PART of that.
The headphones are SAYING, "I'm in my own world,
please leave me alone".

So if you DECIDE TO GIVE INTO THAT, you have
just made yourself part of the MAJORITY of
men who DO NOT GET ANYWHERE with her.

Similarly, these hotties MOVE around more, they
KNOW if they stop for long enough, FOR SURE
they will get a LOT of men who have no clue
about how to behave, and ALSO that these men
will get upset if she has to leave without
giving them the number, etc.

So hotties PREVENT a lot of problems this way. 

DO NOT GIVE INTO THESE ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS.
JUST OPEN UP THE CONVERSATION ANYWAY, and
do it RIGHT.

Women know you are approaching them, just make
sure you approach them in a way that makes them
GLAD you did.

THREE: CONGRUENCY

There's one more thing I want to mention today:
It is all about something known as CONGRUENCY.

When opening up a conversation with a woman
who is a total stranger, you can SCREW IT ALL
UP even if you do EVERYTHING ELSE RIGHT but
you fail to show CONGRUENCY.

Congruency simply means that your WORDS are
CONSISTENT with your BODY LANGUAGE and tonality.

So, let's say a guy is at a bookstore and starts
chatting to a woman about a book she is reading
and he PRETENDS to be interested in the book
but he is not really interested in it.

Most likely, his FACIAL expressions will reveal
some discomfort or disdain or boredom with it,
from the way his eyebrows furl or the crinkles
in his forehead or the way his glance moves
around unsteadily, or the way his voice shows
a lack of genuine interest, etc.

On the other hand, if a guy actually SAYS
that he knows NOTHING about that topic but
is curious what she finds interesting about
it, he will sound CONGRUENT if this is the
truth about the situation.

A woman sensing CONGRUENCY in a man is a BIG thing.

One of the BIGGEST problems in "pick ups" or
'cold approaches' on women who are total strangers
is coming across as "sketchy" - as UNTRUSTWORTHY.

Women WANT to meet men, but they also want
to be SAFE.

So a guy who is the most innocent guy in the
world, and who just wants a woman and just
wants to impress her, but who is not being
CONGRUENT with her, will trigger her ALARMS.

She does not KNOW the reason he is not being
congruent is rather innocent, i.e. that he
likes her. All she knows is something is NOT
true about the situation. 

This is a bit similar to how dogs sense a
person's fear, and it often agitates the
dog, even if the REASON the person feels
fear is BECAUSE of the dog, and not because
the person wants to attack the dog!

All the dog knows is that something is WRONG.

The flip side is also true.
If you are being CONGRUENT, you can use almost
ANYTHING to get a woman into you.

Here's an example from bootcamp:
At a store, the song "Fields of Gold" by Sting
was playing softly over the loudspeakers.

In the moment, I just felt MAN, THIS SONG IS
REALLY CLASSIC STUFF, IT'S CALMING, IT'S
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD STUFF.

So I just turned to the woman, who was in middle
of her own thing, reading a book, and I said,
"Isn't this song beautiful?"

And I MEANT it. 
I said it SLOW, and said the word "beautiful"
as if the word beautiful was ITSELF sacred.

I was truly totally congruent with it.
I've loved that song since it first came out.

And now she FEELS it.
She is soaking it in.

And she goes "Yes, it really is".



This woman was YOUNG, so I said the next totally
TRUE and congruent thought I had, which was:

"That's pretty cool you know this song,
because you seem pretty young".

So then she tells me that she has her parents
to thank for that, they brought her up with
great music. We chat a bit about how Lady Gaga
was actually influenced by her parents who
played their music around the house, including
music by Bruce Springsteen, etc.

At that point, I introduce myself and
extend my hand. She smiles and introduces
herself as well as we shake hands. We
continue chatting about things that
RESONATE such as having classic values,
timeless music, and inspiration.

I use this example because it was NOT
genius, it WAS however very CONGRUENT.

Being totally congruent also means you
do not use pick-up lines, because pick-up
lines run the risk of a guy feeling he
is "doing an act", which means not being
congruent to his real identity.

After a while, I had to end it, because
the point was illustrated and my client was
ready to do some more approaches of his own.

(He got the number of a sexy, slim but shapely
woman who wanted him so badly that she was
not afraid to reveal she had NO PLAN for
SATURDAY NIGHT and wanted to know what HE
was doing! And to prove it was a real  number,
he actually called her right away, and her
phone rang on her right then and there!)

And if you are reading this right now, I
promise you that what you have just read,
as powerful as it is, is just the TIP
of the ICEBERG.

My "Real World BOOTCAMP" is going to equip you with the skills to attract more women in one WEEK than most men attract in a LIFETIME.

Bootcamp is a bit like THE MATRIX.
You will see that YOU create the
results that YOU want with women, and
that there are NO limits.

You get to benefit from over TEN YEARS
of my dedication to these skills and to
teaching these skills.

Email me with possible weekends that work for
you and I will let you know if any of them are
still available.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And if you don't already have the following
two ESSENTIAL programs, get them IMMEDIATELY:

"The Dating Wizard" E-Book:
This book is the FIRST thing to read.
It is an ABSOLUTE MUST.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html    

"Acing the Approach":
This program shares my LATEST strategies
for succeeding at the art and skill of
approaching and attracting women who
are total strangers.

It's at:  

http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html   

Till next time,

Michael Marks