Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Why Women Need Masculine Men

MASCULINITY, when COMBINED
with the skills to create a DEEP LEVEL
CONNECTION, is what attracts a woman
and turns her into a fantastic girlfriend who
will be loyal to you to the ultimate level.

Since 2003, I have been focused on
helping men RECLAIM the power
of being a MAN.

In fact, in my book, "The Dating Wizard:
Secrets to Success With Women", the term
"THE MAN" appears tons of times. 

It's the ESSENCE, if you will, of the book. 

What do I mean by “THE MAN”?

I mean being everything that a man is
NATURALLY, before he got brainwashed
by too much modern culture over the past
several decades.

Before then, man's natural sense of masculinity
was pretty much the same since the BEGINNING
of TIME.

Yes, it's nice we have become more
civilized and moved out of the caves,
but that doesn't mean that there aren't
certain PRIMAL elements of masculinity
that we SHOULD NOT REPRESS.

Pretending that we aren't men only serves
to WEAKEN a woman's attraction to us.

In order for a woman to feel FEMININE and to
feel attracted, then on the deepest, most primal level
she must sense that you are "the yin" to her "yang",
the MASCULINE to her FEMININE.

This is polarity working in your favor.
The more masculine you are, the more feminine she feels.

She must sense MASCULINITY in you in a RAW
visceral sense.

This is why it’s so important in our MODERN
culture to NOT be swayed by media or images
or politically correct mentalities that tell men
that men and women are THE SAME.

Women are INDEED worth EVERY BIT
AS MUCH AS MEN, I SWEAR to that.

And they deserve every last iota of respect
that any man does.

But men and women are not “IDENTICAL” IN THE SENSE
OF BEING THE SAME DNA.

In fact, a society that does not SEPARATE
the concepts of MASCULINITY AND
FEMININITY actually ROBS both men
AND women of the joy of sexuality.

Now, it's hard to argue with the entire
HUMAN HISTORY backing up these
facts.

Everything has changed in the past few
decades. Before that, however, and in
fact since the beginning of RECORDED
HUMAN HISTORY, the concepts of
masculinity and femininity were clearly
defined in every culture.

It's ALWAYS been important to separate
and define the MASCULINE vs. the FEMININE.

In the past, this was always clear.

Today, IT'S POLITICALLY INCORRECT
to preach masculinity.  Instead you must be
one of the few men who know the SECRET
of how important it is to actually BE masculine
even though we keep being told as men to
REPRESS our masculinity.

You must KNOW it and PRACTICE it, even
in the face of politically correct hogwash that
says men and women should act exactly the
same.

Women expect a man to know that modern
politically correct talk about men and women
behaving identically is HOGWASH.

Women don't want you to act the same as them!!

And they don't want to have to TEACH a man
that he needs to be more masculine.

If a man doesn't understand that a woman wants
her man to be masculine, she won't TEACH the
guy, she'll just avoid him in any sexual sense.

More than ever, men and women are ALLOWED
to be with each other, however at the same time
there is LESS attraction than ever!  The same
forces that say men and women are the same
and TECHNICALLY allow men and women
to be with each other, are also the forces that
DILUTE the sexual fire of desire between men
and women.

Here are some ways that men and women are
blurring the distinctions between the genders:

Women these days are trying to be men in terms
of trying to act "like one of the boys" sexually.
Most men tend to encourage this, thinking this is
fun or cool, not realizing this is destructive.

Many men are also trying to act like women,
thinking that this shows "sensitivity and niceness".

And many men are trying to attract women by
being "politically correct" and non-sexual.

The distinctions between men and women's
roles has become blurred, and it's not helping
men or women at all.

It's the CONTRAST between male and female
that creates the SEXUAL FIRE OF DESIRE
between men and women.

If men and women were TOO SIMILAR,
there would be NO EROTIC FIRE.

This is ALSO what I mean about being
"THE MAN".

The more YOU are THE MAN, the more
a woman feels like she is A WOMAN.

And trust me, one of the finest sexual compliments
you can ever get from a woman is “you made me
feel like a woman” or “you brought out the woman
in me”.

When a woman IS feeling ATTRACTED
to a man, she becomes like a little girl around
that guy, until she gets in bed, of course, and
then she becomes a WOMAN.

And there is no way in HELL that any
woman is going to feel THAT when a
guy acts like he is exactly like her,
as if he is another woman, just happening
to have a male organ on him.

In fact, that’s the whole IDEA of "Clark
Kent", is that his BEHAVIOR is so
NOT "THE MAN" in the movies, that
in real life this kind of NON-MASCULINE
behavior makes the part of a woman’s
brain that is responsible for PRIMAL
URGES, to “FORGET” that he is a man.

So she feels nothing sexual for "Clark Kent".

There is an INSTINCTIVE PRIMAL PLEASURE
in being a MAN around a woman who is FEMININE,
and there is an instinctive primal pleasure for a woman
to be around a man who is MASCULINE.

All else is hogwash!

So when I say BE THE MAN, I mean
be MASCULINE in every way.

It should show in your authority and tonality
when you open up the conversation with her.

It should show in your decisiveness,
in your leading the interaction, and
it should even show in your sense
of humor.

It should even show in your style of
clothing and accessories.

And it should show in the way you get
"physically intimate" with her. This doesn't
mean that you have to be an "animal" all the
time, and there is a time for being tender
with her in bed, but DEFINITELY you want
to be outgoing and primal in bed with her
as well.

To get the FULL PICTURE on this and learn the
most EFFECTIVE way to approach, attract, and
KEEP a fantastic woman, I suggest you get my
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It will show you, in full detail, the most powerful
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intimate. You'll also learn how to master all the steps
in between, such as getting numbers, emails, and texts. 
It will even show you how to use the internet for
attracting a fantastic woman.

Plus, you will learn BREAKTHROUGH strategies
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of approaching women) FOREVER.

This program includes 8 DVDS, and is JAM-PACKED
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inside and out.

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And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
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then do that now.  This book is filled with fantastic tips
you can use to meet and attract women the very same
DAY or NIGHT you get the book!

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Till next time, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

Samples From The DVD Program "Warrior Within":





Plus, Check Out This Sample From My Book "Get A Great Girl"
by clicking the link below:

Sample From The Book "Get A Great Girl"

 

5 comments:

cc3ca90a-1c53-11e1-bf3c-000bcdca4d7a said...

This is an excellent article...I have forward it to some friends. It seams that more and more men are turning into pussy's these days due to the needs of women wanting us to me more in touch with our female side. Bottom line...I don't have a female side...I'm a man. I get it that they need us to be more in tune with them and their emotional needs..and frankly I'm sure this might get me laid more often, however, as you have said in so many words...women like us cause we are
men. Much more of this apparent transition men are taking and we will be joining the women on the chair when the mouse runs across the floor....

Aimie B said...

I love a man because he is a good human being, not because he is masculine. The genitals are great, but I would even love a man without them. If a man can show me he is human - a COMPLEX human being who can be both aggressive and passive, be troubled by some things, but have the strength to move past others, THAT is a man. Or rather, that is a real, male human being. You say that you do not intend to come across as implying men and women should not be equally valued, but then you insist men should show authority in conversation. Don't be rough in bed all the time, but y'know, be rough in bed.
No woman likes a man who dominates conversation; doing that shows a complete lack of respect for who you're talking to! It shows that you value your own words as a man more than mine as a woman (which is silly. If you /really/ do believe we have equal intellect, you won't try to dominate the conversation).
An internally strong man is what is attractive. The word "strength" should be carefully considered. For example, many displays of strength are often overlooked: the ability to forgive takes tremendous strength; the ability to keep your temper in check; the ability to admit fault. These things are WAYYYY more difficult then simply dominating a woman physically or in conversation. Those things I listed off, THAT'S impressive shit for a lady! If you really want to meet a great girl, make yourself a great human being. You will attract someone with equal integrity. And even if it takes you some time to find them, at least you're an awesome person in the process!

Michael Marks said...

Aimie, I'd like to address your comments and see if we can clear things up:

You wrote:

"I love a man because he is a good human being, not because he is masculine. "

I certainly believe that being a good human being, i.e. having genuine empathy for others, is crucial. I even wrote a whole book on attracting a woman who is not only beautiful, but who also has the great characteristics required for a long term relationship. The book is called "Get A Great Girl" and I focus on many relevant issues regarding this topic in that book.

Here is a sample from that book:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Sample_Four.html

The thing is that I don’t ONLY focus on rapport and connection and finding a woman with compatible values, because all these things, as important as they are, are not ENOUGH.

They are not enough to trigger ATTRACTION.

And without ATTRACTION, a relationship is just as doomed as it is without rapport or connection. So that is where the OTHER things I teach come into play.

In my experiences, I have found that most heterosexual women actually do find themselves ATTRACTED to men who are masculine, all things being equal. Most heterosexual women do not want a man who is more feminine than them.

Michael Marks said...

I'm also pretty sure that you do not mean passive-aggressive, when you mention that "If a man can show me he is human - a COMPLEX human being who can be both aggressive and passive, be troubled by some things, but have the strength to move past others, THAT is a man."

Surely, however, you don't want a man who is going to cry about all his problems, right? No one is perfect, we will all be troubled to SOME degree by SOMETHING, but this is not the IDEAL, this is not the GOAL.

Surely, you can see that being STRONGER, being MORE SECURE, being MORE calm, is better than being WEAKER, more INSECURE, and more FRAGILE, right?

You then mention that I say that "men should show authority in conversation". When I say this, I am ESPECIALLY referring to approaching a woman in a cold-pick up style approach, a woman who is a total stranger.

If a guy comes across with more authority, it WILL help him succeed in many situations where otherwise the whole approach itself might be questioned. It is actually a proven concept that behaving with authority WORKS far better than behaving as if you don't have permission to speak to a woman.

In fact, it is women themselves who have made it abundantly clear that they prefer to choose the men with confidence and who act with authority rather than the lack of confidence and lack of authority.

Now, obviously, once a couple are dating or in a relationship, it becomes more of a 50-50 balance, but even then, it seems that most women still WANT a man who makes decisions and who does NOT say to his girlfriend, "I don't know, where do YOU want to go?"

Instead, she LIKES it when he has PLANNED the date, what they are going to to, when he takes her by the hand, etc, etc.

She does not want some guy who keeps asking if it is okay to do this, if it is okay to do that, and if he keeps asking her "So do you LIKE me? Can you please tell me if you will be my GIRLFRIEND because I'm so insecure I need to know, because I can't get girls!"

Michael Marks said...

Then you mention that I tell men something along the lines of "Don't be rough in bed all the time, but y'know, be rough in bed."

Being assertive in bed is in fact a HUGE thing. So this does not mean to be rough all the time, of course. What it means, however, is for nice guys to realize that women are intensely sexual and just as wild as men, and that when a man shows he is comfortable with sex, it actually helps a woman feel comfortable to allow HERSELF to ALSO express her sexuality and her desires to him.

So this leaves both the man and the woman with a much healthier, passionate, and long-lasting sex life than if all they do every time is the exact same thing at the exact same time in the exact same way and the only kind of sex is the kind where he is professing his Shakespearean lines from Romeo and Juliet.

I also do not think that a man should be the only one talking. If you read my material, you will see that I actually encourage LISTENING skills to allow a woman to do most of the speaking, so that a man can LEARN about her and learn what makes her tick.

However, one cannot expect to approach a woman and NOT do most of the talking in the BEGINNING, otherwise how ELSE will he get talking with her if she is a total stranger he sees somewhere?

So, in the first part of the conversation, he MUST dominate most of the conversation, until it clicks and SHE starts to do the talking.

And regarding what you mentioned on "An internally strong man is what is attractive", I TOTALLY agree, and in fact I have a MASSIVE program on this topic, it is called "Warrior Within".

The word "Within" is to refer to the strength INTERNALLY. By the way, this program is at: http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

You can also find some powerful video samples from the program by going to the link above.

So I wish you the best and I hope this clears things up, because I think we are actually on the same page.