tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3848182071350071552.post8365145311407721704..comments2023-07-16T00:52:35.623-07:00Comments on The Dating Wizard: Why Women Need Masculine MenMichael Markshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01315656784236917202noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3848182071350071552.post-11132017819216313132013-01-24T19:17:00.520-08:002013-01-24T19:17:00.520-08:00Then you mention that I tell men something along t...Then you mention that I tell men something along the lines of "Don't be rough in bed all the time, but y'know, be rough in bed."<br /><br />Being assertive in bed is in fact a HUGE thing. So this does not mean to be rough all the time, of course. What it means, however, is for nice guys to realize that women are intensely sexual and just as wild as men, and that when a man shows he is comfortable with sex, it actually helps a woman feel comfortable to allow HERSELF to ALSO express her sexuality and her desires to him.<br /><br />So this leaves both the man and the woman with a much healthier, passionate, and long-lasting sex life than if all they do every time is the exact same thing at the exact same time in the exact same way and the only kind of sex is the kind where he is professing his Shakespearean lines from Romeo and Juliet. <br /><br />I also do not think that a man should be the only one talking. If you read my material, you will see that I actually encourage LISTENING skills to allow a woman to do most of the speaking, so that a man can LEARN about her and learn what makes her tick.<br /><br />However, one cannot expect to approach a woman and NOT do most of the talking in the BEGINNING, otherwise how ELSE will he get talking with her if she is a total stranger he sees somewhere?<br /><br />So, in the first part of the conversation, he MUST dominate most of the conversation, until it clicks and SHE starts to do the talking.<br /><br />And regarding what you mentioned on "An internally strong man is what is attractive", I TOTALLY agree, and in fact I have a MASSIVE program on this topic, it is called "Warrior Within". <br /><br />The word "Within" is to refer to the strength INTERNALLY. By the way, this program is at: http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html<br /><br />You can also find some powerful video samples from the program by going to the link above.<br /><br />So I wish you the best and I hope this clears things up, because I think we are actually on the same page.<br />Michael Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315656784236917202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3848182071350071552.post-71234686381538908862013-01-24T19:16:35.840-08:002013-01-24T19:16:35.840-08:00I'm also pretty sure that you do not mean pass...I'm also pretty sure that you do not mean passive-aggressive, when you mention that "If a man can show me he is human - a COMPLEX human being who can be both aggressive and passive, be troubled by some things, but have the strength to move past others, THAT is a man."<br /><br />Surely, however, you don't want a man who is going to cry about all his problems, right? No one is perfect, we will all be troubled to SOME degree by SOMETHING, but this is not the IDEAL, this is not the GOAL. <br /><br />Surely, you can see that being STRONGER, being MORE SECURE, being MORE calm, is better than being WEAKER, more INSECURE, and more FRAGILE, right?<br /><br />You then mention that I say that "men should show authority in conversation". When I say this, I am ESPECIALLY referring to approaching a woman in a cold-pick up style approach, a woman who is a total stranger. <br /><br />If a guy comes across with more authority, it WILL help him succeed in many situations where otherwise the whole approach itself might be questioned. It is actually a proven concept that behaving with authority WORKS far better than behaving as if you don't have permission to speak to a woman.<br /><br />In fact, it is women themselves who have made it abundantly clear that they prefer to choose the men with confidence and who act with authority rather than the lack of confidence and lack of authority.<br /><br />Now, obviously, once a couple are dating or in a relationship, it becomes more of a 50-50 balance, but even then, it seems that most women still WANT a man who makes decisions and who does NOT say to his girlfriend, "I don't know, where do YOU want to go?"<br /><br />Instead, she LIKES it when he has PLANNED the date, what they are going to to, when he takes her by the hand, etc, etc. <br /><br />She does not want some guy who keeps asking if it is okay to do this, if it is okay to do that, and if he keeps asking her "So do you LIKE me? Can you please tell me if you will be my GIRLFRIEND because I'm so insecure I need to know, because I can't get girls!"<br />Michael Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315656784236917202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3848182071350071552.post-69312582944511314742013-01-24T19:16:02.673-08:002013-01-24T19:16:02.673-08:00Aimie, I'd like to address your comments and s...Aimie, I'd like to address your comments and see if we can clear things up:<br /><br />You wrote:<br /><br />"I love a man because he is a good human being, not because he is masculine. "<br /><br />I certainly believe that being a good human being, i.e. having genuine empathy for others, is crucial. I even wrote a whole book on attracting a woman who is not only beautiful, but who also has the great characteristics required for a long term relationship. The book is called "Get A Great Girl" and I focus on many relevant issues regarding this topic in that book.<br /><br />Here is a sample from that book:<br />http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Sample_Four.html<br /><br />The thing is that I don’t ONLY focus on rapport and connection and finding a woman with compatible values, because all these things, as important as they are, are not ENOUGH.<br /><br />They are not enough to trigger ATTRACTION. <br /><br />And without ATTRACTION, a relationship is just as doomed as it is without rapport or connection. So that is where the OTHER things I teach come into play.<br /><br />In my experiences, I have found that most heterosexual women actually do find themselves ATTRACTED to men who are masculine, all things being equal. Most heterosexual women do not want a man who is more feminine than them. <br />Michael Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315656784236917202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3848182071350071552.post-36400331268361519732013-01-24T09:31:59.773-08:002013-01-24T09:31:59.773-08:00I love a man because he is a good human being, not...I love a man because he is a good human being, not because he is masculine. The genitals are great, but I would even love a man without them. If a man can show me he is human - a COMPLEX human being who can be both aggressive and passive, be troubled by some things, but have the strength to move past others, THAT is a man. Or rather, that is a real, male human being. You say that you do not intend to come across as implying men and women should not be equally valued, but then you insist men should show authority in conversation. Don't be rough in bed all the time, but y'know, be rough in bed. <br />No woman likes a man who dominates conversation; doing that shows a complete lack of respect for who you're talking to! It shows that you value your own words as a man more than mine as a woman (which is silly. If you /really/ do believe we have equal intellect, you won't try to dominate the conversation). <br />An internally strong man is what is attractive. The word "strength" should be carefully considered. For example, many displays of strength are often overlooked: the ability to forgive takes tremendous strength; the ability to keep your temper in check; the ability to admit fault. These things are WAYYYY more difficult then simply dominating a woman physically or in conversation. Those things I listed off, THAT'S impressive shit for a lady! If you really want to meet a great girl, make yourself a great human being. You will attract someone with equal integrity. And even if it takes you some time to find them, at least you're an awesome person in the process! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12467040646403711467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3848182071350071552.post-47908604815857909452011-12-01T11:36:44.456-08:002011-12-01T11:36:44.456-08:00This is an excellent article...I have forward it t...This is an excellent article...I have forward it to some friends. It seams that more and more men are turning into pussy's these days due to the needs of women wanting us to me more in touch with our female side. Bottom line...I don't have a female side...I'm a man. I get it that they need us to be more in tune with them and their emotional needs..and frankly I'm sure this might get me laid more often, however, as you have said in so many words...women like us cause we are<br />men. Much more of this apparent transition men are taking and we will be joining the women on the chair when the mouse runs across the floor....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com