Thursday, September 30, 2010

The Warrior Within You

For many years, since even before
Neil Strauss published "The Game",
I was out there explaining that if
you are looking for a QUALITY woman,
for a great relationship, all the
stereotypical dating guru and
pick up artist advice will only

I explained that you must take a
very DIFFERENT approach with an
amazing woman who is beautiful
inside and out.

As you may already know, it turns
out that now they are forced to
admit that everything they taught
was WRONG, and that in fact what
I said was RIGHT. It took YEARS
for the full damage of their
"advice" to become evident.

In the form of THOUSANDS of men who
ended up with break-ups, finding
out that the women cheated on them,
etc, etc.

The pain of this is a million times
WORSE in the cases where men had
actually met QUALITY women but
caused them to LEAVE as a result
of those tactics.

Let's go to the FLIP side of all that:
A woman that would NEVER cheat.
A woman that you could TRUST.
A woman that is gorgeous.
A woman that is intelligent.
A woman that is warm and fun.

Do you think a woman like that
wants a PLAYER?????????????

There’s a saying that “a good man is
hard to find” and there’s a reason
that saying has become part of our
everyday language.

It’s because the very BEST women have already
had countless guys try just about every “game”
in the book to get them, making these women
very experienced at detecting the WRONG men.

When it comes to attracting the most amazing
women, the ones who are beautiful inside AND out,
and who are loyal, warm, intelligent, and full
of life, it’s a completely different UNIVERSE
than just attracting any woman.

It requires a crucial INTERNAL shift in your
ENTIRE outlook on attraction, and it requires
a critical set of skills and advanced insights to
MAKE this shift.

Everything I've ever taught you now goes
to the NEXT level in your success with
the most amazing women, and it's all here:

If you're looking for the kind of woman who
is incredibly beautiful on the inside AND on the
outside, and who would also be a fantastic
girlfriend for a great long-term relationship,
then it's of paramount important to realize
one thing:

Standard dating advice out there only makes you
seem like yet ANOTHER insecure “player” trying
to impress her with his “too cool for school” act,
and who arrogantly thinks he is going to “score”
with her.

So that immediately causes her to engage in
what I like to call “AUTO-SHUTDOWN” where
her attraction switches are now OFF and it’s
just a matter of how quickly she can smoothly
eject out of there.

And not only must a man immediately stand out
from the pack, but he must actually be able to
CONTINUE to show superior inner strength as
a part of his identity, if he wants to actually
KEEP such a woman.

The good news is that there is a WAY of
actually BECOMING this kind of man, so
that you don’t have to put on an ACT, ever.

And what’s even BETTER is that a lot of
this internal SHIFT comes from unleashing
your core self that is ALREADY deep within
you, and has been SCREAMING for years to
be FREE so it can revel in its own power, if
you could just learn the combination to
unlocking it.

You’ve probably heard me mention my new
program, Warrior Within, before. It’s my
most POWERFUL program, by far, EVER.

It's also my first-ever program on DVD,
because I wanted to ensure that you get
the feeling of actually BEING at the
program, and FILMING it was the only
way to do that.

It’s taken YEARS to create, organize, and
complete, and it’s finally READY.

This program is about learning to harness
the power that is already IN you, that is
your REAL identity that you have been
REPRESSING, and allowing it to TAKE
and where it will not only attract the
most amazing women, but will also
do it with EASE.

It's the NEXT LEVEL.

But the only way for you to see for yourself,
is to TRY IT OUT.

And the great news is that you can try it now at
my risk. Try it now for 30 days.

If for some wacky reason it doesn't change your
LIFE (though I’m certain it will), just send it
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No worries, and no hard feelings.

There’s zero risk to you.

As you already know, an amazing woman who is
a “10” inside and out, makes your entire LIFE
more fulfilling. So claim your set of
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Michael Marks

P.S. If you want to get an amazing woman, inside
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Monday, September 20, 2010

Being A "Nice Guy" Is Mean To Women

Being a nice guy is mean to women.
This all has to do with where this
"nice" is coming from in the first place.

It comes from this fact:
Most guys are nice to beautiful women because
subconsciously guys think that being "nice" might
make up for what guys THINK is their own massive
LACK of value.

Most men can't believe that they can attract
a gorgeous woman, never mind a woman who
is gorgeous and also a good person as well. 

The reason guys don't believe it is because
they are so obsessed with a woman's looks,
which ironically BLOCKS them from actually
getting a woman with those looks. This is
because the obsession with her looks
causes the following problems that
destroy attraction:

1. It makes him NEEDY, because he feels
she is "above" him as he falls for the "halo-effect"
(The halo effect is when people somehow feel
that people who are attractive or powerful
or "distinguished" must somehow also be
"better" people just because they SEEM
that way from their accomplishments or
their looks.)

No woman wants to be with someone who
is of LESSER value, and yet the halo effect
makes men believe they are of lesser value
than the woman!  It comes across in a guy's
tonality, his expressions, his behaviors with her.

So in effect, he is telling a woman that she
should be with a LOW VALUE guy, and
that's kind of MEAN when you think about
it. Imagine someone told you that you should
get something that is really NOT worth it,
but always smiled around you as a form of
compensation- you might even HATE the
smiling, as you looked at it as a form of

2. The neediness also DRAINS his sense of fun
and his sense of sexuality, so that his approach
and conversation with her ends up coming
across as very ANTI-SEPTIC, very boring,
and in fact the whole vibe is a DOWNER.

3. Of course, this results in a lot of "rejection"
which then makes a guy feel CONVINCED
that in fact he IS somehow "cursed" with
women, and that he doesn't have a chance,
which further erodes his charisma, confidence,
sexuality, his sense of fun and vitality.

4. On a subconscious level, 99% of women
are attracted to a subtle DOMINANCE
from men. This has nothing to do with
mistreating women, in fact, in order to
truly be dominant with a woman, a man
must also earn TRUST from a woman
so that she can feel safe by totally
submitting to him sexually.

However, you can see how IMPOSSIBLE
it would be to give off the vibes of dominance
when feeling inferior and feeling submissive
to a woman.

So you see, attracting women has nothing to
do with being a JERK, it has to do with destroying
NEEDINESS, it has to do with letting your natural
male dominance exude through your pores and
every subtlety of your behavior, it has to do with
unleashing the REPRESSED yet   COOL part
of your IDENTITY!

Yet, because most guys are way too submissive
with women, guys start to think the answer is
to become a JERK, because in their view,
being "submissive" was nice, and not being
submissive is being a jerk---all this only
feels this way when you are under the
influence of INSECURITY.

Insecurity is the great destroyer of your results
with women.

Recently, I received an email from a reader
of my Dating Wizard eBook that shows just
how important these skills are in the greater
perspective of things. This email was not even
meant for the newsletter. However, I believed that
it was so important for other guys to read this,
that I requested permission to reprint it here,
and he agreed that indeed this would be
important for guys to see and encouraged
me to print it:


Michael, I just had to write to you and share
with you my thoughts on your “Dating Wizard”

Potential buyers need to know; “This stuff works”.
Ok, let me start with a little Bio. I will be 34 in
October. God has blessed me with decent looks
and the ability to put my body into good shape.
In my early years I have portrayed myself as
“The Man” without even knowing it.

Here is the kicker though: The women I did this
with were mostly more like “Mopeds” (you know,
mopeds are fun to ride but don’t let your friends
see you on them) and EVERY time I met a girl
who was HOT, I was like the pathetic man you talk
about in your book (NOT the man). I always wanted
to be the nice guy, much like you explain “why don’t
nice guys finish first”.

I remember losing a chick who was the HOTTEST
thing to a 19 year old when I was 23 and making
all sorts of money! I had a house, a corvette,
money and no matter what I did, she kept going
back to this “Thug” that treated her like sh**.

Hell, I could not even get her in bed, yet she would
go over to this guy’s house and f*** his brains out.

How do I know, cause he was my best friend’s
little brother, so him and I were friends while all
this was going on. I never, let me repeat, never,
understood what happened all these years until I
read your book!!!!! It has been an eye opening
experience for me.

Now I know to treat ALL women just like I treated
the FAT ones and OH MY GOD is it working!
EVERYTHING you talk about in your book is
happening EXACTLY the way you said it would,
down to the very instance!

Let me give you a bit more history; I am in the middle
of a divorce, all because I was trying to be the NICE
GUY, you know; what women say they want out loud.

Dude, even when I met her it was the same. When we
met, I went to her house, made her dinner, and just all
around KISSED HER ASS! It got me no place! Except
used to watch her dogs while she drove all the way
from Dallas to Oklahoma to f*** some guy.

Well I am only nice for so long, then I was like “F*** her”
and cut her off from my life, well within weeks she was
calling “what happened to you”, I blew her off, she kept

Finally, within a couple months to make a long story
short, we moved into a house as roommates only.
I ignored her even still, this drove her nuts.

She would come in to my bathroom while I
would take a bath and plop down and talk to me
while I bathe. I just did my thing and ignored her
still. Getting out of the tub, “hand me that towel”
in all my glory… I did not give a sh**, and acted
like it. Finally I got my nipples pierced, I was in the
tub, she came in as usual, when I got out, I laid on
the bed, facing the ceiling, she started to look
at my nipples and then touched them, I told her
word for word, “touch them again and you will
get fu**ed”.

Well you can imagine what happened from there…

Ok, the ass kissing did not startup again for a while,
but it started back up again as I thought this was how
to be a “Good husband”.

Let me tell you, was I wrong!

It got me right back into the same position! Needless to
say, I caught her in her third affair, and now in the
middle of seeking custody of my 4 year old. It is all
good though Michael, it has taught me a HUGE lesson.

Along with your book, it has opened my eyes more than
I can tell you man!!!!!!!!!!! I am now back to always
being the MAN.

I met a HOT chi*k the other day, we went out for the
first time last night and all I did was practice being
THE MAN. I have been laughing ever since. This
woman is already SPRUNG on me. And this is after
talking a good game, she is just as vulnerable as any
other FEMALE I have ever met, FAT, or HOT.

She is melting in my hands like butter, I even got an email
from her today saying “You are so sexy” and I have
not done a damn thing.

Now I learned a long time ago the power of teasing
women about or with sex, or you can call it foreplay.
I have very good control in that area and I think that
does make you SEXY as hell to women.

I was so COOL last night, I gave her a hug and walked
away. She ran over to me and tried to kiss me, then I
just moved my head to the side and kissed her on the
cheek and then kissed her hand like Don Juan would do.
She is on me like WHITE ON RICE and I am laughing
all the way to the bank…… I can’t seem to get this
grin off my face 

Any way I just wanted to say thank you for opening my
eyes and other men really really really need to understand
this stuff and apply it to their life and they WILL NEVER
feel like the wussy man again. Thanks Michael!

John T.

Dallas, TX

****My Comments****

Thanks for the props on the book. And my respect
to you for truly having the powerful attitude that
converts past pain into PRESENT AND FUTURE
POWER and PLEASURE. I agree with you that
by learning some lessons the hard way, it truly
becomes a lesson never forgotten.

What's making women attracted to you here is
the fact that you are in reality giving women what
actually TURNS THEM ON.  It does not turn
a woman on to ASK her what turns her on,
it turns her on to KNOW what turns her on
and then GIVE THAT BEHAVIOR to her.

What makes your letter especially useful for readers
is the SPECIFIC DETAILS of things you did that
(Including the part of you not handing over to her
the "goods" so fast, making her CRAVE you even
more - which is actually what any guy who feels
they have HIGH WORTH would do, because
you don't give over great value to someone before
they EARN it.)

What is also valuable is the way you describe the
mistakes you made, because it lets other guys who
I’m sure have made the exact same mistakes
(we've all done the same mistakes) know that
they are NOT alone.

The level of detail you included rings very true.

You mention that you have been blessed with
decent looks and that you are in good shape.

Too many guys think that learning these skills
is a sign of “weakness” or a sign in some other
way of not being a cool guy. In truth, it’s actually
the sign of SECURITY and strength and intelligence.

It means you are secure enough in yourself to realize
that knowing all this stuff about women has
NOTHING to do with who you are, nothing to do
with your “worth” as a person.

Being successful with girls simply has to do
with whether or not a guy was lucky enough
to have LEARNED how to do this stuff from

In our current brainwashed culture, the ONLY
way to know these skills is if someone shows
someone, either formally or informally if the
guy happened to have had friends who had these
skills. (And those friends had someone who showed
them, you can be sure.)

If you yourself are a logical guy, you would
THINK that having all these things like money,
looks, success, would be the MAIN thing
for being successful with women.
But although those things often DO work,
they WON'T work if a guy doesn't have
the "inner game" down.  And if a guy
DOES have rock-solid inner game,
then even if he DOESN'T have ANY
of those other things like looks, success,
fame, money, etc, he can STILL have
MASSIVE success with women.

In fact, if you have STRONG LOGIC
in all OTHER AREAS of life, then chances
are that same logic becomes a WEAK point
when dealing with women, unless you’ve
learned the skills of attraction.

This is because attraction is an emotion,
and in order to create this emotion, you
have to learn to STOP thinking in STANDARD
LOGICAL ways, and get used to a whole
NEW type of logic that is VERY DIFFERENT
than what you would EXPECT.

Emotions are not always rational, (although on
a deeper level, most emotions DO have logical
roots based on survival) so what triggers emotions
is not the standard rational thinking.

Rational thinking is good for programming a robot,
not for igniting attraction in a woman.


You can have a BILLION reasons why a woman
should be with you, but if you haven't triggered
ATTRACTION, it's all pointless.
However, the logical guys ultimately get the
sweetest rewards, as logic leads them eventually
to the conclusion that they need to adopt a
strategy that WORKS. And what better
way to find what works than by learning
from someone who is proving it for clients
in real life in front of their faces.

You mention you had a house, a corvette, and money,
all at only 23. And who did this woman keep going
back to? This “Thug” that treated her like sh**.

I hope every guy is reading this twice.

Now, I personally don’t go so far as to ABUSE
any woman ever, (not even the ones who are
very abusive, I would suggest just LEAVING any
abusive woman and save your energy for positive
things) but the principle of maintaining the superior
edge and never kissing up is ETERNAL.

For all we know, this “thug” guy in reality was
not a thug at all and had Spiderman Underoos and
wet his jammies every night but gave HER her the
emotional rollercoaster of ups and downs and kept
her excited and not knowing what was going to
happen next.   It's possible he is just a great actor,
but most likely he wasn't acting when it came
to one thing- his self-concept regarding his

The behaviors that FLOW from this sense of value
are a whole OCEAN of behaviors in a man that
end up making women CRAVE that man in a sexual sense.

You mentioned “EVERYTHING you talk about in
your book is happening EXACTLY the way you
said it would, down to the very instance!”

The reason for this is that the sequencing of
behaviours that flow from attraction as well
as from LOSS of attraction are VERY predictable,
and it took me YEARS to see EXACTLY the
pattern. I appreciate you confirming this, and
I’m willing to bet thousands of guys were nodding
their head as they read your email, as if to say
“damn, that’s EXACTLY what happened to me”.

It’s as if all women follow the exact same script,
and the exact same sequence of behaviours.

The next point in your letter that really got me:
“middle of a divorce, all because I was trying to
be the NICE GUY, you know; what women say
they want out loud.”

Exactly, out loud that is what they say.
But actions speak louder than words.

Props to you for pointing this out to everyone from
a real life hard core example.

Man, it hurt to read the part “It got me no place!
Except used to watch her dogs while she drove
all the way from Dallas to Oklahoma to f***
some guy.”

But you know what? I wonder how many
WOMEN that they don’t even have a CLUE
what is going on and probably NEVER WILL.

So at least you knew what was going on.
You weren't clueless.

A lot of guys that think everything is actually going FINE.

Now, I’m not trying to get guys to panic.
And HONESTLY, not all women are horrible,
in fact, this is why I wrote my other book,
Get A Great Girl, which is all about those
fantastic women and what to do to get
a great woman like that, and to keep her.

The 'Get A Great Girl' book builds on the
foundation set in The Dating Wizard book.

It’s crucial to know the full picture, and understand
the psychological HARDWIRING of attraction,
because with a great woman, you still must trigger
that carnal level of lust in her for you, while ALSO
having the deep level of trust and intimacy that
cements your connection with her on a
level which no other guy can ever compete.

It’s also well worth it to have the skills so you can
detect IMMEDIATELY if a woman is playing you,
and that way you can dump her pronto. (And not
take her back, EVER.)

Also, the same skills will enable you to better
tell if a woman is TRULY a good woman,
who if you are THE MAN, will respect you
without INCESSANT testing all the time.

Now, although I’m not sure why you were still
together with her at all after this point, still
there was a very enlightening point that came
up with her later in your email:

“Well I am only nice for so long, then I was like
“F*** her” and cut her off from my life, well within
weeks she was calling “what happened to you”, I
blew her off, she kept calling.”

The results are IMMEDIATE.

You use the words "blew her off", but in reality, you
were not being mean at all, because this is a woman
who NEEDED that in order to correct the PREVIOUS
picture of yourself that you had drawn for her.

In fact, this kind of thing used to get me even
ANGRIER because it "proved" that indeed these
women DID KNOW how to behave, they just
didn’t WANT to, they weren’t attracted to the
good guy.  Now I realize that there's nothing
"good" about conveying LOW VALUE
about yourself, and none of us would do it
if we felt HIGH VALUE and if we didn't
fall for things like the halo effect.

Ignoring her while you bathed?

Then, you did something very SPECIFIC when she
she started touching you. You LAID DOWN
THE LAW with a woman who doesn’t understand
any other way.

You didn’t give big speeches, you didn’t act all happy
she was touching you, you didn’t VALIDATE HER
just because she was INTERESTED or even
TOUCHING you. You didn’t MELT DOWN.

A MAN, when you told her, “touch them again and you
will get fu**ed”.

Now, normally, this kind of statement with a NEW
woman would make her feel uncomfortable or make
her feel like a slut, but in this case, she was anything
but a stranger, so this had nothing to do with her being
easy, she knew that responding to you positively after
your statement would NOT brand her a slut, it would
simply be her ACKNOWLEDGING that you are
THE MAN who is usually calm but takes no bullshit.

And she KNEW internally that she needed to
be put in her place, and it TURNED HER ON
that you did exactly that instead of act all
happy about her touching you.


But then, alas, as you already mentioned, you
eventually melted:

“Ok, the ass kissing did not startup again for a while,
but it started back up again as I thought this was how
to be a “Good husband”.

Let me tell you was I wrong!”

Yeah, I can feel you there.
The inner desire to sometimes go back to the ideas
implanted by some cartoons, movies, songs, shows,
in our childhood and even adulthood is strong.

I’ve never been married but I have been in several
long term relationships and all my ideas about
romance have been tempered by two concepts:

2:Never do anything out of a need for validation.

Women have made the message loud and clear:

In fact, they will be punished.
And as crazy mean as that sounds, it actually
makes SENSE from an evolutionary survival
point of view, (a low value guy might have low
value children) and ALSO it’s very LIBERATING,
as it means you GET TO ENJOY BEING

And remember, you CAN still be very good
to a woman, you can treat her GREAT,
but this MUST come from a place of
from neediness or weakness or insecurity.

The difference is MASSIVE, as when you
are coming from an internal place of strength
and empowerment mixed with warmth, there
are INFINITE subtle nuances that are different
in your tonality, your expression, and your behaviors
compared to when the behaviors are the result

A few litmus tests of whether it's coming from weakness
or strength is asking yourself these four questions:

1 ."What has this woman done for YOU?"
   (In other words, has she EARNED your approval?)

2. "Would you do this nice thing for her if she
DIDN'T look that hot?"

3. "How much of your self-confidence depends
on what SHE says to you, i.e. on her validation
of you?"

4. When you talk to her, does your voice
pitch RISE? If it does a lot, then you are
probably feeling SHE has higher value
than you.

As you become “The Man”, you start
to realize that a lot of that nice guy stuff that
we wanted to do in the past was simply the result
of us being brainwashed to need validation.

Once you realize you don’t need to get it,
you realize you don’t need to give it, it’s
something that just happens naturally when
you really like someone for who they are,
and not just for the validation they can give

That doesn’t mean you can’t be a GOOD guy,
and show a woman affection and have good
times with her. A woman DOES want a good
guy, she wants a good guy who is coming from
an internal place of LIKING her, NOT from an 
internal place of NEEDING her.

Success is about being a good guy and ALSO
realizing that all bets are OFF when it comes to
doing things for a woman “just because” she is
a woman.

Those days are OVER.

It also means that you have to OVER-RIDE
her verbal or non-verbal requests for you to
be a wuss.

You must override those requests and be a
man anyway, regardless of her protests.

I believe that great relationships and marriages
are very possible, it’s just crucial that guys
make sure that they are THE MAN at all
times. If a guy can’t handle that, then better
NOT to get into a relationship or get married
or even do pick up. Basically, be THE MAN
or find a sealed off island away from women
and away from everyone actually.

Good to see you have the game in your hands now,
and enjoying life. (I do want to make one point
though regarding the “mopeds” analogy, which
was pretty funny, and I know you were mostly
joking, but seriously though, for anyone out there
who may really be in a situation like that, if YOU
are attracted to a woman, and you like her, then who
cares what anyone ELSE thinks? You are your own
man, so if you are attracted to a woman and she’s
good to you, that’s all that matters. This all gets
back to not needing external validation.

If I like a woman, I don't care what ANYONE thinks
of her, especially not the brainwashed masses!)

And yes, it is interesting how some women “talk a
good game”, yet they are NO DIFFERENT than
any other women. In fact, a woman who is “talking
a good game” is usually just giving another sh*t test
before she allows herself to go wild for you. (This is
a critical topic that as you know is explained in
the book.)

Awesome stuff with giving the new woman a hug
and walking away, and then when she ran over to
you, and tried to kiss you, you moving your head
to the side and kissing her on the cheek and hand
like Don Juan. A lot of guys probably don’t get
what you did here, and might misinterpret this as

However, I know what you did here was
done with total DON JUAN CONGRUENCE of
smooth control. It was ALREADY made
TOTALLY CLEAR by her that she was INTO you,
so obviously there was no emotional risk on your
part if you kissed her full on. So, by NOT GOING
FOR THE EASY CHOICE, you did not come across
as weak, you came across as EVEN STRONGER.

Props, man!

Personally, I think I would have taken it further
at that moment unless I was experimenting, and I
think you could have done the same without harming
your future chances with this woman, but I see the
angle you went for here, and it’s cool as well.

And now, let me close this newsletter with your

“Other men really really really need to understand
this stuff and apply it to their life and they
WILL NEVER feel like the wussy man again.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself.
And if you would like to make the JUMP to a whole
new level of success with women, then it’s time to
take action NOW. Don’t wait for your friends or
peers to help you on this, because the chances are
they don’t know how, and they would probably be
jealous of you if you did get success in this area,
so they won’t encourage you in this either.

It’s ALL UP TO YOU to take ACTION.
No one else gives a damn.

I suggest you get yourself a copy of my
Actions For Attraction CD Set,
which will arm you with the most
IMMEDIATELY-applicable strategies
for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE you see them.

It's at:

And if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook,
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women,

It's at:

Ultimately, almost every man wants to get and keep a
fantastic woman for a great relationship, and the best
way to go about that is to download my book,
‘Get A Great Girl’.  This book will show you
TONS of crucial insights for getting the woman
of your dreams, and it's at:

For today, for tomorrow, and for always,

Michael Marks

P.S. To see ALL my programs for getting
a great woman, go here:

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

The Assertive Man

One of the key traits that defines a
MAN as opposed to a player or to a
“nice guy” is that a MAN is assertive,
a player is manipulative, and a nice
guy is submissive.

The nice guy tends to only get the
few women who happen to feel sorry
for him in a poor puppy kind of way.

The manipulative player type ends up
showing some form of confidence compared
to the nice guy but ultimately his true
colors show and he loses a quality woman.

The MAN however, he’s an expert at driving
through life in the ASSERTIVE lane.

Here’s where people get confused though:
They think that the only way to be assertive
is to be “in your face” or “nasty”, and this
makes it really hard to consistently be
assertive for them.

And yet, being assertive is a MASSIVE factor
in what turns on women, and it’s not only
your being assertive with women, but when
women seeing you being ASSERTIVE with
everyone in your life- including at the workplace,
with your friends, family, associates, etc.

What tends to happen with a lot of good guys
is that at some point in our lives a long time
ago, we learned that it’s better to NOT be
assertive, this way we wouldn’t be considered
a “threat” to the bullies, we wouldn’t get
any undue attention, and we would be more
“submissive” just to get along.

Unfortunately, we often eventually EXPLODE
after years and years of bottling up our own
self-esteem and repressing our own dignity
and even repressing our own desires.

Which ends up causing us to go to the OPPOSITE
extreme and blowing up on the people we feel
are being unfair to us. And when we explode,
our behavior is not seen as assertive, it’s seen
as imbalanced and irrational and nasty.

The real answer is to be more ASSERTIVE in general,
which solves so many problems and prevents the
build-up that can explode later otherwise.

Let me give you an example of a technique
of being more assertive:


In “the broken record” technique, you simply
make sure you know what you want, and you
keep on repeating that every time you hear
the other person saying they want you to do
something else.

This also involves another strategy called
using the “I” statement, because you are
saying it’s YOU who wants or feels something,
thereby taking on full responsibility for how
you feel, and this actually is empowering
because it means you have the right to
express yourself and not have to blame
anyone else for it, and that others should
respect the way you feel.

So here’s how the broken record and the
I statement could work together in a situation:

Let’s say you approach a woman and you chat
and you want to see her again.

Now, you know what you want- you want to
see her again.

Watch how being assertive is actually attractive

You say:

“I enjoyed meeting you. We should meet up.
How’s Tuesday night for some Starbucks and
wonderful conversation with yours truly?”

She says: “Oh, Tuesday night I tutor piano lessons.”

The non assertive guy already feels REJECTED
and then, maybe but not likely, says something,
but it’s very UNSPECIFIC at best, like, “Maybe we can
meet up sometime”.

Being more assertive, he would say:

“I want to see you again. How about before your lesson”

Or even:

“I want to meet up. How about after?
Tuesday is a great day for me, but if it doesn’t
work by you, then let me know what day does.”

If she says a day that does NOT work for you,
like for example Monday, a non assertive man
might AGREE to it just because he doesn’t want
to displease the woman or lose her, and of course
the fear shows up in subtle ways, so even when
he says “yes” he has actually LOST the woman
because she can tell in his body language that
something has just been given up in terms of
his own dignity.

This PERSISTENCE with a relaxed demeanor
shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you believe
you have value, it shows also on a subtle level
that you get what you want in life, which is
another sign of a winner. And none of this
is being a jerk.

Similarly, when a woman sees how you deal
with pressure from OTHER people in your
life, it can be a turn on for her to see that you
are assertive with them as well.

So let’s say at work everyone is used to taking
advantage of you helping them with their work,
and asking you to do an unfair amount of work.

One of the things you can do here is again
the broken record:


“Ted, I need you to help me this weekend again
with completing the project.”

You: “I can’t do that, as I have a major family
engagement this weekend”.

"But this is really important, I don’t know what’s
going on.”

“I understand, and I really have a major engagement
this weekend that is going to take all my time.”

You’ll notice that after you keep on STICKING
to your “broken record that keeps repeating”
they will eventually BREAK and give in.

They may say something like:

“Okay, but can you at least sign these forms
that allow me to use the resource centre this

You: “Yes, I can do that.”

Then they will say, "Thank you", and you’ll say,
“You’re welcome”.

Notice how in the above statements, you
Were using *I* statements and repeating
like a broken record, sticking to your point.

Here’s another thing:

Once you’ve stated your assertive position,
don’t EXPLAIN it for a half hour.

Instead, seal your lips.

By going on and on explaining yourself, you
are actually WEAKENING the entire assertive
core to your message.

This INCLUDES of course in your interactions
with women when you are in a RELATIONSHIP
as well!

Being assertive never ends, from the moment
you meet her, to long after you are having
wild nights together and beyond.

But the thing is, it’s important to realize that
this is a TRANSFORMATION that must come
GRADUALLY and consistently, with an intelligent
ROAD-MAP for how to go about all this so that
you STICK to the path of becoming The Assertive

Now unlike all the hype out there for everything
from bodybuilding magazines that feature steroid
injected men who claim they got their results
from some workout routine, or the hype out
there from folks who sell pick up artist tactics
and claim they got supermodels from using
pick up artist tactics instead of the real truth
which is that they got nothing of the sort,
what I am teaching you here, as you can see,
actually makes SENSE.

It’s not HYPE.
It’s based on REAL RESEARCH in the real world.

Being assertive plays out in the way you
take her arm and lead her out of the
lounge and to your place.

Being assertive plays out in the way
you make that first kiss.

Being assertive plays out in getting
rid of other guys around her in a way
that is smooth and classy.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
In my program called "The Assertive Man",

you'll find MOUNTAINS-FULL of mind-blowing
strategies and insights on this topic, including explicit
clear examples of how to apply ALL the different
strategies for skyrocketing your assertiveness with
women, all without coming across as a jerk or arrogant.

It's all inside this special audio program.  This
is a jam-packed program that had to go well
OVER 1-hour in length in order to include all
the crucial content.

The greatest part of all this is that you can be
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I could easily be charging over $100 for this program,
especially since the strategies and concepts you will
learn are not just something you are going to use once,
but will prove to be ESSENTIAL over and over again
for the rest of your life, anytime you interact with women.

By deciding to make this program available to you
for only $19.97, I have made it a true "steal".

The changes to becoming more assertive
PERMANENTLY in your life will make you
matter HOW you meet them, because
being ASSERTIVE in the right way that
is not arrogant and not submissive is
EXTREMELY RARE among men, and it
tells a woman in the most powerful
way that you are worthy, that you are
a WINNER, and that you are a WARRIOR
in the real everyday battles of life.

You can download this program right now
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For now, tomorrow, and for always, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Keeping A Woman's Attention Once You've Approached Her

Today, on the "Get A Great Girl" Forum,
( I noticed
a fantastic discussion about how to approach
a woman, and how to KEEP her attention. 

One of the challenges is keeping the conversation
going and not get stalled after a minute or so.

There is a SOLUTION to this, as you will find


“I'm almost fearless with approaches & openers,
but man, I get stymied after a minute or so,
except with a captive audience, e.g. sitting near
a hot babe on the subway - since you are both
rooted in one spot for at least a few minutes, it's
easy to escalate the conversation and get
an email address.

The problem is when people are moving or only in
one spot for a moment, such as in a grocery store.
On the one hand, I love grocery stores, and have
gotten a date from one approach. But on the other
hand, the conversation has to move towards
interesting quickly, or she'll just move on after a
couple of pleasantries.

Case in point - I was shopping for laundry detergent
and saw a HB doing the same. My openner wasn't gold,
but at least it got things off the ground:

Me: "All right, which is the liquid detergent that lets
you never use fabric softening sheets again, is it
this Febreeze?"

Her: "I think so, but I'm allergic to Febreeze, so I
never use it. So I use the fabric softening sheets
in the dryer."

Me: "Yeah, but those things destroy your clothes –
the price you pay for no static cling."

Her: "I didn't know that."

And she walks away... (Boo hoo!)

Yeah, I know, boring topic, but in the heat of the
moment, what would you have done to ensure she
doesn't walk away, and then escalate?”


First, thank you for sharing what you have
been doing in the real world, the details
help everyone see that indeed this stuff
happens in the real world, such as your
date with the woman from the grocery

There is a world of women out there, "ripe
for the picking" so to speak. 

Here are some tips that should help ensure
she doesn't walk away, and to help you
escalate as well:


Your motto should be "Everything she says, can and WILL be

Remember also that women are CRAVING
a man who is both DOMINANT yet also
a GOOD MAN, who will treat her right,
and who also knows what it means to
be playful and naughty in a confident
way, not a truly arrogant way.
(Arrogance actually implies insecurity)

This COMBO is very VERY powerful.
So even if you started really neutral, that’s fine
and prevents getting shut down right away, but
after that, it’s time to JACK UP THE ENERGY

Turn up the dominance, the playfulness, the
naughtyness, and then transition ALL this
into a powerful CONNECTION.
And remember, she has PROVIDED all the
“material” for you, you just have to SEE IT
with new perspectives.

So, for example, with the Febreze, that's fine, and
she says she's allergic to it, IF YOU ARE IN THE PLAYFUL
STATE, and aren't afraid of losing her, you would easily
say any of the following things: (Feel the TONE of what’s
going on here, more than the exact words.)

1. "Man, it's HARD to find good help these days!!!
But at least you're trying, I mean having allergies is
KIND of an excuse, I'm just allergic to boring people,
so I know about allergies, how about you?"

"What’s the coolest thing a person could do in the
supermarket? Walk into the walk in freezer on
a blistering HOT day???? Meet a total stranger?
What do you think?"

This helps motivate her to add some spice
to whatever she says now, investing herself
more into the conversation and also ensuring
that she enjoys this conversation as well.

Then, if her response to you is boring, you can
pretend to sneeze!!! Just say “Ahhhhhhhhchoooo!
Oh man, I can’ t believe it, I think …I might be…
allergic to…."(Give her a mischievous smile!)

Also, another option, is when she said,
"I didn't know that," you could put on the
playful dominance and say, "Well, now that
you do, that will be 5 bucks for the free
advice, but since you are such a decent
conversationalist, I'll give you the special
for only 4 bucks!".

Then you can also TRANSITION from all this
into a greater and more serious CONNECTION:

“You know, life is so full of urgent things we
need to get done, that take TIME, but they
aren't really the IMPORTANT things, so laundry
is urgent, but it's not an "IMPORTANT" life goal,
it's IMPORTANT to make time for the things
you feel you MUST get out of life, you know
what I mean? "

At this point, she might fill the rest IN for you
and tell you about the TRULY IMPORTANT
things she wants to get done, which is a great
deeper conversation, and if she doesn't then
YOU can go onto describe the important things
that you feel are the real priorities in life.

And now you can go toward finding real bonding
things you share in common about priorities in life,
so when she gives you her number, she feels
VERY SOLID about doing so and wants you to
call her and continue this journey into discovering
who you are.

(By the way, man, I’m POSITIVE this is just you
needing to shake off the rust since you took the
Bootcamp over a year ago- you were great in
Bootcamp! You picked up a hot professor chick
at a vintage record store (talk about quality women!),
you got an email from a knockout blonde fitness
and health girl, and if I'm correct I think you hit
it off right away with executive type woman you
approached at the mall!

So don’t knock yourself out, you clearly have
gained the skills, you just need to get sharp

I think what I just wrote here should help shake off
the rust and get you back into your zone when you
get out there to approach again!!!

We’re almost out of time, but I had to share this
cool email that came in just the other day:


Hi Michael,

I just want to let you know you have a terrific
approach that is far beyond what any of the
pickup artists teach. They teach men to
disrespect women and ruin their potential
for a positive, healthy relationship with the
right woman.

You teach men how to develop a relationship
with that right woman that is a product of two
healthy, mature-thinking adults, instead of
being all about sex, which is so rampant and
in-your-face in our society.

In addition to this, you teach men that it is
possible to actually be "the man" in a healthy way,
without being arrogant and trying to control
women, but asserting a natural male dominance
that real women actually love.

This is in such contrast to all the messages in
our society that try to stifle our natural,
testosterone-driven impulses, and you teach
us to channel those impulses into self improvement,
both inwardly and outwardly, to become the
"right" man for that "right" woman.

This kind of teaching is so helpful in so many areas
of life beyond just dating and relationships.

I have been enjoying and benefiting from your
wisdom, and I know that there are many men
out there who can be and are benefited by it as
well. I sincerely thank you for your much-needed

Additionally, in one of your letters you talk about
visualizing your fear in order to become relaxed
about it and conquer it. That is a great concept,
and is confirmed by none other than Donald Trump.

In his classic book on negotiating, "Trump: The Art
of the Deal," he says: "It's been said that I believe
in the power of positive thinking. In fact, I believe
in the power of negative thinking. I happen to be
very conservative in business. I always go into
the deal anticipating the worst. If you plan for the
worst--if you can live with the worst--the good
will always take care of itself."

Keep up the good work,

John Paul

Washington, USA”


First of all, thank you for the kind words.

I actually did not know that about Trump,
but it's cool to see that he uses the same
psychological approach to success in
his own life. 

If you can mentally DEAL with even the worst
case scenario, you are NO LONGER haunted
by it, and you can NATURALLY become
confident because the negativity has been
mentally CONFRONTED and you've made
peace with that possibility.

Once you've done that, you start to get
BORED with the negativity, so you
start to GENUINELY become positive,
it's not something you are TRYING to do,
it's for REAL because the negativity has
been DRAINED and weakened immensely.

And this gives you massive confidence.
A woman can sense that if she does not treat
you well, you REALLY WILL WALK AWAY.

She can actually SENSE this kind of confidence
in your demeanor long before she ever even
TRIES this kind of thing, so she treats you better
of course as a result.

Remember, you are now TRULY thinking positive,
because you’ve DEALT with the negative, so now
your positive thinking isn’t a game or something
artificial, it’s GENUINLEY flowing from you.

That adds even MORE charisma to you.

And on top of THAT, when you are searching for
a QUALITY woman, that means you are searching
for a woman who has done all the SAME work on
herself, and she KNOWS how rare it is to find
a person, especially a MAN who has been willing
to develop himself so powerfully in this way.

You become the kind of man that she doesn’t
want to EVER let go of.

Again, this works on a hard-wired SURVIVAL
level that is primal and subconscious- she
feels that with SUCH man, things will be

Basically, you are giving off the vibes of being
a MAN who can SURVIVE in the JUNGLE of LIFE.

If you want the FULL PICTURE on how to attract
women ANYWHERE, I suggest you get my
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For now, tomorrow, and for always, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks