MANifest "Being The Man"

Today we're going to clear some things up
about what attracts a woman and what
doesn't.

A cool guy sent me an email letting me know
that some people who only read the blog and
who haven't seen or listened to my other material
might not know what I mean by "extremes" in the
world of dating advice.

He also mentioned that it would be cool if
I could remind people of my "rule of thumb"
regarding making playful teases in your
initial approach to a woman.

Cool, I'll do that now then:

REGARDING EXTREMES IN THE
WORLD OF DATING ADVICE

Regarding extremes in the world of dating
advice, on one hand there is the famous
John Gray, who wrote "Men Are From Mars,
Women Are From Venus", and gives advice
on love, romance, and relationships. 

Although there is actually much wisdom in his
material, I personally believe that his material
is more useful for when you are already IN a
relationship.

Until recent years, there was virtually zero
useful information on how to create attraction in
the first place.  In fact, the only experts around
were guys like John Gray, and this contributed
to guys thinking that the only thing they needed
to focus on is the relationship aspect.

So you have guys all around the world who
approach women and from the get-go are
behaving in "relationship skills" mode.

This doesn't mean that a guy will destroy his
chances by acting in this way, but it's not really
the best way to go to create ATTRACTION.

So, on one extreme, you have the John Gray
advice, let's call it the "buy her flowers and
she will appreciate it so much she'll love you"
type of advice.

On the other side of the spectrum, there is the
"subtly lower her self esteem so she figures she's
not worth much and now you will seem like a
great catch" advice from the pick up artist
school of thought.

As you can see from my materials, I don't subscribe
to either approach as being the way to go for attracting
a woman, especially if she is sober, and especially
if you want this interaction to lead to her becoming
an actual girlfriend that sticks around.

What I do teach, is how to actually INFUSE
INTOXICATING, AWESOME, COOL
EMOTIONS into her world, and to do this,
ultimately, not through acting, but as a product
of who you ARE.

PLAYFUL VS. MALICIOUS

The second thing I would like to point out, is
that when making a playful tease to a woman,
and I point this out even in my very first book
"The Dating Wizard", is that if a woman can
possibly interpret the tease as being something
TRUE, then it's being done WRONG.

The idea is to make sure that there is no way
on Earth that a woman can be hurt by your
comment, and therefore it's crucial that she
MUST be able to realize that your comment
is a joke and not true.

So, for example, if you are chatting with a woman
who is a medical student or law student who scored
a 95 percentile on her tests, then it's okay to joke
around with her that her mom must be real
disappointed with her. :)

Similarly, if you pretend to be "allergic" to her as
a joke, it's obvious there is no such thing in reality
as being allergic to a person- so she can't be
hurt by this comment.

Humor, by it's very nature, must "rock the boat"
to some degree, but I think we all know there
is a difference between humor DESIGNED
to lower a person's self esteem, and humor
designed to be flirtatious.  

Flirtatious humor and being a challenge is
ATTRACTIVE and warms a woman up.  

On the other hand, making fun of a woman
regarding something that might be real, is
cruel.  What's sad is that many guys are
engaging in this cruel behavior not even
realizing how cruel it is, because they
think this is what they're "supposed" to do.

And of course, most women who have
the slightest bit of self-esteem will catch
on to what is being done to them, and
to put it mildly, they will not be attracted.

In fact, the action of making the nasty
comment is an indication of a man's
lack of confidence, which will only
make him seem even less cool and
will repel a woman from him.

Most communication works on a
subconscious level, and the mind
processes billions of tiny bits of
data instantly.  This is why it's so
hard to "fake" being charismatic
or confident.

The way you feel inside is being MANIFESTED
through subtleties of body language, vocal
inflections, expression on the face, etc.

When a man feels insecure, it's tough enough
to convey being a man without giving yourself
INSTANTLY away through the use of
cruelty. 

Similarly, kissing up is another form of over-compensation
for being insecure.

The other thing to keep in mind is that we are
what we think and do.  So if we take the
path of "I will behave the way I would IF
I knew I was worth a lot and IF I felt
great"---if we take THOSE actions
and adopt THOSE behaviors, well then
we actually START TO TAKE ON THAT
IDENTITY FOR REAL AND WE BECOME
THAT FOR REAL.

And the way a man would behave if he KNEW
he was worth a lot, if he KNEW he was desirable,
would be PLAYFUL, FUN, SENSUAL, SEXUAL,
ADVENTUROUS, INSPIRING, and INTIMATE,
without being nasty, cruel, or mean in the slightest.

This is how you actually MANIFEST being
"The Man".

And this is how you get her addicted to you in
the most positive, joyous, sexual, and intimate way.

To get the FULL picture, I suggest you get your
hands on my Warrior Within program, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

To find out about all my programs, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks