The most DESTRUCTIVE thing you can
do when interacting with a woman you just
approached, is to flip her "OH OH, THIS
GUY IS SKETCHY!"switch.
The INSTANT she feels something is
fishy, it's usually OVER FOR GOOD.
Remember, we're talking about approaching
a woman who is a total stranger here. There
isn't a whole lot of room for error when it
comes to TRUST.
It's not like you have this history with her
where at least if you screw up, she can put
it in some positive context based on other
good things about you that she knows.
She knows NOTHING about you except what
is revealed both intentionally and unintentionally
through your words and body language.
This is something I've known and taught for
a LONG time, it's one of the reasons I've been
against the "pick up artist" fad, because it's
fine to be this pick up artist kind of guy if you're
dealing with a woman who is already drunk and
in a club and absolutely not looking for something
REAL. She has already made up her mind
she wants to get physical that NIGHT with
SOMEONE for SURE.
In fact, there are women like that who don't
WANT anything more, and for THOSE
women, the pick up artist style approach
makes sense.
In that context, it's all about the PARTY and
getting physical with SOME guy that NIGHT.
However, when you're looking to get a real girlfriend,
it's TOTALLY DIFFERENT.
This is also why I like to say the best "pick up" is
the one that wasn't THERE. In other words,
when dealing with most situations where you
meet a woman, for something real, the interaction
is not about being a "pick up", it's about getting
to the deeper layers of knowing her and her
knowing you, all in as efficient a manner as
possible, since after all, you usually only
have a few minutes in the typical situation
where you approach a woman as a stranger
somewhere.
That is, you only have a few minutes
to get the job done RIGHT, and once
you do it right, she will very often
be glad to keep ON chatting to you
right then and there.
This is why I have always advised
guys when approaching women to
try to approach ALONE, without
a 'wingman' buddy. Not only do you
not want a woman to see you with some
'wingman' lest she think that this
whole interaction is some kind of
SPORT and not real, (which triggers
her 'OH OH SKETCHY GUY ALERT')
but also for your own sense of empowerment
it helps to be able to rely on yourself.
The only thing a buddy is useful for
is for providing motivation at times,
or if she is with a friend at a club,
to provide someone for her friend to
talk to while you go alone with the
girl you're interested in.
However, most of the time, when meeting
women in regular life and regular places
like coffee shops or bookstores, etc,
during the day or evening, it's best
that you do it alone.
Besides, most of the time, in regular day
to day life situatons where she is at the
bank, bookstore, etc, she is alone as
well, and it doesn't increase the comfort
or trust level for her, having two guys
approaching one woman, that's for sure!
You want to do EVERYTHING to keep things
as NORMAL as possible. When it comes
to talking to a woman who is a complete
stranger, right out of the blue, trying to
keeps things as normal as possible and
attract her in SECONDS is where the
SKILL comes in.
I'd like to mention here that all
of my programs from day ONE are
still available and still work.
They aren't TRENDS.
They WORK and have stood the test of TIME.
That's because I don't promote strategies that
DESTROY trust over time.
Things like sugar-coated insults to women
that are designed to lower their self-esteem.
Most women could detect this thing right away
anyway, and certainly now after the publicity of
them in pick up artist books, even women living
under a rock have wisened up to these "strategies"
by men to lower women's self-esteem so that the
women will be vulnerable.
And things like memorizing routines to say
to a woman have become out of date, whereas
from day one I have been teaching how to be
able to improvise and be spontaneous in ANY
situation you meet a woman.
I do not believe in boasting or bragging.
I do believe in clarity, however.
And I can honestly tell you that
this is the reason that my students
don't get the "SKETCHY GUY ALERT"
signals from women, because my
strategies are about GENUINELY
CONVEYING WHO YOU ARE AND ABOUT
LEARNING WHO SHE IS, IN THE MOST
EFFICIENT WAY POSSIBLE SO THAT
SHE GOES FROM BEING A STRANGER
TO A WOMAN THAT WANTS TO KNOW
MORE ABOUT YOU ASAP.
I've publicly taken guys out to meet
women who are total strangers, and
the crazy part of all this, is that
my methods actually work EVEN in
clubs!!! This is documented in the
Toronto Star, you can check it out
here:
http://thedatingwizard.com/media.html#TorontoStar
When it comes to getting a quality
woman, for REAL, as a real girlfriend,
I am the AUTHORITY on the subject.
And my latest, most powerful program,
can be found right HERE:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
This program is the 'Real McCoy'.
It's not about tricking women or being immature
or trying to lower their self-esteem.
It will give you the kind of success
with women that LASTS.
There is nothing sinister to be found
in it, and in fact this program will
INCREASE not only the attraction, but
also the TRUST between you and a woman
you meet.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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