Today, I want to share two BIG points
regarding attracting women.
1. LET HER KNOW LESS
The first point is that it has been PROVEN
that a woman’s attraction grows STRONGER
when she knows LESS about a man.
The reason for this is because what she does
not know is fuel for her imagination to create
her fantasy version of you.
Now, that being said, most guys end up
doing things that indirectly convey LOTS
of BAD information about themselves
even if it is not actually true!
Doing things like qualifying themselves
in order to “prove” they have worth to
the women, or overcompensating in any
other way, from trying to act too cold to
trying to kiss up. All these things end
up making a woman think that she knows
who the guy is, it makes the woman think
she knows he is not a good catch.
But the FLIP side to all this is that it also
means that you as a stranger have a
TREMENDOUS opportunity when it comes
to approaching and attracting women who
are total strangers!
So, while most guys are actually NOT approaching
women who are total strangers because they think
it is ‘too weird’ since they do not know the women,
and since the women do know them, this is all
actually a GREAT thing that HELPS YOU.
So rather than trying to FILL IN EVERY DETAIL
to help ‘convince’ a woman that she should like
you because of reasons a, b, c, and d, etc., etc,
you should instead NOT try to do that at all
and rather make the conversation FUN, and show
some LEADERSHIP and dominance and conviction
in your words.
THAT will tell her the RIGHT kinds of things about
you without telling her any SPECIFICS, which allows
her mind to FANTASIZE and fill in the gaps with her
own ideas about you.
The great thing about this, is that once a woman
really WANTS you from doing all this, she will
then CONVINCE herself later on how awesome
you are, and TRULY FEEL THIS WAY, even if you are
NOT exactly what she originally imagined.
Have you ever REALLY WANTED something as a kid
really badly? Maybe it was a certain toy or something?
And maybe you kept on dreaming about it, or thinking
about what it would be like if you got it, etc, etc.
The ANTICIPATION is so powerful, that by the time
you GET the toy, your excitement is so strong that the
toy would have to REALLLLLLLLLLLLY SUCK
in order for you to not be thrilled with getting it.
And the truth is, that the ANTICIPATION ITSELF is
actually more than HALF THE FUN! Dreaming about
it, thinking about it, looking forward to it, is all a HUGE
part of the fun.
And women are AMAZING at knowing how to increase
their pleasure. As a guy, I’ll just wolf down a chocolate
bar, but women will take their time as if it’s the last one
on earth.
So women APPRECIATE when you allow a little room
for imagination, for mystery, for anticipation. Do NOT
feel the need to answer her every question, and do not
do this with anger, instead do it with a smile or change
the subject.
I’m talking about the initial approach here, obviously if you
and her start going out you will tell her about yourself.
The SECOND major concept I want to share with you
today is a lot more SUBTLE, yet even more important
when it comes to attracting a woman who you just
approached as a total stranger, especially if this
is in a QUIET place like a bookstore.
A lot of women have had guys approach them before.
Even though most guys don’t approach, it only takes
for example one in a hundred men for a woman to
STILL be approached quite frequently in one way
or another.
What this means is that women are actually very good
at sizing up a guy’s ‘inner game’ very quickly, and
sizing up his attitude, his emotions, his confidence,
his familiarity with women, etc, etc.
So, when a man approaches an attractive woman, her
mind subconsciously goes into SUPER-SENSITIVE
DETECTION MODE. She may be QUIET, but there
is a whole friggen MULTITUDE of senses
being activated.
In fact, the BEST analogy I can think of is to compare
her senses in this SPECIFIC way, to those of a DOG.
I mean this ONLY from the perspective that dogs
have incredible senses of DETECTION. They can
tell if you are nervous, scared, happy, confident, etc.
And here is where the analogy becomes REALLY
IMPORTANT:
I recently heard the man known as the ‘Dog Whisperer’
share a valuable insight into how to properly raise
a dog, and how to ensure a dog is behaving properly.
He was saying that so often dog owners get overly
EXCITED around their dog. i.e. “NICE dog,
look at YOU, look at what you did, WHOOO
HOOOO!!!!!” The owners get all excited, loud,
and jumpy.
This does not usually help the dog, but rather
over-excites him.
Now, remember, a dog’s senses are super powerful.
The dog’s hearing is way more powerful than human
hearing. The dog’s sense of smell is way more powerful.
And when you approach a woman, HER senses are
going into OVERDRIVE. This comes from massive
EXPERIENCE with guys approaching her. She has
probably clocked in 10,000 hours of experience
in guys approaching her since she was 15, even if she is
only 25!
It's like she has a 360 degree MONITOR "heads-up"
display, like a fighter pilot who has all this information
being pumped on graphs, monitors, etc., which tell her
EVERYTHING she needs to know about what this
guy is like in terms of ATTRACTING HER or not.
Meanwhile, most guys experience in doing the same
with women probably clocks in at not even a FRACTION
of the same amount of hours.
And what makes it really tragic is that most guys are NOT
even approaching women as their AVERAGE SELVES.
Instead, most men come across as LESS cool than
they really are, because most men when they do the
approach end up doing all sorts of OVERCOMPENSATION
type behaviors in an effort to prevent feeling the pain
of rejection.
And women subconsciously detect that all these
behaviors are forms of giving into fear.
So most men are actually coming across in
a way that does NOT accurately represent
themselves in the big picture, but it might
represent that moment, and women can only
react to the behavior that men present to
them in the moments they are there.
From acting intentionally goofy so that they can have
an excuse for why they failed (i.e. “I know she rejected
me, I wasn’t taking it seriously, I was acting goofy,
so she didn’t reject the real me, because I was
INTENTIONALLY acting goofy, so I don’t have to
take the rejection personally") to acting intentionally
mean, to acting extra-nice in the hopes it will win
some points.
And all this ends up not only being DETECTED by
women, but it is DETECTED so strongly, it is like
a dog hearing a POLICE SIREN!
It really, REALLY strikes the WRONG emotions in women.
On the OTHER hand, if you work on yourself to
become super CALM, super DOMINANT, and cavalier
about the whole approach, then guess what?
Not only is it attractive, but SHE starts to calm down as well.
And this is true with so many dog owners and dogs.
I’m not saying all the time, but it is a pattern you
will notice. Calm, confident owner, calm confident
dog. (Obviously there are exceptions and special
situations that defy this rule of thumb.)
So the analogy has two levels- on one hand, women
have MORE SENSITIVE “antennae” in detecting
men’s inner game compared to most men’s “antennae”
in detecting women’s levels of ‘inner game’.
Then, on top of this, women are ALSO going to be
more influenced by YOUR sense of confidence
and calm than MEN are going to be influenced by
WOMEN’S senses of confidence and calm.
Men are mostly going to be mentally and emotionally
influenced and affected by how women LOOK, at
least in the immediate short-term when dealing
with a woman .
A woman that you meet as a total stranger is on
FULL SENSORY ALERT. If you come in too
LOUD, TOO MUCH ENERGY, TOO MUCH
'TRYING TOO HARD', she is going to emotionally
BURST the same way a dog feels like bursting when
a SIREN is going off because dogs' ears are so
sensitive they can hear things no human ever could.
You don’t want to amplify her HIGH ALERT,
you want to CALM HER DOWN, especially
since she knows she needs to watch out around
men or she will end up getting physical with
every single guy she meets.
So the SECOND point is:
DIAL IT ALL DOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWN
The next time you are about to chat up a
woman who is a total stranger, turn the
DIAL DOWN. Do NOT try to be Mr.
Entertainment. Be CHILL, and then
GRADUALLY build up the energy as
SHE builds up ALONG with you.
Finally, remember that a woman wants to feel
that YOU are in control, that she is safe being
in YOUR hands, that you are leading the show,
and she cannot feel that if she sees that you cannot
handle HER attractive energy that she is radiating.
And if you would like the most powerful program
out there on INNER GAME, I seriously suggest
you get my WARRIOR WITHIN program.
Women are sizing up your inner game the moment
they meet you, and also inner game is JUST as important
long after you have met as well, because getting into
a relationship with a woman will put your inner game
to the ULTIMATE test as you face issues such as
handling ‘competition’ from other guys, handling
jealousy, handling her tests, and dealing with every
other challenge that may arise.
This program is absolutely VITAL if you are serious
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This is because as men, we really are motivated
mostly by our desire to get women, even when we
are with one woman and truly happy and content
with one woman, there is something powerful
about knowing you can get women, and it even
turns on the woman you are WITH.
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One final comment here- I would love to answer
all your questions PERSONALLY in FULL DETAIL.
In order to make this something that I can actually
do, I have set up a CONSULTATION service.
It is the only way, otherwise I could spend
all week on emails and not even scratch
the surface.
CONSULTATIONS are at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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