The most effective "pickups", or
what I prefer to call situations of
"approaching and attracting women"
are done when you convey all the
right things about yourself in the
LEAST amount of time, using the
LEAST amount of energy, and using
zero cheesy or corny tactics.
Now, I fully understand that sometimes
as a beginner, it can feel good to
have some pick up lines memorized,
to feel confident through knowing
you have some story memorized to
tell her that is supposed to convey
that you are cool, or is supposed
to be funny, etc., etc.
But you really want to wean yourself
off of those things as soon as possible,
or if at all possible to avoid using
them altogether.
(Again, though, I do understand how
it can sometimes be useful for a guy
who simply feels too overwhelmed
without them at first. I just suggest
a guy gets OFF them as soon as he can.)
The problem with all these things
is that they prevent you from being
your best, because they end up becoming
crutches that you can become addicted
to using.
And the use of those crutches actually
WEAKENS your inner game, because you
are sending the message DIRECTLY to
your mind through ACTION that you
do NOT believe you can pull off
attracting the woman you want
UNLESS you use those superficial
tactics.
Now, on the other hand, when you
force yourself to use ZERO GAMES,
you then have to MASSIVELY rely
on your OWN ABILITY to attract
women.
And when I say your own ability, this
is referring to the MULTITUDE of skills
that are already in your DNA, but are
currently ASLEEP, lying dormant, waiting
to be AWOKEN.
What I am all about is helping men to
bring these elements of themselves that
are ALREADY THERE, but are sleeping,
to LIFE.
And trust me, what you have got already
in your system, from a billion years of
evolution, is A TRILLION TIMES MORE POWERFUL
than any pick up line or memorized material.
The human mind is powerful not only this
way, but also in the sense that women can
TELL if you are using SUPERFICIAL TACTICS.
That does not mean they always MIND, but
it definitely means that you will come
across as FAR MORE ATTRACTIVE if the
woman senses that you generated every
single element of the pickup on your
own, based on the actual real life
spontaneous moment that you saw her.
In a recent bootcamp, a client had mentioned
to me that he was interested in learning
how to master the pick up without using
anything external to himself.
That meant no pick up lines at all.
No subtle but funny insults to
make her feel insecure.
No fake compliments to kiss up.
So the entire bootcamp ran without so
much as even one tiny single SUPERFICIAL
tactic.
Instead, his inner game was taken to
new heights, his spontaneous conversation
skills soared, and he learned to convey
sexuality without saying a single dirty
joke or making any innuendos.
And he turned his entire "game" around
in just a few approaches, and the most
amazing thing about it is that he was
suddenly getting women laughing and
melting and opening up for him
without saying MUCH.
In fact, once he got them going, he
leaned back and they pretty much did
the rest of the work!
By the way, one of the coolest things
to me is when the woman is giving off
MASSIVE signals of interest, but a guy
is learning so fast that he doesn't
think it is for real.
So for example, this cool guy, he got
this woman melting for him, and I am
watching this from a bit away so she
cannot see, and he then walks away
from her, he tells me that he did
not take her number because he
was not sure if she was really into
him or not.
I knew with a trillion percent certainty
that she was into him MASSIVELY or she
would not have been asking him questions
such as, "So what are your plans for
Saturday night?", which he told me that
she asked him.
So I told him to go BACK and find her
and take her number, which is kind of
interesting since the pick up was in a
way over, but I knew she was INTO him.
Not only that, but since I knew she
was into him, I knew that she would
be even MORE attracted this time,
since the human mind tends to get
DEEPER INTO an emotional experience
when you stimulate the emotion,
then pause the stimulation, and
then later continue the stimulation.
This is known as FRACTIONATION, and
is also a great idea to use when
making out with a woman when in
foreplay as well.
(Kissing her, then stopping,
then kissing again later. Petting,
then stopping, then some more,
stopping, then some more, till
she is heating up and starting to
rub on you like crazy.)
But, I do NOT recommend that guys
break up the initial approach this
way, because you can end up really
losing her if she happens to leave
the area.
So he finds her in another aisle of the store,
and calls her name out with TOTAL CONFIDENCE.
I am changing her name for the sake of
privacy, but he does not say to her
"Uhm, Jeniffer?"
Instead, he sees her from a bit away,
and says:
"JENNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! What are you DOING??????"
He TOTALLY commits to the delivery,
with a trillion percent conviction.
No namby-pamby weak style.
Instead, he puts it ALL out there.
This is cool, because a woman senses this
man MEANS BUSINESS.
Her body language opened up to him
so wide, and she smiled so warmly,
it was as if in a movie a woman had
thought she had lost the love of her
life and then FOUND him again.
So of course, he got the number, and
they chatted more, and if it weren't for
the bootcamp itself, he could have left
with her right then and there, but he
had further training since the bootcamp
was still on.
And I honestly do not like to obsess
about women who are hot and young,
but it just so happens she was an
attractive younger woman.
PICK UP IS NOT SUPPOSED TO TAKE FOREVER.
I don't even like the term "pick-up"
but I use it since it seems to be
the most common way to refer to it.
One of the reasons I don't love the
term "pick-up" is because it sends
a message to your own mind that this
is some kind of ACT, some kind of
fake thing where you have to pull
the wool over women's eyes, when
in reality it is ACTUALLY about
unleashing the MAN in you in all
the right ways and at the moment
when it COUNTS when you see the
woman you want to meet.
And it is about doing all this while
STILL having tons of warmth in your soul
and STILL being a sensitive person who
cares about others.
It's not about being a jerk or being fake
or being manipulative.
And when it is done right, it all happens
VERY QUICKLY, and with very LITTLE
talking, and with very little effort.
If a stranger were to walk by within
a MINUTE of the conversation starting,
he would think FOR SURE this guy and
girl MUST already be boyfriend and
girlfriend or have already known
each other a LONG TIME.
It is when a guy is NOT doing it
properly, that it takes forever,
and that you will notice the guy
is making all kinds of exaggerated
actions, over the top jokes,
and other forms of overcompensation.
When you have the conversation skills,
and when you understand the right things
about women, and when you also are in the
RIGHT STATE OF MIND, you actually end up
doing MILLIONS of subtle things with your
expression, your tonality, your timing,
your body language, that ALL COMMUNICATE
THE RIGHT THINGS about yourself to a woman.
And THAT is what I teach you to DO.
I do not waste your time trying to teach
you a TRILLION pick up tactics so that you
can IMITATE what the right thing is supposed
to look like.
Instead, I focus on BRINGING TO LIFE that
part of you that is deep within that will
AUTOMATICALLY DO ALL THE RIGHT THINGS
when you interact with women!
It is not about my special pick up tactics,
I do not HAVE any special cheesy tactics,
instead what I have is TEN YEARS EXPERIENCE
in teaching you how to REVIVE that billion-years-in
the-making part of your mind that ALREADY
knows how to attract women INSTINCTIVELY.
(It just has been BURIED DEEP under endless
misguided social conditioning.)
The honest truth is that I was teaching this
advanced method even way back when pick up
lines were all the rage. And the other truth
is that since then, I've taken the training
to an even DEEPER level where you will not
only be able to initially attract women but
you will understand what to do at every stage
including the long-term attraction as well.
The most powerful way to learn is THE REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP, and it's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
Now here's the thing: I know some of you
might think that since Michael just said
that the best way to attract women is
to just not use any tactics at all, then
what the heck does he teach?
What I teach is all about the SUBTLETIES.
It is like saying, everyone knows that
to get big muscles, you need to lift
weights and eat right.
But at one point, it is ESSENTIAL to
learn HOW to do this, and even though
working out is a real thing, the body
was meant to exercise, that does not
mean we all know how to do it PROPERLY,
especially since we tend to live in
societies where we do not get a lot
of exercise.
It is the same thing with my programs.
I teach you the best way to use your
REAL SELF to get you RESULTS with
women.
For my most powerful home-study program on
learning how to unleash your inner game,
and on how to attract and keep a quality
woman, I seriously suggest you get my
program called "Warrior Within".
You can check it out here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
To find out about ALL my different programs for
skyrocketing your success with women, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
If you have ANY question about dating
or relationships, you can arrange personal
phone consultations with me by going here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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