Solid Advice On Approaching And Attracting Women

Here are EIGHT valuable insights that are
INSTANTLY-APPLICABLE for approaching
and attracting women.

#1:
INTELLIGENT RISK IS GOOD FOR YOU

Most guys are looking for a way to avoid any
risk when it comes to women, but the reality
is that women will only be MORE attracted
to you by the very FACT you DID take the
risk to meet her.

So for example, if you see a woman working
in a lingerie store, and you can't find one
good excuse for being in the store, and so
it's obvious that you are going to speak to
her because you are attracted to her, then
the very act of going up to her and doing
your approach is MORE attractive than
if there WAS some excuse to COVER-UP
the fact that really you just wanted to meet
her. It shows MORE GUTS, it shows
MORE INTENT, it shows you are the
kind of guy who doesn't let FEAR stop
him from going for what he wants in
life.

This is attractive on so many levels, both
conscious and subconscious that it's not
even funny. It tells her that you are a
WINNER and that you ENJOY LIFE.
It shows you have the courage to be a
protector, it shows you have the charisma
to enjoy life, it shows TONS of things.

So you can go RIGHT UP to her in the
craziest of environments and she will
be MORE ATTRACTED by it, even
if you were to say something as simple as:

"I just saw you and I thought you were
insanely beautiful as heck, and I wanted
to know if there was even more to you as
well."

The key is to SAY THIS with TOTAL
INTENT, you can't be half-way on this,
you have to MEAN both the fact you
think she is beautiful and you have to
be comfortable letting her know that
and you have to ALSO mean that you
TRULY DO WANT TO KNOW if
there is more to her than the surface.

The subtle distinctions that happen when
you have the intent here are actually massive
in terms of the difference you will get in
results.

As soon as she replies with anything, you
can then use that to comment back on,
and you can begin an "energy-ping-pong"
where you both flirt back and forth with
fun confident statements about yourselves.
i.e. She might say "I certainly hope I do
have more than the surface, but thank you"
And you can reply with something like this:

"That makes two of us, I know I have
more than just the surface when it
comes to me"

(And you can say this with a confident playful smirk.)

Remember, a woman who is attractive already
KNOWS you are probably interested, so the
REAL difference is not whether you can hide
it or not, the difference is what you DO with
the fact you are interested. She is IMPRESSED
with the fact you are not allowing fear to
control you.

Do you go home and curse yourself for not
taking action? Do you get ANGRY at women
for the frustration you feel? Or do you take
POSITIVE ACTION?

This is the one thing that good guys need to
learn from "JERKS". "Jerks" don't have
any issue with feeling sexual about women,
they don't feel bad whether a woman approves
of them or not. And there is nothing JERKY
about having these same thoughts and emotions,
so you should ALSO realize that women are
actually LOOKING for a guy who is comfortable
with being sexual.

The truth is that women are very comfortable
with sexuality and don't think lowly of the
fact that men are interested in them, and
most women are NOT evil and will NOT
abuse that fact. So, the only REAL RISK
is NOT TAKING ACTION, because
that risks you having a life with NO
WOMAN, ever.

#2:
HUMOR IS ABOUT WINNING

A quick and SUPER STRONG idea you
can use for being funny is to always remember
that the reason humans LAUGH hard is because
on some level they feel they are WINNING.

My ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM goes
into a super in-depth level on this,
( http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html )
but for now just realize that one way to
APPLY this concept is to COMBINE the
following two things:

First, make an extreme comment about your
EXCELLENCE/SUPERIORITY. (By making
it extreme, you make it clear that you are
not being totally serious and that you are
being playful.)

Then, ALSO make sure to follow up this with
a GENUINE compliment to her.

So, for example, let's say a woman says to
you "I like Southern boys" or, "I like Northern
boys" you can always reply, "I'm in a whole
new category baby, I'm the MAN. You can
keep the boys."

Now, this is a comment that says you are
SUPERIOR/EXCELLENT. But it is also
extreme and so it's clearly not meant to be
taken totally seriously, so it shows that you
are not only confident (you saying you are
the MAN) but also secure and not
overly serious. (Which actually FURTHER
shows you are indeed the MAN FOR REAL!)

Then, if you were to follow this up with a
compliment to her, i.e. let's say she doesn't
smoke, or you find out she has an appreciation
for your favorite type of movie, i.e. comedy
or action, you can compliment her on it, and
now the fact that you THE GUY WHO
IS "EXCELLENT" actually also likes HER,
is going to make her like you MORE. AND,
it also will set things up so that any OTHER
"superior" or "extreme excellence" comment
you make about yourself will seem just the
right balance of things, because she knows
you ALSO like her, so to her it feels GOOD
that you are this SUPERIOR guy, because
she ALSO knows that this superior guy
LIKES HER, so anything about YOU
being a winner makes HER feel like
a winner as well, since YOU approve
of HER.

This means she will be LAUGHING at
anything you do that suggests YOUR
excellence. It's all because she feels
that SHE is winning as well, since
she is kind of an extension of you now.

This is why you see hotties laughing at any
little joke from guys who seem "arrogant",
it's because from the woman's point of view
the guy is NOT arrogant, since he has already
ALSO made it clear he DOES like her too.
The very fact he is TALKING to her shows
some interest anyway, so remember that
you are NOT seeming like a jerk by
saying "cocky" things about yourself
if you are saying it playfully and she
ALSO knows that you like her.

Again, this idea can be used in millions
of situations, and it all depends on the
environment, so if you are with a woman
on a second or third date, and she knows
you a bit, and she sees you are not drinking
alcohol, and she asks you if this is because
you are driving, and you answer with
"baby, when I'm driving, you won't
want me to EVER stop." The reason
this is not arrogant is because she
knows you LIKE HER and by the
second or third date it's clear you
have already established some mutual
respect.

#3:
HOW TO NEVER NEED MEMORIZED
ROUTINES OR SCRIPTS

There are INFINITE things you can do
that don't involve memorizing lines,
routines, or scripts.

You can simply USE THE ENVIRONMENT
and the SITUATION to start a conversation.
Plus you can also do things like playfully
IMITATE what she is saying, you can
also do things like TICKLE her if you
are in a bar, and in almost ANY
environment you can do things like
TAKE whatever she says and PLAYFULLY
MISINTERPRET it as her being extremely
FORWARD and as it meaning she is
chasing you. (i.e. if she says to you
in the restaurant or club or wherever,
"Do you know where the bathroom is?"
You can say back to her, "But we hardly
know each other, this is kind of fast!!
Slow down!")

You can also simply tell her about something
funny or intriguing that happened to you
that day or recently, which will prompt
a response from her.

#4:
GIVE YOUR WORDS EMOTIONAL JUSTICE

So many times, when guys are approaching
a woman who is a total stranger, they end
up RESTRAINING all the natural joy and
fun in their voice.

For example, if you were telling the same
story or making the same comment to
someone you knew well and were comfortable
with, you'd really tell the story with FULL
JUSTICE. You'd give the funny part of your
story the full emphasis with the inflection
of your voice and the body language and
mannerisms. You wouldn't be afraid to
use the right words even if they were
a bit sexual or a bit dirty.

But suddenly when talking to a new woman,
what we do is HOLD BACK and try to keep
everything SAFE. Yet the reality is that what
makes stories, comments, or humor effective
is that they DO PUSH the envelope of what is
"typical". So by trying to keep everything
"typical" and "safe" you are ROBBING your
conversation of all its EMOTIONAL IMPACT.

#5:
ALL EXCUSES FOR NOT APPROACHING
WOMEN ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH

There are infinite excuses for not taking
action, but they all will NOT serve to
bring a the woman you want into your
life.

If you want to learn HOW to go about it,
then I can show you it all.

If you want to go to the bar or club but
you don't have a "wingman", then you'll
just have to fly SOLO that night at the
bar. I used to think that going out to a
club by yourself was INSANE but the
truth is that it was one of the biggest
learning experiences of my life, as by
not having a wingman, I was forced to
take ACTION since I had no wingman
to chat to! I learned how to handle
groups of women, one-on-one situations,
and mixed sets of women and men.

In fact, going out with a wingman is
ONLY a good thing if the wingman is
BETTER than you, otherwise your
wingman is only going to RUIN your
interactions. If your wingman is
inexperienced, then it's okay to
go with him to the club but make
sure that you handle most of the
interactions, and let him take a
more passive role as he LEARNS
from you while you do the interactions
together.

#6:
USE ENOUGH VOLUME IN YOUR VOICE

Ever notice that when you're angry you usually
talk LOUD?

Now, anger is usually a destructive emotion, but
my point is that the reason you speak loudly
when angry is because when angry you tend
to feel that you have WORTH. You therefore
also feel that your WORDS have WORTH.

Now, you don't have to be angry to feel your
words have worth.

You can be in a GREAT mood and feel that your
words have worth. And THIS is what you want
to be doing when chatting to women.

All too often however, when guys are chatting
to women, their voice kind of mumbles and
sounds quiet and it's because we are thinking
that our words are NOT WORTHY, so we
almost try to BURY the words SO THAT
THE WOMAN WILL NOT HEAR how
"stupid" they are.

The CRAZY thing is that there are some
real morons out there who simply ACT
and SPEAK as if they DO have worth,
and many people THINK they are in
fact worthy.

How crazy is that? When GOOD GUYS
act like they are unworthy and give no
volume to their voice, which makes
the woman think that the guy IS
creepy, that he IS unworthy.

If you BEHAVE as if you ARE UNWORTHY,
then how can you blame women for feeling
that is what you are? I know this from experience,
so take it from me, you want to CHANGE THIS
immediately if you are making this mistake.

This doesn't mean to go around YELLING,
as that implies insecurity as well. It just
means to be CONSCIOUS of the fact that
your words DO HAVE VALUE, and so
make sure they get spoken with the
volume they DESERVE. Make sure
that your every word gets HEARD,
because you are WORTH being heard.

#7:
GET "TALKATIVE" BEFORE STARTING!

One of the mistakes that guys make is they
go into a situation where there are women
around, but they are totally unprepared,
they are totally NOT in the right state
of mind.

One of the states of mind you want to be in
when approaching women is the TALKATIVE
state of mind, combined with the PLAYFUL
state of mind.

So the key is to start having talkative fun BEFORE
going out to meet women. My buddy and I used
to go see a comedy movie on Friday evenings,
and we'd be laughing and chatting about the
movie right after so that by the time we got
to the club or bar, we were ALREADY in
an extremely talkative and playful state
so we were already WARMED UP and
READY to take action to approach any
woman as soon as the situation presented
itself to us.

You don't have to do the exact same thing,
but you can apply the principle by for
example calling up a friend on the phone
and talking to him before going out to
meet women.

You can chat with the taxi driver, the
clerk, whoever you meet. The key is
to keep the conversation FUN and
to get TALKATIVE.

However, I also must warn you that you
shouldn't let the fact that you might be
in a less than great state serve as an excuse
for not approaching a woman. Often, that
first approach of the day feels the most
painful to get done, because you are not
sure of what is going to happen. Then after
getting it done, you feel better and more
relaxed and you do even better with the
next woman.

#8:
DON'T RELY ON YOUR EMOTIONS
WHEN THEY ARE NEGATIVE

Our emotions cloud our thinking. They
actually can DISTORT your filter of reality
and make you perceive almost everything
in a way that will destroy your results with
women.

If you are feeling insecure, then ANYTHING
a woman says or does will be interpreted as
a reason for why she is not interested in you,
and even worse, as a reason for why you
are NOT WORTHY, or for why you are
somehow "bad".

Emotions can make you think that a
conversation with a woman is going
HORRIBLY wrong when in fact it
may be going FINE.

This is why it's important to also
approach many women, because
one woman is not indicative of
what the entire female gender
says/thinks/feels.

It's crazy and tragic how going through
ONE BAD relationship, or TWO bad
ones, or going through a couple of
bad experiences with women, can make
us feel that ALL WOMEN ARE OUT
TO HURT US, and it's just not true.

What's even crazier is when we learn
that we ourselves may have been doing
things that in our ignorance we didn't
know were actually FUELING some
of the problem we were experiencing
with women.

So on that note, it's of PARAMOUNT
significance to find out the TRUTH
about women, about how attraction
works, about how to control our
own state of mind, and about the
best way to actually approach a woman
and take things from that initial walk-up
to her to getting physical to having a
fantastic relationship that gets STRONGER
with time.

And if you would like the most powerful
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the BIG PICTURE on attracting the women
you want, then you owe it to yourself to
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Till next time,

Michael Marks