Today is an EXTREMELY important
lesson, possibly the BIGGEST ONE
EVER, when it comes to creating
attraction.
If I were to ask you now, which is
truly a more MASCULINE color:
PINK or BLUE???
Which one would you say???
I'm willing to bet that 99% of
guys will say BLUE, of course!!
I mean, doesn't it FEEL more
MASCULINE than PINK?????
I mean, isn't that just so
OBVIOUS, and INSTINCTIVE??
Well, guess what?
The TRUTH is that, in Western
culture, from the 1920s until
the 1940s, pink was considered
appropriate for boys because
being closer to RED, it was
considered the more MASCULINE
color, while blue was associated
with GIRLS because it was considered
the more "delicate and dainty color",
or related to the purity of the
biblical figure of the Virgin Mary.
Things changed in the 1940s, with
pink for girls and blue for boys.
An entire culture and civilization
that now feels that "of course"
blue is masculine, pink is feminine,
etc.
The most powerful force on human
emotion and thought is often the
force of SOCIAL PROOF.
If enough people SAY AND DO something,
then suddenly we actually FEEEEEEL
that this is the RIGHT thing, the
good thing, the DESIRABLE thing.
What is DESIRABLE is NEVER in STONE.
It's MALLEABLE, things can be CHANGED.
What we DESIRE is massively controlled
by our ENVIRONMENT, which WE can control.
This psychological phenomenon happens
ALL THE TIME in your interactions with
women.
But guess what else?
You don't have to have a MILLION people
saying something or doing something to
create this effect.
The same effect can be achieved if
there is even just ONE person doing
it, IF that person is coming across
as an AUTHORITY, and has CONVICTION.
This happens all the time as celebrities
or anyone else that society thinks has
authority or value SAYS or DOES anything.
Styles, values, choices, are created,
others are destroyed, considered
"uncool", etc, etc.
Now, guess what happens when most
guys talk to a woman they like?
They act as their own WORST form of
social proof. They THEMSELVES are
trying to impress HER, they are
coming from a frame that they
themselves have no value, so
what do you think this triggers
in a woman's EMOTIONS?
It triggers NOTHING good.
The guy automatically loses all
authority, for SHE becomes the
authority.
He has made it clear this is
such, by his attitude and
by his demeanor.
KABOOM - goodbye to any social
proof for yourself.
You YOURSELF must be the greatest
force of social proof FOR yourself.
Forget about walking around with
girls on your sleeves showing how
cool you are, because if YOU don't
believe it, you'll never even get
ONE woman to believe it.
PART TWO:
But there's an even BIGGER level
to all this:
In our society today, as you can notice,
MESSED UP VALUES are more common than
EVER. The more they are around, the
more PERSUASIVE they seem to be.
This leads to drug abuse, alcohol abuse,
rampant STDs (often given to INNOCENT
people who were lied to buy others),
teenage pregnancies, and horrific
relationships full of mistrust and
lack of respect.
But it's almost IN STYLE now, to be
like that.
See, a lot of guys will only apply
1% of this advice, and try to act
"more confident" with women.
But that is not enough to get a great
woman. Today, so many women are confused
as well, even some really good women, that
YOU NEED TO LEAD THE WAY in terms of morals
as well.
YOU must become the social proof for
your good values. And what I mean by
this is that YOU must have total conviction
in them, and not act APOLOGETIC for them,
or as if they are something to HIDE
or be ashamed of today.
Yes, many women are actually SCARED to
be considered UNCOOL to speak out against
all kinds of insanities, whether it's
the kind of feminism that says it's evil
to love a man, or whether it's considered
uncool to be in a long term relationship
rather than shaking your ass at the clubs
or whether it's a joking matter to be
cheating and flirting with every guy
in sight.
The truth is that most women really DO
want a great guy, and a great relationship,
and most men want this as well, but because
our society says this is not COOL, everyone
ends up feeling that the other gender is
hopeless, and they feel they must play
games because the other gender is hopeless.
This "playing games" causes massive
destruction to their own happiness.
As a man, you must speak not only without
APOLOGY to a woman when you approach her,
but also you must have total CONVICTION
in your values as well, from the moment
you meet her till the rest of your life.
You must come across as having
AUTHORITY as well, and I mean
authority in EVERY sense- authority
to be chatting to her, authority for your
values, authority in what you are saying.
PART THREE - AN EXAMPLE OF THIS:
That means no more, "Excuse me, I'd like
to talk to you" to women! Why EXCUSE
yourself? You did nothing wrong!
The "excuse me" thing will get you
DEMOLISHED.
By the way, be PREPARED for when a
woman does NOT necessarily JUMP ONTO
you and do cartwheels the moment you
say something to her- be prepared for
even something that might seem a bit
harsh, because maybe she is being
defensive against the ocean of men who
ogle her and she has no idea of the
difference between you and them
until you speak MORE to her.
So even if she gives you the equivalent
of "buzz off", stay calm, and GO WITH
THE FLOW.
If she tells you that she doesn't talk to
men who approach her, then tell her
that THIS IS A GOOD THING that
you respect in her, and that you
appreciate her being so selective,
and that is why you knew she was
the right kind of girl in the first place.
See how this turns it around?
No matter what she says, interpret it as
a MUTUAL compliment, i.e. in this
case above by saying 'this is a good
thing she is so selective and that you
knew she was the right kind of girl',
you are saying she has high standards
and so do you.
By the way, regarding having AUTHORITY
and CONVICTION in everything you say,
this doesn't mean you can't grow and
evolve your perspectives with time,
but you must be your own best form
of 'social proof'.
Don't try to act "cool" and pretend you
are into certain kinds of music or movies
or entertainment if you're not.
Don't try to name drop the names of all
the local clubs to show how "in the know"
you are about what is so "hip".
Drop the showing off attempts, drop the
fake identity.
PART FOUR:
USING YOUR INTERNAL 'GRAPHIC EQUALIZER'
Being the "real you" is actually one of
the HARDEST things to do when meeting a
new and hot feminine creature! It's
actually a SKILL to learn to be able
to bring out your REAL best self
instead of the "act", because it's
almost an impulse to want to overcompensate
out of insecurity.
One of the important ways to let the
BEST version of the REAL you show,
is through the various COOL EMOTIONS
that she can detect in your TONE OF VOICE.
When you speak, you reveal a TON of
what you are FEELING, and you can
actually get YOURSELF to feel more
things by ADJUSTING your own
GRAPHIC EQUALIZER OF EMOTIONS.
There are MANY cool emotions, it's not
JUST about being playful or confident,
there is also sexuality, sensuality, intrigue,
excitement, calm serenity, and much more.
Think of these emotions as being present
in different degrees and in different amounts
the same way different SOUNDS are present
in different degrees and different amounts
when you use a GRAPHIC EQUALIZER
on your stereo system.
You can AMPLIFY the SENSUALITY in your
voice, your can bring up the notch on the
sense of CALM or CONVICTION or
AUTHORITY or PLAYFULNESS in your voice.
If you start to ADJUST your voice and USE
it to full power to EXPRESS these different
awesome emotions, you will notice a
MASSIVE difference from the VERY
FIRST INSTANT you talk to a woman.
You'll see the difference in the way her
eyes light up and her ears perk up.
The irony of course is that THIS is
all YOU, THE EMOTIONS ARE
COMING FROM YOU, this is the
way to unleash your full power in
a way that is unique to you.
Just like every person has a different
fingerprint, so too every man has a
unique expression through his internal
"graphic equalizer" that makes you
stand out from every other guy.
The problem is that most guys ignore this
and just come across as robotic, monotone,
caveman types who say, "Uhhh, excuse me,
can I talk to you?" and in fact very few
guys even do THAT, to be honest.
Don't forget also, that "neediness"
is actually a sign of having no
belief in your OWN value.
Liking a woman is fine, but being
NEEDY for her, when you have no idea
of her actual internal value, is
purely a product of lack of self-belief.
Every great man who stands up and has
conviction in his values and is passionate
about them, will have more IMPACT than
a THOUSAND "I'm trying to be Mr. Cool"
guys.
It will show in your voice, your mannerisms,
your words, the topics you choose to chat
about.
And it will seem just as OBVIOUS to her
that YOU are the man she wants as it
is obvious to her that PINK is more
girly than BLUE.
AND if you are reading this right now,
and would like to get some PURE GOLD
on IMMEDIATELY applicable strategies
you can use to attract women the very
SECOND you see them ANYWHERE, then
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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