Today's article deals with some real BIG topics,
from overcoming approach anxiety, to attracting
women in general, to being all you can be as a man.
Right now, I want you to draw a picture in
your mind of a woman so beautiful, so striking,
it OBLITERATES any other thought.
Make her as STUNNING as you possibly can.
Look her up and down, from head to toe.
Her smile, her hair, her every sexy curve.
Even think of the way she smells.
The way she sounds.
And she’s looking at you right now, giving
you a smile that feels like it’s sending out
golden rays of sunshine…
Now, all that awesome emotion you are feeling,
all that desire, that love, all that ENERGY, all
that focus, I want you to CAPTURE THAT,
and REDIRECT ALLLLLL OF IT, toward
YOURSELF.
The problem is that guys don’t do this.
They take all this awesome emotion, all this
FOCUS, all this ENERGY, all this INFINITE
POWER, and they not only GIVE IT AWAY
TO ANY WOMAN WHO IS ATTRACTIVE,
they actually FORCE FEED IT to these women,
unconsciously.
All that awesome emotion is POTENTIAL POWER.
But it gets LOST when you just give it away, rather
than HARNESSING it for yourself.
And the irony is, it is only by harnessing it that
you create the kind of ATTRACTION POWER
that makes a WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO
YOU the same way you felt about HER.
Now, imagine you took that ENERGY and
EXCITEMENT and PASSION and DRIVE
and DETERMINATION and you used it to
live your life to the MAX.
See, most guys feel the desire and then basically
tell a woman without saying it in words :
“Hey, I feel massively attracted to you, will
you PLEASE do something about this to
HELP ME?”
And then if a woman says “No”, the guy then
tries HARDER to PLEAD with her, basically
saying “Oh but I will be EXTRA NICE TO YOU”
as if she’s doing HIM a favor, and he will
give her some COMPENSATION for this
FAVOR.
It’s clear that SHE is the one getting the
WORSE deal, from his perspective, that’s
in fact the REASON he keeps telling her
through his ACTIONS even if not his words
that he will do anything for her.
Now, obviously the solution is not to become
a JERK either. Becoming a JERK doesn’t
truly increase your value on it’s own, it’s
only because jerks are ALSO making sure
not to WASTE THEIR EMOTIONS AND
ENERGY on trying to get a woman by
KISSING UP TO HER.
So “jerks” are using this energy to increase
their attractive power through the following
ways:
Rather than thinking of ways to kiss up to women,
they think of ways to make more money, get more
fame, or to get OTHER women so that this woman
becomes more jealous and wants him more.
Also, the lack of neediness is IN ITSELF attractive
as well, because it creates a perception of greater
SCARCITY. After all, he is not pushing himself
on her, so the instinctive thought process on her
part is that he is more in demand than a guy who
is trying so hard to sell himself.
Now, imagine a guy who is NOT a jerk, and
who is ALSO focuses his primal “mating”
energy on increasing his value, his skills,
his prestige, his confidence, rather than
on trying to just be extra extra nice.
Being nice is easy, he can always do that
as well, but never INSTEAD of disciplining
his desires. Most guys don’t want to discipline
their desires, they just want to get the woman
NOW.
The reality is that often, if you are just
looking for something short term, you
CAN get this pretty fast. But keeping
a woman attracted long term takes
something else.
Attraction is about making the most of
yourself, in whatever ways that specifically
apply to you. Whether you are an athlete,
artist, entertainer, comedian, craftsman,
businessman, communicator, or you are the
best at WHATEVER skill you have, all that
is extremely attractive. And then mix that
with great social skills and masculinity.
It all boils down to survival and the way
emotions including attraction are related
to survival.
Start getting used to standing up for yourself.
It’s the first step to LOVING YOURSELF.
If you’re at the movie theater, or club, or
concert, or whatever, and someone
buds you in line, speak up. I can’t take
responsibility for what happens to you,
obviously, but the bottom line here is
that we’re all on earth for a short time,
so you need to learn to value YOUR
time here as well.
You’d be surprised what this does for your
self-esteem and also it sends a message out
that you ARE desirable. You are the
FIRST LINE OF DEFENSE when it
comes to your own “image”.
If YOU don’t believe in you, then no one
else will.
No one told Bill Gates he would have Microsoft one day.
When Sly Stallone was almost starving and no agency
would hire him and he was sleeping in subways stations
rather than live a “normal life” in order to continue
his goal of eventually becoming an actor and making
movies, nobody told him, “Hey man, keep going, you’re
going to make ROCKY one day and be a huge star.”
They TOOK IT UPON THEMSELVES TO
LOVE THEMSELVES AND BELIEVE
IN THEMSELVES MORE THAN ANY
THING ELSE. They didn’t wait for some
woman to give them approval first.
This is why NEEDINESS must be
OBLITERATED from your thoughts.
If a woman that hasn’t even done anything MAJOR
to earn your affection sees you are so needy for her,
she already knows you are not the man for her.
After all, how can you be?
You’re going to be losing too much energy to
this weakness rather than become the kind
of man who is powerful enough to provide,
to protect, to stand up for himself and her.
MOVE THROUGH THE WORLD WITH
THIS MENTALITY OF SELF-LOVE
I'm not saying not to love OTHERS as well,
but the reality is that if you don’t love yourself,
you won’t be able to help others too much either.
You’ll be too weak and too messed up.
SHOW this mentality through your behaviors
and the things you say. So for example, let’s say
you’re driving and a woman pulls up beside you
in her car at a red light, don’t wait for the perfect
thing to say, just ASSUME YOU ARE THE BEST
THING TO HAPPEN TO HER, and say
whatever FLOWS from that frame of mind:
i.e. “Are you following me? You should
at least introduce yourself!”
If you’re at the gym, and on the bikes, and
a woman is about to get on a bike next to
you, don’t be afraid to be playful and say
something like “I’m using that bike too!”
The truth is, you could say ANYTHING
IF IT’S CLEAR IN YOUR TONALITY
THAT YOU ARE SURE OF YOUR
OWN WORTH. And if you’re not
sure of your own worth, then read the
following words:
ALL VALUE IS ARBITRARY, THEREFORE
YOU CAN DETERMINE YOUR OWN VALUE.
People pay for cigarettes, that kill them.
Fashion trends come and go.
One year it’s the rage, the next it’s ugly.
People do ALL KINDS OF THINGS with
passion, that make no sense.
The key is to have CONVICTION in whatever
you do and do it REPEATEDLY till it becomes
automatic instinct.
If you still think you have things to FEAR
regarding approaching women, then remember
that your FEARS HAVE NO EARS.
You can’t try TALKING to your fears.
Your fears won’t HEAR you.
The more you try to TALK to your fear,
the more your fears will take what you
say and try to DISTORT it into yet
ANOTHER REASON TO FEAR.
The fear will TRANSFORM your words and
recombine their 'DNA' content into
something emotionally TOXIC.
So for example, if you see a woman,
and you're hesitating to approach,
because you fear that maybe you will
get rejected, and and you start to
talk to the fear, i.e. by saying
"Okay, Let me find something COOL
to say"....your fear will then say
something like, "NAHHH that's not
cool enough!"
The only solution is ACTION and confronting
your fears. OVER AND OVER AGAIN,
till they finally get TIRED OF WASTING
THEIR TIME AND GIVE UP.
Your fears don’t hear words, they only
understand ACTION, when done AGAIN
AND AGAIN.
So if you’re afraid of approaching women
or kissing a woman or taking things further
with women in any sense, you’re going to
have to TAKE ACTION and do it, not just
think about it.
Every time you see a woman and you want
to talk to her, and you give yourself an excuse,
it only makes it HARDER to do it in the future.
STOP THE INTERNAL DIALOGUE NOW
AND TAKE ACTION NOW.
Start loving YOURSELF with the same
DRIVE that you USED to spend on women
who didn’t earn it from you.
This applies in your interactions with EVERYONE.
STOP talking to your fears with words, instead
TRAMPLE FEARS WITH ACTION.
See a woman you want to chat to?
Remember she doesn’t WANT a man
who is trying to kiss up to her, she wants
a man who believes in HIMSELF first.
So BE that man, and SHOW it.
And if you’re reading this right now, I
suggest you take your success with women
to the next level by downloading my program
"Obliterating Approach Anxiety".
This program will ENSURE you take action
when you see women anywhere in the future.
It's at:
How To Overcome "Approach Anxiety"
And if you haven’t yet downloaded my program,
"Attraction Accelerators", then do that immediately at:
Speed Up Women's Attraction To You
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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