Saturday, March 10, 2012

Detecting And Attracting A Great Girlfriend aka "A Quality Woman"

Today I want to share with you a TON of absolutely
CRUCIAL insights on attracting a quality woman that
has it going on both on the OUTSIDE and on the INSIDE.

Most men fall for the "HALO effect" from beautiful
women and this makes it impossible for most men
to see if a woman REALLY is a great person or not. 

The first half of this newsletter is about how to
DETECT a woman's character so you can know
if she is worth pursuing, and the second half focuses
on how to ATTRACT women in the most powerful way.

HOW TO DETECT A WOMAN'S CHARACTER:

1. See if she speaks negatively about many other people,
including all her ex boyfriends. If she only has bad things to say
about everyone else, chances are she won't think fondly of you
after a while either.

On the other hand, if she tends to focus on the positive about
people, she will probably be a much better girlfriend for you as well. 

2.Be on the lookout to see how she treats others.
For example, if you two are out at a cafe, restaurant,
or coffee shop, how does she treat the employees,
waiters and waitresses? Is she abusive or is she
sensitive? Kindness is free, so there is no excuse
to be a miser with it.

3. Ask her what are her top values in life, and ask
her to be specific.

If she focuses on things that are purely superficial, like fame
and wealth, chances are she won't stick it out through the
rough patches in life with anyone when she is in a relationship
with them.

On the flip side, if she values loyalty, honesty, trust, and health,
chances are she will appreciate a good man who treats her well.

4. Behave in a casual relaxed manner.

This is important, because in order to get a woman to reveal
her character, it's essential that you don't make her feel judged
for being herself.

So try to be as relaxed as possible when interacting
with a woman. Asking her about her values must be done
in a way where she does not feel like there is a right
or wrong answer.  

Don't come across as being too serious, or she will
only present to you her "formal" self which is more
of an act, rather than who she really is naturally.

5. Make note if she is the kind of person who is able to
apologize and own up to making a mistake.

If she is not able to do this, she will be a horrible person to
have a relationship with, for her ego is so big that she can't
admit her mistakes or learn from them.

6. Pay particular attention to how she behaves when she
 is under stress.

If she is still behaving in a way that is kind and honest
and sensitive, she is proving to be an amazing woman.

However, if she becomes spiteful, hateful, or abusive,
this is an indicator of how she will be in the future when
under any type of stress. And life definitely will have its
stressful moments, so you can be sure such a woman
will behave badly again in the future.

7.  Listen very carefully when she speaks, because most
people give away their personalities very quickly without
realizing it. 

This is because most people don't consciously try to behave badly,
so they all think they are great even if in fact they are abusive or cruel.

8. Take note of how hard she is trying to understand you.  
One of the greatest signs of a woman's personality is
if she makes great efforts to accomplish this goal.

If she makes a consistent effort to try to understand you
and to make you feel respected, this is definitely a
reason to continue dating her.

WARNING: It's crucial to pick up ON what a woman is saying rather than just being focused on "picking up" women, if you want to actually get a woman that is the right match for you as a great long-term girlfriend.

Okay, so now you know some CRUCIAL tips on how to
DETECT a quality woman.  It's ALSO important to know
how to ATTRACT her!

Most guys try too hard to "prove" themselves to a woman,
and all this ends up doing is make a woman feel PRESSURE
to have to like the guy.

When a woman feels PRESSURE, she puts up her natural wall
of resistance.

This is human nature.

But you can't block or resist what ISN'T there.

ATTRACTION TIP #1:
By eradicating the neediness from yourself, 
you remove the PRESSURE on a woman.

When a woman senses this lack of pressure,
it's like a HUGE weight is lifted off her
shoulders,since she can immediately RELAX
with you. You are not trying to GET anything
from her, you are not trying to GET her to
DO anything, or BECOME anything.

So, now that she is free from worrying
about a needy guy, now she is worried
that YOU might not be interested in
HER. She worries about this, because
she is now interested in YOU.

This is the REAL definition of cool.
MINIMUM "GAME", because it's
all INTERNALIZED.

ATTRACTION TIP #2: 
When it comes to getting more "touchy feely", CLUBS 
ARE DIFFERENT!

At clubs, you can REALLY escalate the
physical contact. And if you are new at
this, it can seem strange. But you can
grow in this area as well, as a recent
reader wrote in. It was a long letter,
so let me get straight to the part on
contact:

LETTER:

..."After a couple of months, I was starting
to really get this stuff. The matrix was opening,
and I really began to understand what is going on.

However, I was becoming discouraged because
I wasn't getting desired results. One night, I was
flirting with a girl, lol, she came up to me and
licked my ear. Shortly after, it hit me. I wasn't
comfortable with being a sexual person. So the
next week, I flirted and made physical contact
with girls everyday. And to my surprise, they
loved it, and so did I (mind you it's not like I
grabbed their ***** or ***).

I actually really believed girls don't like when
guys flirt with them and gently touch them on
the arm, back, waist, or hands. Boy was I
wrong. They are really, really, really receptive
to it. Man that stuff is so addicting.

Zack O.

MY COMMENTS:

Really, that says it all.
You grow internally, from doing it, taking
little steps everyday till it's not only easy,
it's ADDICTIVE in a good way!

And it's not about being some kind of
alpha "mean guy", it's about being
COMFORTABLE with this stuff,
and that makes the girl comfortable
too, so she can enjoy it and you
can too.

And now, on to our final letter:

NEXT LETTER:

First of all, let me say that everything that
you've written about women and dating has
been thought provoking, encouraging and
very motivating. I've been to a lot of similar
websites but few offers anything as good as
yours. Needless to say, you articles are a
gem in the art of dating and seduction. I'm
from ******* and would like to purchase
your e-book. How can I do that?

I came across a profile of a woman on a
dating website and here's how she describes
her ideal match:-

"i had a dream. i met a guy -avg height, avg
build. his face was disfigured and disturbing.
the part of the nose that connects the two
nostrils was burned and misshapen. about .5 cm
of the outside corners of both eyes were puffy,
slanted and looked as though they were welded
together. not only was he "not attractive," he was
viscerally frightening.

we exchanged words - and though i don't
remember the content of our conversation,
i remember he exuded this confidence. a
kind of confidence that is memorable and
comforting.

he was assertive, unassuming, witty, sardonic,
genuine, and he held this conversation and my
interest as if unaware of his deformity. he held
no feelings of inadequacy, and i knew we'd never
waste our energy fighting over petty squabbles.

he'd never misinterpret my words or actions as
a slight against him - and never harbor resentment.
he was too classy. he was chill, calm-and incredibly
keen. he got all my jokes. AND bantered back. "

What are your thoughts on this?

MY COMMENTS:

Yes, it's quite cool when we get to the
SUBCONSCIOUS, that part that doesn't
lie or get bogged down with logic.

Now, in any dream there will sometimes be
one of the elements that might not be applicable
to real life, the fact is, dreams tell us a LOT
about what is going on in someone's mind.

And the cool thing here, is this woman is
verifying every single component of
what she is attracted to, and every component
gets back to this idea of MINIMUM
GAME, of NATURAL attraction.

So let's get to it:

This guy has the inner behaviors and beliefs of
security, confidence, and warmth, and embodies
the personality of attraction. 

I also think that the "viscerally frightening" 
might very well be a turn on in the sense of it
highlights his CHARACTER since the focus 
is OFF his looks.

Also, a little of  "Beauty and the Beast" type thing
going on here.

Also, you can see that the words of the conversation
aren't the main thing, as she can't remember the
words but rather remembers the VIBE, i.e. that
"he exuded this confidence. a kind of confidence
that is memorable and COMFORTING." 

ATTRACTION TIP #3: 
Your MOOD Is KEY To Setting The Right VIBE.

Also, in her description of this man, it is clear 
that he will be masculine and LEAD the way
because "he was assertive" and he was NOT a jerk,
as he was "unassuming", and "genuine".

ATTRACTION TIP #4:
Be Assertive, Masculine, And Lead The Way

He's also got "wit", and since sexual attraction
is the subtext of her message, it's not a leap
of faith to say that what she probably also
means is that he "gets it" when it comes to
sexual flirtation, teasing, etc. And of course,
that he's a witty guy in general doesn't hurt.

ATTRACTION TIP #5:
Flirt Using WIT With Women.

He has witty remarks, often with sexual undertones.
Also HE himself is so in his own reality and
confident, it is as if he is not even aware of his
deformity. This is particularly attractive, by
the way, because it shows a purity of
emotion/thought, i.e. that somehow the world
has NOT polluted his mind with insecurities and
by association has therefore not polluted his
mind with other absurd negativities that most
people are burdened with.

And in fact, I too by the way love it when
a girl is comfortable with her "flaws" and in
fact I find it a turn-on if she finds herself
sexy, including her "flaws". 

ATTRACTION TIP #5:

High self esteem is HOT.

He has "no feelings of inadequacy", which
means he is secure and will not take things
that she says the wrong way, "i knew we'd
never waste our energy fighting over petty
squabbles. he'd never misinterpret my words
or actions as a slight against him - and
never harbor resentment."

All because she senses he is SECURE, and
so too in reality most women will often test
a guy to see if he is the kind of guy that can
handle life with her, to see if he is the insecure
type, to see if he is the kind of guy that will
explode over trivial things, etc.

And his sense of confident witty humor is
sooo important, as she says, "and he got all
my jokes. AND bantered back.", meaning
he could ping that energy back to her when
she ponged it, like ping pong, the energy
and fun going back and forth.

What she meant by "assertive", is the
confidence in every aspect, ESPECIALLY
considering that he was "viscerally frightening",
but still had SO MUCH confidence, this is
especially admirable and inspiring and attractive.

And also, I'm sure that the assertiveness
in her mind, at least subconsciously, also
included being assertive in bed, for SURE.

ATTRACTION TIP #6:
Be Assertive In Bed .

This then gives women the permission to
ALLOW THEMSELVES to be ultra sexual,
since they can feel okay about it since
the guy is so assertive. Otherwise, if the
woman has to be the assertive one, she
feels "guilty" about it because of culture
and the anti-slut defense shield etc, etc.

If you are reading this right now, you can
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Michael Marks

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