Hitting the 'THE SWEET SPOT' To Attract Women

Today I need to explain something called THE SWEET SPOT.

It is MASSIVELY IMPORTANT for attracting women.

I wrote about this in the past, but it's been a long time so I have a feeling most guys have forgotten how ABSOLUTELY IMPORTANT this is for success in attracting women.

The only thing I CARE about when it comes to this thing called “how to attract women” is getting guys RESULTS.  No mumbo-jumbo, no hocus-pocus, no superstition.

It all must actually WORK.

So today, I’m going to share with you some of the GREATEST points of all time regarding how to attract women.

Obviously, these are going to be the BROAD strokes here, as it would be impossible to put every detail in one newsletter and that is the reason I have my actual programs.

So let’s begin.

ONE: HIT “THE SWEET SPOT”

By the “sweet spot” I mean the right BLEND of confidence mixed with kindness.

I often call this mixture the right "balance",
but a client referred to this mixture, or this right
balance I was describing, as "the sweet spot",
and I like the words "the sweet spot" as a term.  

And yes, KINDNESS is absolutely attractive to
women, WHEN it is blended with POWER.

If you just show kindness, you are kissing up.
If you just show power/dominance/confidence,
you are coming across as an insecure JERK.

When you BLEND kindness with power, you
become attractive and charismatic.

So, for example, telling a woman she has impeccable
taste in men is a playful way of giving her a compliment
and saying something cool about yourself.

Helping a woman who is looking for directions and then
playfully telling her you will bill her for the help, is
kind and confident.

 







If a woman gives YOU a compliment, i.e. she says, “You are pretty cool”, and you say, “I know”- THAT shows confidence.

If you then pull her into you and kiss her, that shows affection on top of the confidence.

It’s this MIXING of confidence and kindness that is VERY cool.

Most guys MISS the target.  They come in too
arrogant in their effort to show confidence, or
they come in too “nice” in their effort to show
kindness, caring, or affection.

Miss the mark, and get NOTHING.
Hit the mark, and you start a CHAIN REACTION
inside her mind that  results in a BURSTING FIRE
OF HEATED ATTRACTION for you.

Here’s an analogy that came up from the same client
during a bootcamp when it “clicked” in his mind,
he said the following, and I paraphrase:

“It’s like that scene at the end of the original
Star Wars, when they blow up the "Death Star".
Luke had to fire into a super NARROW area
and ONLY a direct hit in that super tight
area would work.”





Miss the target, however, and the "Death Star" is left
TOTALLY UNAFFECTED.

HIT the target, and the entire thing IGNITES
into a fireball of a billion glowing splinters.

It’s the same with women but in a positive
way:

MISS the mark, and it’s pretty much NOTHING.   
      
But if you hit the “sweet spot” in their mind
with that combo of CONFIDENCE/POWER
mixed with KINDNESS, and it is quite
literally INSTANT attraction heat they
feel in the most primal sense for you.

TWO:  THE THRILL OF THE GAME

What I mean by this is that APPROACHING
WOMEN for the goal of romance, sex, etc,
is ABSOLUTELY THRILLING and so
there is not even a QUESTION of whether it
is “worth it” or not to approach women!

Seriously, aside from having your HEALTH and FOOD or SHELTER, I can’t think of anything MORE rewarding.

And I don’t just mean the end product, I mean that even the PROCESS itself is awesome.

Approaching women is a BLAST.

Let’s say you love football.
Would you ONLY play football if you knew you were going to WIN every single game????

Or does a guy who LOVES football love ALL his games, even if he doesn’t WIN them all?

That’s because to him football is EXCITING.

When you approach women, especially women
who are TOTAL STRANGERS, it is the most
exciting thing in the world, at least to the guys
I know and for myself as well.

I’ll tell you why:
Each time you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are INTERFERING with the
entire fabric of your UNIVERSE.

That woman may very well be the woman who
turns out to be your LOVER, and/or the mother 
of your children, or the woman who inspires you
to be all you can be.

But if you are not BOLD, you will just sit back
and let it all be, and NOTHING will happen,
an entire DIFFERENT future (possibly boring)
instead of the possibly AMAZING one you could
have had, IF you had taken action to approach her.

And it’s YOU who is changing your own destiny.
YOU are the one TAKING ACTION.

Part of being a MAN in just about every culture
on EARTH is being the one who takes the lead
when it comes to the human “mating”. 

Women ARE DEEPLY AFFECTED by a man’s
DARING, his BOLDNESS, his BRAVERY,
his INITIATIVE.  And they know full well
how INTIMIDATING it is for most men
to approach women who are total strangers.

So DOING THE APPROACH not only is the only way to MEET her as a stranger,  but it ALSO sends the right message
because of the very fact it DOES take guts to do it!

If you want to be successful at approaching women, it is important to realize that the approaches themselves are PART of the excitement.

Also, when you have the skill that comes from doing a lot of approaches, women can SENSE that you have options, because you actually SUBCONSCIOUSLY behave differently, and they pick up on those signals.

Women can often TELL that you have options by sizing up your confidence which shows up in all kinds of subtle subconscious ways when you interact with women.

And  when a woman knows you have OPTIONS, she gets even MORE attracted.

And all this is because you DO the approaches.
So it’s NEVER a “waste” of time to approach
women, because the SKILL SET in itself
becomes something women RESPECT
and are ATTRACTED to in you.

Instead of being a man who HOPES that
he will get women, you are the man who
TAKES ACTION.

THREE: ALWAYS BEHAVE AS IF YOU
ALREADY KNEW YOU HAD HER, AND
AS IF A BILLION OTHER SUPER-HOT WOMEN
WERE AT YOUR FINGERTIPS.

What is such a tragedy is that there is so little
TIME to make the right impression on a woman
who is a total stranger.

The GOOD PART of this however, is that if you
do it RIGHT, and you make the right impression,
that impression will STICK LIKE CRAZY GLUE!

In her mind, she knows NOTHING about you.
So you have a PERFECTLY CLEAN SLATE
to create the PERFECT image.
 
She has NOTHING to contradict any positive
message you create about yourself. 

Soooooooooooo, what this means is if you
BEHAVE as if you already HAD her in your
palm, if you behave as if you have a billion
other options but you still are interested in her,
then SHE WILL FEEL THIS IS THE TRUTH
ABOUT YOU.

It’s also a great way to PREVENT coming across
as insecure or a jerk.

Plenty of guys THINK they are acting “confident”
by telling a woman OFF the first second the woman
does something they don’t like.

But if a guy is REALLY confident and secure, he
feels NO NEED to have to PROVE himself or
to insult her.  Instead, when a guy is super-secure
he often can see the REAL reasons a woman is
behaving a certain way.

What I mean by this is that it’s NORMAL for
a woman to be a bit CAUTIOUS when meeting
a man who is a total stranger.

A guy who is INSECURE will feel THREATENED
and possibly INSULTED by anything she does that
isn’t a clear sign of her INTEREST.

But a guy who is secure will NOT feel threatened
and is far more likely to respond to anything she
does in the most ATTRACTIVE way.

So for example, if a woman is asking a guy a lot
of questions about “does he pick up lots of women
in stores” or something like that, a SECURE guy
knows she is actually INTERESTED and she just
is trying to find out if HE is serious at all about
her or is she just “woman number one thousand”
to him.

So a secure guy will give a warm smile and possibly
joke to her that indeed she is number one thousand,
(just to get that out of the way since he knows she
is thinking it) and then in a CALM voice tone, say:

“Actually, meeting the RIGHT person is what it’s all about, right? We all meet people, but it’s about meeting the right one.”


TRUST ME, the way you BEHAVE is worth a
TRILLION TIMES more than how much MONEY
you have, what you LOOK like, or how FAMOUS
you are, or whether you are a rockstar or not.

In fact, a client recently emailed me about a guy who was a real rock star who really WAS great with attracting women, and who then traded lives with a dude who was a “regular guy” who was NOT good at all at attracting women.

Somehow they managed to fool most strangers.
In other words, people thought the regular dude
WAS the rock star guy and they thought the rock star
guy was the regular dude.

Well, guess what happened? The guy who really
WAS the authentic rock star dude STILL did
awesome with women, even though he had NONE
of the “rock star” status.

And the guy who could NOT attract women beforehand
STILL couldn’t do well even WITH the “rock star”
status.

That’s because the CHARISMA is what REALLY COUNTS. 

You can’t just BUY the right behaviors, attitudes, feelings, etc.
You can’t just “adopt” them from someone else.

And if you DO convey the right behaviors, actions,
attitudes, feelings, etc, then NO ONE can somehow
make you UNDESIRABLE, no matter what they do.

You can see this all the time in real life. Take a look
at any ten random women who are gorgeous, and you will
find out that MOST of these women are with guys
that SEEM ordinary until you actually INTERACT
with them.

As you can tell, EVERYTHING you read here comes from REAL WORLD experience.

And I can ACCELERATE your learning curve in the real world of approaching women.  You can save YEARS from learning it all the hard way, because I can show you the DIRECT path instead of you taking the trial-and-error path.

The trial-and-error path of trying to succeed with women not only is INEFFICIENT, but it also can DRAIN your motivation from going through infinite FRUSTRATION.   

I seriously suggest you take my Real World Bootcamp because I will PERSONALLY show you EVERYTHING you need to know, and it will all be done for REAL.

The Real World Bootcamp is non-stop IMMERSION in the world of approaching women who are totalstrangers, with a very special twist: You're getting expert coaching, the result of over ten years experience from someone who has been getting men RESULTS with women for all that time, every step of the way. 

In the Real World Bootcamp, you learn how to
master the skills for successfully approaching
women right out of the blue, anywhere, who are
total strangers- and then ATTRACTING them.

The Bootcamp makes you self-sufficient because
it teaches you exactly what you need to do to
optimize your approaches to women who are complete
strangers, anywhere, so that you can maximize
the chances of getting them attracted, connected,
and wanting to know you more.

Think of a personal trainer at the gym: He shows 
you proper form, strategy, and technique.

WithOUT the expert  instruction, one will never
optimize their results, and will also likely get injured
and then not be able to work out at all, possibly for years.

Just going out to the gym with no clue what
you are doing can result in not only very little
to no progress, but it can actually result in
making a guy WORSE OFF than had he never gone
to the gym at all.

Similarly, going out to approach women without
expert training can result in a lot of negative
habits that actually push women AWAY.


It can also create negative emotional associations 
in your OWN mind with approaching, to the point
that a guy never does it again, and misses out
on the entire world of possibilities with all
the women that are out there, all the women
that he does not get to meet through rare
"luck" situations.

This bootcamp teaches you how to USE all those opportunities that are available everyday when you see women ANYWHERE, including at the mall, cafe, park, library, post office or grocery store, or just walking on the sidewalk or while riding the bus or train - it could absolutely ANYWHERE.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my CRUCIAL
book for any man looking for a QUALITY woman,
called The No-Bullshit Book on Success with Women Today,
then do that IMMEDIATELY by going HERE:

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Now, there are MANY important elements to being successful with women.

To find out about ALL my programs for skyrocketing your success with women, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

NEW INSIGHTS INTO ATTRACTION AND THE APPROACH

It’s been a long time since my last newsletter, and there has been so very, very, VERY much I’ve wanted to share with you regarding new insights into attraction, approaching, and relationships, and even the human MIND in general, but I’ve just been truly dug in deep with work and not had the time to actually write up everything into a new book or newsletter or audio program, etc.

But if I don’t get started sharing this, it might NEVER get out, so I am going to share ONE of the MOST AMAZING insights I’ve ever had when it comes to successfully approaching women ANYWHERE, and this applies even more to places that are “normal places” as opposed to places specially designed for meeting women such as nightclubs and parties.

So here we go:

ALWAYS BE IN MIDDLE OF DOING SOMETHING ELSE WHERE YOU ARE ALREADY IN A GREAT STATE OF MIND

The reason this works is because ultimately it’s ALL ABOUT STATE OF MIND, and the problem is when you make your FOCUS the actual APPROACHES, then what happens is your mind is now focused on LOOKING FOR A WOMAN, and it can’t HELP but start going into THINKING MODE, and ironically, you don’t WANT to be THINKING, you want to be so deep in FANTASTIC STATE that you INSTINCTIVELY start ACTUALLY talking to a woman you like, and you do it with JOY, instead of THINKING ABOUT IT.

ALWAYS BE IN MIDDLE OF DOING SOMETHING ELSE WHERE YOU ARE ALREADY IN A GREAT STATE OF MIND.

If you have to start THINKING about it, it’s already FAR from optimum.

But when you are already DEEP in a super optimistic, upbeat, positive state, your THOUSANDS OF YEARS OF DEVELOPED HARD-WIRING IN YOUR BRAIN INSTINCTIVELY TAKES OVER when you see a woman you’d like to talk to. The attraction to women is such a PRIMAL part of your brain, that all it needs is to simply not be RESTRAINED by bullshit FEARS and NEGATIVITY. 

A lot of people resort to ALCOHOL to do this, but of course the alcohol impedes their OTHER faculties and hampers their sense of emotional intelligence in other ways and interferes with proper social calibration.

Now, as far as the HOW TO for how to do this properly, it’s SIMPLE:

First, start doing the things you really DO enjoy in life, things that make you feel good, and usually this has to do with some form of doing something you are naturally talented at and then connecting

that with PEOPLE on as massive a level as you can.  Maybe you are teaching some skill you have to others in a class, maybe you are volunteering to help in some other way.  Etc.

Next, just go about your GENERAL LIFE, but make sure to live your general life in a place where there are SINGLE WOMEN AROUND!

So what I mean by all this, is that you don’t have to DO anything special, and in fact you SHOULD NOT DO ANYTHING SPECIAL, the SPECIAL thing you are doing, IRONICALLY, is that you are NOT DOING ANYTHING in terms of LOOKING FOR WOMEN, or in terms of THINKING about what you are going to SAY to a woman you might see.

All that “doing special thinking” really should occur WAY WAY WAYYYYYYYYY before, for example, if there are INNER GAME issues you need to work on, then yes by all means, take care of those issues, but once you are out there and there are women around, the best thing is to ALREADY BE IN THE RIGHT STATE so that your INSTINCTS take over-the instincts you were BORN WITH AS A MAN!!!!

YES! The ones you were BORN WITH, you don’t have to train for this, the thing you have to “train” for is actually UNLEARNING all thebullshit you were taught since birth by an INSANE culture that

teaches you how EVIL it is for men to be masculine and how evil it is for women to be feminine, as I explained in my very FIRST book, called THE DATING WIZARD.

To quote Yoda, “You must unlearn what you have learned”.  It’s important to UNLEARN all the hogwash that was force-fed to you by generations of MISGUIDED feminism. I say MISGUIDED because at one time, there was some logic to feminism, but the way it is now in the western world is completely insane, destructive, and something most people are unaware of in terms of its full impact on society.

And by the way, I have to say this here, I am NOT some ridiculous chauvinist, I have NO PROBLEM whatsoever with women being WHATEVER THEY WANT, totally and absolutely- what I have a problem with is a movement teaching that men are garbage and that women are superior- this hurts the good men and women on the planet far more than anybody else, since the male and female creeps never listen to anyone anyway, including to the feminists.

So anyway, the key to a successful approach is to keep the approach as SPONTANEOUS as possible, fueled ONLY by your AWESOME STATE.

So if you see a woman at the gas station filling up, you can start joking with her about the price of gas, about the way she is filling up, about her style of holding the pump, about how people never seem to have time to interact with each other and how good it is that at least there are gas stations where people can talk to each other,etc, etc, etc.

THE KEY IS INFINITE OPTIMISM AND "POSITIVITY".

But the MOMENT you start turning it into a whole big planned speech, with “special moves”, it starts to REEK of being INAUTHENTIC, and also you start to FEEL like you are putting on an act, and that ruins your own confidence, and all this together ends up ruining the vibe.

Trust me, what you have just read should be RE-READ A DOZEN TIMES A DAY until it is INGRAINED IN YOUR SOUL.

Ever wonder why there is so LITTLE actually USEFUL advice like you read above, and instead so much total BULLSH*T?

It's because we have, as a culture, have become IGNORANT and thus VULNERABLE to the actions of various individuals and companies exploiting people's HARD-WIRED emotions.

For example, regarding MISLEADING INFORMATION, DESTRUCTIVE PRODUCTS, AND EMOTIONALLY COMPELLING PROPAGANDA.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s JUNK FOOD, JUNK ADVICE, or JUNK PRODUCTS, the bottom line is that it all comes with a marketing FORCE designed to THROTTLE LOGIC AND RATIONAL THINKING.

So, for example, it is almost IMPOSSIBLE to eat healthy if you rely on the restaurants or fast food establishments everywhere- whether it’s TOO MUCH SALT, SUGAR, FAT, OR CHEMICALS, there’s almost NO ESCAPE if you rely on them, and they get away with it because of the combination of IGNORANCE among people and the POWERFUL MARKETING and product design that is not in your best interests.

Food corporations hire the best scientists on the planet to make food HYPER-PALATABLE so as to require almost SUPER-HUMAN resistance to it when you have been exposed to it and you are hungry and there are no other options and when it is also marketed to CHILDREN, to capture the

market at a young and vulnerable age—see the movie FED UP for more on this.

And in dating advice, you are bombarded with B.S. lies about how all you need is some manipulative tactic to get any woman, when in fact you really SHOULD NOT WANT JUST ANY WOMAN, as a lot of women out there will DESTROY you if you allow them into your life and if you are the kind of man who is a good man and who is also honest and who invests his emotions into a relationship.

The trick is NOT to get TONS OF WOMEN; it’s to get the RIGHT woman.

But COMPANIES know that humans are not always RATIONAL, and they know that there is that FANTASY element to men's minds-to live like the image that HUGH HEFNER has created, but that

too is just an IMAGE, it's not REAL.

I could easily make TEN TIMES the money I do, by resorting to that b.s. I know allll about it, because I have studied it to prevent becoming FOOLED by it.

Unfortunately, people are VULNERABLE and companies, and individuals, in the name of personal GREED, will EXPLOIT THAT.

Third wave feminism has EXPLOITED the good will of MILLIONS of men, and used it AGAINST men, with the result being good men getting abuse like HELL while almost NO ONE speaks out against it, and unfortunately, sometimes the only ones who DO are the ones who really ARE spreading hate and misinformation, as opposed to the VERY, VERY, VERY FEW individuals who are being RESPONSIBLE to point out the LIES of third-wave feminism, while NOT creating NEW LIES themselves, lies that would appeal to MEN in the same way that third-wave feminist lies are designed to appeal to women.

There too, I could easily get TEN TIMES the support I have, by engaging in HATE tactics and pandering to the MISINFORMED men.

Truth is a TERRIBLE business, let me tell you, but it’s the only one with any MEANING- the rest is just living the MATRIX- it’s fake, it’s not real, it doesn’t mean ANYTHING.

Similarly, many POLITICIANS tell people what they WANT TO HEAR, rather than the TRUTH.

The TRUTH is as that if you want PEACE, you better be prepared to DEFEND that peace from those sworn to DESTROY IT, and if you want JOBS, you better support an environment that allows small businesses to succeed because they are the ones creating millions of real jobs as opposed to the government handing out money, -and the freaking idiots out there who refuse to see REALITY in the face often SUPPORT the politicians with a good hair-do, with nice promises, and who tell everyone the world will be perfect as long as we all hold hands and sing KUMBAYA.

Third-wave feminism is similar in that it is based not on TRUTH, but on what SOUNDS true. “Women, made from sugar and spice, and men, those evil beasts, it’s not fair, we should support all those innocent women from all those evil beast men.  All those beast men who only want to get physical with those women who never think of getting physical.”

Also, another problem is that people today have FREEDOM like they never had before, they have FREEDOM when it comes to sex and relationships, FREEDOM when it comes to their sense of spirituality and morals, FREEDOM when it comes to the choice of what to eat, and whether to get exercise or not, FREEDOM when it comes to EVERYTHING, but most people CAN’T HANDLE IT.

FREEDOM must be appreciated and cherished and respected; it's nature must be FULLY understood.

Most people need to learn the HARD WAY that actually they NEED to SELF-IMPOSE discipline in these areas, and that UNLIMITED FREEDOM does not mean INDULGING in everything without limit. All that results from that are corruption, mental illness, emotional weakness, obesity,broken relationships, the destruction of the family unit, infidelity, lack of love for community, and a life lacking in meaning.

Now, you might think that I am this angry guy in real life, but nothing can be farther from the truth. It’s just that GOOD THINGS are based on HARD WORK and DISCIPLINE, and there are some GREAT women out there who realize this as well, which is why I continue to champion the goal of getting a GREAT girlfriend instead of just trying to rack up points with a number count of how many women you got physical with.

There are great women out there, and honestly, there is nothing more ENERGIZING in your life than being with a great woman.  What you have read in this newsletter is just the TIP of the ICEBERG of an entire UNIVERSE of SECRETS on how to actually GET yourself an AMAZING woman.

Contact me NOW about taking a PRIVATE BOOTCAMP with me where I will take you through the TRANSFORMATION process of getting rid of all the MISGUIDED CONDITIONING you’ve been exposed to over your life and I will FREE your instincts to RESTORE them to the way NATURE intended to make you AWESOME with women, or contact me with any questions you may have about any of my programs or services.  

Whether it's about how to attract women, or whether it's a relationship question, I'm going to ANSWER your question and help you SOLVE the issue as EFFICIENTLY AS POSSIBLE. 

My clients come from all over the world- and they are the kind of men who are INFORMED. You will be joining an elite group of truly INFORMED men when you benefit from taking my advice. Don't allow yourself to get SUCKED INTO THE VORTEX OF IGNORANCE. 

Instead, ENTER THE BRIGHT LIGHT OF KNOWLEDGE AND GUIDANCE- you will find that EVERYTHING you learn from me is based on MOUNTAINS AND MOUNTAINS OF EVIDENCE THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO IGNORE BY ALL STANDARDS. 

My email ismichaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

My site is www.getagreatgirl.com

Till next time,

Michel Marks