Some things are so obvious and yet so few see it even though it is staring them in the face.
So, a lot of people have heard how many women often prefer "older men". Well, there are a few reasons for this, but the biggest reason of all is that women want, and are attracted to, men with maturity.
What's just so pathetically sad is how immature so many people are today. This includes men and women, and it has to do with many factors. For one thing, people have the luxury of being immature today, whereas not long ago people were forced to mature fast due to necessity.
Getting a job early, getting married early, having kids early, having to be in the army and face life or death situations every day, all these things don't necessarily make one mature, but they sure force one to learn the importance of responsibility very quickly.
But for today, let me just get to one major aspect of maturity that women appreciate, and that is a man who knows what he wants enough to focus on that one thing, and that definitely includes her. No, absolutely this does not mean desperation, it does not mean being needy. It means not wasting a woman's time if you are not interested, and it also means being prepared to go the distance for real if you are interested.
The problem is, immaturity is so prevalent that people want to be in two places at one time. They want to be a pick-up artist or they want to have a dozen women going on at the same time, while also wanting to have a woman truly be faithful and dedicated and exclusive and loving and supportive.
And this kind of insane, upside-down, lack of logic, is eaten up and worshiped by millions of men because millions of men have been brought up in a world of immaturity. Part of this problem is that people sell all kinds of snake oil out there, knowing full well that there will always be people who want the "easy way out" when it in fact does not exist.
Whether its a b.s. exercise plan that doesn't focus on the right diet, or whether it's a diet plan that doesn't focus on the long-term, or whether it is a bit of dating advice that doesn't factor in the full truth because the full truth means putting in some work, there will always be people who will do ANYTHING to continue the fiction of not having to work hard, rather than actually pay the piper.
They will even fork over a lot of money for "snake oil" rather than do the real work required, whether it is internal work on themselves they need to do, or whether it is something else they must do to improve themselves.
There will always be people who will continue the self-delusion of believing in a world where you don't have to pay the piper. It is a fictitious world, it doesn't exist.
And yet, you can get far, so far in this world, but you have to pay the price. You can't be in two opposite places at the same time. You have to be focused.
When a woman meets a man who is mature, who understands all this, she usually becomes very interested.
She knows he is for real. He is a man who is progressing. He is a man who means what he says, and keeps to his word, including the word he has given to himself about improving his own life for his own happiness.
In fact, even immature women respond powerfully to mature men.
Mature men know the real score, they don't fool themselves, and they are also mature enough to know that it is always worth it to "pay the piper", to put in the effort, to make the decision of what they really want, because the other choice is just going to result in the eventual bursting of their "brainwashed" bubble.
Maturity is the ultimate power, and as Henry Kissinger said, power is the ultimate aphrodisiac. If you have maturity, it is the ultimate power because it means you are a man who can stay strong in the face of reality instead of sinking into the land of self-delusion and the fictitious land of "No Effort". Reality is the only choice, but yet is the choice most avoided.
Maturity is also seeing the big picture when it comes to going for the woman that you want, rather than trying to score points with others by going for or being with the woman they think you should want. It takes strength to do the right thing, but again, doing anything else ultimately will cause you more pain.
So, maturity is not about being a pessimist. It's about seeing reality accurately, and then following that up with the right actions even though the right actions are not always easy. It's often easier, in the short term, to delude one's self. Of course, reality ultimately crashes down and ruins the delusion. The fantasy of the delusion ultimately costs much, much, much more than the cost of the effort involved in having full maturity.
One of the most immature things for a man to do when it comes to interacting with a woman is to just treat her like she is no more than just DNA that happens to make her a woman. Doing this denies her the great pleasure of having her REAL self confirmed and valued.
We live in a world where we are constantly pressured to "act" rather than to be real. The most important thing to any human being is being understood by others in terms of his or her own self-perceived identity.
Again, this gets back to the power or seeing reality. So, the more you can PERSONALIZE a conversation with a woman you just met, the more POWERFUL it is going to be. It's all about getting to her core, to seeing who she REALLY is, in a genuine and caring way. Toss a little flair into it as well, and you're golden.
For example, if she works in the cologne or perfume department, or if she’s a woman shopping there, you can speak to her about how interesting it must be to capture the essence of things through only an aroma or scent.
And you can talk to her and ask her, if there was a perfume or cologne called MONEY, would it smell EVIL? POWERFUL? GOOD?
And then, then you go for the biggie: Ask her, what does she feel are the scents that would represent who she is in terms of her identity.
Of course, all this could eventually flow back to you as well, as she asks you about yourself. You could speak about which scents best represent you, and you could actually combine humor with intrigue here as well.
It's all about two human beings connecting on the most powerful level, in a mature way.
If you are a mature man, I suggest you either book a consultation or bootcamp with me immediately, because I will give you the absolute best, no-gimmicks, no b.s. coaching there is, to get you a fantastic woman as fast as possible- and I'm talking days or weeks, not years, IF you are prepared to put in the effort.
And of course, if you can't book a consultation or bootcamp with me immediately, then definitely take advantage of my home-study programs, each of which has undergone extreme scrutiny to make sure it meets my supreme standards of no-gimmicks and no-nonsense when it comes to advice on attracting quality women.
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Till next time,
Michael marks
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