Hence, we get things like FAST FOOD and a lot of movies without stories but tons of SPECIAL EFFECTS.
These kinds of things tend to not really give you a LASTING feeling of contentment or enrichment.
And when it comes to how to get a great woman, again, most people just want to know about SPEED, not quality.
So, we get bombarded with YouTube videos of guys showing how they can be making out with women very quickly, without any mention of some of the rather important details.
Here are the important details that tend to get left out of most of the so called "demonstration videos":
1. THE WOMAN IS OFTEN DRUNK OR TIPSY
If a woman is drunk or tipsy, it really is pretty ridiculous to equate her actions with being attracted, as she is behaving in a way that is in no way indicative of what she will think or do when she is sober.
2. THE WOMAN'S FACE IS HIDDEN FROM VIEW
This may be due to laws regarding invasion of privacy, but it also means we have no clue what the woman actually looks like.
3. JUST TALKING TO A WOMAN MEANS NOTHING
Almost anyone can just talk to a woman. The real key is to see how the woman reacts after 24 hours and she has had a chance to reflect on the situation. Does she still want to hang out with the guy? We will never know, will we?
4. PUSHING TOO HARD TOO FAST FOR THE PHYSICAL IS COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE
A woman may, in the moment, be it from drunkenness, disorientation, or unfamiliarity (for example, if she is fresh off the boat or fresh off the plane as a new immigrant and unsure of the local customs) with the situation, perhaps she may go along with the initial phase of the conversation with a man, whether it includes a kiss, a coffee, etc.
But most women who are aware of the situation, and who are not drunk or promiscuous, simply will PULL AWAY from a guy that pushes for making out, getting physical, so fast.
This is because she is not desperate for getting physical, and is actually interested in making sure that she KNOWS about the guy she is going to get physical with.
What most pick up artists aren't telling you is that they themselves are simply the equivalent of a promiscuous woman, that's all there is to it. It's about promiscuous women meeting promiscuous men.
This does not help the guy who is actually looking to get a girlfriend, not a woman for whom he will be number 1 billion served a la McDonald's.
Also, what is so ironic is that some of the dating coaches out there have tried to use my emphasis on "qualifying a woman" before moving onto the next stage with her, but the truth is that this was not an artificial fake tactic that I invented, it was a GENUINE ACTION because I genuinely DO think it is important to make sure that a woman IS the right person for you before you jump into getting physical with her. especially if you are looking for a girlfriend.
Never mind the PLETHORA of viruses out there you can get from a woman by getting physical, as just that reason alone is enough to want to SLOW THINGS DOWN to get to know who you are dealing with.
Well, the irony is that pushing for the physical too fast is actually the OPPOSITE of qualifying a woman. How much can a woman really think you care about STANDARDS if you were willing to slobber all over her within a few minutes of meeting her?
Of course, for promiscuous people, none of this matters. There is hardly a need for qualification.
But in general, a woman really WANTS to know that indeed you DO have standards and that you DON'T just jump into bed with a woman just because you can.
5. FLASHY IS NOT EFFECTIVE
Bruce Lee used to say that the moves he would show in his films were not the same kinds of actions at all that he would use in real life. The moves he used in the films were there to be flashy and get attention and look all impressive.
The REAL actions that would actually be most effective in real life are DIFFERENT, and they aren't as flashy. They aren't designed to be flashy, they are designed to be EFFECTIVE.
Well, when it comes to dating advice for men, MARKETING works better when it is FLASHY. So showing a guy making out with ten women at a time is going to be flashier than showing a guy having a really solid conversation with a woman, and then showing the next date, and then showing them three weeks later in a relationship, as that all takes time and it all doesn't seem so WEIRD AND WACKY, BUT IT IS THE THING THAT MOST MEN REALLY WANT.
Larry Bird, one of the greatest basketball players ever, was not known for being flashy in his moves. He just went up to the basket, did the layup, and got the ball in. Over and over and over and over again. Flashy? No. Effective? Yes.
I know all the marketing tricks and plenty of ways to screw around with the truth. I could easily go that route, but I don't.
Learn the truth about success with women.
For starters, get my OBLITERATING APPROACH ANXIETY audio program. This program has been painstakingly designed to RID YOU OF ALL FEARS REGARDING MAKING THE APPROACH.
There are absolutely NO GIMMICKS in this program, and make no mistake about it, this is definitely a PROGRAM with STEP BY STEP INSTRUCTIONS on what to do to RID YOURSELF OF ALL THE BARRIERS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM APPROACHING WOMEN.
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It's also time to consider BOOTCAMP with me. Bootcamp with me is about learning what is EFFECTIVE for you, and it is tailored especially for your needs, your personality, your situation. And it all happens in real life on real women.
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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