As you probably know by now, I am not
a big believer in pick-up lines, because
pick up lines tend to MASK the real issue,
which is actually BEING a cool guy on
a deeper level in the first place, instead
of trying to put on an ACT.
And to become a cool guy on the most
important level, the level that actually
attracts a woman, it’s crucial to take the
HARD-CORE internal steps to make
you a much stronger man.
And one of the biggest WEAKNESSES that
must be obliterated if you want to attract
women is INSECURITY.
Now here’s the thing- the word “insecurity”
sounds really bad, it almost sounds as if
being insecure is some kind of CHOICE
and therefore if you behave or feel insecure,
you are somehow inferior or have less
will-power, etc, etc.
The truth is, it has NOTHING to do with
that at all. Rather, feeling insecure around
women has to do with the CHEMICALS
in your brain, PLUS it has to do with
NOT KNOWING HOW TO BEST DEAL
WITH THOSE CHEMICALS.
That’s it.
So if you feel insecure around women, as I did
for many years, it has NOTHING to do with
your WILL POWER and it has NOTHING to
do with how HARD you have tried.
It has to do with your chemical composition, and
it has to do with learning how to MASTER and
CONTROL it.
What is SO AWESOME is that you CAN learn
to control and to BEAT insecurity, to the point
that in fact your brain PHYSICALLY CHANGES.
THIS is the ultimate level of success, where
it has NOTHING to do with ACTING, it
has nothing to do with MANIPULATING
women, it ONLY has to do with YOU
improving yourself through applied
KNOWLEDGE.
If you want to feel more EMPOWERED
with women, with dating, with getting
physical and intimate with women, with
approaching women, and any other related
element of success with women, then
the first ACTION step you must take
is to ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES
OF YOUR ACTIONS.
So, for example, one reason a lot of guys
will NOT approach a woman is because
although on one hand it would be great
to ATTRACT her, on the other hand
there is the fear of REJECTION.
So, by NOT ACCEPTING THE POSSIBILITY
OF REJECTION, a guy will NEVER approach.
And here is the worst part of it all:
By NOT approaching a lot, or ever, he will never
get to the point that his brain CHANGES and
STOPS WORRYING ABOUT REJECTION!
You see, if you CONFRONT your fear, again
and again and again, your brain, by it’s evolutionary
design, decides it has to SPARE ENERGY for
OTHER ISSUES.
However, if you DON’T ACTUALLY approach
women, the issue remains SPECIAL in your
brain, and so it feeds you FULL FORCE FEAR
AND FULL FORCE INSECURITY.
As long as that fear remains “untouched” and
unconfronted, your brain gives it SPECIAL
status, and therefore FULL INSECURITY.
If you KEEP ON CONFRONTING THE ACTUAL
FEAR BY ACTUALLY APPROACHING, your brain’s
internal mechanisms have no choice but to
start DOWNGRADING the PRIORITY of this fear,
as it becomes a kind of pain in the neck
who is constantly seeking attention and
starts to BORE the hell out of your brain.
Kind of like watching a scary movie again
and again, it becomes kind of dull after
a while.
This is not just me joking around, it’s
the PHYSIOLOGICAL TRUTH about the way your
brain works and it alters the chemical
releases in your brain that control these
states of mind:
YOU ACTUALLY CHANGE YOUR BRAIN BY DOING THIS.
You already know you can change your
MUSCLES, well now you know that you
can change your BRAIN, in a way that
will make you far, far more successful
with women.
It involves EMBRACING the fears rather
than running from them.
And part of this EMBRACING the consequences
of your actions, including your worst fears,
ALSO includes the embracing of being able
to WALK AWAY from a woman who is
NOT treating you well.
Most men, if they are with attractive
women, if the women are not treating
the men right, most of the men will
still stay with these women, and the
women KNOW it.
It’s interesting, how so many times, when
a woman who is really attractive meets a
man who is NOT ACTING but is genuinely
WILLING TO WALK AWAY from her,
no matter how gorgeous she is, if he senses
she is not treating him right, her feelings of
attraction suddenly SKYROCKET for him.
But the thing is, in order to GET to this point,
you have to also be willing to APPROACH
her in the FIRST PLACE. You can’t say
to yourself “Oh I’m willing to walk away”
before you even APPROACH her.
It’s by having the strength on BOTH sides-
to APPROACH her even if it means accepting
the POSSIBILITY of it not going like you wanted,
and to ALSO be able to walk away once you
HAVE her interested, if you sense she is
interested but not truly respecting you, etc.
It’s not about PRETENDING to be hard to get,
it’s not about ACTING tough or ACTING like
a player, it’s about TRULY BEING ABLE TO
ACCEPT ALL POSSIBLE CONSEQUENCES
of your actions, whether it means that she
does NOT go for your approach, or whether it
means she DOES decide to NOT pursue you
if you walk away from her once you are in
a relationship, if she is not treating you well.
THERE IS NO FAKING.
A WOMAN CAN SENSE WHEN YOU
REALLY MEAN IT.
Also, this is not about attracting and
changing a woman who is disrespectful
and making her so attracted that she
now starts to treat the guy right.
Even though this DOES often work, I
don't like the idea of being with
a woman who NEEDS to be manipulated.
INSTEAD, what is MUCH cooler, is to
be this kind of SUPER COOL STRONG MAN
who is with a woman who is ALREADY
a great woman, who finds herself
MASSIVELY attracted to this man who
is so strong internally.
And really, there is NO LOSS to taking this
path of embracing the risk of her indeed
NOT going for you or for your approach.
The reason there is no loss, no downside,
is because THIS is the pathway of the
MAN, THE MAN WHO OVERALL IS
THE MOST ATTRACTIVE KIND OF
MAN TO WOMEN.
If you take the other route, the route of
trying to find perfection with zero risk,
if you try to FAKE that you are willing
to walk away, or if you try to take a
different strategy altogether, i.e. of
tolerating disrespect or of kissing up,
you will ULTIMATELY ALWAYS
END UP LOSING.
Whereas if you take the path I have suggested,
you will ALWAYS ULTIMATELLY END UP
WINNING, because any “success” you get
from FAKING or from avoiding all rejection
will NEVER last, because that type of
“avoiding all pain” behavior only makes
you WEAKER and MORE insecure, which
are going to ensure failure with women
in the big picture.
As you can tell from these newsletters,
I am only interested in CONCRETE
strategies that actually WORK to get you
attraction from women, in ways that
actually LAST long term.
For the ULTIMATE “internal training”
I suggest you get my DVD program
called WARRIOR WITHIN. I think it’s aptly named,
because it’s about making your “inner game” with
women as POWERFUL as possible.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
For any specific dating questions you have,
there is coaching over the phone or via email:
http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
And to learn directly from me in BOOTCAMP,
on tons of actual women in real life places, how
to MASTER the skills of approaching and attracting
women ANYWHERE, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
To find out about ALL my programs and materials,
go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
No comments:
Post a Comment