Attracting Women & The Gift Of Self-Esteem

In my Attraction Mastery Program, the very first
words you will hear are “If you can give a woman
the gift of self-esteem, she will be yours forever”.

This might sound shocking to some people, but
it is the truth. And the crazy part of it all is that
giving a woman increased self-esteem has
nothing to do with kissing up to her.

It has to do with CONNECTING to a woman on
a level that SHE perceives to be a validation of
her own worth.

So, for example, a woman who feels she is NOT
worth a lot, will not BELIEVE that a man can
really love her, so unfortunately, such a woman
may very well be attracted to the kind of man
that abuses her, because to HER, this is the
BELIEVABLE level of worth she has, and
THIS is the only level of validation she feels
she can get, i.e. that she is of SOME worth to
a man, but only if the man can also ABUSE her.

The abuse is proof to her that the validation
she IS getting is 'real' and believable, and
not fake.

I didn’t say attraction is a NICE thing always.
And I CERTAINLY don’t suggest you go for
women with low self esteem, as these kind
of women tend to create a lot of drama and
see problems everywhere even when they
don’t exist. And before too long, they will
feel certain you must be cheating on them,
even if you aren’t.

A low self-esteem woman is a woman who
needs HELP.

Understanding the links between attraction,
trust, and self-esteem is a MASSIVE key to
success with women.

Let me give you another example:

Let’s say that you met a woman, and you were
both VERY attracted to each other very fast,
and you were TOO smooth, you escalated to
the physical level too fast, without establishing
a greater level of connection first.

So you ended up having a night of wild passion,
and she was crazy into you and loved it, and
perhaps she even told you that she couldn’t
believe she was getting so deeply physically
involved with someone so soon, and you took
this all to be a sign that you were doing GREAT.

Well, then, comes the next day, and suddenly
she seems to have pulled a 180 on you.

She is acting all cold and rude and she tells you
something like “I expect to be taken out to dinner
to a nice place tonight”, whether she tells you
this in person, via a text, email, or phone call
or voice mail.

Now, if you DON’T understand the links between
self-esteem and attraction and success with women,
you MIGHT think this woman is TESTING you.

That she is testing you to see if you are soft and
weak and going to kiss her butt and be all
submissive and worshipping to her, OR if you
are going to ‘STAY STRONG’ and not give
in to her demands, which supposedly by not
giving in, you will raise her level of attraction.

But this would be the WRONG conclusion to make.
I could understand how one could make the wrong
conclusion, but it’s still wrong.

See, in this example, what is most LIKELY happening
is that the woman has decent level self-esteem, but she
feels that YOU might think she is desperate or easy
or of low value somehow, because she got so physical
so fast with you.

So, in order to protect her DIGNITY and her self-esteem,
she now feels she needs to assert herself and reclaim her
worth, just in case you felt she was too easy.

She really DOES NOT want the dinner itself, she doesn’t
want your money, she doesn’t want you to kiss up to her,
and she doesn’t want you to act “tough”. All she wants
is to make sure that you RESPECT her.

So, the BEST response to this request for dinner
in a nice place may actually BE to AGREE to it,
or MORE IMPORTANTLY, to establish the
CONNECTION and TRUST that you skipped
when you were moving too fast initially.

And because you skipped the connection and trust
levels, right now, the dinner in a nice place thing
might really be the most practical way of doing it
IF you make sure to have a great meaningful
conversation while you’re there with her.

THIS IS THE WAY IT WORKS IN THE
REAL WORLD, as opposed to advice that
SOUNDS all cool and tough, but is hogwash.

At the same time, let me make it clear how
KISSING UP TO WOMEN is also not the
method for validating their self esteem- this
is because if a man is behaving in a way that
he feels he NEEDS to kiss up and be submissive
in order to get a woman, then the obvious
implication is WHAT IS WRONG WITH
THIS MAN that he needs to offer me the
‘consolation prize’ of kissing up and worship
as a way to distract me from the fact he is
clearly of lower value from his behavior.

A man who she feels is of lower desirability than
HER cannot possibly raise HER self-esteem.

And the number one indicator of your desirability
is the way YOU behave and feel about yourself.

Your first and most powerful representative of
your desirability is YOURSELF.

If YOU don’t behave in a way that shows your
belief in yourself, then no amount of women
hanging off of your arms will improve your
image to other women.

Finally, I want you to think about any time in
the past where a woman made you feel any
INTENSE negative emotion, whether it be
JEALOUSY, insecurity, anger, fear, etc.

Now, I want you to consider the following:

What if you not only were FEELING those
emotions, but if the woman in question
WANTED you to feel the EXACT emotions
that you were suffering through?

Well, on one hand, I’m sure this would PISS
YOU OFF, right?

I know it did for me.

However, many years ago, before I got into
this field, I made one massive realization,
which actually got me started into devoting
my life to the topic of success with women.

The realization is that in REALITY, some of
the time the women aren’t trying to make you
feel anything, and it’s just our own insecurity
that is INTERPRETING everything wrong,
but even in the times when the women ARE
trying to make you feel JEALOUS or ANGRY
or BETRAYED or INSECURE, they are only
using this tactic as a VEHICLE to increase
their SELF-ESTEEM, which ironically enough,
is often unintentionally HARMED by men as
men play the “dating games” encouraged by
many so called ‘experts’.

So many things that men do to try to ATTRACT
women are actually HARMING women's
senses of self esteem, and THIS makes WOMEN
jealous, insecure, angry, bitter, and feeling betrayed,
so of course, in their effort to regain their sense
of worth, they lash out to attack in a similar way. 

So, the key is to not TRIGGER these issues in
the first place and to STEAR CLEAR AWAY
from any messed up women who resort to these
games as well.  Remember, there are plenty of
women who have been misguided by their own
supposed 'experts' who suggest all the screwed
up games they should play on men.

I promise you, understanding the FULL PICTURE
on how to properly raise a woman’s self-esteem
WITHOUT playing stupid games on her is the
REAL way to have greater success with women
than you ever dreamed possible.

To get the full picture on this, I suggest you get
my Attraction Mastery Program. This program
goes IN-DEPTH on mastering ATTRACTION
as a whole, and understanding how it applies to
ALL women.

Understanding how attraction works on ALL types
of different women includes understanding all the
“mind games” that some women play, and my
Attraction Mastery Program will show you all
this as well, which will SAVE YOU MASSIVE
TIME from having to learn the LONG AND HARD
way with the wrong women.

This is THE program if you want to experience
INFINITE CHOICE when it comes to dating.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

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