Today, I want to share an important tip for getting
over the fear of approaching women, and this will
also lead to an important insight for success in life.
The real
truth is that most men actually AREN’T that
afraid of a
so called “rejection”, but rather are afraid of
being
ridiculed or judged or criticized by others who
may SEE the
approach happening, or possibly even
by the woman
herself.
But the
actual “not getting the woman” part is NOT
the real
concern or fear or worry of most guys.
To quote a
line from Star Wars, “search your feelings”,
and you will
know that this is true. Think about it.
By the way, I call it a “so called rejection” because
By the way, I call it a “so called rejection” because
there can be
a MILLION reasons for an approach
not working-
it can be they are not single, it can
be they just
broke up with someone and are not
in the mood
for meeting anyone new, etc.
But back to
my original point- most men are not
feeling
anxiety about the woman not saying yes,
they are
feeling anxiety due to the fear of being
negatively
judged for MAKING the approach!
I bring this
to your attention for two reasons:
The first
is, by becoming AWARE of it, you are
far more
likely to TAKE ACTION, because you
become more
aware of how irrational it is-
since, after
all, WHO CARES what anyone thinks
when it
comes to YOUR decision to approach
women? That
is YOUR decision, YOUR life,
no one else
has the right to tell you what to
do if you
are not hurting anyone.
The second
reason I bring this to your attention
is because this
same basic issue is the NUMBER
ONE BARRIER
to most people’s success in
EVERYTHING
they do- FEAR OF BEING MOCKED,
RIDICULED,
LABELLED, NEGATIVELY JUDGED,
ETC.
This fear,
the fear of being negatively judged, is the
FAR, FAR,
FARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
greater fear
than “losing” a game, losing money,
losing just
about anything other than your life
or health.
Human beings
tend to REALLY FEAR what other
people THINK.
So the
reason people often don’t take action on
their DREAMS
or even their SMALL LITTLE GOALS
is not
because they fear FAILURE so much as they
fear being
MOCKED for failure!!!!!!!
We don’t, as
humans, really fear losing money or
losing a
game or losing at just about anything,
it’s the
RIDICULE by others!!!
FEAR of
CRITICISM is the REAL enemy of success.
To me, when
I first became aware of this, it was
as if I was
CATAPULTED into a new UNIVERSE,
because it
made me realize that human beings
don’t really
fear things like poverty or low
social
status, they only fear what OTHERS
THINK of
them.
So, for
example, if you lived in a tiny hut, but
everyone around
you lived in SMALLER huts
or the same-sized huts, you would feel FINE,
but if you
lived in a NICE HOUSE and everyone
around you
lived in HUGE HOUSES and they
made FUN of
you for living in only a NICE HOUSE,
you would
probably be HAPPIER to be the guy
in the LITTLE
hut,surrounded by people who
had the same
or smaller-sized huts and who
couldn’t
judge you.
Now, this
newsletter is really about success with
WOMEN,
however success with women often
overlaps into
success in ALL areas of life, and
VICE-VERSA
as well.
So, my point
is, if a woman sees that you are
MAN ENOUGH
to NOT BE DISCOURAGED BY
THE FEAR OF
BEING JUDGED BY OTHERS
for approaching
her, she also sees how you
have a
MASSIVE AMOUNT of courage and
that if you
have the SAME courage in the
OTHER AREAS
of your life, you are one HECK
of a man.
Now, don’t get me wrong.
Now, don’t get me wrong.
I’m not
saying not to CARE about what others think EVER,
because it’s GOOD to have EMPATHY
for others,
but it’s not good to be RULED by FEAR OF
BEING JUDGED, especially when you
are not
doing anything bad at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And when a
woman sees you have that kind of courage, it’s
very attractive.
More
importantly, it’s very helpful for ALL of your life
for ALL KINDS OF THINGS, from starting a
business to pursuing your dreams,
to learning
a new skill.
How many
times have you NOT taken actionin these
areas because you thought you were afraid of
failure?
Well the
truth is, it’s not failure humans are really afraid of
that much, it’s being JUDGED negatively by others
that people fear the most.
The ramifications for this are so huge, they go
The ramifications for this are so huge, they go
way beyond what
I could write in only one
newsletter,
but this newsletter should give you
a MASSIVE
head-start on changing your life with
women and on
changing your life in any area
you wish.
This leads
me to one final point- which is that
your focus
should be on LEARNING, not on
avoiding
being judged by others.
If you get
caught up in trying to avoid being judged
by others,
you will never do anything where you
might
possibly fail, and there is NO WAY TO LEARN
WITHOUT
FAILING IN THE PROCESS.
Success requires failure.
Does this sound like an alien concept?
Well, it is simply TRUTH.
Success requires failure.
Does this sound like an alien concept?
Well, it is simply TRUTH.
Michael
Jordan, Wayne Gretzky, Bill Gates,
Steve Jobs,
Steven Spielberg, James Cameron,
Arnold
Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone,
and every
other success story has FAILED many
times before
they succeeded, and failure is part
of the
process ALL THE TIME in fact.
This is why
I have been SOOOOOOOOOOOOO
careful NOT
to go around saying that I am the
best pick-up
artist on Earth. If I go around saying
that, that
is a TERRIBLE thing for my ability to
CONTINUE
LEARNING, since it puts me under
TREMENDOUS
PRESSURE to NEVER make any
mistakes,
and THAT means not PUSHING THE
ENVELOPE to
REACH NEW LEVELS.
I understand
that FAILURE is the only way to
break through
to the NEXT level.
Now the
truth is, I’m pretty damn good.
And more
importantly, my students are getting
some INSANELY
POWERFUL results lately.
I’m talking
about walking right up to MELTINGLY
beautiful women
and having interactions where
the women
are not only giving their phone numbers,
but are
TEXTING the guys DEMANDING to see the
guys as soon
as possible!
And these
are SOBER women, not women who are
drunk at
clubs!
This is
because I teach them to UNLEASH THEIR
FULL INNER
GAME, THEIR FULL POWER OF MENTAL
STATE by NOT
fearing failure. AND of course I also
teach all
the REST as well- all the conversation
skills, the
rapport skills, the attraction skills, etc.
You see, you
can either focus on LEARNING
or you can focus
on trying to preserve some
IMAGE of
being the best, but if you focus on
PRESERVING some image
of being the best,
you ironically end up STAGNATING your learning,
and you don’t take on any possible challenge where
you might fail---and without those challenges you
you ironically end up STAGNATING your learning,
and you don’t take on any possible challenge where
you might fail---and without those challenges you
can’t GROW
AND BECOME EVEN BETTER.
So I never
focus on BEING THE BEST, I focus on
LEARNING,
LEARNING, LEARNING, and of course
THAT IS THE
ONLY WAY TO TRULY BE YOUR BEST.
What you
have just read, as awesome as it is,
is just the TIP
of the iceberg. Over the past
12 YEARS, I
have learned THOUSANDS
of important
insights and strategies for
helping men
succeed with women at every
stage of the
process, from the first thing you
say to her
all the way to keeping a relationship
thriving if
you so desire.
And from
that experience, I have learned what
works best
for different guys, because not all guys
need the
exact same thing- and that means I can
truly
CUSTOMIZE your learning in this area to make
it EFFICIENT
and FAST.
When you learn
from me, you are getting the most
STREAMLINED
instruction, tailor-made for your
personality,
your goals, and your needs.
And when you
learn from me, you are getting
PRIVATE, EXCLUSIVE,
and CONFIDENTIAL coaching.
I will show
you the BEST ways for YOU to skyrocket
your inner
game, the BEST ways for YOU to approach
women, the
BEST ways for YOU to get results.
Every man is
different, which is why my bootcamps are limited
to ONE client only per bootcamp, so that you can get
MAXIMUM ATTENTION AND THE FASTEST
RESULTS.
If you want
success with women, I urge you to book a bootcamp
or a private consultation with me NOW.
The reason
why I say NOW is because I may easily become too
busy to do bootcamps in the future.
I don’t just
TEACH these things, I practice these principles myself.
I don’t need
to teach bootcamps, or teach anything.
I do it because
I love it.
The thing
is, because I practice what I preach, other
passionate projects
of mine have grown to the point
they demand more
of my time, so it may become
difficult
for you to book a bootcamp with me in the
future.
The value of
taking a bootcamp or a personal private
consultation
with me is likely the best investment you
will ever
make in your life.
Do it now.
Bootcamp is
at:
Private
Consultations are at:
If you can’t
book a bootcamp or consultation right now,
then DEFINITELY
get my comprehensive home-study
program on
attraction, called the ATTRACTION
MASTERY
PROGRAM, at:
Till next
time,
Michael
Marks
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