Truth. It's a powerful word. So powerful,
in fact, that it gets thrown around a lot,
often for the very sake of distorting truth.
One of the most mind-blowing moments
for me was when I realized that most of
the things that people really want so badly
are actually not that hard to get, whether it
is in dating, relationships, business, etc.
They're not EASY to get, but also not really all
that hard, because the PROCESS of getting
most of these things is FUN in itself, even
though it takes EFFORT.
It's a bit like working out, in that a great workout
is INTENSE, but it also releases ADRENALINE
and is INVIGORATING and feels GREAT.
So what is the part that's the NOT EASY part?
It's finding out the path that is TRUE as opposed
to all the paths out there that are FALSE and
do not lead to success, be it in dating, in
fitness, in business, etc.
Once you KNOW the TRUTH about what
works and what doesn't, you just DO the
CORRECT thing and you start to notice
positive changes relatively quickly.
You would think in our current "information age"
where we can access libraries containing almost
ALL of human knowledge INSTANTLY, people
wouldn't have a PROBLEM with KNOWING
information, with knowing what to do, right?
However, that's not the case, and it will probably
NEVER be the case, for one important reason:
THE MIND WAS NOT DESIGNED FOR
OUR CURRENT REALITY, IT WAS
DESIGNED FOR LIFE A LONG TIME AGO.
The way our minds work, in general, is pretty
much EMOTIONALLY BASED, not LOGICALLY
BASED.
Yes, we have SOME logic, and we use logic to
some degree, but logic is NOT the DOMINATING
FORCE IN THE HUMAN MIND.
(Nor is it in animal minds, but let's stick with
humans for now).
Human history, for almost ALL of its existence,
was pretty much ALL about avoiding imminent threats
like being eaten by a tiger, and about where to get food,
and about avoiding attack, and of course, mating.
So, for about 99% of human history, THAT WAS IT.
So, in THAT environment, getting SCARED and
FEELING RAGE and feeling LUST and HUNGER
and trying to get CALORIES and being brutish
was pretty useful.
You needed to feel lust and hunger and danger
because when those triggers were pressed,
it was usually a USEFUL reaction, because
there was NOT much time to THINK: If a tiger
was chasing you, you better run, escape, or turn
it into food.
If you felt no desire for calories or fats, you wouldn't
be motivated to get the calories that you needed in
a world where fats and other calories were RARE.
There was no BARRAGE of pictures and videos
of naked or semi-naked women EVERYWHERE,
at least not an abundance of it everywhere, so
when a woman really DID make herself available
for a man, or really WAS turning on a man, it was
a good idea for him to FEEL LUST to get him
motivated because that might be his only chance,
or one of his few chances, to reproduce.
Today, however, these IMPULSES need to be
MASTERED because otherwise we not only
become SLAVES to them, but we become
BRAINWASHED by them.
Yes, I said BRAINWASHED.
Emotions are SO powerful, that they BEND
the very PICTURE of reality we see, hear,
and experience.
This applies to ALL emotions.
Feeling ANGER?
Well then guess what, you're going to want
to look for a fight.
Feeling HOPELESS?
Well then guess what, you're going to take
actions that are CONSISTENT with that
emotion.
Feeling like you are not desirable?
Well then you are going to think that others
must feel the same way about you.
Feeling LUSTFUL?
Well then, suddenly, the WRONG woman
seems okay, or you tell yourself that you
can handle her, or you tell yourself that she
is actually not the wrong woman for you.
And MOST of the time, these emotions make
us take THE WRONG ACTIONS!!!!!!
This is why the most successful people
are usually NOT the people who are the
smartest academically, although that IS
a great and powerful start if you happen
be one of those people, that's for sure.
The people who are most successful are the people
who can simply see when they themselves are
DISTORTING TRUTH, by COMPARING THEIR
STRONG EMOTIONS to the actual REALITY
of any event.
THIS, my friends, is the NOT EASY part
of success.
And when I say success, I mean success in
ANY goal that is IMPORTANT to you.
It all starts with learning to appreciate the power
of EMOTION and the DANGER of emotion as well.
Sure, emotion can be a GREAT thing.
I wouldn't want to IMAGINE a world without
emotions like excitement, love, joy, inspiration,
etc., but even THOSE emotions can EASILY
distort your perception of reality.
And it does NOT matter how smart you are.
EMOTIONS have NOTHING to do with LOGIC.
Some of the SMARTEST AND MOST LOGICAL
PEOPLE when dealing with NON-EMOTIONAL
things, can suddenly behave all-out BONKERS
and totally out of touch with reality once their
EMOTIONS kick in, especially if they are
unaware of the power of emotion in distorting
one's perception of reality.
And NO ONE is IMPERVIOUS to this threat.
This is because as human beings, we ALL
experience SOME EMOTIONS, ranging
from fear to love to hate to desperation to
joy to excitement to laziness to jealousy, etc.
And here's where emotions SCREW us up:
We EXPERIENCE an emotion, and THEN
we tend to look for SOME WAY TO JUSTIFY
THE EMOTION!
So, if I approach a woman, and I don't get the
reaction I was hoping for from her, and I
have an ANGRY emotion as a result, I
might be tempted to think SHE is evil,
or even worse, that all women are evil.
Now, is that emotion consistent with reality?
Nope, but I might want to FEEL like it is,
and guess what I won't do again?
I probably won't approach another woman!
And this lack of action will result in NO PROGRESS,
so this will then just FURTHER CEMENT my
destructive emotion and my destructive beliefs.
If a guy's emotional reaction is to feel DEJECTED,
then he might start to blame HIMSELF, he might
start to think no woman wants him, ever.
Is this belief consistent with reality?
No, but he may create a self-fulfilling prophecy
of feeling so bad around women, that he never
has a normal conversation with them, so he
never gets anywhere, which he takes as
'proof' that he can't get any woman, ever.
All this stuff applies TO EVERYTHING in life
regarding your picture of reality, whether it is
assessing the ACTUAL REALITY of your
business or business idea, your relationship,
your potential to achieve a particular goal, your
assessment of a particular woman, your perception
of who is right and wrong in an argument you may
have had, etc.
The trick to life is to learn how to harness
the POSITIVE power of emotions without
letting us get SCREWED OVER by our
emotions.
And there is only one way to START on
the road to seeing TRUTH, and that is by
acknowledging that ALL OF US are plagued
with the SAME basic challenge, and that
no matter how smart we are, we are NOT
above being screwed over by our own
emotions in such a subtle way that we
don't even REALIZE it.
And by the way, it usually STARTS SMALL.
A very wise man I know gave me the
PERFECT ANALOGY, and that is of the
FROG inside a pot of water that is SLOWLY
RISING IN TEMPERATURE.
The frog thinks nothing is wrong, all is good.
The water is FINE.
It's getting warmer so SLOWLY, it doesn't
notice a THING.
Each time it gets just a BIT warmer, so little
it does NOT notice the actual changes, because
they are soooooooooooooo tiny.
Do you know when it notices a problem?
That's right, when it's TOO LATE.
This is the story of both the HUMAN RACE
and also INDIVIDUAL HUMANS.
I'm not a perfect person, but I do try to learn
from others, and I always have.
So, for example, I remember being a kid
and overhearing adults saying that they
regret spending so much time at the office
or the job and not enough time with their
loved ones, especially their spouse and
children.
So I told myself I would not make that mistake.
I gave my ALL to women, but unfortunately
most women, just like most men, don't learn
this lesson till too late. They hear the same
words, but they figure it doesn't apply to them.
And it always starts out SMALL, for example,
with just cancelling one "together time", or with
not putting in the full effort to appreciate the other.
Personally, I saw the beauty in giving one's
YOUTH to each other between a man and
a woman, devoted to each other to raise a
family, but most men and women feel that
it's better to screw around till there is no
choice left but to "settle down" as if raising
a family is the least worthy goal on earth,
and then people wonder why their relationships
don't work out when the relationship is looked
at as some kind of END of something good.
i.e. screwing around.
At the same time, it took me many years
to learn big lessons, as I myself got sucked
into the emotional vortex of brainwashing.
My emotions for one woman were so strong,
that I DISTORTED reality completely.
No matter what she did that was not
respectful or showing interest, I always thought
there was a solution. I believed in the
concept of soul-mates, and my emotions
made it seem to me that "obviously" she
HAD to be my soul-mate or why on EARTH
would I feel such strong emotions for her?
There too, it started SUBTLE.
I would give a touch too much credit to her for
a good action she did, or for a trait I observed
in her. Things that all decent people should do,
or traits that all decent people have, would
somehow seem a little more virtuous when
she did them or displayed them.
It took me many years to untangle from
the web of distortions I had woven for myself.
ALL emotions, even the ones that feel good,
are DANGEROUS if left unexamined.
And the CRAZIEST part of it all, is that
a LOT of the INFORMATION we have today,
(and it is TRILLIONS of bits of data,
far too much for any human to digest
in a hundred lifetimes) is OFTEN
A DISTORTION OF TRUTH TO BEGIN WITH!
So, not only are emotions dangerous, but the
supposed FACTS that trigger our emotions
are often not even accurate reflections of
reality either!
So, on top of our EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITIES
we also have to contend with MISINFORMATION
that is designed to TRIGGER emotions that are not
helpful for us, but may be helpful for someone else,
i.e. the individual/person/company/etc. who is the
source of the info.
So people on one hand KNOW how to
get fit- it's called eating right, but they
are also BRAINWASHED to think that
they can start TOMORROW, and of course
tomorrow never comes, because the mind
wants to be LAZY and so we DISTORT
truth, until YEARS go by and the doctor
says TIME TO DO SURGERY, just like
the frog keeps staying in the water.
We tell ourselves, "sure, I know how to get
a woman", but then we PROCRASTINATE,
or we try to avoid negative emotions because
we don't want to experience ANY POSSIBLE
NEGATIVE EMOTION, we want to totally
avoid all possible emotional pain or heartache,
so we DON'T TAKE ACTION.
Our emotions RATIONALIZE it all:
We tell ourselves that we are just waiting for the
right time, the right woman, the right situation.
Or we tell ourselves that all women are bad,
or that all women are not worth it.
Same thing with how emotions screw us over
in relationships, in business, in EVERYTHING.
I suggest you start MONITORING yourself for
all the times you feel ANY emotions, positive
or negative. See how you feel, what you are
thinking and believing. See if they truly
match REALITY.
MOST HUMAN BEINGS NEVER DO THIS
SUCCESSFULLY, AND THIS IS WHY THEY
FAIL AT MANY OF THE GOALS THAT MEAN
THE MOST TO THEM.
This is where I come in. Since day ONE, in
all my work, even before I was a dating coach,
my obsession has been uncovering TRUTH.
I was the first guy in the dating advice for men
field that explained how it's not about pick-up
lines or cheesy tactics.
I explained how it's not about pushing the
buttons on others, it's about learning to
master the buttons that trigger your
OWN emotions, and now I am taking
it FURTHER- all success in life boils
down to figuring out what is the TRUTH
in the first place, and learning it BEFORE
the water is already boiling, unlike the
frog in the vat who only realizes the
problem too late.
In fact, many men go their ENTIRE LIVES
without EVER even realizing how far off
track they were their ENTIRE LIVES.
Don't let that happen to you.
You can change it all RIGHT NOW.
Chances are, that right now, you are
NOT doing yourself justice when it
comes to achieving your goals- there
are emotions that are DISTORTING
your picture of reality, that are
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