required in order to get the kind of woman
you want is BELIEF that you can get that
type of woman.
If you don’t BELIEVE you can, you will
not take ACTION, and you will not PERSIST.
So, from now on, start MONITORING the
things you think and say to yourself on
a regular basis when it comes to your
own beliefs about your ability to succeed
at your dating goals.
If you approach a woman and you don’t get
the reaction you wanted, MONITOR yourself
to see if you take it all PERSONALLY, if
you blame yourself for it all, if you think
that you “just don’t have what it takes”, etc.
If you are thinking or telling yourself these
kinds of destructive things, then ACTIVELY
force yourself to find a DIFFERENT
explanation for these things that is far more
BENEFICIAL FOR YOU.
For example, maybe you were having a bad day.
Maybe she was having a bad day.
Maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend
and is not in the mood to meet anyone new.
Maybe you are new at learning these skills,
and so maybe you just need to learn the
best style of approach that works for
you at this point in your life, or maybe
you just need more practice.
Maybe she is, in fact, in a great relationship
and so simply isn't looking for anyone.
And so on and so forth.
Notice, by the way, that none of these
explanations get into a nasty situation
of making women out to be against you.
Instead, they are just simply very
real possibilities.
This is known as REFRAMING.
You are changing the perspective, the "frame"
of the event, so that it EMPOWERS your mind.
The most successful people in ALL fields
CONSTANTLY do this.
They NEVER berate their POTENTIAL
or ABILITY. They can acknowledge when
something does not go well, they are not
ridiculous, but they don’t accept the idea
that they don’t have the POTENTIAL.
Most of the time in life, success is about
PERSISTENCE. And I'm not talking about
luck, I'm talking about IMPROVEMENT
that comes from persistence.
And it’s the same with success in dating.
If something doesn’t go well when you
approach a woman or chat to a woman,
you must find ALTERNATIVE reasons
that explain the situation that allow for
the reality that in fact you DO have
“what it takes” to get the kind of woman
you seek.
The reason this is so important, is that
if you don't, you will destroy your belief
in your ability, and without that, there
is nothing.
So important this is, that I even suggest,
if you don't currently believe you have
what it takes, to then just IMAGINE yourself
as if you did believe you had what it takes,
because the mere act of PRETENDING to
yourself will
actually start to get the wheels
rolling internally inside your mind, and help
you get to that point of positive belief in
yourself.
People are often so critical of their
self-worth, that they actually distort
reality and think they have less potential
than they really have.
And when things DO go well in an interaction
you have with a woman, DON’T minimize
your value, either.
Don't just tell yourself that you were lucky.
Don't be arrogant, but have a healthy sense
of self-belief.
So many guys will minimize their successes
and exacerbate their supposed 'failures',
till they CEMENT THE IDEA IN THEIR HEADS
THAT THEY CAN’T SUCCEED.
So if you think you don’t have what it takes,
you won’t take action, and you won’t practice
enough to get GOOD at this stuff, and you won’t
approach enough women to meet the right one(s).
Your MIND is your greatest ally or your greatest
enemy, it all depends on how you USE it.
For this reason, I created the WARRIOR WITHIN
program. Ultimately, success is all about what
is going on WITHIN yourself, and if you want
the ultimate success in your dating life,
I suggest you get this program IMMEDIATELY
by going here now:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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