I have so much freaking AWESOME stuff
to share with you about attracting women
that I myself am going nuts because I cannot
believe how guys are living their lives and
NOT using this stuff simply because they
do not KNOW about it!!!!!!!!!!
What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real LIFE.
What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real LIFE.
Not just my life, but the lives of THOUSANDS
of men that I have coached and that have
studied and used my programs.
You will find that I absolutely STRIP everything
down to the FACTS. Zero superstition, zero
fluff feel good talk. JUST THE FACTS.
So here we go:
1. IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT SEX
Does this mean there is no such thing as LOVE?
Does this mean that women are not interested
in your sense of humor?
Does this mean that women do not care about
things like spirituality?
NO, it does not mean that, what it DOES mean is
that THE MAIN FORCE that WORKS for getting
a woman interested in you, is SEX.
This does not mean that you should EXPLICITLY
talk about sex when you approach a woman.
Talking explicitly about sex at the wrong
time, especially in a non night-club approach,
comes across as implying she is 'cheap' or 'easy.'
What 'IT IS ALL ABOUT SEX' really means is
that you should STOP trying to look for some
super-complex EXCUSE to approach a woman,
in some massive effort to hide the fact
that you are interested in her BODY, FACE,
and her FEMININITY.
So much energy gets WASTED into this effort to
MASK what you are really doing, that what ends
up happening is that you will come across as
awkward, insincere, insecure, and uncool.
Women are not stupid. They have a pretty good
idea that if a guy is talking to them,
that it MIGHT all be about sex intentions.
So if you really ARE interested in a woman in a
physical way, do NOT waste precious time and
energy on coming up with some super clever
DISGUISE or excuse for approaching her.
Women LOVE sex just as much as MEN.
A lot of women cannot get ENOUGH of it.
The human race would not EXIST without
this mutual DRIVE to replicate.
It is really the most PRIMAL drive of all.
Although food and shelter are required for
SURVIVAL, most people would make
GREAT sacrifices in these areas if it meant
BEING with the one they were truly ATTRACTED
to more than any other.
This is GOOD news, not bad news.
And in case you are thinking that all the
women who are attractive already HAVE
someone, guess what?
THEY DO NOT ALL HAVE SOMEONE.
Relationships take a lot of WISDOM and intelligence,
which is why so few men and women are actually
IN long-term relationships.
I do not promote cheating. I am talking about the
women who are single.
2. Make it FLIRTY.
Flirting usually boils down to playfully expressing
your OWN desirability. Think of how in the
animal kingdom, a peacock struts its feathers.
In the human world, a lot of guys try to TALK
about how much money they have or how much
value they have, but the problem with that is that
this money stuff is really a recent invention as far
as EVOLUTION is concerned.
This route does not ATTRACT WOMEN in a
SEXUAL way, it just attracts them in a logical
way. A man would be better off paying a
seasoned expert prostitute.
Instead, FLIRTING means PLAYFULLY
showing signs of how DESIRED you are,
using words and body language and tonality.
So, for example, if a woman bumps into you,
and you accuse her of trying to feel you up,
THAT is playfully showing that you are
DESIRED.
That is FLIRTING.
Flirting is part of your ARSENAL for turning
a woman ON to YOU.
3. MAKE IT FUN
Related to the above, but not necessarily ONLY
in a sexual way, is the idea of making sure to
keep the interaction something POSITIVE
and FUN.
By fun, I do not mean she has to be laughing out
loud, although that is a good thing if you do it,
but what I mean is that you are not talking about
DEPRESSING THINGS.
Instead, focus on things that are either fun,
Inspiring, or intriguing, or a COMBO of
ALL of them!
4. MAKE IT CONFIDENT
What I mean by this is that you should take
the opportunity to display confidence.
If you are approaching her and she is at a
table in a food court, and you stop by her
table and open her up with a comment on
the massive amount of ketchup she has put
on her fries, and she LAUGHS and then you SIT
DOWN before she even ASKS you to, THAT
is showing confidence.
Since she was laughing, you had a pretty good
indication she would not get PISSED if you sat
down, but THERE WAS NOT A PERFECT
ASSURANCE OF THAT.
A lot of guys would feel the need to ASK
if it would okay to sit down beside her.
You took a TINY risk, but BELIEVED it would
be successful.
You are thus showing a degree of CONFIDENCE.
I could give you a TRILLION examples, but that
is ONE.
So you take the above steps, and you INCORPORATE
all of them, you make your interaction FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.
Rather than worrying about how to pretend
you are NOT interested in her physically, just
make your conversation with her FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.
Notice also by the way, how EVERYTHING I have
told you so far all FITS PERFECTLY into each other.
Sex drive, flirtatiousness, fun, confidence, all go
HAND IN HAND, even though they are not the
exact same things. They work TOGETHER.
5. HOW TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING,
also known as: DO NOT EJECT, NO MATTER WHAT.
A lot of times, when guys START conversations with
women, the guys run out of things to say, and what is
the NORMAL reaction?
To EJECT.
I used to do the same thing. I ran out of things to say,
and felt so WEIRD just standing there, that I felt
every SECOND I continue standing there would
REVEAL the HORRIFYING TRUTH:
That I was NOT COOL!!
That I had nothing else to say!
OH NO!
Then I finally realized something which I have been
teaching men for YEARS:
Usually, women are NOT thinking you are
a loser or not cool for not being able to
CONTINUE the conversation!
In fact, very often the WOMEN THEMSELVES wish
that THEY knew how to continue the conversation!
It is important to remember that women have not
STUDIED the skills of how to approach like we have!
They do not particularly KNOW how to go about
the process since they are not the ones to
do the approaching. This is not something
to blame women for; it is not their fault.
This is part of our culture that says women
are allowed to give SIGNALS off to men, but
that women are not supposed to be nearly as
aggressive and proactive about the actual
approach.
For a woman this means she has to be in the
right places where she can be giving off
signals to the right guys, but as a guy
you can go anywhere and just go right
up to women.
So because of all this, women typically are
on the RECEIVING end of the approaches, and
they have not perfected their own skills
at how to keep the conversation going.
So most guys LEAVE BEFORE the women can even
get a CHANCE to figure out what to say, even
when the women really DO want to continue
to chat!
So it is not just MEN who are having a problem,
it is the women too, but most guys do not realize this,
and they end up EJECTING themselves out of the
interaction in order to save face, when in reality so
often the women were the ones who were EQUALLY
frustrated in not knowing what to say!
They are so often NOT JUDGING you at all, they are
just TRYING to figure out what to do, just like the guys
are!
So the POINT of all this is that you must give
YOURSELF the following COMMAND:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.
I just cannot emphasize ENOUGH how
PASSIONATELY I feel about this one.
DO NOT EJECT!
There is ANOTHER reason for not ejecting.
Not only does STAYING in the interaction allow
you more TIME to figure out what to say, and not
only does it also allow HER more time to figure
out what to say, and not only are women so often
NOT judging the guys in a negative way just
because it is taking a while to figure out what
to say, but ALSO there is another reason, a
HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGELY important reason, which is:
FORCING YOURSELF TO STAY IN THE
INTERACTION ACTUALLY FORCES YOU
TO GROW MORE CONFIDENT ABOUT THESE
SITUATIONS IN THE FUTURE!
This means that the NEXT time you approach a
woman, you will be MORE confident, MORE
relaxed, MORE cool.
And when you are in these positive states, guess
what HAPPENS?
You are better able to ACCESS all the creative
parts of your MIND so you can indeed say
things that are interesting, confident, flirty,
etc.
PLUS, by staying in the interaction, you start to
become FASTER at seeing how you can CONNECT
something that is said in the conversation to something
ELSE that is also fun, interesting, flirty, confident,
or intriguing.
Your RESPONSE time gets better and better, as
your mind comes up with more things to say that
actually help the conversation FLOW SMOOTHLY.
And remember, by having this conversation, the point
is not to demonstrate that you are a GENIUS who
knows everything, but rather to simply create a
GOOD ATMOSPHERE for her to feel good about
getting to know you and to get over the "hump"
of you being a stranger.
So you can go from being a stranger to someone
she feels she wants to get to know more, and
especially someone she wants to get "physical with"
in an intimate way.
PLUS, when you are in a more CONFIDENT
state of mind, it is easier to get into a more
HORNY state of mind, which will allow you
to exude the right degree of masculinity without
doing anything TOO OVERT, or too explicit.
It will show in subtleties in your VOICE tonality,
in your facial expressions, in your pace of movement,
etc, etc.
But you will not get ANY of these benefits if you
EJECT!
So, the next time you chat up a woman:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.
6. SEX, INTERNAL GAME, AND NO SHAME
This is SUPER important. Internal Game
refers to the way you feel and think, and even
to the inner dialogue you may have with yourself.
One of those elements of internal game revolves
around your thoughts about sex.
Women can detect your internal game very quickly
from all kinds of subtleties in your communication.
So, if you want to have a strong internal game, one
of the BIG THINGS to do is to have NO SHAME
about being a sexual creature.
We are taught so many screwed up values that try
to equate sex with immorality, or with something
evil, that it is a miracle we are not even MORE
messed up as a society.
I grew up being taught that even the THOUGHTS
of having sex with women were taught as something
EVIL to be avoided with all the effort and energy
one can possibly give.
Then, on top of that, I was bombarded with Oprah
Winfrey and Phil Donahue types of shows (by the
way, I do not think these people are evil, I think
they are victims of brainwashing themselves and
they are otherwise good people who have done many
positive things for society) where again and again
and again I was shown THE EVIL MAN WHO ABUSES
WOMEN, WHO RAPES WOMEN, ETC., ETC.
I was bombarded with endless warnings against sexual
harassment of women. I was told by all kinds of groups
for women that women did NOT want to be treated like sexual
objects. I was told how women APPRECIATED it when
a man treated her as if she was NOT a woman.
I was told by so many women how women just wanted a
NICE GUY, and how NO WOMAN CAN EVER FIND A NICE GUY,
AND THAT IS ALL SHE WANTS, ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
SHE COULD EVER ASK FOR.
I was told statistics of how the majority of women were
sexually harassed at least a few times in their lives.
TO PUT IT MILDLY, ALL THIS STUFF SURE
DID NOT HELP ME SUCCEED WITH WOMEN.
I tried MY BRAINS OUT with trying to treat women
in the most NON-SEXUAL way. I tried to show
how NICE I could be. I tried to show that I would
NEVER rape, that I would NEVER do anything
unless a woman made it TOTALLY CLEAR TO ME
THAT SHE WANTED SEX.
Meanwhile, the TRUTH is that women tend to give
HINTS, they almost NEVER, EVER, EVER tell
a guy the following:
***Hey, you know, I like you, would you please
&*^% me tonight?***
The VERY thought of it is ABSURD and COMICAL!
So trust me, I really KNOW how challenging it can
be to feel GOOD and NON-GUILTY about sex, and
how challenging it can feel to COMMUNICATE the
right vibes to women when it SEEMS that we are taught
to actually communicate the very OPPOSITE to women
of what actually WORKS to even get a CONVERSATION,
never mind to also get to SEX!
I got OVER all this stuff, and I know you can too.
By the way, none of this means that I do not understand
how EVIL and how HORRIFYING the crime of RAPE
actually IS.
It IS evil, it IS horrifying, it is totally WRONG.
It is ALSO wrong and evil and HORRIFYING to teach men
the WRONG way to go about attracting women.
So just because rape is wrong, does not mean that
it is right to EFFECTIVELY CASTRATE men
psychologically.
I don't think this was done intentionally to men,
I think that these women's groups probably figured
there was no way that men would somehow lose the
knowledge that from a sexual attraction standpoint,
women ABSOLUTELY WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE SEXUAL BEINGS!
This does not mean that women want to ONLY be
treated as sexual beings, but they sure DO WANT
to be viewed as sexual beings in ADDITION to
other things. Denying the reality that most
women DO love being viewed as sexual beings
is INSANITY.
So I am here to tell you something:
The NEXT TIME you see a woman you want to
approach, and you start to fear that maybe your
desires are somehow WRONG, I want you to
realize that women LOVE the fact that men
desire them.
The fantasies and lustful desires of women,
in their own ways, are every bit as nuanced
and intense and wild as are those of men.
The fantasies of men and women are not ALWAYS
on the same page, but the basic NAUGHTY
and TABOO factor is EQUALLY as intense
for women as it is for men.
This is SO important to not only read,
but to EMBRACE INTO THE VERY CORE OF
YOUR SOUL.
7. DESTINY AND TAKING ACTION
When it comes to meeting women, there is this
HUGE cloud that BLOCKS people from seeing
things clearly.
The name for this cloud is the word "DESTINY".
Many people think that the love of their lives
is PREDETERMINED BY FATE, by DESTINY, and that
there is no point trying to RUSH it or CHANGE it.
A recent letter came in that hits on this topic directly:
LETTER FROM A READER:
"I have purchased your ebooks and still refer to
them in my quest for self improvement with
women etc. But I have a burning question,
don't know if you will reply but thought I would
send it out.
You have captivating theories and interesting
knowledge for attracting women. All your ideas
are based upon evolution, and even if we were
created by God and are above the animal kingdom,
still we are similar to animals in many respects
so your ideas are accepted by many guys.
Have you ever wondered about where do you
draw the line between ' being the man ' and/or
letting "The Man Upstairs" choose your ideal mate.
After all is said and done, in Genesis it says that
God brought Eve to Adam...
Thanks for your ebooks,
Brad"
MY REPLY:
Thanks for the kind words and for your question.
I also want to take this opportunity to
clear something up: My first book,
The Dating Wizard, draws quite a bit from
evolutionary psychology.
It ALSO draws from my experiences over
the years in approaching women who were
total strangers, my experiences in several
relationships, and my experiences in
thousands of interactions with women while
teaching men in bootcamps where real live
cold approaches (also known as pick ups)
on women who are total strangers is the
entire focus.
So, ultimately, the evolutionary psychology
stuff is cool, but the GREATER proof to me is
seeing what happens in real life, over and over
and over again, year in and year out, and from
seeing how it works to attract women, no matter
WHO the guy is, and no matter WHERE the guy
is from.
To answer your question about, "Have you ever
wondered about where do you draw the line between
"being the man" and/or letting "The Man Upstairs"
choose your ideal mate." the answer is a resounding
"Yes!"
I have spent tons and tons of time, far too much time
I now realize, thinking about this. I stopped thinking
about this approximately 11 years ago, when I realized
something.
I was getting horribly abused by a woman who I actually
thought I was LUCKY to be with. My perception of how
to get women was so screwed up, that I thought getting
women was almost impossibly hard, and that therefore
the woman I finally DID manage to get MUST have
been the woman that FATE wanted me to be with,
since finding someone else SEEMED to be almost
impossible.
My belief in FATE when it came to WOMEN is part of
what KEPT me on the wrong track all those years.
I figured that if a situation SEEMED tough to change,
that this was a SIGN that it was part of FATE.
The other part of what kept me with her is that I honestly
believed that OTHER women were either just like her, or
that they were even WORSE than her in behavior.
I believed this since I did not know any guys at the time
who were NOT getting abused by women. This does not
mean I thought that there were no abusive men to women,
it just means that I looked around me, and all I saw were
unhappy couples and unhappy marriage, so I figured
MISERY was part of having a partner.
Allow me to CRYSTALLIZE my thoughts on this
whole idea of the role of "The Man Upstairs" in
a man's strategy for choosing his ideal mate:
When it comes to FOOD, no one ever says the following:
***You know what? I believe in GOD, so therefore, I will
do some work on trying to find food, but if I don't find it
after putting SOME effort in, I will not put in a MASSIVE
EFFORT into FINDING IT, I will instead prove my belief in
GOD by not trying so hard to make it happen, and I will instead
have FAITH that FOOD will fall into my LAP.
I will not go out and get WORK, I will not go out and plant
a garden, I will not ask everyone I can find where food can
be found or purchased or grown.***
Food is an ABSOLUTE NECESSITY for life.
But for some reason, when it comes to finding a
a woman, people seem to take on a LESS active role.
We are conditioned to take on a less active role
because authority figures keep mentioning the
concepts of soulmates and how The Man Upstairs
will bring the right women to us.
So, to answer your question in absolute CLARITY:
I think that a man should do EVERYTHING
in his power, without hurting anyone else,
to get the woman or women that he wants.
Just like it is not immoral to take ACTION
on doing what is required to get food and shelter,
it is not immoral to take the right ACTIONS
to get the kind of woman or women you want.
In fact, not doing enough to take action to
get the woman you want is a CRIME against
yourself, because you are hurting yourself,
you are depriving yourself, and if you believe
humans have any dignity or any rights at all,
then certainly you yourself have these rights.
I also know that things only changed for me
once I learned that in fact not only COULD I
take more effective actions for meeting and
attracting women, but that unless I did so,
I would most likely NEVER meet and
attract the women I wanted. I would just
go for the rest of my life in misery.
And if you are reading this right now, I
can tell you that unless you take the
right ACTIONS to get the life you WANT
with women, there is NO solid reason to
believe you ever will get the woman
or women you want.
Also, if you do not take action right NOW,
you probably never will, because humans
tend to NOT like change. So the longer you
do NOT take action, the more you feel like
CONTINUING to not take action.
People do not LIKE to change.
They are AFRAID of change.
It is HUMAN to be afraid of change.
They would sometimes even rather SUFFER the
current situation than have to actually
CHANGE to make it BETTER.
You start to think it is NORMAL to NOT have
the kind of woman you want.
Aside from a few men who happen to luck out
on getting the women they want, it is ONLY
the men who get the KNOW-HOW and the ATTRACTION
SKILLS who get the women they want.
And those men who do get women strictly by
relying on providence, end up usually LOSING
the woman or women, and they do not know how
to attract new women.
What is INCREDIBLE to me is how even many
CELEBRITIES resort to using MONEY to try to
get women, when ANY GUY could just GAIN
the skills in attracting women and have more
women of higher quality than just about ANY
celebrity OR rock star.
This is NOT hyperbole. This is the friggen TRUTH.
I see it ALL THE TIME, almost every week, LIVE.
Getting the woman you want in your life makes
you feel SO ALIVE that you will feel that you
were in HIBERNATION before.
Men were MEANT to be with women.
Women were MEANT to be with men.
It the basis of our entire EXISTENCE as a species.
Being with the woman you want MOTIVATES you to
pursue the REST of your life with so much more
PASSION.
It affects how we feel about EVERYTHING else.
I suggest you finally DESTROY ALL EXCUSES
for not getting the kind of women you WANT.
Most excuses are B.S.
Age/money/looks- WHATEVER it is, it is
most likely a B.S. excuse.
This does not mean I do not sympathize with those
who truly BELIEVE they have a limitation.
But SO often, these limitations are in
mens' MINDS only.
Men and women were designed to replicate.
So powerful is this urge, that all obstacles are
pushed ASIDE when this urge is triggered.
And to LEARN how to trigger this urge in
women, to learn how to make women WILD
for YOU, I seriously suggest you get my
program called WARRIOR WITHIN, that
will transform you on a DEEP level so
that you do not have to do any ACTING
to attract women, but rather you will
attract women with incredible ease.
This program is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
My success in helping men has also been documented
in the press, including a major report in the Toronto Star,
where I helped not just one or two guys, but an entire
GROUP of men to attract the women they wanted.
This was not just some interview with me, this
was an IN-DEPTH event that spanned over several
weeks, where the progress the men made was
independently reported by them not to me,
but to the newspaper itself.
This is a HUGE difference than just about EVERY
other video or testimonial out there. Just about
EVERY video or testimonial out there is ultimately
up to the creative control of the company providing
the coaching.
The Toronto Star report on my coaching is VERY
different from just about every other testimonial,
because it is not a testimonial, it is based on
an in-depth STUDY that took place over several
weeks.
I also had no control over the final report.
All I did was provide the actual LIVE COACHING
including the actual live "PICK UPS" on women.
I had no control over what the guys SAID
about the experience and training they got.
Check out some excerpts of the media reports here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Michael_Marks_Newspaper.html
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I truly do believe with every fiber of my soul
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