What You MUST Know If You Want To Attract Women IMMEDIATELY

I have so much freaking AWESOME stuff
to share with you about attracting women
that I myself am going nuts because I cannot
believe how guys are living their lives and
NOT using this stuff simply because they
do not KNOW about it!!!!!!!!!!

What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real LIFE. 

What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real LIFE.

Not just my life, but the lives of THOUSANDS
of men that I have coached and that have
studied and used my programs.

You will find that I absolutely STRIP everything
down to the FACTS.  Zero superstition, zero
fluff feel good talk.  JUST THE FACTS.

So here we go:

1. IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT SEX

Does this mean there is no such thing as LOVE?
Does this mean that women are not interested
in your sense of humor?
Does this mean that women do not care about
things like spirituality?

NO, it does not mean that, what it DOES mean is
that THE MAIN FORCE that WORKS for getting
a woman interested in you, is SEX.

This does not mean that you should EXPLICITLY
talk about sex when you approach a woman.

Talking explicitly about sex at the wrong
time, especially in a non night-club approach,
comes across as implying she is 'cheap' or 'easy.'

What 'IT IS ALL ABOUT SEX' really means is
that you should STOP trying to look for some
super-complex EXCUSE to approach a woman,
in some massive effort to hide the fact
that you are interested in her BODY, FACE,
and her FEMININITY.

So much energy gets WASTED into this effort to
MASK what you are really doing, that what ends
up happening is that you will come across as
awkward, insincere, insecure, and uncool.

Women are not stupid. They have a pretty good
idea that if a guy is talking to them,
that it MIGHT all be about sex intentions.

So if you really ARE interested in a woman in a
physical way,  do NOT waste precious time and
energy on coming up with some super clever
DISGUISE or excuse for approaching her.

Women LOVE sex just as much as MEN.
A lot of women cannot get ENOUGH of it.

The human race would not EXIST without
this mutual DRIVE to replicate.

It is really the most PRIMAL drive of all.
Although food and shelter are required for
SURVIVAL, most people would make
GREAT sacrifices in these areas if it meant
BEING  with the one they were truly ATTRACTED
to more than any other.

This is GOOD news, not bad news.

And in case you are thinking that all the
women who are attractive already HAVE
someone, guess what?

THEY DO NOT ALL HAVE SOMEONE.

Relationships take a lot of WISDOM and intelligence,
which is why so few men and women are actually
IN long-term relationships.

I do not promote cheating. I am talking about the
women who are single.      

2. Make it FLIRTY.

Flirting usually boils down to playfully expressing
your OWN desirability.  Think of how in the
animal kingdom, a peacock struts its feathers.

In the human world, a lot of guys try to TALK
about how much money they have or how much
value they have, but the problem with that is that
this money stuff is really a recent invention as far
as EVOLUTION is concerned.

This route does not ATTRACT WOMEN in a
SEXUAL way, it just attracts them in a logical
way.  A man would be better off paying a
seasoned expert prostitute.

Instead, FLIRTING means PLAYFULLY
showing signs of how DESIRED you are,
using words and body language and tonality.

So, for example, if a woman bumps into you,
and you accuse her of trying to feel you up,
THAT is playfully showing that you are
DESIRED.

That is FLIRTING.

Flirting is part of your ARSENAL for turning
a woman ON to YOU.

3. MAKE IT FUN

Related to the above, but not necessarily ONLY
in a sexual way, is the idea of making sure to
keep the interaction something POSITIVE
and FUN.

By fun, I do not mean she has to be laughing out
loud, although that is a good thing if you do it,
but what I mean is that you are not talking about
DEPRESSING THINGS.

Instead, focus on things that are either fun,
Inspiring, or intriguing, or a COMBO of
ALL of them!

4. MAKE IT CONFIDENT

What I mean by this is that you should take
the opportunity to display confidence.

If you are approaching her and she is at a
table in a food court, and you stop by her
table and open her up with a comment on
the massive amount of ketchup she has put
on her fries, and she LAUGHS and then you SIT
DOWN before she even ASKS you to,  THAT
is showing confidence.

Since she was laughing, you had a pretty good
indication she would not get PISSED if you sat
down, but THERE WAS NOT A PERFECT
ASSURANCE OF THAT.

A lot of guys would feel the need to ASK
if it would okay to sit down beside her.

You took a TINY risk, but BELIEVED it would
be successful.

You are thus showing a degree of CONFIDENCE.

I could give you a TRILLION examples, but that
is ONE.   

So you take the above steps, and you INCORPORATE
all of them, you make your interaction FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT. 

Rather than worrying about how to pretend
you are NOT interested in her physically, just
make your conversation with her FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.

Notice also by the way, how EVERYTHING I have
told you so far all FITS PERFECTLY into each other.

Sex drive, flirtatiousness, fun, confidence, all go
HAND IN HAND, even though they are not the
exact same things. They work TOGETHER.

5. HOW TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING,
also known as: DO NOT EJECT, NO MATTER WHAT.

A lot of times, when guys START conversations with
women, the guys run out of things to say, and what is
the NORMAL reaction?

To EJECT.

I used to do the same thing.  I ran out of things to say,
and felt  so WEIRD just standing there, that I felt
every SECOND I continue standing there would
REVEAL the HORRIFYING TRUTH:

That I was NOT COOL!!
That I had nothing else to say!
OH NO!

Then I finally realized something which I have been
teaching men for YEARS:

Usually, women are NOT thinking you are
a loser or not cool for not being able to
CONTINUE the conversation!

In fact, very often the WOMEN THEMSELVES wish
that THEY knew how to continue the conversation!

It is important to remember that women have not
STUDIED the skills of how to approach like we have!

They do not particularly KNOW how to go about
the process since they are not the ones to
do the approaching. This is not something
to blame women for; it is not their fault.

This is part of our culture that says women
are allowed to give SIGNALS off to men, but
that women are not supposed to be nearly as
aggressive and proactive about the actual
approach.

For a woman this means she has to be in the
right places where she can be giving off
signals to the right guys, but as a guy
you can go anywhere and just go right
up to women.

So because of all this, women typically are
on the RECEIVING end of the approaches, and
they have not perfected their own skills
at how to keep the conversation going.

So most guys LEAVE BEFORE the women can even
get a CHANCE to figure out what to say, even
when the women really DO want to continue
to chat!

So it is not just MEN who are having a problem,
it is the women too, but most guys do not realize this,
and they end up EJECTING themselves out of the
interaction in order to save face, when in reality so
often the women were the ones who were EQUALLY
frustrated in not knowing what to say!

They are so often NOT JUDGING you at all, they are
just TRYING to figure out what to do, just like the guys
are!

So the POINT of all this is that you must give
YOURSELF the following COMMAND:

DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.

I just cannot emphasize ENOUGH how
PASSIONATELY I feel about this one.

DO NOT EJECT!

There is ANOTHER reason for not ejecting.

Not only does STAYING in the interaction allow
you more TIME to figure out what to say, and not
only does it also allow HER more time to figure
out what to say, and not only are women so often
NOT judging the guys in a negative way just
because it is taking a while to figure out what
to say, but ALSO there is another reason, a
HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGELY important reason, which is:

FORCING YOURSELF TO STAY IN THE
INTERACTION ACTUALLY FORCES YOU
TO GROW MORE CONFIDENT ABOUT THESE
SITUATIONS IN THE FUTURE!

This means that the NEXT time you approach a
woman, you will be MORE confident, MORE
relaxed, MORE cool.

And when you are in these positive states, guess
what HAPPENS?

You are better able to ACCESS all the creative
parts of your MIND so you can indeed say
things that are interesting, confident, flirty,
etc.

PLUS, by staying in the interaction, you start to
become FASTER at seeing how you can CONNECT
something that is said in the conversation to something
ELSE that is also fun, interesting, flirty, confident,
or intriguing.

Your RESPONSE time gets better and better, as
your mind comes up with more things to say that
actually help the conversation FLOW SMOOTHLY.

And remember, by having this conversation, the point
is not to demonstrate that you are a GENIUS who
knows everything, but rather to simply create a
GOOD ATMOSPHERE for her to feel good about
getting to know you and to get over the "hump"
of you being a stranger.  

So you can go from being a stranger to someone
she feels she wants to get to know more, and
especially someone she wants to get "physical with"
in an intimate way.

PLUS, when you are in a more CONFIDENT
state of mind, it is easier to get into a more
HORNY state of mind, which will allow you
to exude the right degree of masculinity without
doing anything TOO OVERT, or too explicit.

It will show in subtleties in your VOICE tonality,
in your facial expressions, in your pace of movement,
etc, etc.

But you will not get ANY of these benefits if you
EJECT!

So, the next time you chat up a woman:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.

6. SEX, INTERNAL GAME, AND NO SHAME

This is SUPER important.  Internal Game
refers to the way you feel and think, and even
to the inner dialogue you may have with yourself.

One of those elements of internal game revolves
around your thoughts about sex.

Women can detect your internal game very quickly
from all kinds of subtleties in your communication.

So, if you want to have a strong internal game, one
of the BIG THINGS to do is to have    NO SHAME
about being a sexual creature.

We are taught so many screwed up values that try
to equate sex with immorality, or with something
evil, that it is a miracle we are not even MORE
messed up as a society.

I grew up being taught that even the THOUGHTS
of having sex with women were taught as something
EVIL to be avoided with all the effort and energy
one can possibly give. 

Then, on top of that, I was bombarded with Oprah
Winfrey and Phil Donahue types of shows (by the
way, I do not think these people are evil, I think
they are victims of brainwashing themselves and
they are otherwise good people who have done many
positive things for society) where again and again
and again I was shown THE EVIL MAN WHO ABUSES
WOMEN, WHO RAPES WOMEN, ETC., ETC.

I was bombarded with endless warnings against sexual
harassment of women.  I was told by all kinds of groups
for women that women did NOT want to be treated like sexual
objects. I was told how women APPRECIATED it when
a man treated her as if she was NOT a woman.

I was told by so many women how women just wanted a
NICE GUY, and how NO WOMAN CAN EVER FIND A NICE GUY,
AND THAT IS ALL SHE WANTS, ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
SHE COULD EVER ASK FOR.

I was told statistics of how the majority of women were
sexually harassed at least a few times in their lives.

TO PUT IT MILDLY, ALL THIS STUFF SURE
DID NOT HELP ME SUCCEED WITH WOMEN.

I tried MY BRAINS OUT with trying to treat women
in the most NON-SEXUAL way. I tried to show
how NICE I could be.  I tried to show that I would
NEVER rape, that I would NEVER do anything
unless a woman made it TOTALLY CLEAR TO ME
THAT SHE WANTED SEX.

Meanwhile, the TRUTH is that women tend to give
HINTS, they almost NEVER, EVER, EVER tell
a guy the following:

***Hey, you know, I like you, would you please
&*^% me tonight?***

The VERY thought of it is ABSURD and COMICAL!

So trust me, I really KNOW how challenging it can
be to feel GOOD and NON-GUILTY about sex, and
how challenging it can feel to COMMUNICATE the
right vibes to women when it SEEMS that we are taught
to actually communicate the very OPPOSITE to women
of what actually WORKS to even get a CONVERSATION,
never mind to also get to SEX!

I got OVER all this stuff, and I know you can too.

By the way, none of this means that I do not understand
how EVIL and how HORRIFYING the crime of RAPE
actually IS.

It IS evil, it IS horrifying, it is totally WRONG.

It is ALSO wrong and evil and HORRIFYING to teach men
the WRONG way to go about attracting women.

So just because rape is wrong, does not mean that
it is right to EFFECTIVELY CASTRATE men
psychologically.

I don't think this was done intentionally to men,
I think that these women's groups probably figured
there was no way that men would somehow lose the
knowledge that from a sexual attraction standpoint,
women ABSOLUTELY WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE SEXUAL BEINGS!

This does not mean that women want to ONLY be
treated as sexual beings, but they sure DO WANT
to be viewed as sexual beings in ADDITION to
other things.  Denying the reality that most
women DO love being viewed as sexual beings
is INSANITY.    

So I am here to tell you something:

The NEXT TIME you see a woman you want to
approach, and you start to fear that maybe your
desires are somehow WRONG, I want you to
realize that women LOVE the fact that men
desire them.

The fantasies and lustful desires of women,
in their own ways, are every bit as nuanced
and intense and wild as are those of men.

The fantasies of men and women are not ALWAYS
on the same page, but the basic NAUGHTY
and TABOO factor is EQUALLY as intense
for women as it is for men.

This is SO important to not only read,
but to EMBRACE INTO THE VERY CORE OF
YOUR SOUL.

7. DESTINY AND TAKING ACTION

When it comes to meeting women, there is this
HUGE cloud that BLOCKS people from seeing
things clearly.

The name for this cloud is the word "DESTINY".

Many people think that the love of their lives
is PREDETERMINED BY FATE, by DESTINY, and that
there is no point trying to RUSH it or CHANGE it.

A recent letter came in that hits on this topic directly:

LETTER FROM A READER:

"I have purchased your ebooks and still refer to
them in my quest for self improvement with
women etc. But I have a burning question,
don't know if you will reply but thought I would
send it out.

You have captivating theories and interesting
knowledge for attracting women. All your ideas
are based upon evolution, and even if we were
created by God and are above the animal kingdom,
still we are similar to animals in many respects
so your ideas are accepted by many guys.

Have you ever wondered about where do you
draw the line between ' being the man ' and/or
letting "The Man Upstairs" choose your ideal mate.

After all is said and done, in Genesis it says that
God brought Eve to Adam...

Thanks for your ebooks,

Brad"

MY REPLY:

Thanks for the kind words and for your question.

I also want to take this opportunity to
clear something up: My first book,
The Dating Wizard, draws quite a bit from
evolutionary psychology.

It ALSO draws from my experiences over
the years in approaching women who were
total strangers, my experiences in several
relationships, and my experiences in
thousands of interactions with women while
teaching men in bootcamps where real live
cold approaches (also known as pick ups)
on women who are total strangers is the
entire focus.

So, ultimately, the evolutionary psychology
stuff is cool, but the GREATER proof to me is
seeing what happens in real life, over and over
and over again, year in and year out, and from
seeing how it works to attract women, no matter
WHO the guy is, and no matter WHERE the guy
is from.

To answer your question about, "Have you ever
wondered about where do you draw the line between
"being the man" and/or letting "The Man Upstairs"
choose your ideal mate." the answer is a resounding
"Yes!"

I have spent tons and tons of time, far too much time
I now realize, thinking about this.  I stopped thinking
about this approximately 11 years ago, when I realized
something.

I was getting horribly abused by a woman who I actually
thought I was LUCKY to be with.  My perception of how
to get women was so screwed up, that I thought getting
women was almost impossibly hard, and that therefore
the woman I finally DID manage to get MUST have
been the woman that FATE wanted me to be with,
since finding someone else SEEMED to be almost
impossible.

My belief in FATE when it came to WOMEN is part of
what KEPT me on the wrong track all those years.

I figured that if a situation SEEMED tough to change,
that this was a SIGN that it was part of FATE.

The other part of what kept me with her is that I honestly
believed that OTHER women were either just like her, or
that they were even WORSE than her in behavior.

I believed this since I did not know any guys at the time
who were NOT getting abused by women.  This does not
mean I thought that there were no abusive men to women,
it just means that I looked around me, and all I saw were
unhappy couples and unhappy marriage, so I figured
MISERY was part of having a partner.
  
Allow me to CRYSTALLIZE my thoughts on this
whole idea of the role of "The Man Upstairs" in
a man's strategy for choosing his ideal mate:

When it comes to FOOD, no one ever says the following:

***You know what? I believe in GOD, so therefore, I will
do some work on trying to find food, but if I don't find it
after putting SOME effort in, I will not put in a MASSIVE
EFFORT into FINDING IT, I will instead prove my belief in
GOD by not trying so hard to make it happen, and I will instead
have FAITH that FOOD will fall into my LAP.

I will not go out and get WORK, I will not go out and plant
a garden, I will not ask everyone I can find where food can
be found or purchased or grown.***

Food is an ABSOLUTE NECESSITY for life.

But for some reason, when it comes to finding a
a woman, people seem to take on a LESS active role.
We are conditioned to take on a less active role
because authority figures keep mentioning the
concepts of soulmates and how The Man Upstairs
will bring the right women to us.

So, to answer your question in absolute CLARITY:

I think that a man should do EVERYTHING
in his power, without hurting anyone else,
to get the woman or women that he wants.

Just like it is not immoral to take ACTION
on doing what is required to get food and shelter,
it is not immoral to take the right ACTIONS
to get the kind of woman or women you want.

In fact, not doing enough to take action to
get the woman you want is a CRIME against
yourself, because you are hurting yourself,
you are depriving yourself, and if you believe
humans have any dignity or any rights at all,
then certainly you yourself have these rights.

I also know that things only changed for me
once I learned that in fact not only COULD I
take more effective actions for meeting and
attracting women, but that unless I did so,
I would most likely NEVER meet and
attract the women I wanted.  I would just
go for the rest of my life in misery.

And if you are reading this right now, I
can tell you that unless you take the
right ACTIONS to get the life you WANT
with women, there is NO solid reason to
believe you ever will get the woman
or women you want.

Also, if you do not take action right NOW,
you probably never will, because humans
tend to NOT like change. So the longer you
do NOT take action, the more you feel like
CONTINUING to not take action.

People do not LIKE to change.
They are AFRAID of change.
It is HUMAN to be afraid of change.

They would sometimes even rather SUFFER the
current situation than have to actually
CHANGE to make it BETTER.

You start to think it is NORMAL to NOT have
the kind of woman you want.

Aside from a few men who happen to luck out
on getting the women they want, it is ONLY
the men who get the KNOW-HOW and the ATTRACTION
SKILLS who get the women they want.

And those men who do get women strictly by
relying on providence, end up usually LOSING
the woman or women, and they do not know how
to attract new women.

What is INCREDIBLE to me is how even many
CELEBRITIES resort to using MONEY to try to
get women, when ANY GUY could just GAIN
the skills in attracting women and have more
women of higher quality than just about ANY
celebrity OR rock star.

This is NOT hyperbole.  This is the friggen TRUTH.
I see it ALL THE TIME, almost every week, LIVE.

Getting the woman you want in your life makes
you feel SO ALIVE that you will feel that you
were in HIBERNATION before.

Men were MEANT to be with women.
Women were MEANT to be with men.

It the basis of our entire EXISTENCE as a species.
Being with the woman you want MOTIVATES you to
pursue the REST of your life with so much more
PASSION.

It affects how we feel about EVERYTHING else.

I suggest you finally DESTROY ALL EXCUSES
for not getting the kind of women you WANT.

Most excuses are B.S.
Age/money/looks- WHATEVER it is, it is
most likely a B.S. excuse.

This does not mean I do not sympathize with those
who truly BELIEVE they have a limitation.

But SO often, these limitations are in
mens' MINDS only. 

Men and women were designed to replicate.
So powerful is this urge, that all obstacles are
pushed ASIDE when this urge is triggered.

And to LEARN how to trigger this urge in
women, to learn how to make women WILD
for YOU, I seriously suggest you get my
program called WARRIOR WITHIN, that
will transform you on a DEEP level so
that you do not have to do any ACTING
to attract women, but rather you will
attract women with incredible ease.

This program is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

My success in helping men has also been documented
in the press, including a major report in the Toronto Star,
where I helped not just one or two guys, but an entire
GROUP of men to attract the women they wanted.

This was not just some interview with me, this
was an IN-DEPTH event that spanned over several
weeks, where the progress the men made was
independently reported by them not to me,
but to the newspaper itself.

This is a HUGE difference than just about EVERY
other video or testimonial out there.  Just about
EVERY video or testimonial out there is ultimately
up to the creative control of the company providing
the coaching.

The Toronto Star report on my coaching is VERY
different from just about every other testimonial,
because it is not a testimonial, it is based on
an in-depth STUDY that took place over several
weeks.

I also had no control over the final report.

All I did was provide the actual LIVE COACHING
including the actual live "PICK UPS" on women.

I had no control over what the guys SAID
about the experience and training they got.   

Check out some excerpts of the media reports here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Michael_Marks_Newspaper.html

If you would prefer LIVE PERSONAL COACHING with me,
either in person, or by telephone or email, then
go to this page that will outline all the details
of how to contact me for your personal consultation:

http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html  

Personal coaching provides you with DIRECT feedback
from me to answer ANY questions you have,
COMPREHENSIVELY and IMMEDIATELY, so that
you get the exact success you want with women FAST.

I truly do believe with every fiber of my soul
that my coaching and my coaching programs are
a LIFE-CHANGING experience and are worth
at least ten times their cost.

My newsletters throughout the years PROVE
you learn a LOT from my NEWSLETTERS.

My BOOKS AND PROGRAMS prove that you learn
even MORE from my books and programs.

And I promise you, my PERSONAL LIVE COACHING
sessions will deliver success with  women for you
FASTER than anything else.

If time is money for you, then GET my PERSONAL
LIVE COACHING NOW.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. To find out about ALL my programs for helping
you get the kind of woman or women you want, go here:

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Michael Marks

Urgent Tips On Attracting Women, Approaching Women, and "Pick-Up"

If you are SERIOUS about attracting women,
then this email is URGENT. 

I have so much freaking AWESOME stuff
to share with you about attracting women
that I myself am going nuts because I cannot
believe how guys are living their lives and
NOT using this stuff simply because they
do not KNOW about it!!!!!!!!!!

What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real
LIFE.  A LOT of it comes from seeing it
happen in the "pick-ups" that happen during
the BOOTCAMPS which pretty much run
all year long.

You will find that I absolutely STRIP everything
down to the FACTS.  Zero superstition, zero
fluff feel good talk.  JUST THE FACTS.

So here we go:

1. IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT SEX

Does this mean there is no such thing as LOVE?
Does this mean that women are not interested
in your sense of humor?
Does this mean that women do not care about
things like spirituality?

NO, it does not mean that, what it DOES mean is
that THE MAIN FORCE that WORKS for getting
a woman interested in you, is SEX.

This does not mean that you should EXPLICITLY
talk about sex when you approach a woman.

Talking explicitly about sex at the wrong
time, especially in a non night-club approach,
comes across as implying she is 'cheap' or 'easy.'

What "IT IS ALL ABOUT SEX" really means is
that you should STOP trying to look for some
super-complex EXCUSE to approach a woman,
in some massive effort to hide the fact
that you are interested in her BODY, FACE,
and her FEMININITY. 

So much energy gets WASTED into this effort to
MASK what you are really doing, that what ends
up happening is that you will come across as
awkward, insincere, insecure, and uncool.

Women are not stupid. They have a pretty good
idea that if a guy is talking to them,
that it MIGHT all be about sex intentions.

So if you really ARE interested in a woman in a
physical way,  do NOT waste precious time and
energy on coming up with some super clever
DISGUISE or excuse for approaching her.

Women LOVE sex just as much as MEN.
A lot of women cannot get ENOUGH of it.

The human race would not EXIST without
this mutual DRIVE to replicate.

It is really the most PRIMAL drive of all.
Although food and shelter are required for
SURVIVAL, most people would make
GREAT sacrifices in these areas if it meant
BEING  with the one they were truly ATTRACTED
to more than any other.

This is GOOD news, not bad news.

And in case you are thinking that all the
women who are attractive already HAVE
someone, guess what?

THEY DO NOT ALL HAVE SOMEONE. 

Relationships take a lot of WISDOM and intelligence,
which is why so few men and women are actually
IN long-term relationships.

I do not promote cheating. I am talking about the
women who are single.       

2. Make it FLIRTY.

Flirting usually boils down to playfully expressing
your OWN desirability.  Think of how in the
animal kingdom, a peacock struts its feathers.

In the human world, a lot of guys try to TALK
about how much money they have or how much
value they have, but the problem with that is that
this money stuff is really a recent invention as far
as EVOLUTION is concerned. 

This route does not ATTRACT WOMEN in a
SEXUAL way, it just attracts them in a logical
way.  A man would be better off paying a
seasoned expert prostitute.

Instead, FLIRTING means PLAYFULLY
showing signs of how DESIRED you are,
using words and body language and tonality.

So, for example, if a woman bumps into you,
and you accuse her of trying to feel you up,
THAT is playfully showing that you are
DESIRED.

That is FLIRTING.

Flirting is part of your ARSENAL for turning
a woman ON to YOU.

3. MAKE IT FUN

Related to the above, but not necessarily ONLY
in a sexual way, is the idea of making sure to
keep the interaction something POSITIVE
and FUN. 

By fun, I do not mean she has to be laughing out
loud, although that is a good thing if you do it,
but what I mean is that you are not talking about
DEPRESSING THINGS.

Instead, focus on things that are either fun,
Inspiring, or intriguing, or a COMBO of
ALL of them!

4. MAKE IT CONFIDENT

What I mean by this is that you should take
the opportunity to display confidence.

If you are approaching her and she is at a
table in a food court, and you stop by her
table and open her up with a comment on
the massive amount of ketchup she has put
on her fries, and she LAUGHS and then you SIT
DOWN before she even ASKS you to,  THAT
is showing confidence.

Since she was laughing, you had a pretty good
indication she would not get PISSED if you sat
down, but THERE WAS NOT A PERFECT
ASSURANCE OF THAT. 

A lot of guys would feel the need to ASK
if it would okay to sit down beside her.

You took a TINY risk, but BELIEVED it would
be successful. 

You are thus showing a degree of CONFIDENCE.

I could give you a TRILLION examples, but that
is ONE.    
 
So you take the above steps, and you INCORPORATE
all of them, you make your interaction FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.  

Rather than worrying about how to pretend
you are NOT interested in her physically, just
make your conversation with her FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.

Notice also by the way, how EVERYTHING I have
told you so far all FITS PERFECTLY into each other.

Sex drive, flirtatiousness, fun, confidence, all go
HAND IN HAND, even though they are not the
exact same things. They work TOGETHER.

5. HOW TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING,
also known as: DO NOT EJECT, NO MATTER WHAT.

A lot of times, when guys START conversations with
women, the guys run out of things to say, and what is
the NORMAL reaction?

To EJECT.

I used to do the same thing.  I ran out of things to say,
and felt  so WEIRD just standing there, that I felt
every SECOND I continue standing there would
REVEAL the HORRIFYING TRUTH:

That I was NOT COOL!! 
That I had nothing else to say!
OH NO!

Then I finally realized something which I have been
teaching to my clients for YEARS:

Usually, women are NOT thinking you are
a loser or not cool for not being able to
CONTINUE the conversation!

In fact, very often the WOMEN THEMSELVES wish
that THEY knew how to continue the conversation!

It is important to remember that women have not
STUDIED the skills of how to approach like we have!

They do not particularly KNOW how to go about
the process since they are not the ones to
do the approaching. This is not something
to blame women for; it is not their fault. 

This is part of our culture that says women
are allowed to give SIGNALS off to men, but
that women are not supposed to be nearly as
aggressive and proactive about the actual
approach.

For a woman this means she has to be in the
right places where she can be giving off
signals to the right guys, but as a guy
you can go anywhere and just go right
up to women.

So because of all this, women typically are
on the RECEIVING end of the approaches, and
they have not perfected their own skills
at how to keep the conversation going.

So most guys LEAVE BEFORE the women can even
get a CHANCE to figure out what to say, even
when the women really DO want to continue
to chat!

So it is not just MEN who are having a problem,
it is the women too, but most guys do not realize this,
and they end up EJECTING themselves out of the
interaction in order to save face, when in reality so
often the women were the ones who were EQUALLY
frustrated in not knowing what to say! 

They are so often NOT JUDGING you at all, they are
just TRYING to figure out what to do, just like the guys
are!

So the POINT of all this is that you must give
YOURSELF the following COMMAND:

DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.

I just cannot emphasize ENOUGH how
PASSIONATELY I feel about this one.

DO NOT EJECT!

There is ANOTHER reason for not ejecting:

Not only does STAYING in the interaction allow
you more TIME to figure out what to say, and not
only does it also allow HER more time to figure
out what to say, and not only are women so often
NOT judging the guys in a negative way just
because it is taking a while to figure out what
to say, but ALSO there is another reason,
a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGELY important
reason, which is:

FORCING YOURSELF TO STAY IN THE
INTERACTION ACTUALLY FORCES YOU
TO GROW MORE CONFIDENT ABOUT THESE
SITUATIONS IN THE FUTURE!

This means that the NEXT time you approach a
woman, you will be MORE confident, MORE
relaxed, MORE cool.

And when you are in these positive states, guess
what HAPPENS?

You are better able to ACCESS all the creative
parts of your MIND so you can indeed say
things that are interesting, confident, flirty,
etc.

PLUS, by staying in the interaction, you start to
become FASTER at seeing how you can CONNECT
something that is said in the conversation to something
ELSE that is also fun, interesting, flirty, confident,
or intriguing.

Your RESPONSE time gets better and better, as
your mind comes up with more things to say that
actually help the conversation FLOW SMOOTHLY. 

And remember, by having this conversation, the point
is not to demonstrate that you are a GENIUS who
knows everything, but rather to simply create a
GOOD ATMOSPHERE for her to feel good about
getting to know you and to get over the "hump"
of you being a stranger.

So you can go from being a stranger to someone
she feels she wants to get to know more, and
especially someone she wants to get "physical with"
in an intimate way.

PLUS, when you are in a more CONFIDENT
state of mind, it is easier to get into a more
HORNY state of mind, which will allow you
to exude the right degree of masculinity without
doing anything TOO OVERT, or too explicit.

It will show in subtleties in your VOICE tonality,
in your facial expressions, in your pace of movement,
etc, etc.

But you will not get ANY of these benefits if you
EJECT!

So, the next time you chat up a woman:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.

6. SEX, INTERNAL GAME, AND NO SHAME

This is SUPER important.  Internal Game
refers to the way you feel and think, and even
to the inner dialogue you may have with yourself.

One of those elements of internal game revolves
around your thoughts about sex.

Women can detect your internal game very quickly
from all kinds of subtleties in your communication.

So, if you want to have a strong internal game, one
of the BIG THINGS to do is to have NO SHAME
about being a sexual person.

I used to try like CRAZY to treat women in the
most NON-SEXUAL way. I tried to show how
NICE I could be.  I was super-passive and tried
to show that I would NEVER do anything unless
a woman made it TOTALLY CLEAR TO ME THAT
SHE WANTED SEX.  It was all up to them, I would
make sure to not "make them feel uncomfortable"
by even going anywhere NEAR the possibility
of sex. 

Meanwhile, the TRUTH is that women tend to give
HINTS, they almost NEVER, EVER, EVER tell
a guy the following:

***Hey, you know, I like you, would you please
&*^% me tonight?*** 

The VERY thought of it is ABSURD and COMICAL!

This does not mean that women want to ONLY be
treated as sexual beings, but they sure DO WANT
to be viewed as sexual beings in ADDITION to
other things.  If women did not get turned on by
being viewed as sexual beings, there would be
no procreation, humans would never have made
it till today, and humans would not EXIST.    

So I am here to tell you something:

The NEXT TIME you see a woman you want to
approach, and you start to fear that maybe your
desires are somehow WRONG, I want you to
realize that women LOVE all kinds of sex.

I am not saying that EVERY woman LOVES
every kind of sex, but that in general
the fantasies and lustful desires of women
are every bit as nuanced and intense and
wild as are those of men. 

The fantasies of men and women are not ALWAYS
on the same page, but the basic NAUGHTY
and TABOO factor is EQUALLY as intense
for women as it is for men.

That nice girl who likes to read poetry may very
well have the most steaming sexual fantasies.

This is SOOOOOOOO important to not only read,
but to EMBRACE INTO THE VERY CORE OF
YOUR SOUL.

7. TAKING ACTION 

I used to think that if a situation SEEMED tough to change, 
that this was a SIGN that it was part of FATE.

So I used to think that attracting women is so hard, that
it must be something that we as men should just become
passive about, especially since I had been taught by
so many people that "your soul-mate is destined to
meet you" etc., etc.

For this reason, I believe, a LOT of men end up becoming
very PASSIVE regarding meeting and attracting women,
and the result is they NEVER meet the woman or women
they wanted to meet and attract.

When it comes to FOOD, no one ever says the following:

***You know what? I believe in FATE, so therefore, I will
prove my belief in FATE by sitting here knowing that
FOOD will fall into my LAP.***

For some reason, when it is something people NEED,
we all stop talking about FATE.

So there may very well be such a thing as fate, but even
if there is, CERTAINLY as humans we are supposed to
do OUR PART to do our best to make the things happen
that we want to happen.

In the same way that earning a living is something
people must ACTIVELY do rather than just sitting
around passively hoping for it to happen, I believe 
that a man should do EVERYTHING in his power, 
without hurting anyone else,  to get the woman or 
women that he wants.

In fact, not doing enough to take action to
get the woman you want is a CRIME against
yourself, because you are hurting yourself,
you are depriving yourself, and if you believe
humans have any dignity or any rights at all,
then certainly you yourself have these rights.

I also know that things only changed for me
once I learned that in fact not only COULD I
take more effective actions for meeting and
attracting women, but that unless I did so,
I would most likely NEVER meet and
attract the women I wanted.  I would just
go for the rest of my life in misery.

And if you are reading this right now, I suggest
that YOU take my Real World Bootcamp
program which will give you the SKILLS to attract
women so that you can choose the type of woman
you WANT.

You will LEARN how to trigger the urge in
women, to learn how to make women WILD
for you. In the Real World Bootcamp,
I will teach you these skills and provide live
demos on real women in just about ANY
place you want, and you will also PROVE
to yourself that it all WORKS for you
as well, as you actually approach women
who are total strangers and you attract
them ON THE SPOT, right in front of your
very eyes.

The Real World Bootcamp IS the REAL THING.
I have been doing this for over ten YEARS,
and I have taught just about every kind of guy
that you can imagine.

In fact, I have been teaching bootcamps since 2003, 
which is long before this stuff became trendy to do.

That means that I am one of the few guys who is really HARD-CORE  about these skills. I did not come to this field because I thought it was trendy, I came to this field because I have a BURNING PASSION for it. 

My success in helping men has also been documented
in the press, including a major report in the Toronto Star,
where I helped not just one or two guys, but an entire
GROUP of men to attract the women they wanted.

This was not just some interview with me, this
was an IN-DEPTH event that spanned over several
weeks, where the progress the men made was independently
reported by them not to me, but to the newspaper itself. 

Bootcamp provides you with the skills to attract almost LIMITLESS women immediately, with zero effort, because there are tons of women all around you already.  All you have to do is spot them and
attract them.   

You can find out more about the Real World Bootcamp at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

I truly do believe with every fiber of my soul that bootcamp is a LIFE-CHANGING experience that willgive you SUPREME CHOICE when it comes to attracting women, and I believe my bootcamp is worth at least TEN TIMES the cost of your investment. 

The reason is because it's damn hard to find
a good instructor out there, and the right
instructor can teach you in ONE bootcamp what
would take another instructor TEN BOOTCAMPS
to teach you.

These newsletters are just the TIP of the ICEBERG of what you learn in my programs, and what you learn in my LIVE Bootcamp program goes BEYOND what you can even IMAGINE.

Now, if you can't make it to bootcamp immediately, then you really need to download my
Attraction Mastery Program.  This is a professionally recorded program (all done in the studio) that is PACKED with super-effective strategies and insights on attracting women and is FOCUSED on
attracting women in a physical way. 

It stands on its own as an ESSENTIAL program for
attracting women, and it is also a GREAT program
to take before bootcamp.

The more you learn before bootcamp, the FARTHER I can take you when you come to bootcamp.

I would not promote the Attraction Mastery Program unless I KNEW it was of MASSIVE VALUE and massive EFFECTIVENESS when it comes to attracting women.

It is jam-packed with 12 hours of absolutely GOLDEN STRATEGIES on attracting women that you will not find in any of my other programs.     

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. To find out about all my programs for helping
you get the kind of woman or women you want, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
             
Michael Marks

How To Prevent Women From Testing You

I'm sure you've heard of the idea that women
"test" men.  Maybe you've seen it or experienced
it yourself. 

Have you ever felt the frustration of knowing
that you just "failed" a woman's "test"? Where
you tolerated bad behavior, or where you
over-reacted to something, and thus somehow
showed "weakness" and it only made her
behavior WORSE. 

Or maybe it was during a first encounter
where you saw a woman you wanted to talk
to and you struck up a conversation with
her, and then she tested you, i.e. she
said, "Do you do talk to all women in the
mall?" and you melted and started acting
apologetic, etc., and it just made her
LESS interested, whereas if you had just
not reacted it would have been far better
for you.

Well, I have great news for you.
There is a way to PREVENT a LOT of
these tests.

The way to prevent women from testing you is
to make it absolutely clear what you are all
about from the GET-GO.

The only reason women test men is because they
want to KNOW things about you.  A woman will
test a man when she is not clear about him,
when she doesn't know him well, etc.

But the more CLEAR you are about who you are,
the LESS a woman will need or even want to
test you.

Most guys give women very UNCLEAR messages.
For example, in an approach, a guy will try to
MASK the fact he is interested, so for example
he will sit at the table next to a woman for a
long time, and then try to find a "subtle" way
to get near her, as if it was just coincidence
and had nothing to do with his interest in her.

In these situations, a woman already KNOWS
the guy is interested, so now she is wondering
why is he hiding his interest? Is it because
he's shy?  Is it because he has something to
hide?  Is he married and trying to cheat?
Is he some player who thinks this is a cool
"tactic"?

So now she is losing TRUST for him. And
it's no surprise that she now starts to test  
him with all kinds of things to see if he is
trustworthy and emotionally stable.

She may try to see if he is a player by
accusing him of being one and seeing his
reaction.

If he gets all defensive, then for sure he
has something to hide (at least this is what
she thinks.)  If he treats that question too
lightly if she is asking it with a genuine
serious expression on her face, then again
she may feel lack of trust.

If she thinks he is doing it because he is shy,
she may then test him to see if he has any
GUTS, or if he has GUTS plus the ability
to smoothly DEAL with CONFLICT.  

And yet, had he just approached her calmly
and began a conversation about something
that was interesting to HIM that she could
also UNDERSTAND, she now ALREADY 
sees that this is a guy who is not shy, and
who is not hiding things.  And if what he is
talking about is COMPELLING and reveals
things about his own character, she now knows
something about his PERSONALITY.

So, for example, in a card store, if a woman
is buying a card for a friend's birthday (which
is obvious by the section called "Birthdays - Friend")
and is looking at every single card and really trying
to find the right one, and a guy sees this and
approaches her straight up and tells her it looks
like she is really trying to find the right one,
and then she tells him how she is really
trying to decide between two or three great
choices, the guy might then say:

"It seems like you care a lot, and that's
a great sign, as a gift is really not about
the MONEY that is spent but about the THOUGHT
behind the gift, and a great card is a powerful
way of expressing the right thoughts.

Girls who are able to have a connection
with others based on genuine friendship
rather than on status are great girls".

This would be an EXCELLENT way to give her
a compliment that is MEANINGFUL.

You can even playfully take a look at some
of the cards and read them out loud and
give your comments on what it says inside,
sparking her comments and feedback to
them as well.

And it's also a chance to find out if it's true
whether she has a strong connection with this
friend or not, and if it is true that she has
a genuinely strong connection with this friend,
your compliment has now shown something about
YOURSELF as well, as you clearly VALUE these
types of friendships, you are showing you are
not just another CHEESY style "pick up artist".

I usually try to AVOID mentioning any
actual specifics, because I know that some
cheesy guys will just end up using this
as some way to fake a real personality,
but I make the occasional exception so
that the point can be illustrated clearly.

By being direct, you show you have nothing
to hide and that you believe in yourself.

Then, by not only being direct but also having
your OWN VALUES WORKED OUT CLEARLY 
IN YOUR OWN MIND, you have a lot to offer
terms of comments, for all kinds of situations,
whether you see a woman at the book store,
the club, the fair, the amusement park, the
bank, the bus, or anywhere else.

Yes, women test men, but men test women
as well, and the point is that if a woman
is testing you ALL THE TIME, then either
you are with a woman who has serious
issues OR you are giving her MANY
REASONS TO TEST YOU, and it's time
to TAKE CARE of those reasons so that
she does NOT have reasons to test you,
on issues of trust, moral strength,
masculinity, and great attitude,
including a sense of humor.

Here's a list of some IMPORTANT things
that you want to AVOID doing, as they
will trigger a woman's need for TESTING:

-Acting fidgety while talking 

-Not looking her in the eyes

-Not going RIGHT up to her
(spending time LOOKING at her, then
pacing around, then looking again,
rather than just going right UP to her)
  
-Talking about SHOCK topics that
are vulgar, crude, too sexual, just
because you know they will get
attention (this looks like you don't have
anything ELSE to your personality so
you had to resort to shock topics to
get her attention)

-Talking too fast (this looks as if you
are afraid she's going to leave any
second, so you are trying to get
all your words in NOW, and this
obviously looks as if you have
no real value)         

-Touching her too much (This applies
especially when you are not in a club.
If you are trying to do a pick-up in a
coffee shop, there's no need to turn
it into a touchy-feely tasty thing. Keep
any contact EXTREMELY light and
playful and don't worry about
going heavy "kino" kinesthetic there-
it will totally ruin your interaction.)   

-Staying LOCKED on your initial conversation
opener forever, as if you have nothing else
to talk about.  A lot of times, a guy will
start a conversation about something,
and if it goes well, he sticks to it for
dear life because he doesn't want to
"mess up" with something else, when
in reality it would be good to talk about
a few things, if time permits, as it shows
you have lots to your personality.
  
-Showing off (this shows insecurity or
just plain old jerkiness, so of course
a woman will test a guy to see how
secure he is then, and then as guys
we wonder why women seem to
be trying to "press our buttons"
when in reality we INVITED it!)

And there are tons of other things as well,
but those are some of the BIG ones.

Two more major areas are the fundamental
points of:

Would YOU trust YOURSELF to be faithful
if you were faced with "temptation"?  Do
you even think in terms of "temptation" or
do you think in terms of INTEGRITY that
VAPORIZES the whole IDEA of "temptation"?

Are you a good guy because you are AFRAID
of being a "bad guy" or are you a good guy
because it's what you TRULY BELIEVE
IN YOUR BONES? 

Sometimes, guys think that THEY are unworthy.
So they feel a need to create masks in the form
of lies about themselves, yet women always
end up seeing through these thing and it just
turns them off.  So it's important to work on
these issues if you are facing them yourself.

It's important to truly BE a man of integrity,
not just be a man who can FAKE it, a la
cheesy style pick up artists who quality
women see RIGHT through. 

So the point is, women don't HAVE to
be testing us, but we tend to MAKE     
women test us.  And the great news
is that you can DO SOMETHING
about it so that women have very little
NEED to test you in the FIRST place!
Just DON'T DO the things that CLEARLY
give women a REASON to test you!   

The list above will HELP you accomplish this.

Now, do you notice how a lot of the things
in the list above, that trigger a woman
to go into "testing" mode, are actually
a RESULT of INTERNAL GAME issues?

In other words, the actions that need to be
changed are SYMPTOMS of an "inner game"
issue. 

One solution is to just try to fix the
SYMPTOMS, i.e. force yourself NOT to
speak too fast, not to get fidgety,
not to use shock topics, etc, etc, but
the DEEPER solution, the more POWERFUL
solution is to RAISE THE LEVEL OF YOUR
INNER GAME so that these and ALL OTHER
types of problematic behaviors are stopped
at the ROOT LEVEL.

Plus, simultaneously, by making this ROOT
LEVEL transformation, you will not only
stop doing the wrong things, you will also
do all the RIGHT things with women without
having to even THINK about it, as it will all
feel so natural for you to the point that it
will feel like an INSTINCT.
 
For my most POWERFUL program that deals
with skyrocketing your success with women by
taking your INNER game to the highest level,
I seriously suggest you get my program called
"WARRIOR WITHIN".

This program is ABSOLUTELY essential if
you are looking to not only meet and
attract women, but also if you want to
KEEP a woman attracted long term, since
there is no way to FAKE long term, and
this program is all about transformation
on a DEEP level, it's not about doing
any kind of phony ACT at all.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html 

Now, I also want to let you know that you
have to take this knowledge out into the
REAL WORLD for it to have an EFFECT.

These aren't just words in a newsletter.
Every word here is the result of real
world testing. I'm hoping you will take
what you learn from me and use it in
the real world to get the women you want.

If you're still unsure of whether you are
going to take MASSIVE ACTION or not, I
can assure you that taking my BOOTCAMP
is one way to make absolutely certain
that you take these skills into the
REAL WORLD and get this part of your
life handled once and for all.

BOOTCAMP will FORCE you to have BOTH
the KNOWLEDGE plus the REAL WORLD
APPLICATION of that knowledge, since
I will be teaching you "hands-on" on
tons of real women in just about every
place where women can be found, from
bookstores to coffee shops to libraries
to trains and buses and much, much more.

BOOTCAMP is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

The reality is that nobody is going to
force you to learn these skills. You can
go a whole life and no one else will give
a hoot whether you learn these skills
or not.

It's up to YOU.

WARRIOR WITHIN is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

THE REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. To check out ALL my programs for
skyrocketing your success with women,
go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

The Power Of Your MIND In Attracting Women - UPDATED March 27, 2014

Today, I'd like to help you tap into your
"INTERNAL GAME", which is a term
referring to all that happens in your MIND
for success, including  your ability to enter
the right resourceful states of mind.

The truth is that internal game is CRUCIAL
if you want success with women, ESPECIALLY
if you want long-lasting success with women.

Mastering internal game is the "secret ingredient"
that enables you to not only approach and attract
women without using memorized pick up lines, but
it also helps you at every stage of an interaction; it
helps you succeed at approaching women, at getting
physically intimate, and at having successful long-term
relationships.

The best part of all this is that it's not a game.
It's the real you.

Women will respect this development and
be attracted to you because they simply
can't NOT be attracted to its power:
It's too rare, too precious, too liberating,
and too empowering even just to WITNESS
a man like this, for any woman to be able 
to IGNORE him.

The FIRST thing to become aware of is
all the TRASH in your mind that is holding
you back from being as powerful as you can be.

99% of this trash is all FEAR based.

And the craziest part of all, is that 99% of these
fears are ABSURD.

We've just become so damn good at brainwashing
ourselves that these fears are IMPORTANT.

For example, when you see a woman you'd like
to talk to, and you don't approach her, it's not
because you are going to go to jail if you talk
to her.

And you don't avoid her because you think she
will attack you, or hurt you.

The biggest reason for avoidance is to avoid
having our EGO damaged.

We don't want to RISK damaging something
that doesn't even EXIST.

Our ego is our own ARTIFICIAL CREATION.

We create it, and we arbitrarily decide what's
good for it, and what's bad for it. As if we
KNOW what's good for us.

But the truth is, the BEST thing you can do
is banish that ego, because all it does is set
up limiting options for your life, because
you won't do anything that might damage
that ego. And that means you won't ever
GROW as a person, and worst of all, you
will never be free of fear.

Because you will always be living with the
fear of, "What if something comes along that
might damage my ego?""

But if you throw your ego out, then you
can EMBRACE whatever the hell you need
to do to grow and learn.

This is why it's actually good to NOT get
fantastic success with women right away,
because if you never "fail", then you will
be TERRIFIED of it happening, as you
have no clue what it might be like, and
your imagination will make it far worse
than it is.

Life is nothing but a bunch of short moments.
None of these moments is something to be
afraid of, but we arbitrarily decide to create
FEARS based on our own artificial GROUPING
of moments.

So for example, seeing a beautiful woman is not a thing to fear.
It's actually pretty cool, right?

Okay, now, walking UP to a woman is also
nothing to fear, you do this all the time
without even THINKING about it, let's
say if she happens to be on the bus or
train or whatever and you are walking
past her. Or if you are in a crowd,
and you don't even notice her there.

So, clearly walking near or up to a
woman is nothing to fear.

Now, TALKING to woman who is beautiful
is nothing to fear either. We do it all the time
and think nothing of it if it's not about doing
an actual "pick-up".

It all only becomes a problem or FEAR
when we attach EGO to it. So we decide
to make it a fear when we want to get her
APPROVAL of our own worth.

We think, "Damn, if only she would LIKE
me, then things would be AWESOME!"

"Then I would feel GREAT!"

Now, this actually isn't true though, it's
actually YOU allowing YOURSELF to
feel that way, but you are only giving
yourself permission to feel this if SHE
says you are great, or desirable, etc.

Do you see how we are the ones making
the problem? We are the ones creating
the pain?

The truth is that no THING brings any
emotion to anyone unless we ALLOW it.

As soon as you get the thing you think will bring you happiness, the moment lasts for a brief moment, and then it's GONE, and you start to feel a LACK again--unless you start looking at the JOURNEYS OF LIFE as the actual joy and not the destination.

Sure, enjoy the destination when you are there,
but realize it's the journey that's the bigger
deal. This is why the coolest people constantly
challenge themselves with new cool things.

But we ALLOW this thing called EGO to
TAKE OVER and all it does is try to CONTROL
everything so that it doesn't get hurt- and yet
THIS is what causes us all the pain. So
it avoids challenges and avoids any potential
ego risk.

And yet here's the thing- if you can just
FORGET about what you can GET from
a woman, including even just her approval,
and you instead just live in the MOMENT,
and stop focusing on the past pain, and
stop thinking about how GOOD things
would be in the FUTURE if you "just had her",
you would do SOOOOOO much better
in the actual pick up with her!

The reason for this, is because your mind
and emotions are INFINITELY powerful
when they are not being driven in opposite
directions.

Your mind is the most UPDATED model of
a SUPER POWERFUL tool that has helped
your ancestors come up with all kinds of
brilliant ways to triumph against challenges
like hunger, horrible weather, traveling
across wild oceans, surviving life amongst
dangerous beasts and animals, surviving
against enemies, a mind that has been
resourceful enough to come up with
creative ways to also win friends and
allies and to attract a female mate to
continue your genes from generation
to generation.

The thing is, this mind that is more
sophisticated than the greatest computer
gets all JAMMED and screwed up when
it's being given OPPOSITE messages-
i.e. "GET THAT GIRL!", vs. "DON'T
GET YOUR EGO HURT!"

It's like having your foot on the brake
and the accelerator at the same time.

So how do you get rid of all these ego-based
FEARS?

Well, one powerful thing you can do is to
learn to STOP thinking about anything other
than the MOMENT.

This doesn't mean to start acting like an
impulsive idiot, what it means is to start
focusing on the PRESENT and to stop
doing things out of the PAIN of the PAST,
and to stop doing things for some type
of FUTURE "NIRVANA".

The truth is that the past doesn't exist,
the future doesn't exist, they are only
in your MIND, and also NO "THING" will
bring you some type of 'NIRVANA',
however the JOURNEY is what is the
JOY in things. So learning to enjoy
the PROCESS is what will make
your entire LIFE meaningful and
rewarding.

So when you see a woman you like,
let THAT in itself be the motivation
to just TALK to her, stop thinking
what it will LEAD to, because that
is the FUTURE, and thinking about
things other than the present will only
DETRACT from your ability to DEAL
with the present.

And the whole POINT of this training
of your mind, is to realize anyway that
there is no such thing as the past or future,
and that the joy is in the MOMENT.

Of course, by being in the PRESENT,

you will chat with her in a way that

SHOWS you are in the PRESENT.

You will, for example, take note of the
MOMENT, and make a comment that is
IN THE PRESENT. She, in turn, will
respond by being in the moment-
for example, if you are both at the
supermarket counter line-up, and it's
taking forever for the person at the
front to find his wallet, cash, or
coupon, etc, and you say "I'm so
hungry, I think I'll eat this loaf
of bread right here and pay for
it when I get up to the front",
the woman will SENSE that you
are in the present and it will disarm
her.

She will not feel the need to resist you,
because there is nothing TO resist; you
are simply being in the PRESENT, which
is exactly where you ALL are.

And, more importantly, because you are
not worried about the past or future, your
DELIVERY of these words will show in
your voice, in your body language, in your
expression on your face of a certain type
of strength, and it will show in a certain
type of humor that conveys you are secure
and that you are not so fragile that you
need to be so serious about everything.

And all this will CHARM her.

This is just a TINY SPECK of the

MASSIVE POWER that exists by tapping

into the skill of being in the PRESENT.

And let mention something:
Even if this DOESN'T lead to always getting
her in BED with you, you know for SURE
that this INCREASES YOUR CHANCES
ABOUT A BILLION TIMES MORE with
women in general by adopting this attitude
than by being focused on anything EXCEPT
the present.

If you start thinking too much about the future
and past, you will come up with a BILLION
reasons NOT to take action, your ego will
start interfering with things, and you will
also sound WAY WORSE when you do
finally decide to take action, because you
will be emotionally coming from a place
of confusion. That type of weakness will 
be conveyed in your every subtlety, from
your voice, to your mannerisms, to your
smile or lack of it.

When you can finally let GO of your
EGO and let go of anything but the
PRESENT, you will start to see a
friggen whole other UNIVERSE
open up for you, and you are going
to have more women, of higher quality
as well, than you could ever squeeze
into even a thousand lifetimes.

Your ego is like an EMOTIONAL POLLUTION
MAGNET for your mind - it stores all kinds
of emotional TRASH that does NOTHING
for you. It's a tricky sucker, because it
makes you think it's protecting you,
it makes you think it IS you, it makes
you think that you are your current
emotions or thoughts even if they are
totally destructive and negative and
weak.

And it makes you think that the REWARD
is in the destination, rather than in the
PROCESS and in the ATTITUDE.

Here's a great exercise:
Next time you see a woman you'd like
to chat to, see how much INSPIRATION
YOU CAN PACK INTO THE MOMENTS
YOU SPEND TALKING TO HER.

I PROMISE YOU, that there is magnificence
in every single thing that you currently think
is MUNDANE or BORING.

I don't care if you are in the line at the
supermarket, or if you are on the bus
and she is reading the newspaper, there
is something AWESOME or FUNNY
or INSPIRING or BEAUTIFUL in it.

Don't let the brainwashed world turn YOU
into a brainwashed person who is a zombie
with his most empowering and awesome
emotions turned off.

The trick is to be in the PRESENT.
The reason you find it hard to "come up"
with cool stuff to say is because you are
trying to be PERFECT;it is because you
don't want to fail. Trust me, I understand this,
I'm human and once in a rare while, this
happens to me too, even after training
for years. But if it happens, it's only
because I've let myself get wrapped
up in something other than the MOMENT.

So the trick is to work into your life

a way of BREAKING this habit.

For years, I used to every morning and
every night go out and pour cold water
buckets over me, (something I learned
from a very cool person) and it TOTALLY 
got me out of the "thinking" state and into
BEING IN THE MOMENT!!!!!

You may want to try this, after consulting
with your doctor, or you can come up with
something equally state-changing.

One final message I want to say is that
PERSPECTIVE is your greatest friend.

So often, the greatest PAIN we experience
is also the ONLY thing that allows us to
truly LEARN and to GROW.

Think about it: How often did you ONLY

learn a great lesson the HARD WAY?

This is why the guys who get the greatest
success are usually the guys who had the
greatest amount of "failures"- so it starts
to make you realize that actually "failures"
are the only way to learn the MOST.

So is it really failure, if failure is the ONLY
way to great success? It's actually pretty
CRAZY that we live in a society that
calls "not getting what you want" as
"failure" when it REALLY should be
called ONE MASSIVE STEP CLOSER
TO SUCCESS.

Chances are, that if you really suffer
"failure", you are ready to LEARN
from it.

And regarding PERSPECTIVE, I want you
to start letting go of any HATE AND PAIN
that you are storing inside of you regarding
ANY woman who has EVER hurt you.

This was the hardest thing for me to do,
and once I did this, I started to TAKE OFF.

And guess what, those people who hurt you,
very often are the ones who actually need
the love the most. So of course if you are
being abused by any woman, then you should
get the HELL out of there, but there's no
reason to let this person bring YOU down
by making you have to carry all that negativity
with you for life. And when you realize that
these people who hurt others are the ones
who are hurting the most, it's much easier
to LET GO of those negative emotions.

Again, it's the EGO and it's being in the
PAST or the FUTURE that holds us back.
All these things don't even EXIST, and
they hold us back from the only thing
that DOES exist- the PRESENT.

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