Around this time of year, a lot of people make
New Year’s resolutions, and I thought I would
share with you some really important insights
on the truth about success, not only with women
but regarding just about EVERYTHING.
This way, you can take these insights and apply
them to your own life and make the very best not
only of any new resolutions but also for all your
goals.
PART ONE: ABOUT CONFIDENCE
One of the most insane things is that although we
hear that CONFIDENCE is essential for success
with women, it is also essential for success in just
about ANY goal. This is why learning the skills
for success with women also help you with so
much else in life.
The problem though is that just TELLING someone
that confidence is the secret is not enough, because
some people are BORN with more confidence than
others. But the good news is that confidence is similar
to building MUSCLE, in that if you work on it, you
can CULTIVATE it, you can make it grow.
In fact, confidence can be grown to HUGE proportions,
a trillion times bigger than any muscle!
Whatever it is you lack confidence in, the trick is to
START doing it, WITHOUT putting pressure on yourself,
even if you do it WITHOUT confidence.
Most people never get confident at anything because they
never do it often enough to get over the fear, and also they
do whatever that thing is that they lack confidence in, in
an environment of PRESSURE.
So, for example, if you want to approach women with
CONFIDENCE, then take off the PRESSURE by not
making the GOAL that she must be ecstatic from your
approach, but rather your GOAL is simply that YOU
did not give into your fear, that YOU went up and said
‘Hello, how are you doing?’ or some other casual
conversation opener.
You can even make the goal just to say HI.
TAKE OFF THE PRESSURE AT FIRST.
Then, once you do the goal WITHOUT pressure,
you can then SLOWLY start to add more pressure,
for example, try keeping the conversation going
for two minutes, three minutes, four minutes, try
adding minutes to the conversation, try adding humor,
take ONE more step each day to add a BIT to the
pressure, just like adding a BIT of weight when you
are lifting weights.
But getting back to CONFIDENCE again, this way,
you will be improving your SKILL as well, which
of course will help you build even MORE confidence,
but also you will be getting DESENSITIZED to the
fear, simply because you have been doing the
thing (approaching women, talking to women) that
you fear so many times.
Also, regarding CONFIDENCE, the reason it is so
important is because if you BELIEVE you can succeed,
then you are not going to SABOTAGE your success,
and again this applies to ALL goals.
But if you believe that really you DON’T have
what it takes to succeed, in other words if you lack
confidence, then you will not really give ALL YOU
HAVE toward achieving your goal. You will waste
time, you will procrastinate, you will move slowly,
you will have other things to do that feel more important,
you will feel a lack of energy, etc, etc.
All that crap comes from the ROOT cause, which is
FEAR that really you won’t succeed. Fear is such a
devil because it works subconsciously as well, and
does things like making you THINK you are tired
when you aren’t. (This doesn’t mean you don’t need
rest, it just means that when you lack confidence,
there is a general lack of energy for achieving the
goal.)
PART TWO: ABOUT TIME
The NEXT related idea regarding success I want
to share with you is about using TIME wisely.
The real truth is that TIME is more precious than
MONEY. Even BILLIONAIRES would love to
have more TIME, and would happily spend like
crazy to get MORE time. In fact, one of the biggest
reasons people WANT money is to save them time,
but it can’t CREATE time, it can just save it.
This idea is absolutely inextricably bound with success.
Not only must you have confidence for your goal, but
you must have TIME LIMITS for ALL your goals, and
ALL your tasks, even the MENIAL ones.
I used to think this was a non-fun way to live life, but
the PROBLEM is time is SO PRECIOUS, that there
is simply NO TIME for WASTING TIME.
So I learned from a man smarter than myself to use
a TIMER for EVERYTHING I do, big or small,
exciting or mundane.
Set the amount of time you think something SHOULD
take, and then set the timer and start working on it.
You’d be AMAZED at much time you will save
and you will realize how much time you were
wasting before.
Again, time is so precious, and GOALS TAKE TIME.
So if you WASTE TIME, not only regarding your big
goal, but if you waste time on being inefficient on all
the small goals and tasks you must do everyday, you
will NOT achieve your biggest goals simply because
you won’t have enough TIME.
Now, you have to also stay calm during all this. And
the fact is, if you do this, you will be more calm because
you will realize how you are not wasting time. I just
want to mention to stay calm, because I don’t want
you to burn out with stress.
PART THREE: ABOUT ENVISIONING YOUR GOALS
A lot of people mention the idea of PICTURING your goal
in your head.
Arnold Schwarzenegger has spoken a great deal about
how he could SEE himself as successful in his various
endeavors from bodybuilding to acting to politics, and
how he took his confidence from one thing, e.g. bodybuilding,
to another, e.g. acting.
In the book and film The Secret, there is a great deal
of focus on practicing EXPERIENCING THE FEELINGS
OF GRATITUDE YOU WOULD HAVE IF YOU ALREADY
HAD ACHIEVED YOUR GOALS.
So the important element in common is not just WANTING
Or WISHING to be successful, but actually SEEING
AND EXPERIENCING that success as if you ALREADY
HAVE IT.
You are ALREADY THERE in your mind, and LOVING IT.
In my opinion, this is not HOCUS-POCUS superstition.
Rather, the power of this is that it CHANGES you on a
deep level, subconsciously you STOP sabotaging yourself,
plus you are in such a positive state that OF COURSE you
keep on doing all the things that bring success, and ALSO
you start to BECOME like that version of yourself that you
want to BE, which ALSO helps ATTRACT people that
are on a SIMILAR wavelength that can HELP you get to
that goal.
I can tell you that in my own life, every person I met that
was instrumental in making huge positive changes in my
life was the result of me focusing on BEING and FEELING
the way I wanted to be in my GOAL version of myself and
my GOAL version of reality.
It NEVER CAME from any “official” request, it
never came from “forcing” myself, it came from
me truly behaving the way I would if I was
“already there experiencing the joy of having
the goal”.
And the crazy thing about all this is that this is actually
the EASIER way to live, because it is what your MIND
REALLLY WANTS anyway!
And if you are reading this right now, and would like
to learn MORE about making this your best year EVER,
with women, with relationships, and with ALL of your
goals, then I suggest you download my eBook, called
Way to Win, immediately.
This book is a POWERFUL resource on how to get into
the RIGHT mindset for success, as well as how to
actually GO about achieving your goals, and also
it contains extremely inspiring TRUE stories,
all of which are consistent with the principles
of success outlined in the book.
Download this book and use it immediately for your
success in ALL your goals, by going here NOW:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/win.html
And for ALL my important programs on success
with women, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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