Today I want to share a vital tip on how
to quickly DETECT whether a woman is going
to be a great girlfriend long-term or not.
One of the things that really is astonishing
is how EASY it is to find out these things,
and to prevent wasting years of your life and
energy and emotions on the wrong women,
and yet STILL most people never use what
I am about to teach you, and most people
find that their relationships crumble, even the
ones that started out SUPER passionate.
A woman’s intense passion for you is not
ENOUGH of an indicator that she will
be the right woman long term.
If you REALLY want to make sure that a woman
is the RIGHT woman for you, you have to:
1. Pay attention to her ACTIONS.
2. You have to not allow yourself to be BLINDED by your own ATTRACTION to her.
3. You also have to stop your FEARS from distorting your perception of her.
I’m not only talking about the HALO EFFECT,
which is the tendency to automatically attribute
good traits to someone who is visually attractive,
so for example it’s SUPER COMMON for
guys to start thinking that some woman who
is really hot is somehow also VIRTUOUS,
and many guys will INFLATE any half-decent
thing that an attractive woman does into being
something much MORE admirable than it really is.
So, for example, if a super attractive woman
acts POLITE, a lot of guys will think she is
somehow a SAINT or SUPER NICE when in
reality ALL people should be polite.
If she is studying something at school suddenly
she is viewed as INTELLIGENT when if she
was not super attractive she would just be
considered another student doing what she is
supposed to be doing at school and not doing
anything especially intelligent.
But it goes much FURTHER than this.
It’s not just the HALO effect, but also it is
WISHFUL THINKING.
Wishful thinking isn't just an interesting term, it's
a SUPREMELY POWERFUL trick that our own
minds play on us if we are not careful.
So, for example, if you feel attraction toward
a woman, you have to be careful not to suddenly
overlook what may very well be red flags about her
relationship potential.
Let’s say she is TELLING you that she is not
a party girl, but you notice that in the pictures
she showed you of her last vacation before she
met you that she certainly seemed be partying
it up in a lot of dance clubs, with a lot of alcohol,
and with a lot of guys all around her.
The wishful thinking part takes over and says
that was some vacation that is not really her
normal behavior, etc, etc.
Or let’s say she tells you how she gets along so
much better with guys than with girls. As if the
fact she is HOT has nothing to do with it.
Those examples are OBVIOUS, but there are
other ones that are more subtle:
For example, let’s say you are discussing with her
a movie you both saw, about a man and woman in
a relationship, and one of them did something morally
questionable to the other, but it wasn’t outright physical
cheating or sleeping with someone else, but it was
sort of unfaithful still.
And let’s say this leads to a discussion of what
cheating really is, and she says something like
“It’s not realistic to expect that the character would
not even kiss someone else ever”, this tells you a
LOT about how passionately THEY feel about
concepts of fidelity.
And by the way, it doesn’t even matter if the
woman is telling you that it’s not realistic to
expect that a man won’t ever do SOME form
of cheating on a woman, because this is telling
you that in HER mind, she figures MEN are
cheaters, and this then gives HER the license
to feels it’s OKAY for women to cheat on MEN.
Similarly, if a woman says all men are cheaters
or all women are cheaters, or that all the men
she has ever met have cheated on her, ALL
THIS tells you REAMS of information
about HER.
It tells you what kind of men she is attracted to,
what kind of men she tends to attract, what
pathetic screening methods she uses to choose
her friends, etc, etc.
If you don’t pay attention to the SIGNS of
a woman’s character when the signs FIRST
show up, all you are doing is delaying the
time when a MASSIVE SIGN will become
apparent, one that is so powerful and that
shakes your reality and is impossible to
ignore.
Save yourself all that turmoil by paying
attention from the very BEGINNING.
A woman’s behavior does NOT change.
So when you see the DNA of her behavior
manifest itself in some way, it will show
up AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN
in the future.
In other words, if she is SELFISH in one
way, you can bet your bottom dollar that
she is going to be SELFISH in a billion
OTHER ways as well.
If she is CRUEL to others, you can bet
on it that she will try to be cruel to you.
Now, with ALL that being said, it’s
ALSO important to realize that just like
we can be oblivious to a woman’s faults,
if you are carrying around ANXIETY about
women, then you can also end up doing the
OPPOSITE extreme, which ends up making
you blind to all the GOOD STUFF about
a woman’s personality.
In fact, you can distort in your own mind
a perfectly GREAT girl into a woman who
you view as being this terrible untrustworthy
and cruel person, SIMPLY because of the
filter of anxiety through which you are
seeing reality and how a woman is treating you.
I raise this point because I have no desire to
make any woman seem WORSE than she is,
or to make her seem BETTER than she is.
I want you to be able to see a woman for
the absolute TRUTH of who she really is.
In order to do that, it’s essential to not only
be AWARE of all the MISTAKES that men
make in the way they perceive women’s
characters, but ALSO it’s vital that your
own INNER GAME is at FULL POWER
so that you are not sabotaging yourself
in any way so that you don’t DISTORT
a woman’s actions to mean something
other than what they REALLY mean.
And by the way, FEAR is one of the
BIGGEST causes of DISTORTION
on earth.
FEAR can make you think a woman is a
BEEYOTCH when she is actually crazy
about you!
And yet, it’s not just FEAR, but the opposite
as well, too much INFATUATION with a
woman will lead to the HALO EFFECT and
make you unable to see the truth about a woman
with horrific character, the halo effect will make
you think she is a great woman, which will end up
causing you problems later when you find out she
is NOT anything REMOTELY close to a great
woman.
And allow me to share with you one POWERFUL
clue: When you meet the RIGHT woman, IF you
have done the INNER GAME work on yourself,
things should be going SUPER SMOOTHLY
pretty much right from the very START, aside
from in some cases a BRIEF INITIAL "testing"
that a woman might feel she needs to do in order
to SEE that you are the right one for her.
Things will go SMOOTHLY for your ENTIRE
relationship with her.
However, if things start off messed-up and with
problems, I can assure you it will END for the
same reasons.
Behavior is INGRAINED, it’s so deep, you should
think of it as DNA. No matter WHAT the situation
is, a person’s BEHAVIORAL TRAITS will find
a way to manifest themselves.
If it’s HER behavioral trait, then no matter WHAT
you say, and no matter WHAT situation she is in,
her behavioral trait will STILL find a way to show
itself and make itself loud and clear, if you are paying
attention. And likewise, the same with ourselves
as men, if our OWN inner game is not up to par,
then the problems of that weak inner game will
manifest themselves in EVERY situation when
interacting with women.
That’s why things should be going WELL from
the GET-GO or it’s not going to work at ALL.
This doesn’t mean that it’s always the woman’s
fault. If a guy doesn’t have his inner game together,
then it’s going to cause problems and it will eventually
sabotage the relationship from the very first day
till it is a total wreck. And the thing that ruins it
will be the same thing that was causing problems
on day one.
The BETTER your inner game is, the LESS
she will need to test, and the smoother things
will go. I’m not just speaking about her
PASSION for you, but also the fact that she
will not be giving you endless negative
DRAMA at all.
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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