In order to excel at attracting women,
it’s crucial to understand that on the
DEEPEST level, ALL attraction boils
down to ONE thing: SURVIVAL.
All the attractive things, from STATUS,
to flawless social skills, even to a brilliant
sense of HUMOR, as well as many OTHER
skills and traits, all enhance your ability to
attract a woman because on a subconscious,
evolutionary level, these things represent
a survival advantage.
A woman isn’t THINKING “survival advantage”,
she just FEELS attraction, but the reason she feels
attraction is because it’s HARDWIRED in her
brain to feel attraction. It’s not just a cultural
thing, it’s DEEPLY imprinted into the most
primal part of her emotions and DNA.
This is the reason that for men, LOOKS alone
is not the limiting factor that most guys THINK
it is when it comes to attracting a woman.
The thing is, OF COURSE looks HELPS if a
guy already HAS it. But it ABSOLUTELY
IS NOT THE LIMITING FACTOR THAT MOST
GUYS THINK IT IS if it's not there.
The crazy thing, is that you can SEE this
for yourself just by taking a look at who the
most beautiful women in the world are with:
They are NEVER with the male equivalent
of themselves!!!!
Here’s proof number 2:
There are INFINITE strip clubs where women
take off their clothes for men.
There are EXTREMELY few strip clubs where
men take off their clothes for women.
This is even in an era where women are liberated,
there was Sex And The City, etc, etc, etc.
There's many reasons for this. For one thing,
it's not a big DEAL for women to see naked
men, since in our culture men tend to be the
ones who "chase", even though this is not
a good strategy for attracting women.
So most women don't feel the NEED to
resort to going to strip clubs to see men,
because this is not a challenge for most
women.
When you can easily get something, you tend
to want something ELSE.
This is why, for example, Playboy tends to sell
better in areas where it is more TABOO to see
nudity than in areas where seeing a naked
woman is not a big deal.
I remember when I used to go to an all boys
school for high school, where they had tons
of restrictions, and we weren't allowed to
TALK to girls!!!! I was so crazy for almost
ANY GIRL, that when I finally left to go to
a co-ed school, I thought I was in HEAVEN
with EVERY girl I saw!!!
Similarly, on the opposite extreme, most attractive
women can EASILY get some attractive men naked.
So guess what? They aren't as obsessed with it.
The more attractive the women are, the less
obsessed with looks they tend to be.
It's a greater challenge for women to find
men who have the OVERALL value.
In other words, for women, the way a man
looks counts, but it's not the PARAMOUNT
thing that is making their decision when it
comes to what they want in a man.
In fact, it’s mostly gay men that are into things
like Playgirl, etc, etc.
By the way, all this is ALSO the reason that once
you improve your skills to the point that you
CAN get really attractive women, you actually
start to finally stop being obsessed with it as
well, and you start to truly look at the OVERALL
value in a woman as well.
Here’s the other thing too:
I’ve conducted bootcamps for about ten YEARS.
Over the years, I’ve had several clients who were
EXTREMELY good looking, in fact when I first
started out, and got some of these guys who looked
like male models for bootcamps, I thought these
guys were not legitimate, i.e. that they were
working for some media organization with
secret cameras, etc.
Then I realized, that the reality is even if
you are a male model, it’s not ENOUGH to
attract a woman if you don’t ALSO have the
INTERNAL POWER of UNSTOPPABLE
CONFIDENCE.
Waltz into any club, and you will see guys
who look like football players, and who in
fact might very well be university football
players, and jocks, TRYING to chat up
women but then running out of what to
say and then LEAVING out of the fear
and discomfort of not knowing what to
say or do and not wanting to get rejected
or look weird.
Men and women ARE different when it comes
to attraction.
And here’s the IRONY:
MOST WOMEN ARE ACTUALLY FAR
MORE CONFIDENT THAN MEN WHEN
IT COMES TO THE WHOLE SOCIALIZING
ARENA!!!!!
So, what happens is that women end up feeling
like THEY are the MAN, and the man seems
like HE is the woman!
You can imagine what this does to attraction:
IT DESTROYS IT.
When you meet a woman, especially in
those first few moments, she knows
NOTHING about you.
So, her ENTIRE feeling of you will be based
on what you do THEN.
It’s absolutely crucial that you give off the
VIBES of POWER emanating from deep
within you.
Now, you might be saying, “But I don’t
have a cool job, or a cool car, or a nice
apartment or house, or lots of money”
You might even be saying things like.
“I’m too old/young/short/tall/thin/fat”.
Guess what?
For everything you DON’T have, it takes
MORE balls and MORE confidence and
MORE charisma to TALK TO HER ANYWAY,
which means this very “problem” is actually
the COOLEST way to show you have
INFINITE CONFIDENCE, which is what
a woman is REALLY attracted to anyway!
So, please, go right ahead and give the
BIGGEST EXCUSE ON EARTH for
why you should NOT approach a woman,
and in fact you should make sure NOT
to hide your flaws, because it’s BETTER
THAT A WOMAN KNOWS YOU HAVE
BALLS MADE OF STEEL!
The more reasons you think you DON’T
have what it takes, is the very REASON
for why you become MORE ATTRACTIVE
by actually TAKING ACTION ANYWAY.
In fact, I like to call this the “SEPARATOR EFFECT”.
THIS is what separates the men from the boys.
And trust me, I have the RIGHT to speak on
this topic. I suffered from so much anxiety, and
this anxiety was not just some superficial thing,
it was a pretty deep rooted issue, that the LAST
THING ON EARTH I HAD WAS “CONFIDENCE”.
When I would go to approach women, even back
in university where there were knockouts exploding
from all angles all over the place, and there should
have been NO SCARCITY FEELINGS about
women, my heart felt like it was going to burst
right out my chest from pumping so hard every
time I actually approached a woman there.
The more you FEAR something, the GREATER
the courage is by actually EMBRACING that
fear and the worst case scenario.
Subconsciously, I was saying to myself, YES
EVEN IF THE ENTIRE THOUSAND STUDENTS
IN THE LECTURE HALL SEE ME GETTING
REJECTED IT’S TOTALLY WORTH IT TO
ME FOR A CHANCE TO GET WITH THIS
SUPREMELY HOT FEMININE CREATURE
IF SHE ALSO IS A COOL PERSON INSIDE.
Yes, PLEASE REJECT ME IF THAT’S WHAT
IT TAKES TO KNOW I GAVE IT A SHOT.
Now, here’s the thing to realize:
What starts out as courage, ends up becoming
CONFIDENCE.
At first, YES, you are scared as hell, but the
thing is the greater the fear, the GREATER
the confidence you will get from doing this
again and again.
After all, it’s no big gain to do something
you DON’T fear. What can you gain from
that, confidence wise?????
If a woman sees that you are the kind of guy
who doesn’t let fear STOP him, she knows
that you are the kind of guy that probably
already has a lot of confidence in OTHER
areas of his life that are important to him,
because you are clearly the kind of man
who does NOT let fear stop him.
Remember, every time you feel anxiety
about approaching a woman, that THIS
is the SEPARATOR between the men
and the boys.
Give into the fear, and you become part
of the PACK of most guys who DON’T
get the woman.
DEFY the fear, and you SEPARATE yourself
from the pack.
And remember, the greater the fear, the
MORE you will separate yourself from
the pack. And if you think you have
PARTICULAR issues that should stop
you, the truth is that those issues are
MORE of a reason to GO talk to her,
because it means you have even greater
balls if you DO it.
So you can’t lose by going for it, EVER.
Now, there are THINGS you can do to
HELP ensure you take action, and also
things you can do to make the approach
as powerful as possible.
That’s where I come in.
For example, you can create a COUNTER
CAMPAIGN to the current voices inside
of you that tell you to NOT approach.
For YEARS now, you’ve probably been
telling yourself all the reasons why you
should NOT approach a woman, and
why it’s SAFER to avoid the whole thing.
Well, what you need to do is take EVERY
EXCUSE AND REASON YOU GIVE
FOR NOT APPROACHING, AND YOU
MUST WRITE DOWN WHY IT’S MORE
IMPORTANT TO APPROACH EVEN IF THAT
WORST FEAR/EXCUSE FOR NOT APPROACHING
IS TRUE!
So even if that fear IS true, even if that worst
case scenario WERE to happen, you must
write down why it’s STILL more important
to APPROACH HER ANYWAY!!!!!!!
And in fact, it IS cooler to the woman,
the more guts it took for you to take
action based on your situation.
By the way, you can already SEE the
evolutionary reasons for this, right?
It’s because the man who didn’t give into
his FEARS was the man who got the FARTHEST,
and this is true even today, VERIFIED by
research easily found in books like
"Emotional Intelligence" by Goleman.
The world tries to DESTROY you with FEAR.
Give into it, and say goodbye to yourself.
DEFY it, and EMBRACE YOUR FULL POWER!
So, you MUST create a counter campaign
to fight against the messages telling you to
NOT take action.
In fact, record all this onto a CD, MP3, etc,
and PLAY it 24/7 if you can!!!!!!!
Even when sleeping!!!
Make SIGNS, put them all over the place
so you can’t miss them!
This is the only way to COUNTER the other
campaign that has been going on inside your
brain for YEARS!
It’s kind of like this:
Imagine how big the campaign would have to be
to get kids to want to eat HEALTHY considering
BILLIONS OF DOLLARS are spent on getting kids
to want to eat fast food and junk food- by
commercials, cartoon characters on junk food
labels, etc, etc, etc.
The COUNTER-CAMPAIGN to junk food would have
to be in the BILLIONS of dollars as well,
getting Mickey Mouse and Miley Cyrus and
Superman etc, etc, to promote grapes and
fruits and carrots, etc.
In fact, CAMPAIGNS DO ABSOLUTELY WORK, and
you must do the same for YOUR OWN MIND.
By the way, this is just the TIP of the iceberg
of what you will learn in my programs regarding
beating 'approach anxiety'.
Remember, ENHANCED SURVIVAL is
the root of all ATTRACTION:
So not only is it important to defy your fears,
because of the message that courage and
confidence sends to a woman’s “attraction
cortex” in the primal regions of her brain,
but there are OTHER things as well that
you must do for FULL effect.
For example, start to dress in a way
that incorporates COOL accessories.
I thought at one time this was silly, till I
TRIED it.
So, I went to a few stores, and I found this cool
dark red STONE pendant.
Without thinking much of it, except that
it somehow LOOKED AND FELT primal
and ancient, like a tribal thing, I got it.
That night, I went to a lounge, and I swear
within MINUTES, the girl who was the
bartender (and as you might know, the
bartenders are usually knockouts, and she
was no exception) comes over to me,
AWAY from the bar, and starts playing
with the pendant around my neck and
starting a conversation.
At the time, years ago, I was so new to all this,
that I didn’t even BELIEVE it was really happening,
I thought "it can't be this easy - probably she
does this all the time", till I realized how
RARE IT IS for this kind of thing to happen.
Allow me to PROVE to you how powerful
this stuff is: It’s so powerful, that it goes
beyond all cultural forces, and into the
arena of PRIMAL HARDWIRING again.
Professor Denis Dutton has explained that
ART has been used as a way to create
EMOTIONAL IMPACT, demonstrate STATUS,
and ATTRACT WOMEN, since ancient times.
Yes, archeologists have found proof of this.
They found these thin stone blades, (hand-axes)
that had been shaped into these captivating,
symmetrical, pointed, tear-drop forms.
They were discovered in the THOUSANDS
across Asia, Europe, and Africa, almost
EVERYWHERE people roamed at the time.
The massive NUMBER of these “hand-axes”
prove that they CAN’T have been made for
slaughtering animals.
The fact that the majority of these blades,
unlike OTHER tools being used at the time,
show absolutely NO WEAR on their delicate blade
edges, prove that they were NOT designed for
ANY practical use.
Their symmetry, their attractive materials,
and their detailed workmanship are
ATTRACTIVE TO THE HUMAN EYE.
So what were these ancient artifacts for?
Dutton explains the BEST available answer is
that they were the EARLIEST FORMS OF ART!
“Practical tools transformed into captivating,
aesthetic shapes, admired for their elegant
shape and their virtuoso craftsmanship.
Hand axes mark an evolutionary advance
in human history, tools fashioned to function
as “fitness signals” – displays like the peacock’s
tail, except unlike hair and feathers, the hand
axes are CONSCIOUSLY, cleverly crafted.
These hand axes indicated desirable personal
qualities- fine motor skills, intelligence, planning
ability, conscientiousness, and sometimes access
to rare materials.
Over tens of thousands of generations, these
skills increased the status of those who
DISPLAYED them, and gained a reproductive
advantage over the less capable’”
What’s even MORE mind-boggling is that these
particular hand axes were made between 50
and 100 THOUSAND years before humans
even had LANGUAGE!!!!!!!
By the end of the "hand axe" era, humans had
found NEW ways to amaze each other: Things
like being FUNNY, coming up with STYLES
of clothing, and body paint, coming up with
MUSIC, and STORYTELLING in ways such
as theatre.
When these things are done WELL, the
human brain RESPONDS.
And guess what is one of the most POWERFUL
forms of CAPTURING people’s attention,
a form that comes into relevance EVERY
DAY, especially when you meet WOMEN????
EXCELLENT SOCIAL SKILLS!!
DEMONSTRATING your social skills to a
woman is ATTRACTIVE when done WELL.
It is a SKILL and an ART, no different than
playing the piano or painting a picture.
This skill and art of MASTERING social skills
with women BLENDS TOGETHER elements
of MANY other fields and arts, such as humor,
rapport, storytelling, style, psychology.
Mastering the power of these human
communications and social dynamics
indicates both POWER and STATUS.
Human survival and achievement is based
not just on what you can do alone, but also
on how well you can LEAD people, work
with people, understand people, and inspire
people.
By demonstrating superior mastery of these
social skills, which includes even what you
WEAR, you attract a woman whether she
wants to feel attraction or not, it’s THAT
powerful.
Allow me to give another example of
attraction in real life:
Let’s say you see a woman at a food court.
You are standing far away from her.
In your mind, you’re thinking, “Hmmm, if
I walk over to her from far away, she’ll
see I’m trying too hard to get her, and
that is needy, so it won’t work”.
Or maybe you’re thinking “Hmm,
does this stuff really work??? Won’t
she wonder why a TOTAL STRANGER
is coming up to her?????”
So the answer to this question is that
EVERYTHING CHANGES the MOMENT
you take on the right FILTER for how you
are seeing the situation:
If YOU see it as a BIG investment with
BIG risks, you’ll feel weird about it.
Of course, you should STILL take action.
However, to make it EASIER, you should
CHANGE the way you look at it, because
this will actually AFFECT the way you
think and feel and the way you talk to her.
And THAT will AMPLIFY the attraction
she feels for you.
Think of it this way:
YOU are a man.
That means that in general, YOU are the
one who has the role of MAKING THE
FIRST MOVE, risks and all.
SHE is the woman, at best she can ACCEPT
the guy she wants if HE makes the move, but
she can’t PURSUE it as directly as a man.
So, now, you look at this woman far away
and realize THAT THIS IS QUITE NORMAL
because women will NEVER be the ones
who do much of the PURSUING in terms
of first moves.
So, TAKE that “label” of being the “psycho”
and EMBRACE IT!!!
If you think this makes you a PSYCHO,
then LOVE that label! Don’t fight it!
Of course, this DOESN’T make you a psycho,
just remember that all those women out there
have gone out with what you think are “psychos”
because I guarantee you that if she is attractive,
there have been SOME guys that tried this
and she actually LIKED it, but probably the
guy was so confident that he couldn’t SETTLE
to just be with her, so he probably cheated on
her!
Now, you feel less of a psycho, because you
know she has said yes to other “psychos”
and in fact she WISHES she could just meet
a "good psycho!!!!"
That’s number one.
Number two, is to realize that you are
probably turning what should be FUN
into something SERIOUS.
Instead of THINKING for an hour of what
to say to her, just HAVE FUN with the
moment!
It’s also FAR more cool this way.
By having FUN with it, you make it clear
that you are NOT focused on the OUTCOME.
As soon as SHE senses that you are NOT obsessed
with the outcome of this chat, SHE lightens up as
well and starts to have fun chatting with you,
she might even be the one to joke right back
with you.
So, for example, you might say, if it’s lunch
hour, “Hey there, I was thinking, what if
NOBODY went back to work after lunch???
could we ALL get fired if we ALL did it???”
She might say back to you “You mean everyone
HERE??? Or everywhere in the world?”
And you might respond with: “I like the way
you’re thinking!! GLOBALLY!!! We start
with this place, and then work our way to
every major CITY!”
And then, just as she’s getting into it,
you say something like “Just one second
as we put the global plans on hold- is that
my favorite kind of PIZZA you’re having
there- VEGETARIAN???”
Or you could do the opposite “WHOA.
Hold on- I think you’re having a
VEGETARIAN slice of pizza there,
I can’t even talk to you anymore!!!”
Do you feel the VIBE going on here?
It’s having FUN.
You’re ADDING to the situation.
There is nothing for her to resist, because
you’re not TAKING.
You’ve also been funny in two different
ways, it’s not like you’re hanging for
dear life to the “Global plan to not
go back to work” idea, either.
You’ve also demonstrated an understanding
of human psychology and about “vibe” as well,
by going about the approach this way, plus
you’ve shown confidence by approaching a
total stranger.
At THIS point, you can sit down, have
your lunch as well, and enjoy a “normal”
chat with her, because you have passed
that point of being a ‘stranger’.
I suggest you transition into some light
stuff like what you both really enjoy doing,
etc, and THEN move into the next higher
gear where you build a powerful connection.
It’s important to CHANGE GEARS and
not STAY in the “funny” zone for too
long, or she thinks you’re JUST there to
play around.
If you come across like you’re just there
to play around, it seems weird, or that you’re
too afraid to escalate to the next level, which
is obviously not attractive either.
You need to PROGRESS the interaction
FORWARD and be “THE MAN” here as well.
NEVER wait for her to have to
SPELL IT OUT FOR YOU.
So for example, if you have a great chat,
don’t wait for her to give you her number,
just ASK for it at the end of the chat, or
even better, LOOK her in the eyes with
TOTAL CONVICTION and say:
“You should leave me your number”.
THAT'S the kind of statement that
makes her want to GIVE it to you
and get closer to you.
If you want to get the FULL PICTURE on how
to attract the kind of women that make most
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You can spend the time on your own, without
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hard way.
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well as emotional energy.
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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