Attracting Women: Tips From The Real World

Welcome to "Attracting Women: Tips From The Real World".

The name is very deliberate- no half-baked
THEORIES here. All the insights you are
about to read have taken the real life
"test-drives" by being tested on real
women thousands of times!

In doing tons of Workshops and Bootcamps,
I have noticed that there are certain COMMON
YET DEVASTATING MISTAKES that guys
make ALL THE TIME in their interactions
with women. These mistakes are TOXIC
to attraction.

Because I know what to look for,
I can detect these errors as soon
as they happen and thus immediately
put things back on the RIGHT track
to attraction.

It’s CRITICAL to understand what these
mistakes are, and to AVOID them like
the plague, particularly in the INITIAL
MOMENTS OF THE APPROACH/CONVERSATION.

Here are FIVE MAJOR insights on how
attraction works with women in the real
world, and what you should DO about it:

1. PLAYFUL DOES NOT MEAN GOOFY

There is a fine line between PLAYFUL and FUN and
being GOOFY. Goofy is NOT COOL. And the reason
goofy is not cool is because goofy shows a LACK OF
UNDERSTANDING of the emotional fabric of the situation,
and it shows A LACK OF WIT, as well as a LACK OF
CONFIDENCE.

Being goofy is also too EASY. Anyone can do it.
And it’s like saying “I’m going to be extremely stupid
on purpose so that it’s obvious I’m not trying to be smart,
so that way, no one can accuse me of being an idiot, since
I’m OBVIOUSLY being an idiot.”

But this is actually a sign of INSECURITY, because
it’s giving yourself an EXCUSE to tell everyone
for why you are not making a powerful impact.

So it becomes an escape tactic, or as a comedian
I know says, “It’s a back door”.

In other words, the women (and in fact everyone
in the group, if they are there) can see you are
AFRAID of screwing up, by the very fact you
are making it so clear that you are intentionally
screwing up.

That’s the difference between goofy humor and
humor that shows confidence, value, talent, or
wit.

2. A PLAYFUL TEASE IS DESTROYED BY
INCONGRUENT BODY LANGUAGE

For example, if you think you are being funny
by teasing a waitress by pretending to be giving
her the menu back and then yanking it away etc.,
but you are not making eye contact, or you are
facing away from her because you are secretly
afraid of her reaction, OR if your expression looks
goofy and over smiley OR if you are too serious,
instead of either just being laid back or calm smile,
the waitress will then just think you are weird and
it will also make her uncomfortable or irritable.

Which is the opposite of what you want.

You have to realize that any of those mistakes
will screw up your tease big time and backfire.
Which is not to put you off making teases, just
to let you know that there is a STANDARD
and if you don’t reach it, you will come across
as pathetic.

Incongruent and weak body language makes your
tease seem like you are saying, ““Ain’t I cute, I can
do this stupid sh*8 to you”, while the SAME tease
with the RIGHT body language comes across
as a guy who is SEXY and relaxed AND not
seeking approval, AND in a good playful mood
AND funny AND witty.

It really helps to be self-aware of this until
you change your habits instinctively, and of
course, it helps to have an expert monitor
you and eliminate any problem areas in
your game in this regard.

3. THE WAY YOU USE STYLE COUNTS

You hear these guys out there telling
you hogwash like, “I’m a total slob and I
eat nothing but lard and I wear garage sale
smelly crap and I’m UNBEATABLE with
women thanks to the magic secret I learned
from x system”.

This is the kind of crap that can really
screw up a guy because he THINKS he’s
cool and then one day he finally realizes
he’s been TOTALLY LIED TO.

Look, I’ve been “in the game now” for
a while, and I STILL like to push the
envelope for myself in terms of experimenting
with different styles, accessories, fits, etc.

This does not mean you can't make it
work with jeans and a t-shirt. Jeans
and a t-shirt can work great, as long
as it's not the ONLY thing you know.

In fact, last weekend, I had a student on
workshop who had strengths in this area,
and it gave me an idea for applying a
certain element of style for myself. I used
it that night, and it honestly in my opinion
made my 'game' one notch even BETTER,
damn this game is fun! It’s actually FUN
to play around with style, it’s like
bringing fantasy into reality.

Dressing cool means a hell of a lot more than
not having holes in your shirt or wearing jeans
and sneakers, and taking a shower. There’s
a TON to be said about accessories, shoes,
learning about how to make your age work
for you in terms of style, no matter what your
age.

This is ESPECIALLY true when you go
out “on the town” to have fun. In the
REAL WORLD, not the world of make
believe b.s. advice or the world of internet
ads, in the REAL WORLD where beautiful
girls really live, you can bet your butt
that this stuff MATTERS.

It’s not EVERYTHING, but it counts.

As it should, if you think about it.
It’s all about IMPACT.
It’s all about FEELING THE EMOTIONS.
What kind of impact does a BORING
outfit have?

And there is a way to do this RIGHT, so that
you are EXCITING, yet exciting with class.
You don’t want to come across as the male
version of a ho.

This is a huge topic but for now, let me say that
next time you go shopping for clothes, try thinking
about the IMPACT YOU ARE MAKING.

Does it make you yawn, or does it make
you go “cooooooool”.

4. DOMINATING THE FRAME

Not only do women want a guy who can
LEAD the interaction, and who is masculine
and dominant in this sense, but women will
SPIT YOU OUT if you are not this way,
and you will not even get out of the
STARTING GATES otherwise.

Nowhere is this more clear than in a club.
Now I know that not all guys go to clubs,
but they serve as an excellent training ground
because there are so many distractions, that you
MUST GROW IN DOMINANCE in order to
OUTWEIGH them all.

For example, your VOICE:
If you are going to talk in a namby-pamby,
quiet, unsure voice, you will not even get
HEARD in the massive volume of the
music.

Also, as you engage in the conversation,
she might get interrupted by her friend.
In a situation like this, many guys will just
figure it’s over and LEAVE. Or they will
kind of shrink and make it clear they are
on “hold” and willing to wait for her forever,
or they will pander up too much to the friends
in a clearly submissive manner.

Listen:
ALL THAT LEADS TO NOWHERESVILLE.

You have to make sure that you TAKE CARE
of those friends. For example, the situation might
call for you to say a couple of fun or intriguing
things to them to kind of show them that you are not
DISSING them, but your facial expression also shows
that you have no intention of kissing up to them
or giving in on the girl you are with either.

You have to GET HER AWAY FROM HER
FRIENDS in a way that is smooth and playful,
yet decisive and confident.

You can’t start ASKING HER if she will go with
you away from her friends to another part
of the club, or SHE WILL FEEL that if she AGREES,
she feels that you will then think she is a "slut"
and "cheap", since she was “so easy” to go with
you because she actually SAID "yes" when
wussilly ASKED by you.

As a guy, you have to take just about ALL the
action in the beginning, it has to do with our
culture and its sexual rituals.

And if you show that you are clueless about this
fact, or that you are too scared to do this, that will
make her feel you are pathetic, or at least it will
make her feel the situation is a NO-go.

You have to understand that SHE will not
ACTIVELY do the "seduction" or the "pick-up"
FOR YOU, she can only play her part, which
is to go along with your leadership if she
desires you.

But if you don’t show leadership, then even
if she somehow miraculously DOES feel
attraction to you in spite of your lack of
leadership in the interaction, she will NOT
make the 'seduction' happen.

See? As a guy, you hold tremendous power,
because only YOU can make it happen.

And, she WANTS the man to make it happen,
because if SHE has to make it happen,
the whole male-female dynamic loses
that primal spark.

Being a man, you must lead her.
That doesn’t mean being A CAVEMAN.

Think Bond, not Neanderthal.

Because you sure as heck cannot just DRAG
her away.

But if I, for example, have a playful game
I want to play with a woman, it serves as
a fun reason to separate her from her friends.
BUT MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT,
it’s not just the game, it’s the DOMINANCE
and the congruence behind the very way
I suggest to play the game. I don’t NEED
to make it a game, I could use any of a
thousand pretexts DEPENDING on the
situation. For example, it could be that
it’s too noisy and we need to move
“over there”.

And there are about a thousand other
obstacles that could come between you
and the girl, including anything from
her friends saying “We’re are all going
to dance”, to her cell phone going off,
to the fact that she and her friends
are all leaving at the moment.

You HAVE TO OVER-RIDE all of this,
in a CALM demeanor, while MAINTAINING
the fun vibe, and the DOMINANT frame.

And in many ways, dominance, done
RIGHT, and NOT in a controlling obsessive
manner, is critical throughout any interaction
or relationship you will have with women.

Many times, I’ll be in a conversation with
a girl that I just met, and her girlfriends will
be doing their job of taking her away, and
by handling the situation right, they will
go away, and when they come back the
second time for a repeat attempt at stealing
their girlfriend back, (which is kinda funny)
the girl herself will actually tell her friends,
“No, it’s okay, it’s good”, and that of course
is the best way to take care of her friends,
when she herself tells her friends that all is
well and that any more interference is no longer
desired. (This also is partially due to cognitive
dissonance, which I explain in my book in
great detail.)

5. INNER GAME RULES!

Now, the amazing thing is that if you have
the right STATE OF MIND, which means
not only confidence, but also a state of mind
that is playful, fun, has energy, is curious,
and a state of mind that can tap into all
the wonders of your creativity—well, this
overall state of mind, this inner game
TRULY can do wonders.

Your INNER GAME affects REALITY,
it affects the outer world, because your
INNER game will be PROJECTED onto
reality. You are what you THINK you
are, and it’s not a cliché, the only reason
people think it’s a cliché is because the
folks they heard the cliché from weren’t
practicing what they preach. So it seemed
to not hold truth. But trust me, inner
game is HUUUUUUUUUUUUGE.

For example, most people truly prefer
BRAND NAMES when it comes to
things, like food for example. They
actually say it TASTES BETTER.
But in a recent survey in a supermarket,
in blind taste tests, for TONS of products,
people actually said the GENERIC brand
tasted just as good, if not better!!!!!

They actually PREFERRED THE TASTE
OF THE GENERIC BRAND THAT THEY
PREVIOUSLY SWORE TASTED WORSE.

As long as they DIDN’T know which
brand was which.

But yet every day, billions of people all over
the world, due to the power of PROJECTION,
prefer to choose the brand that more effectively
PROJECTS better taste, even if it is not better,
in fact even if it is worse, i.e. the NAME BRAND.

This is the power of projection and BELIEF.

Because of the superior projection of the name
brand, the people BELIEVE it tastes better, so
it DOES to them.

So you can really start to see that your
reality is not so static, a LOT depends on
your own self perception and what you
project.

So, inner game, your inner vibe, the emotions
you feel inside of you, are a MAJOR factor.
Avoid negative self concepts and negative
emotions like the plague, and learn to avoid
or bounce back from the negative forces of
people around you.

You will project what you believe, and if you believe
you don’t have what it takes to attract the kind
of women you want, women will then feel it’s true,
but if your inner game is TIGHT, and you believe
you DO have what it takes, you will project THAT
reality and it will seem OBVIOUS to everyone that
you indeed are the sh(*!

Getting real results tends to happen with a
COMBINATION of:

1. Unbeatable 'INNER GAME'.

2. Learning the best immediate actions
to take when you see a woman you want
to attract ('OUTER GAME').

3. Understanding the way women think
as a result of our culture and women's
own biology.

4. Mastering deeper communication, so
that you can also KEEP a woman attracted
long-term.

With THIS combination, you can actually
start to ENJOY the whole process of
meeting women because it's going to
generate RESULTS.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks