Get ready for the MOTHERLOAD of
truths when it comes to understanding
the "chemistry" aka ATTRACTION that a
woman feels for a man.
1. The REALITY is, that as a result of culture,
(and possibly biology) men and women are
DIFFERENT in what gives them SELF-ESTEEM.
2. Our desire for SELF-ESTEEM is by FAR
(I’m talking LIGHT YEARS) our greatest
psychological desire, and is the REAL root
behind ANY attraction to ANYTHING.
(aside from wanting food, water, air, shelter,
etc. for physical survival).
3. Men and women have been brainwashed to
believe that self-worth is REALLY based on
getting the sexual interest of at least one person
of the opposite gender who society considers the
“best”. That is why we tend to go to EXTREMES
to accomplish this, even though it makes no sense,
as no matter WHAT anyone else thinks of you,
you are still the exact same YOU.
These three points are KEY to understanding how
to attract any woman, as you will soon see.
I could go on about differences between men and
women, but I want to focus on a REAL BIG ONE.
The MOTHER principle, so to speak, which is:
THE SOCIALLY DEFINED
CHARACTERISITIC OF
SUPERIORITY FOR MEN
(which is what women are attracted to in men)
vs.
THE SOCIALLY DEFINED
CHARACTERISTIC OF
SUPERIORITY FOR WOMEN
(which is what men are attracted to in women)
For most men, they want a SEXY LOOKING
woman who will be GOOD to them. A woman
who is the CURRENT version of sexy.
A woman’s LOOKS are basically her social value.
Sad to say, but true for the most part, not including
her immediate family and friends.
Men want this from women so that men can feel
GOOD about themselves.
Men want this because they are BRAINWASHED.
Of course they are brainwashed.
You didn’t know this?
Hey, look at the women considered sexy a few
generations ago. Look at the women considered
sexy at the time of the Titanic. And go back
even further.
Our BIOLOGY cannot POSSIBLY have changed
in SO LITTLE TIME. Evolution does not work
that fast. (Evolution DOES have a DIFFERENT role
in attraction, but this is another topic.)
It’s PURE CULTURAL BRAINWASHING.
The women that were sexy THEN would NEVER
be featured on a fashion runway today or in a
magazine today.
So you see, BASICALLY, men have been
brainwashed to BELIEVE that SELF-WORTH
comes from having the exclusive sexual interest
of a woman who resembles the general trend of
what is considered a SEXY LOOKING WOMAN.
That is what is considered the PROOF to a
guy that he is “superior” and that he is “allowed”
to then feel self-esteem.
That’s what the CULTURE keeps on telling men.
It’s got NOTHING to do with sex.
It’s got EVERYTHING to do with validation
and the need to achieve self-esteem.
If it was just about sex, then guys could be
happy with sexing any woman. If it was just
about LOVE, then guys would be happy with the
love of a culturally-considered “ugly” woman.
So you see it’s not about love.
And it’s NOT about sex.
It IS about validation.
Guys are brought up to believe that the SUPERIOR
guy gets a CULTURALLY LABELED SEXY woman, (as long
as she has the waist-to-hip ratio of .7 that in
fact is 'HARDWIRED' into the male brain's sense
of female beauty - but remember, this is a RATIO,
it has nothing to do with being really slim or not.)
So if he DOESN’T get this woman, or women,
(most guys just want the one sexy woman but
some want more) he feels INFERIOR.
*Kaput* to his self-esteem.
He will do ANYTHING to get this kind of sexy
woman, because his SELF-WORTH has been
made to DEPEND on it.
Isn’t it freaky to realize what is going on here?
Guys killing themselves over an ARBITRARY thing.
Understanding this requires understanding the
DIFFERENCE here in how men are socialized
vs. how women are socialized.
So for MEN it works like this:
MEN are brainwashed to want a woman
who is socially labeled as HOT.
But it has NOTHING to do with sex or love.
It has EVERYTHING to do with SELF-WORTH.
And once SELF-WORTH is brought into the
equation, you could attach self worth to ANYTHING.
Including to shape what you consider sexy.
Because SELF-WORTH is EVERYTHING.
You can AFFECT an entire NATION by
raising their feelings of SELF-WORTH.
It is pretty common knowledge now that
Ronald Reagan’s economic policies of
trickle down wealth from the rich to the
poor were a FAILURE, but yet the poor
class LOVED him still because he RAISED
the spirits of the NATION. He made
an entire country feel PROUD.
People want to feel good about themselves,
period. Not just good folks. Even criminals
try to RATIONALIZE to themselves why
they are actually worthy people.
Marketing is ALL ABOUT attaching feelings of
SELF-WORTH to arbitrary products/services.
That's how cigarrettes got sold, because
they certainly weren't sold because they
made people cough and gave them horrible
breath.
EMOTIONS always tend to triumph over LOGIC.
And the emotion of SELF-ESTEEM is the most
POWERFUL of all emotions.
Self-worth is so powerful that if our culture decided
that WOMEN with more fat on them were sexier
and that superior guys should get these women,
I SWEAR that slim women would lose all appeal.
Actually, this DID happen already in history.
Why am I harping on about this?
Because I want you to see how ridiculous we are
before you start laughing at how ridiculous women
are, as I am about to now explain:
CULTURALLY, women are brainwashed to believe
that self-worth requires getting a MAN that society
deems is SUPERIOR. And society basically says
that for men, looks are PART of his social status,
but not even CLOSE to being the whole thing as
it is for women.
Now, don’t get me WRONG here.
Women are NOT stupid.
It’s not like they can’t RECOGNIZE a “good-looking”
guy, it's not like women don't have their own
version of strip-clubs, etc - HOWEVER, it is
MASSIVELY OBVIOUS that they don’t CARE AS MUCH
about it as men do regarding women.
For example, there are probably DOZENS of
strip clubs in any major city for straight men,
and probably just one or two for straight women,
and all this is WITH a society where women
are so liberated that a show like Sex and
The City doesn't even raise eyebrows, and
Lady Gaga's craziest antics are now a bore.
So we know that if women WANTED more
things like strip clubs or whatever,
they would HAVE them, there is NO
stigma or repression or anything
like that anymore.
It’s not a woman's PRIORITY in her life.
This does NOT make women more moral at all.
It just means that women have something ELSE
that they care about as their PRIORITY:
STATUS/IMAGE/HOW SOCIETY THINKS OF THEM.
All these things are basically the same thing.
Why do girls genuinely FANTASIZE about becoming
a PRINCESS instead of just winning the lottery?
The answer is because one of these things
gives a FEEEEEELING, and the other is just
a dry logical fact.
Just think of how the recent Royal Wedding
is just about every girl's fantasy, but
it's not ANY guy's fantasy.
Women are so massively conscious about what
people think of them. I can remember every
girl I’ve ever known or dated, they were
ALL like this. The only difference is that
the GOOD girls had some LOGIC to counter this
emotion, whereas most girls just give in to
the emotional pressure.
The good news is that any guy can GIVE
a woman the FEELINGS she craves, the
feelings of being with a man who is
her "Knight" or "Prince" or, to be
blunt as I've said since day one,
her MAN.
The more you behave as THE MAN, the
more she feels like THE WOMAN.
This polarity makes her feel protected,
makes her feel desirable, makes her
feel WORTHY.
And it's your BEHAVIOR that is most
responsible for giving her these
feelings.
In fact, even if a guy HAS a high status
"job" in society, and even if he IS a
prince or king in FACT, he has to make
sure that he does not SCREW IT UP with
LOW STATUS BEHAVIOURS that make her FEEL
that he is LOW STATUS.
So you want to be conveying things about
you that reflect HIGH STATUS without being
arrogant or a jerk, and here are just a
FEW examples:
Authority.
Emotionally in control.
Not an ass-kisser.
Confident humor.
Comfort with women.
And here's one of the BIGGEST
signs of having high status:
Being comfortable NOT reacting to everything
around you i.e. not feeling the need to qualify
yourself/defend yourself/seek approval.
Notice how when one feels INSECURE
and LOW STATUS, they need to REACT
a lot to everything or anything
anyone says, and they also tend
to seek approval a lot.
The cool thing about these behaviors are
that they are actually HEALTHY ways to
BE! So this is not like you are turning
yourself into something "fake" or "bad"
but rather you are becoming the man
you were BORN to be, minus all the
stuff that brings you down!
When you show the right behaviors,
you exude the VIBE that gets women
feeling excited about you in the
particular way that WOMEN get turned
on about MEN.
There's not point trying to RUN away
from these facts, and the way women
get attracted to men is no more insane
than the way men also are affected by
culture in terms of what men are
attracted to in women.
On the deepest levels, this all has
almost nothing to do with the physical
and EVERYTHING to do with the psychological.
Here's more proof:
Most guys would rather KNOW that a woman who
was “attractive” WANTED THEM, even if it meant
NOT having sex, rather than HAVING SEX with
a woman who was “not attractive”.
It just FEELS good for him to have
that THOUGHT.
The guy feels like a WINNER because
she WANTS him.
Same thing with a woman.
She gets the guy who behaves in the
ATTRACTIVE WAYS, and now she feels
fantastic, and THIS now connects
to the sex part of her brain.
The IRONY of it all is that good guys
spend so much energy trying to PLEASE women,
that they make women “the prize” and in
the process they make it clear to women
that it's WOMEN who are the "PRIZE"
and that it's the men who are WORTHLESS
without this "PRIZE"-- SO THEREFORE
ANY WOMAN WHO GOES WITH THIS GUY IS
GOING TO LOWER HER OWN VALUE!
Now, none of this happens CONSCIOUSLY,
as I said right at the beginning.
This is a FEELING that she is getting
on a subconscious level, the same
way you don't THINK that your body
needs the chemical breakdown of
vitamins and nutrients when you
are hungry but rather you might just
be thinking PIZZA or whatever it is
that you FEEL on a primal deep level.
And for the greatest success with
women, you don't want to just be
changing your ACTIONS AND BEHAVIORS,
(your "outer game" so to speak) but
ALSO you want to be changing your
INNER CORE "GUT" SENSE OF STATUS
AND EMPOWERMENT.
My 'Warrior Within' DVD Set will show
you BOTH, in depth and with total clarity,
and on TOP of this, it will ALSO show you
TONS of crucial insights for HONING your
edge when it comes to making that initial
approach to a woman, skyrocketing your
sense of confident humor, getting physical,
AND it will also show you how to BUILD A
SUPREMELY POWERFUL CONNECTION
AND TRUST with a woman:
Once a woman feels this level of TRUST,
she becomes a lot more relaxed about her
sense of self, SHE FEELS GOOD BEING HERSELF
AROUND YOU, which is the ultimate goal and
the highest level of attraction.
My Warrior Within DVD Set will show you
EXACTLY HOW to do all this, and it's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
So many guys try to do things the
OPPOSITE way, they try get a woman
to BELIEVE in them, so that they can
get the SELF-ESTEEM they need to
succeed in life.
I used to be like this, and I all I got was
MASSIVE ABUSE from women. I wanted
a woman to believe in me so badly, I knew
I had so much to offer in so many different
creative endeavors, but I was too depressed
to unleash my power and potential because
I wanted approval from an attractive woman.
And of course, that never works, that just
pushes women away because it looks needy.
LOW STATUS, INFERIOR.
Until I got to the point that I stopped WANTING
affection from women that were attractive,
because I actually believed that attractive women
were NOT affectionate. So I started treating them
the way I felt about them, which was that they
weren’t very good people. I didn’t smile at them,
I didn’t try to make them feel good, I didn’t
do anything nice for them, I just basically
tried to give them a hard time, teasing them
the way I would to someone I didn’t think
was above me. I would stop asking women
things, and just start basically being more
in control, like telling a woman to come
with me instead of asking her, etc etc.
And it was NUTS.
Because women started responding like CRAZY.
I would tell women on the first date that I thought
things wouldn’t work out because her personality
wasn’t right for me (and I meant it) and I would
get them protesting that I should call them.
All this stuff that I was learning REALLY pissed
me off, because it confirmed what every jerk
had told me since day one, that women who
are attractive have to be treated badly.
I HATED IT.
I wanted the DISNEY ROMANCE!!!!!!
I wanted the NICE girl who liked me because of
all the GOOD things about me.
The fact that I cared about the homeless, etc.
Nada.
It would never happen that way.
Women want the SUPERIOR guy, and that’s it.
It was around that time that I started to make
this whole thing the focus of my life, and I
learned how to be successful with women withOUT
being abusive - as I learned that it wasn't
the ABUSE that was attractive, it was the
VIBES OF POWER being sent out.
In fact, even WARMTH can be expressed
in a way that exudes power as well,
and this is essential if you want
to keep a woman around long-term.
You have to remember, it’s a DIFFERENT
perspective that women have of what is
desirable in a man, than what MEN want
in a woman. For all kinds of reasons.
As a GUY, you have to remember that women
are NOT the same and so you have to know
what WOMEN consider worthy, not what
YOU would think women want.
And if you would like to get your choice of the
very best women on the planet, I recommend you
take advantage of my 'Warrior Within' DVD Set
IMMEDIATELY, at:
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To get the BEST women on earth, you want
to project AWESOME DRAMA, awesome emotions,
joy, laughter, power, sensuality in EVERY
move you make.
Does your body language project WEAKNESS?
Do your inner beliefs, which are projected through
everything you do, project DULLNESS? INFERIORITY?
Does your sense of humor only put you down?
Does your communication imply BITTERNESS?
Get your ENTIRE 'GAME' TOGETHER, both
inside and out, for the ULTIMATE success
with the women of your choice, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven’t yet read my very
first book, The Dating Wizard, do that
now, it's where the journey starts and
it will change your LIFE:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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