Rather than the cheesy "player" style
interactions that actually push quality
women away, here are 7 classy ways to
approach and attract quality women:
1. THE MUTUAL COMPLIMENT
This means that your message is saying something
cool about BOTH of you- the woman AND yourself.
For example, let’s say you are chatting with a
woman you just met, and you tell her that you
can see she has great taste in men. This is
saying something positive to her, but it’s
also pretty damn confident of yourself to
say this as well, and it’s funny too.
So you’ve done 3 things at once, all in a span
of just a few seconds and few words.
This is similar to, before kissing a woman, telling
her that you can tell a lot about a woman from the
way she kisses. When she asks “what do you mean”
you say, “Well, for example, you can tell if she
is really passionately into you, or if it’s just about
the money.” Then, you proceed to kiss her, and
when you pull away, you give her a mischeavous
grin and say “Definitely, you’re not about the
money.”
So again, you’ve said something cool about her,
and about yourself.
2. DON’T ACCEPT A SHRED OF DISRESPECT
This is a big one too. As soon as you play even
a BIT of the “head games” with a woman, or as
soon as you ACCEPT even a bit of this, it’s
the beginning of the end of the whole connection.
The single greatest factor behind ALL these
head games is INSECURITY. Giving into it,
whether you decide to give her a taste of her
own medicine, or you accept it from her, it
all just FEEDS more of this insecurity.
There is no way to WIN with someone who
plays these games, the only way to WIN is
to get the heck out.
In my relationships, I NEVER play any games.
There’s nothing like the TRUST that is built
upon this foundation. And any woman who
doesn’t APPRECIATE this is going to be
a serious problem that you are best off
AVOIDING to begin with.
I learned these lessons the hard way, I used to
try all the “pick up artist” tactics and it wreaked
HAVOC with my relationships, it ruined everything.
And of course, the flip side to all this, is that
the lack of games is INSTANTLY appreciated
by the RIGHT kinds of women, because they
know how RARE this is.
And it’s understood by these women as a sign
of your STRENGTH, because all games are
a sign of insecurity, and the lack of games is
a sign of massive strength and conviction in
yourself.
3. KEEP INITIAL COMMENTS ONLINE
BRIEF BUT PERSONAL
I personally prefer to meet women in the
real world from regular life, but if you are
doing online dating, then make sure to
keep your initial email BRIEF but PERSONAL.
Think about it from her perspective:
If she’s an attractive woman, she probably gets
TOO MANY emails from guys, including a lot
of desperate guys.
She DOES want to meet the right guy, but the
first signal that goes off in her head from a
huge long email from some random guy is
that this guy is somehow desperate and can’t
meet women in real life, so he’s putting all
his eggs in one basket.
The other problem is when the email he sends
is not PERSONALIZED at all. It doesn’t
indicate anything unique about his personality and
it doesn’t indicate he actually read her profile
at all either. By the way, don’t spend TOO
much time reading her profile unless it
really stands out herself, chances are she
said things like she enjoys travelling, and
other things that every single girl on the
planet says, that don’t indicate anything
really important about her individuality.
And when I say to indicate your personality,
that means to create the FEELING of
what you are, don’t just say you’re a
funny guy, if you are funny, then make
a damn good joke. If you are a very
creative guy, then make your email
creative, don’t just send a generic
email. From your subject line to t
the content DEFY THE STANDARD
CONVENTIONS OF ONLINE DATING.
For example, you can write something as
a joke, and say you were just released from
jail and not interested in re-hooking up with
your ex-wives and your 30 grand-kids, and
then say “just kidding”, before you get into
who you really are, etc.
4. TAKE ACTION RIGHT AWAY
This is another thing that seems to defy normal
logic. I’m not saying you have to sleep with women
right away, (in fact, I advise AGAINST it) but
rather the key is not to think” Hmmm, I know
this girl, I’ll chat to her for a few weeks, then
ask for her number, then, wait a week, then
call her, then maybe talk some more for a
few months, then maybe get to bed, then
maybe a relationship, etc, etc.
Reality doesn’t work like that.
It’s based on MOMENTUM.
So if you like a woman, GO FOR IT NOW,
get her number, go our for coffee THIS
WEEK, and if you like her and you share
things in common on a deep level, then
go to the next level.
If you meet a woman at a party, don’t think
“I chatted to her for a few minutes, so let’s
not ruin this, I’ll come back later for her
and then I’ll ask for her number”.
If you like her and she likes you, then get
her number NOW. If you’re on a date
with her, and the vibe is great, then don’t
wait till LATER to kiss her, you can kiss
her NOW.
Keep in mind, all this is coming NOT from
a needy sense, but from a sense of CONFIDENCE.
If you are truly delaying something because
you KNOW it will be better if you wait, that’s
one thing, but 99% of the time, I see guys
HESITATING out of lack of belief, rather
than out of a true sense of making greater
impact by perfect timing.
5. THINGS ARE NOT BLACK AND WHITE
To make things EASIER on ourselves, and to
spare ourselves from having to feel like we
need to take action, we LIE to ourselves by
painting things as black and white.
For example: “That party is stupid. House
parties are stupid. I’m not going to that
party, you can’t meet ANYONE there.”
Those kinds of statements, based on generalizations,
will prevent you from meeting and attracting the
women you want.
If you go to the bookstore one day and there
weren’t a lot of women there, that doesn’t mean
you can’t meet women at the bookstore- it might
mean that you went to the WRONG bookstore
in a deserted area of town, or that you went at
the wrong time. Because you absolutely can
meet women at the bookstore. But telling
ourselves lies is a great way to rationalize
why we aren’t doing anything to actually
take ACTION.
Things are also not always black and white
in your interactions with a woman – if she
said something that hurt your feelings, maybe
it’s not exactly like you think. Maybe it is,
but maybe it’s not. So remember, emotions
are dangerous, and when we feel we might
be hurt, we take ACTION to prevent that
pain.
That’s what emotions do- they prompt us
to take ACTION.
Think about it- almost every time you actually
TAKE any action, it’s EMOTIONALLY
fueled. Watching TV, feels good. Feeling
hungry? You go eat. Tired? You want to
go sleep. Feeling horny? You want sex.
Feeling like you might get REJECTED?
Then you make sure to take the action
that will SPARE you that rejection,
and the action that will spare you that
rejection is saying things like:
“All women are gold-diggers”
“You can’t meet women anywhere”
“It’s all a waste of time”.
That way, you can make sure to never
take any action and be spared any
emotional pain.
So beware of how emotions are leading to
BLACK AND WHITE thinking, because
it’s one of the silent DESTROYERS, since
we don’t even realize we are brainwashing
ourselves and telling lies to ourselves.
6. IF YOU’RE ONLINE, COME UP WITH
A COOL NAME
The first thing besides your picture they’ll
see, and if you have no pic then it’s DEFINITELY
the first thing they’ll see, is your online NAME.
So you need to stand out in a cool way.
One trick is to think of some good music albums
that haven’t been OVERPLAYED recently
in pop culture, and then be a bit creative with
that.
So for example:
“NO JACKET REQUIRED”.
You might take that and go serious with that,
and follow with a profile that is all about
being yourself and being comfortable with
who you are and how you want a woman who
is the same, or you might take a comedic
route if that is your nature and jokingly
write:
“NO CLASS REQUIRED”
And then proceed to have a quick, but funny profile
saying what a hillbilly you are, that totally shows
you are NOT trying to qualify yourself, which
will get a lot of women laughing.
Then, after the playful bit, you might have a
few brief but powerful sentences that actually
gets down to business with what you like
and what you don’t. i.e. You might say that
the one thing that IS required is HONESTY.
That you learned in hillbilly school that
being HONEST is the one thing that counts,
in between sessions of eating mud-pies.
7. PLAYFUL CHILDHOOD REGRESSION
Natural primal communication is actually quite
CHILD-LIKE.
And the kind of communication that sparks attraction
and emotion often stems from allowing her to
enter this CHILD-LIKE STATE.
When we are in all ADULT AND FORMAL mode,
we BLOCK ourselves from actually feeling GOOD.
We’re in LOGICAL mode.
But when you start to chat about FUN stuff that
links back to CHILDHOOD, it’s an INNOCENT
way to actually get her to be more of an ADULT
in a flirty sense.
Devious, huh?
But all in a good way, when done responsibly.
You have to understand that you are trying to
achieve a lot in a little time with a woman who
is a total stranger, and to bypass all the logic
barriers that are normally in place.
So, for example, asking her who she’d rather
marry, Fred Flintstone or Barney Rubble,
and to give you the reasons why, or chatting
with her in the supermarket about how you
two can steal the cereal boxes and get all
the toys inside, will get her imagination
and mind into a more PLAYFUL state
and instead of looking at you as the next
pyscho, you are now both playing.
And the reality is that great sexual chemistry
is very much linked to playing as well, even
when it gets aggressive, it’s like aggressive
playing. It’s saying the heck with all the
“serious” stuff of the world and let’s just
enjoy and relax what comes naturally.
Of course, I get into all this on a way
deeper level in my materials.
In fact, you could playfully say to a woman
that if she doesn’t know who Cookie Monster
is, or if she doesn’t watch Sesame Street,
that she’s too advanced for you.
This is a heck of a lot cooler than what
most guys do, trying so damn hard to
show how “cool” they are and how much
money they make, and what societies
they belong to, etc.
The great thing about being playful is
that it allows you to say things that are
true and yet not have to be completely
taken seriously. So it keeps the vibe
fun and honest rather than formal and
pretentious.
And if you want get the FULL PICTURE to
truly MASTER the skill of attracting
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Attracting the RIGHT woman in the first
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the PROBLEMS that come from getting
the WRONG woman.
From having far more exciting times
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And my WARRIOR WITHIN DVD Set
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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