Women don't want a man who is their EQUAL.
You want to know the reason for this?
Not only is it because women want a man
who is more dominant than them, but also
because it's human nature to only get
EXCITED when we are getting MORE
than what is "FAIR".
No woman, and no man, feels EXCITED about
attracting what they expect they already SHOULD
BE GETTING.
Sad?
Maybe.
True?
Absolutely.
When was the last time you got EXCITED
about a girl you felt was EASY for you
to get, because you could get LOTS of
girls like her?
See what I mean?
This is why, she must be feeling that
you are BETTER than she DESERVES.
Now, keep in mind, that most men, when
they approach women, don't even come
across as EQUALS, (never mind SUPERIOR value)
as they kiss up and HOPE to God that the
woman will LIKE them.
More on superior value in a moment.
Now, for being 'THE MAN': 'The Man' is a
term I use to refer to a combination of
virtue, superiority and masculinity,
and it relates to every single aspect
of your interactions with a woman, from
the moment you meet her till your last
moment on earth with her.
In the last few decades, there has been a gradual
EROSION of masculinity from men’s behaviour,
which all started because men were made to feel
GUILTY about being men and even having
sexual desire.
On TOP of that, women were SIMULTANEOUSLY
told to “use girl power” etc., etc., and to have “fun”,
etc., etc., but GUYS were DEAF to this, because of
the GUILT they were fed. It was as if men IGNORED
this and only listened to the “boo hoo women are
being treated so badly” stories.
Now there is no one person or movement to blame,
it’s far more complex than that, because a lot of
these things (feminism) STARTED with good intentions
but then went COMPLETELY WRONG. Kind of like
Frankenstein.
The thing is, at least a long time ago,
men were getting BALANCE in RETURN
for treating a woman "like a lady".
A man gave to a woman, and a woman
gave back to a man.
It's only human nature, though, to
become spoiled if there is no reason
NOT to become spoiled.
So if a woman gets plenty from NOT
giving back to a guy, why would she
start to give back to him?
It seems as if guys have forgotten
that these days, guys get NOTHING in
return for GIVING away their affection
or anything else so freely, especially
to women who are stunning.
Because no one has TOLD guys to change
their strategy, guys still believe that the
old strategy makes sense even though
REALITY IS CRASHING DOWN ON THEM,
guys still refuse to change their deep rooted belief
that the way to succeed with women is to kiss up.
When you BELIEVE in something, then
ALL EVIDENCE to the contrary won’t mean
jack sh*&, because your mind will just find a
way to interpret it according to your perspective
of the world.
So guys basically DIDN’T BELIEVE all the
REALITIES that were REALLY happening
with women, whether it was women having
bachelorette parties that would put Hugh
Hefner to shame, whether it was women
cheating, etc.
Guys just kept on treating women not only
as EQUALS, but as SUPERIORS. Yes,
SUPERIORS, because given the fact
that women were now (post 1950’s) doing
LESS AND LESS and finally NOTHING
for men, and yet men were STILL kissing
up to women MORE AND MORE, well,
THAT in fact is a definite SUPERIORITY
for women.
And like I always say, superiority is the
essence of attraction.
This is a FACT.
We don't just want "equal" to what we
give, human nature is to want MORE.
THAT'S when we feel great, when we
get MORE than we expect.
And the INSANITY of all this, is that it’s
all based on nothing TANGIBLE. It’s
just based on ASSUMPTIONS which
came to hold the power of BELIEFS.
And in fact, it’s based on WRONG
assumption and wrong beliefs. Like the
idea that men are somehow animals, and women
saints. Or that women are morally superior
to men. Or that women don’t like sex. Or
that somehow a man “should” show a woman
that HE is a good man, before SHE shows
him she is a good woman.
All that stuff came from a time when women
HAD NO POWER. It’s RIDICULOUS
today, and turns men into SITTING DUCKS
just waiting to be taken advantage of and
abused.
I seriously can’t understand how this isn’t
ABSOLUTE COMMON KNOWLEDGE by today.
My guess is that the only reason there isn’t some
MEN’S liberation movement is because men
are concerned it will sound pathetic. This
is DEFINITELY the reason most men
tend to stay silent even when they are
being abused by women.
MEN are SUPPOSED to already be dominant,
so as men, as a gender, we feel this pressure
to not SHARE our pain or REPORT it because
there's this perception that men don't get
these problems, when in fact as a gender
we DO.
Hey, here's one strategy for taking ACTION
if you are currently not approaching women
and you WANT to be able to approach:
NAME THE VOICE
Do this right now.
Yes, NAME the voice within you that is
always telling you NOT TO APPROACH.
Whatever that voice is saying, give it a NAME.
So if the voice inside you is saying "Don't
do it, she will NOT want to be approached,
and she will get UPSET, and so therefore
I am trying to protect you from her getting
UPSET at you"...then call this voice the
"TRYING TO SAVE ME VOICE".
The key here, is by giving this voice a name,
you start to realize this is not YOU, it's
something ELSE, it's not Jim, Bob, or
Harry, or Mark, or whatever your name
is, it's "TRYING TO SAVE ME VOICE".
Now, the next step, is, for you to
SPEAK to this voice, and tell it
something like:
"Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me,
but I'm going to TAKE ACTION ANYWAY".
You can even get PISSED OFF at the voice,
and tell it "LISTEN, I HEARD YOU, AND
I'M GOING TO TALK TO HER ANYWAY,
YOU IDIOT!! YOU'RE NOT HELPING ME
EVEN THOUGH YOU THINK YOU ARE!!!!"
The key here is that all this helps you REALIZE
it's not YOU, it's just one tiny PART of who
you are, that is actually in CONFLICT with
the GREATER PART of who you are
that knows you SHOULD approach because
the truth is that most women will NOT
get upset, and that you will only GET
BETTER at this from taking action,
and that in fact REBELLING AGAINST
THE VOICE ....MAKES YOU BECOME
SO MUCH MORE EMPOWERED AND
ATTRACTIVE!!
By the way, this is just a super-condensed
version of this exercise that you will learn
in FULL DETAIL in my Warrior Within
program.
Here's another crucial tip:
Power and Value are not conveyed by acting like
a jerk, or by acting cold or hard-to-get.
All those things arevery ARTIFICIAL and inneffective
way of TRYING HARD to appear to be "in demand".
Trying hard itself is UNCOOL and unattractive, and
to be honest, is plain hard work and not fun!
The REAL ANSWER is to UNLEASH the inner
INFINITE POWER vibes that are already
IN you, that make you EMPOWERED, FUN,
SENSUAL, AND PLAYFUL ALL AT ONCE!
In fact, if a guy comes across as ANGRY
at women, or angry about things, he is
not only showing that obviously he is not
GETTING results with women, (which is
in a way showing lack of value on a
subconscious level) he he is also
DESTROYING the FUN VIBES that are
so attractive to women and that are
so important to escalating the interaction
to a more sensual level.
The bottom line is that women are KICKING GUYS’S
asses today like never before!!!!!!!
And like I said, it’s all the result of men THINKING
it has to be this way and continuing their behaviors.
By the way, a quick tip:
The FASTEST way for CHANGING the way women
percieve you upon the first approach, and for changing
the way you FEEL internally, is to start taking small
social risks and get pumped from the ADRENALINE
of that risk!
You must take a certain amount of RISK in your VERBAL
and NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION.
This applies to everything, including your humor:
If it is TOTALLY "SAFE" WILL
BE BORING AND NOT FUN!
You can't be FUNNY or PLAYFUL or witty
if you are SO FOCUSED ON AVOIDING
ANY POTENTIAL NEGATIVE REACTION.
ALL great humor ALWAYS involves some
RISK, that it might not be taken the
right way, but that is why you learn
how to use humor WISELY:
For example, always have something REDEEMING
built into your humor, even as it might also be a bit
TEASING in a non-malicious way.
So, for example, if you meet a knockout,
and you wave a chocolate bar in front
of her face, and tell her:
"I bet you haven't eaten one of these in a loooong
time"
Then, you PAUSE...and say:
"I mean that you haven't eaten one without
throwing it up!!"
Now, that's FUNNY but it also takes
a RISK, however MOST women will GET
it that this is ALL a comment that really
is based on the fact she is in GREAT SHAPE
and slim.
Which, in our society, is a compliment,
for better or for worse. So you haven't
REALLY lowered her status, in a way
you've confirmed that she indeed IS
high status, but you've also poked fun
at her at the same time.
THAT is effective humor.
So the idea here is that clearly you
are joking, and it's still still a
compliment, because it could not
be said to a woman who seemed out
of shape.
You have to adjust your humor depending
on the degree of confidence you feel the
woman would have about the thing you
are joking about with her.
If a guy said this to a woman who was
NOT in shape, it would be plain MEAN
and show that he has zero social intelligence,
and social intelligence is MASSIVELY
important in getting ANY woman.
This is humor must be adjusted depending on
who is the recipient.
And yet most men are all so obsessed
with making sure they are "NOT OFFENDING"
THAT THEY BASICALLY CASTRATE THEMSELVES
IN FRONT OF ATTRACTIVE WOMEN.
If you play it totally SAFE, you can't even
be INTRIGUING, because you might
worry that she will find what you are
talking about to NOT be intriguing!
In the same way that jet-skiing, white water
rafting, and even riding a BICYCLE the
first time was taking A RISK but was
FUN and WORTH IT!
Yes, YOU must be having a great time
AS you do the approaches to women, AS
you escalate the interaction, as you
get physical, etc, etc.
So here's a strategy to try out
next time you are about to approach
a woman:
ACT AS IF SHE JUST MADE LOVE TO YOU
AND IS BEGGING FOR A SECOND AND THIRD
TIME WITH YOU AND SHE JUST KEEPS ON
GIGGLING AND SMILING WITH THAT "GIRL
IN LOVE" LOOK AT YOU!
And imagine she keeps on shaking her
booty at you, trying so hard to get
your attention because she is afraid
to lose it!!!
How would you feel INTERNALLY if THIS
was the situation?
Would you not be LAUGHING???
Would you not be SMILING???
Would you not be feeling a lot BETTER
about the idea of being playful?
Imagine how YOU would be feeling IF
that was what just happened.
THIS "vibe" is what must be inside of you.
THIS is what we develop as well in my
program "Warrior Within".
It's crucial that you don't take the
facts of the situation to become
ANGRY with women, but rather to become
FUN and empowered and sensual and
intriguing, which is MUCH EASIER
to do when you ARE feeling those
vibes of empowerment.
Women can't HELP but feel attraction
to these vibes.
Society is NOT going to change overnight.
But YOU can make things change for YOURSELF,
by USURPING almost every single thing that women's
"empowering movements" are doing AND using it
for YOURSELF.
Women act standoffish to your approach?
The only reason they are doing that is because
you are approaching them in a way that makes
them feel as if YOU are worthless and as if
THEY are superior, OR it's happening because
humans feel what others are feeling, and if
you are really nervous, you are making her
nervous as well.
ALL this changes when you start RECLAIMING
YOUR OWN POWER AND STOP FOCUSING ON HOW
TO KISS UP!
Attraction is about PERCEPTION.
Women tend to THINK they are the ones with the power.
So they act that way, and most guys get SWALLOWED
up into that frame, thereby REINFORCING women’s
self-concepts and DESTROYING their (men’s) OWN
self concepts as men get SHOT DOWN over and over
again.
This whole PERCEPTION has to change in your mind.
Your whole "GUT FEELING" about who really has the power,
has to CHANGE in your mind. Otherwise, this feeling will
keep on showing through your body language, and women
will DETECT it and feel that THEY are superior to you, and
that you are just not worth their time.
You have to get the SKILLS to EFFECTIVELY
send the message that you are worth MORE
than them.
EQUAL DOESN’T CUT IT!!
Human nature is to want more.
This is why you need to have the SKILLS
to convey SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE.
This doesn’t mean acting like a jerk.
In fact, it means acting INSANELY COMFORTABLE
and INSANELY CONFIDENT, and in certain
environments like clubs, it means that you also have
to start off very PLAYFUL, otherwise you obviously
are desperate, because if you are not in a good mood
in a club, where you are supposed to be happy, you
are obviously only there to meet women, and apparently
not being successful since you are not happy and playful,
which means LOSER).
Remember, if you REALLY knew you were desired,
if you REALLY knew you had the worth, THAT’S
how you would feel.
If you want to CHANGE your life, this INSANITY of
even THINKING that women have all the power must
stop. Your THOUGHTS are given CONCRETE FORM
in your behaviours, and women WILL detect them
the same way anyone can detect desperation or
someone who is not comfortable.
Now, there’s more to it than just this, for example,
understanding how to not make a woman feel
slutty, but even THAT becomes less of a problem
when you come across as being DESIRABLE
because if you are DESIRABLE, then a woman
feels she is with a “worthy” guy and that she
is not “cheap” for being with you.
See what I mean?
Superior Intrinsic Value RULES.
And when it comes to attraction, behaving in
a MASCULINE way, i.e. leading the interaction,
not getting overly emotional, being cool and
laid back, and showing DOMINANCE, is
BIG TIME VALUE in her sexual desire
department of her brain.
I was at the bookstore yesterday and I couldn’t
BELIEVE how they are STILL selling books
in the relationships section telling men how to
KISS UP even MORE than they are already doing.
Do you know who needs to read those kinds of
books about how to treat women better?
The complete PSYCHOS, the TOTAL jerk-offs,
the real scum of society.
Aside from them, really, I don’t think any
guy is going to get anything but ANGUISH
from applying the advice in those “how to
kiss up even more to women” books.
Women don’t even WANT that type of guy
as it makes them feel like they are with some
kind of emasculated man. Most women
deep down want to feel sexually that they
are with a guy with a dominant personality
otherwise it makes THEM, the women,
in charge of leading things to sex and
that’s going to really ruin the chemistry.
Of course, women can’t come out and say
this on national tv or it will sound like they
are against equal rights, which they aren’t
against.
Being a dominant man is the ONLY choice.
It was always the only choice, but nowadays,
due to women, especially attractive ones, having
MORE power than ever, it’s become even
MORE important that men start RECLAIMING
their own personal worth and SHOWING IT
through everything they do.
YOU ARE WHAT YOU DO.
You will be PERCEIVED by how you behave,
the same way MEN have perceived WOMEN
to be superior SIMPLY by the way women
BEHAVED.
You don’t be silly about thinking about any OTHER
option. There is NO other option but to be
masculine, to lead the show, to be THE MAN.
And guess what?
It’s not ENOUGH just that YOU know that you
are not kissing up. SHE must know it too.
She must know that FAILURE on her part to
treat you right will lead to a very quick
goodbye from you.
And you have to be PREPARED for all
the BRILLIANT DISGUISES. For example:
if a woman knows that you only like “good”
girls, a girl who is not a good girl will do her
BEST to ACT like a good girl to GET YOU.
Even though she might really be the kind of
girl who would make even Satan cringe.
So you must learn how to detect a TRUE
quality woman apart from the fakers.
On one hand, because you had STANDARDS,
she saw that you don’t just go for anything.
Your high standards show you are obviously
DESIRABLE. So she IMMEDIATELY felt a
certain DESIRE for you. And she was prepared
to do what is necessary to get you.
But once she “gets” you, if you make her feel
that she HAS you for sure no matter what, she
will start to SLIDE in her treatment of you,
and you might start to rationalize it, you might
try to defend her actions since she is a “good”
girl.
But if you FALL for that BRILLIANT
DISGUSE, well, then, that’s exactly what
she wants. (of course, if a woman really
is wack job, don't even try to use these
skills to attract her, just say goodbye
as soon as you find out she is an abusive
person.)
You must learn to avoid women who are
NARCISSISTS and who love to get
artificial "friends" on facebook to make
them look like they are so in demand,
but who in reality once they knew her
in person well enough would run like
hell from her.
YOU MUST BE THE MAN, AT ALL TIMES.
THERE IS NO OTHER CHOICE, in a society
where most women have been brainwashed to
believe they are superior.
Any OTHER type of strategy, other type of option,
just about ALWAYS leads to break-ups, women
who can’t commit, getting taken advantage of
emotionally and financially, heartbreak, no sex,
plummeting self-esteem, and tons of other
fun stuff.
The crazy thing is, when you LEARN these
skills, you are suddenly INFUSED with so
much power that you can EASILY reverse
ALL THIS STUFF, to the point that if you
wanted to, you could easily do all that nasty stuff
to women, but you really WON’T WANT TO
because you’ll be TOO BUSY WITH THE
WOMAN OF YOUR CHOICE.
You’ll FEEL SORRY for the women that
did that creepy stuff, because the truth is
that the most SEXY women who are
CONFIDENT NEVER do that nasty stuff,
because when you are REALLY secure,
you might not be ATTRACTED to someone
but you have no need to be ABUSIVE.
Only INSECURE people are abusive,
because their insecurity and pain makes
them want YOU to also be in pain.
Most women are not like that.
Most women are simply in the category of
being SPOILED by society.
Human behavior works on INCENTIVES.
When a woman who is attractive thinks she
can get away with doing less, she will.
On the other hand, when a woman knows
the only way to get the man of her dreams
is to treat him RIGHT, she will do exactly
that. And when you attract her, you become
the man of her dreams.
Does this mean that all those other women are bad?
Not really, not anymore than a child who is spoiled.
The child is not “bad” or “evil”, just spoiled.
The child needs to learn.
Women need to learn that you are not like all
the other guys who will KEEP ON KISSING UP
to women even though women have moved
WAY WAY WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY
BEYOND “working in the kitchen barefoot
and pregnant”. Hey, in those days, a man
had some room to err because he had
a certain amount of AUTOMATIC respect
from women, just from being born a
male in that society and era.
And in fact, there WERE some screwed
up things against women in those days that
were just not right. Like women not even
being allowed to vote.
But women have come a long long way, and
men have GONE BACKWARDS a long long
way, and that is just as evil. Especially since
it’s always the good but ignorant guys that
don’t want to cause “problems”, and the jerks
who couldn’t give a rat’s ass, thereby giving the
jerks an advantage since the jerk doesn’t care
about women’s rights or issues and therefore
will take as much as he can, and this often
is misinterpreted by women as a sign of his
superior VALUE.
So, you don’t have to be a jerk, but you sure
as heck have to know how to still come across
as having superior VALUE.
Sometimes I think the BIGGEST INTERNAL
obstacle to learning how to behave in the
right way comes because we have this
“inner conflict” that says that being “The Man”
is “not nice”, as if maybe it’s something
your mother wouldn’t approve of, as you
respect your mom, who is a woman, and
you want to treat her well.
But you have to remember that “women” in general
are NOT your MOM. You are not trying to
ATTRACT your mom!
That might SOUND a bit funny, obvious, or strange,
but it’s actually PREGNANT WITH INFORMATION.
You see, as a child, for most of us, our MOTHER
gave us a lot of crucial things we needed for LIFE.
Love, support, nurturing, making us feel good, etc.
God bless mothers.
And we kind of take this image of women
from our mom.
But when you are trying to attract a woman,
you have to remember this is not your MOM.
It’s a whole new sexual dynamic going on.
When it comes to attracting a woman, a woman
doesn’t NATURALLY give a DAMN about you
any more than she might about the next guy.
That might sound harsh, but it’s true.
For some reason we keep thinking that women
are “nice” and that we should treat them “nice”.
Look, I’m totally against any kind of ABUSE.
But it’s not ABUSE to communicate with women on
the ONLY terms that women can understand in
a society where MOST women who are attractive
have been very spoiled. (it’s a little different
if you happen to live in a VERY male-dominated
society, of course.)
The only way a woman will give a damn about
you (beyond the feeling sorry kind of caring)
is if she is ATTRACTED to you.
And what ATTRACTS a woman is about more
than what made you a good son, and about
more than what your mother likes about you.
This is not as easy as it might sound, because
it requires you to behave in ways that you might
think your MOM does not approve of. (the truth
is, your mom probably WANTS you to succeed
with women, so she probably deep down DOES
approve, but it would be really weird if your mom
had to tell you what turns HER on, if she was
even aware of it!)
Now, there is one more factor to keep in mind:
Just because all women who are attractive tend
to get worshipped by men, does not mean that
all women who are attractive are messed up.
There are great women out there, who would
be totally honest and loyal to any man that
they date, the key with these women though
is that you must still be BURSTING with
empowerment. You must still be oozing
all the right things from within.
The difference with a great woman, though,
is that she is not turned on by the "player"
facade. She wants THE MAN, not the PLAYER.
She is ALSO massively different in that
she requires more than just ATTRACTION,
she also wants a level of CONNECTION
and INTIMACY that most men simply
have never learned how to create.
So if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE,
to learn EXACTLY how to go about approaching
women to take things from that very first moment
of walking up to her, all the way to making
the ultimate connection and intimacy, all the
way to the bedroom and beyond, and even
where to find the RIGHT women, and how to
keep things running smoothly to prevent
“drama”, then I seriously suggest you get my
Warrior Within Program on DVD IMMEDIATELY.
What you read in these newsletters is just the
tip of the iceberg of what you will find in this
life-changing program.
This program goes DEEP and it WILL SKYROCKET
your results with women. You’ll learn how to take
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that women deep down WISH you would, but simply
can’t admit.
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For today and forever, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
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