Saturday, May 7, 2011

How Good Guys Can Attract Women

Good guys CAN attract women, and what
you’re about to read is of PARAMOUNT
importance if you want to know HOW.

One of the BIGGEST reasons that “jerks” are often
somewhat successful with women is because they
BEHAVE AS IF THEY ARE SO DESIRABLE
that they are then PERCEIVED as desirable by
women. This is the power of CONGRUENCE.

They then get the CONFIDENCE BOOST from
their results with women, which gives them the
confident non-needy state of mind to congruently
“experiment” with all kinds of strategies and tactics,
ranging from behaviours all the way down to fashion
accessories.

The thing is, that these guys that are jerks ultimately
tend to get short-lived results, because the women
eventually wake up and realize that the guy is
untrustworthy, and once a woman cannot trust a guy,
IT’S OVER whether the guy knows it or not.

However, the point here is that these guys HAVE NO
ISSUES PRETENDING TO BE DESIRABLE.

Now, I want to you think about something:
IF TOTAL JERK-OFFS have no problem or issues
with PRETENDING to be desirable, and they are
getting great short-term results from this, even though
from a LOGICAL viewpoint they are NOT desirable,
then why the HELL are YOU, a guy who IS good for
women, not acting as if YOU are THE MOST
DESIRABLE THING ON THE PLANET?

If you are a GOOD GUY, you should be EXPLODING
WITH THE AWESOME BELIEFS ABOUT YOUR OWN
DESIRABILITY, BECAUSE IN FACT YOU WILL
BE GOOD FOR A WOMAN!

It is your DUTY as a good guy to KICK MAJOR
ASS in this department compared to any jerk-off.
Otherwise, you are RESPONSIBLE for women
falling for jerk-offs.

And let me tell you, you absolutely DON’T HAVE
TO BE A JERK-OFF to succeed with women.

You have to understand that the truth is SUPERIORITY
and EXCELLENCE does not at all entail being a sleaze-ball.

These days, there is a huge divide between guys:
There are the “nice guys”, who are often getting nowhere with
women, and then there are the jerk-offs who are getting
temporary success with most of the women. That’s part of
the reason there are so few solid real “bondings” between
men and women these days. The “nice guys” usually spark
too little attraction, the jerks spark too little trust and
connection.

That means that women are GASPING for EMOTIONAL
OXYGEN. For most women, they want more than
ANYTHING a GOOD GUY, WHO ALSO UNDERSTANDS
ATTRACTION and CONNECTION.

You have NO IDEA of how this very situation of
low standards on everything to do with male-female
connections, has made it possible for you as a good
guy to have YOUR CHOICE OF WOMAN if you
can give them the TOTAL EMOTIONAL PACKAGE.

Compared to a guy who can give a woman the FULL RANGE
OF AWESOME EMOTIONS of attraction, connection, and
TRUE understanding of her, the “jerk” is the guy who can
only take her emotionally across the street, while you can take
her ACROSS THE UNIVERSE AND INTO ANOTHER
DIMENSION ENTIRELY.

When I was first learning all this stuff, I first got really
angry when I saw jerks succeeding with women. I had
no idea that these guys were terrible at relationships,
all I knew was they could get girls whereas all the good
guys I knew seemed pretty clueless.

So at first I got pissed off, and I emulated
these guys, and I got even more pissed off
when I saw how it worked. But then I also
learned that trust is destroyed with these
methods.

I learned first hand how women obviously go for guys
who understand how to create attraction, but I also
learned how if you use the “dark side” of the force, you
are planting the seeds of your downfall by destroying her
sense of self around you.

It took a lot of burning heartache to learn that for long
term success you must be a master of creating attraction
and of also making a woman feel TOTALLY ACCEPTED
by you, and TOTALLY UNDERSTOOD BY YOU.

And you can’t fake this forever, because the human brain is
far more advanced than people realize, and if a woman
is around you long enough, she will know if you are real
or not without being necessarily being able to articulate it.

And trust me, women are SICK of creeps, they are SICK of
being manipulated, they are SICK of meaningless relationships,
even if some women DO CONTINUE TO ENGAGE IN THIS.
They do this because they DON’T BELIEVE IN THEIR
OWN POWER TO GET SOMETHING BETTER, and
because they can’t find guys who understand attraction.
They are as sick of creeps as they are sick of boring guys
who kiss up to them.

This is where YOU come in, as a good guy.
The good guy who behaves in a way that is SEXY
AS HELL, a guy who also UNDERSTANDS HER,
and who is INTRIGUING and EXCITING.

Although it all starts with what you BELIEVE and
FEEL about yourself, you have to ALSO learn how to
PROJECT these EMOTIONS OUTWARDS so that
women can FEEL these same awesome emotions
about you.

So for example, if you FEEL you are something
OUT OF THIS WORLD, then why the hell are
you dressing like EVERY OTHER DORK out
there?????

You have to realize this makes EMOTIONAL
IMPACT. The clothing and accessories you
wear provide DATA for a woman’s emotional
sensors. Is that data you are providing giving
her the emotion called BOREDOM? Called
NOTHING SPECIAL? Called YAWN?
CALLED NO-VITALITY?

Have you ever noticed how COMIC BOOK
movies are popular nowadays? THOR
is just the latest, with lots more
coming up this summer.

It's because they have such strong and
unique VISUAL IMAGERY that makes immediate
emotional impact.

In PARTICULAR, the clothing: The COSTUMES!
It's part of their very IDENTITY.

And of course, the costumes are different,
they are CONSISTENT to the character.
Thor, Spiderman, Superman, Batman,
Captain American, Green Lantern all
have very DIFFERENT 'vibes' being given
off by their different 'WARDROBES'.

They all have very different personalities,
and different personal senses of IDENTITY,
and their costumes show this. Yet all
these costumes are CONGRUENT to who they
are.

Now, have you ever noticed how women who
are hot often are ALSO the ones who are the
most INTERESTINGLY dressed??????????

I'm not talking about when they are
in casual mode, but when they are
out on the town.

They don't all dress the same, they are
DIFFERENT, but they all make IMPACT.

I remember once doing a seminar and pointing
out a hottie walking by wearing these bright
red boots that had realistic warning signs all
over them exactly as you'd find on a a jet fighter,
stuff like "Danger" and "Do Not Step" and
HAZARD etc.

Notice the vibes of FUN, of DANGER,
of ADRENALINE, and of SUPERIORITY here.
i.e. "This is TOP SECRET, DANGEROUS,
SUPER POWERFUL ELITE STUFF" here.
"Stay away", WHICH only makes you
want to come CLOSER, right?

Superiority is the essence of attraction.
And this perception is CREATED, through
many things, which INCLUDES the messages
being sent out by your clothing and
accessories.

Again, it's that circular thing in life, because
the women who are hot, know it and are aware
of it and are aware of how to ACCENTUATE
it. They REALIZE the power. So they do
everything they can to OPTIMIZE it. And
this is what makes them seem REALLY
super duper hot. In fact, it's amazing
what getting in shape, and dressing right,
and the right hair style can do for a
person, guy or girl. But it's the women
who seem to be doing this, not the
guys, and the guys need to learn
from this.

Women who are hot do this so often and
have been doing it usually for YEARS
so it's NATURAL to them and they don't even
think about it. That's not to say they don't
ever dress down etc, but when they dress
down, they are doing it consciously, not
because they don't know better. And in
fact, sometimes they dress down to
AVOID too much attention. Kind of like
how super heroes have their civilian
identity lol. Then, they come out at
night to kick some ass! That's what
the women do at night as well, in
their own way.

My point is, women have FUN with this stuff.

The way you dress should be an extension of
your psychology, and your state of mind.
And in fact, it is, whether you like it or not.
If you wear boring stuff, you will feel more
boring, more zombie like, more like just
another brick in the wall of society.

If you wear fun stuff or cool stuff that
YOU find cool, it will help you BE
in that state. Actions and thoughts
go hand in hand.

You get the power of momentum on
your side by STARTING with SOMETHING--
actions, thoughts, clothing, etc.

And you start to make changes both on the
SURFACE and DEEP DOWN INSIDE AS WELL.

Psychological studies have shown that
the mind will RESIST your efforts at
CHANGING your wardrobe, because over
time, you start to ACCEPT the social
pressure that you "DON'T BELONG IN THE
HIGHER STATUS GROUP"--i.e. that you are
not ALLOWED to dress cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But guess what happens when you KICK
YOURSELF to DO IT ANYWAY??

What happens is that you on a fundamental
level CHANGE your SELF-PERCEPTION, that
you now truly feel that indeed you ARE
allowed to be on this HIGHER STATUS.

So it might SEEM like a superficial thing,
but in fact it is causing DEEP CHANGES
that will then manifest themselves in
your BEHAVIORS with women, on all levels
from tonality to body language to even
the WORDS you say to her, all without
you even being CONSCIOUS of all this.

It will SUPERCHARGE your INNER GAME,
which is what the highest quality women
are searching out in you the moment
you approach them.

So it's time you started thinking about how
you can SHAKE IT UP regarding your
wardrobe - your clothing, accessories,
shoes, etc. PUSH the envelope, I say,
wake YOURSELF up out of the slumber
of no emotional impact and of course
this will also WAKE UP the girls
around you as well.

And you don't have to be someone else.
Instead, find the stuff that YOU like but
simply were to afraid to wear because
you thought you needed to conform.
If you have to wear boring stuff because
of your work, then as soon as work ends,
RIP IT OFF AND GET INTO SOMETHING
ELSE!!!! This stuff AFFECTS your mind.

Not sure if you saw the original Batman Begins,
but it’s fascinating how he realistically thinks
about the EMOTIONAL IMPACT of his costume
as he is designing the image it will project. In fact,
the whole IDEA of Batman according to Bruce Wayne
was to create something that couldn’t be destroyed.
It had to be an IDEA, something bigger than any person.
The costume is just one part of his PROJECTED,
YET AUTHENTIC, IDENTITY.

The emotions he strikes in people, both the good citizens
of Gotham, as well as the SLIME, are BY DESIGN.
No accident.

You want to PROJECT AN IDEA into women's MINDS,
about who YOU are!

Being a GOOD GUY is not a PROBLEM.
It’s a good thing.
The problem is being a guy who is UNCOOL.
And all COOL means is being EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT.

You have to learn to create THE EMOTION OF ATTRACTION
by giving off all the messages of superiority excellence
and intrigue through your beliefs, behaviours, clothing,
goals, and lifestyle.

The other thing is that when you ACCOMPLISH
the goal of creating attraction, it is THEN that it
becomes PARAMOUNT to truly connect deeply
with a woman if you want to have long term success.

The good news is, that when your INNER GAME is
truly amazing, when you TRULY feel great about
yourself and you don’t need women’s approval,
you are then able to GIVE emotionally and you are
able to UNDERSTAND women so much better.

The reason for this is that your ego is not in the way
anymore, so you are able to UNDERSTAND what
she is REALLY saying instead of seeing your ego
being threatened. For example, let’s say a woman
calls you the day after a date where you KNOW
she had an AWESOME time. And she suddenly
tells you that she wants you to buy her dinner
next time, or she tells you that she will be unavailable
for this week.

An INSECURE guy will see threats everywhere, he
will think she is starting up with him. He will feel this
need to act all “alpha” and tell her that NO WAY will
he buy her dinner, etc. The guy who truly IS THE MAN,
will read this as the woman feeling that maybe the guy
is PLAYING her, and she is trying to protect her
self-esteem, and that she IS IN FACT TOTALLY NUTS
ABOUT HIM.

So the guy who UNDERSTANDS this will instead NOT
REACT in a major way at all. He will seek to IMPROVE
his understanding without acting like an inferior by
apologizing. Apologizing for something you didn’t
do would be stupid and would not only make you seem
inferior, but also stupid since an apology is not what
she is looking for. All she wants is to know that you
are not there to take advantage of her. She couldn’t
give a damn about the dinner itself, trust me. Not
that buying a woman dinner is NECESSARILY
a problem if you are doing EVERYTHING else
right in such a way that clearly you are not trying
to buy her approval.

The main thing is to address the REAL issue.

THE MAN will use his observation skills to understand
the EMOTION going on as opposed to the words themselves.

Since he already knows she IS attracted, he will show
he CARES by GENUINELY mirroring her emotions
but not making any conclusions or solutions. i.e.
“You must be feeling that you have to really be careful
and you want to make sure you are respected”.

This is JUST an example, in a real situation you would
have tons more info based on all that happened between
you and her, to take the best course of action.

And even this is just the tip of the iceberg. There
are so many more dimensions to the compelling
emotions, from creating intrigue to creating a
feeling in a woman of total validation. For example,
ultimately, the highest level to achieve with a woman
is not only attraction and connection but also to make
her feel TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY ACCEPTED for who
she is. When this acceptance comes from a classy guy
who she is INFINITELY ATTRACTED TO, this is INSANELY
POWERFUL.

Women CRAVE to be rescued and swept off their feet
by a KNIGHT, not by a JERK.

And if you want to BLOW APART the competition of
“jerks” and be able to SEIZE THE MOMENT when
you meet a woman of true quality, then I suggest
you IMMEDIATELY get my WARRIOR WITHIN DVD PROGRAM.

This program goes DEEP, it will show you
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any internal barriers holding you back from
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I PROMISE YOU that as powerful as this newsletter
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It's at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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