Fear truly is the most powerful weapon on Earth.
In small dosages, it can be very helpful and constructive.
If you felt no fear at all, you wouldn’t be nearly as
motivated to protect yourself from harm.
However, fear blown out of proportion is the most
destructive force among human beings.
And this is totally true in the area of attraction
and women as well.
Let’s start with the most obvious one:
Fear of approaching women.
This fear prevents ALL good results, since the
chance for even creating attraction is “aborted”
before it can even be born.
But that is only the beginning of how fear
can destroy attraction.
For example, let’s say a guy HAS got a woman
interested in him, let’s say he DID make the
approach.
And now he is fearing NOT SEEMING COOL
ENOUGH.
So what does he do?
He OVERCOMPENSATES, trying EXTRA HARD
to be cool – doing things like ‘name-dropping’ –
mentioning names of people he thinks the girl
thinks are cool, and trying to show he is somehow
connected to them.
Or he does things like naming a bunch
of popular or trendy nightclubs that
he heard were "hard to get into", and
that he thinks the girl considers a
"hot spot" to go.
Or he does things like trying EXTRA HARD to
show he is NOT interested.
Or he figures that he is so for sure not cool that
his only choice is to compensate by being way
nicer than he really thinks anyone ought to be,
but is doing it anyway because he figures it’s
his only chance.
All this F-ING crap is a result of FEAR.
Women can TELL exactly what is going on,
and it's UNATTRACTIVE BEHAVIOR.
And still, this is just the BEGINNING.
Let’s say a guy has managed to AVOID
those fears, let’s say he has managed to
actually GET a woman really ATTRACTED,
and now he even has her as his GIRLFRIEND.
But now, he is AFRAID OF LOSING HER.
Or, he is afraid that some other guys out there
who might be richer, better looking, funnier,
wittier, or “more cool” in some way. What
will be his response to this FEAR that he
feels inside?
Very often, it will be the feeling of a NEED
to try to CONTROL her, to SUFFOCATE
HER INDEPENDENCE.
After all, if he can just somehow manage to
STOP her from being exposed to anyone
who might be “COOLER” he can then be
MORE ASSURED that she will STILL
WANT TO BE WITH HIM, RIGHT?
And yet, the OPPOSITE happens, because when
people feel CONTROLLED they suddenly DESIRE
all those things that are being “forbidden” way,
WAY more.
I can testify to this.
When I was in a private school that was boys only,
I was going NUTS for girls. I mean EVERYTHING
FEMALE was just PURE HEAVEN to me.
And, I even remember, how I was being told by
the authorities in this school, that in the “co-ed”
schools the boys and girls were doing NOTHING
except “getting it on” with each other, as if it
was the age of “free love” or something!
And all this was told to me, as if it were a
BAD thing!
So of course, what I wanted, more than anything,
was to LEAVE this school and GO to these co-ed
schools where the boys and girls were having
NOTHING BUT WILD TIMES!
In my mind, for real, no exaggeration, I pictured
that as soon as I walked into the school, I would
be seeing porno-style scenes going on in the hallways!
Meanwhile, to be perfectly honest with you, the guys
AND girls at co-ed school were WAYYYYYYY
more chilled out than the guys at my private school!
I couldn’t understand how the guys could be
RELAXED when there were ALL THESE
GIRLS around them that they were ALLOWED
TO TALK TO!!!!
To me, every single new girl I met, I felt to
myself “THAT is DEFINITELY the ONE”,
till I eventually got OBSESSED with one.
And I partially got so obsessed because I was
BELIEVING the EMOTIONS I was feeling –
I took those emotions as PROOF that this girl
WAS MY DESTINY.
Meanwhile, those emotions were the product of
SCARCITY THINKING, because I failed to
realize that in fact there were THOUSANDS
of other schools and BILLIONS of other
women on the planet-so again, I was in
FEAR BASED THINKING, causing me to
get all screwed up in my thinking and insecure
when interacting with that woman, where I
made all the classical fear mistakes.
Back in my boys-only private school, we were so
repressed in so many ways, that we were often
beating the crap out of each other without even
knowing why! It wasn’t even about being
“enemies”, it was just within seconds the smallest
thing and we were smashing through the walls.
But of course, THIS we made sure to do OUTSIDE
of the view of the authorities.
Supposedly, according to the school authorities,
(who themselves were acting out of FEAR that if
people were not CONTROLLED they would end up
becoming animals) we were the “upstanding members
of society” because of all these strict rules!
Well, in a very SIMILAR way, trying to CONTROL
a woman in any way, will just make her MUCH
WORSE, but she will probably just make sure
to be very careful to do it OUT OF SIGHT.
Now, the OPPOSITE of all this is ALSO true.
If you FIGHT THE FEAR, if you DON’T GIVE IN
TO IT, and for example, you DO approach the women,
you DON’T try to act extra-cool, and you even go
so far as to ENCOURAGE A WOMAN to be
“independent”, you tend to create the OPPOSITE
EFFECT- you tend to actually make the woman
WANT YOU WAY, WAY MORE.
Not only that, but you prevent DECEPTION, so that
she can be HONEST with you.
You also TAKE THE FUN OUT OF “CHEATING”
because the natural forces of temptation FEED OFF
OF RESTRICTION, but by ALLOWING her to be
free, there is none of that “CHEATING FUEL” CALLED
“RESTRICTION AND CONTROL”.
Again, all this is so proven, over and over again,
and it is even true in GLOBAL terms- wherever
you have societies that do not allow FREEDOM
when it comes to women and when it comes to
sex, there is the creation of far MORE desire for
ALL THINGS SEXUAL, and of course, it is
all done HIDDEN.
So great is this desire for things sexual, combined
with so great is the importance of keeping it
HIDDEN, that the combination of these two
things is EXTREMELY destructive, feeding
feelings of GUILT, feeding feelings of INSECURITY,
creating the insecure feeling and the feeling of a
need for MORE CONTROL and MORE repression,
MEANWHILE this results in even MORE desire
for those very things considered “sinful”, which
creates even MORE need to REPRESS and HIDE
everything, in a NEVER ENDING DESTRUCTIVE
CYCLE.
And so, it’s the EXACT SAME THING when it
comes to how to interact with women, even when
you are dealing with it on a ONE TO ONE basis,
just you and the woman.
And guess what else?
By NOT giving into your fears, by NOT trying
to sound so cool, by NOT trying to control a
woman, by in fact ENCOURAGING her to
be independent, you end up SUBSCONSCIOUSLY
SHOWING THAT YOU ARE INDEED THE
PRIZE, BECAUSE 99% OF ALL OTHER MEN
WOULD GIVE INTO THE FEARS, SHOWING
THAT THEY ARE INFERIOR.
You show SUPERIOR VALUE by behaving
this way – and it’s all being registered in her
mind subconsciously, the only thing she IS
conscious of, is that she is ATTRACTED
to you.
Does this mean you will get EVERY girl?
No, but I swear to it that this is the BEST
and MOST POWERFUL WAY TO BEHAVE
and to use as your DECISION MAKING
GUIDE when it comes to women.
In fact, one of the craziest things ever is that
if a woman you are in a relationship with ever
says something about leaving, you should
not try to hold her back (unless it’s obvious
you were being a JERK and this is her way
of asking you to change).
When you REMOVE CONTROL, there is
NOTHING left her to RESIST, so you take
a lot of the ENERGY AND DESIRE out of it.
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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