Keeping a conversation going with a woman,
especially when she woman is a total
stranger, can seem overwhelming, but the
solution is breaking it down into a few
small and easy steps.
Have you ever approached a woman,
managed to work up the guts to SAY
something, and then the conversation
didn't LAST? Maybe you said some
comment about the book she was
holding, or the drink she was having,
or maybe it was a compliment.
She smiles, and then you have nothing
really POWERFUL to get her hooked
into wanting to talk to you more.
If this has happened to you, you are not
alone, it's one of the most common issues
when trying to approach a woman and get
her number, email, etc.
Here are the STEPS to solving this problem:
Step One.
1. The first thing you want to do is to
realize that about 99% of the conversation
material can often come not from YOU but
from HER!
Step Two.
2. Yes, and the way this works is by truly
LISTENING to what she says in REPLY
to you. Listening not only with open
ears, but also with an open heart, meaning
that you GENIUNELY are listening to
hear her.
Step Three.
3.Now, the thing is, in order to prompt
a meaningful reply from her to your
original statement, you want to make an
opening statement that actually has some
MEAT in it, something that is worthy of
actually getting a reply.
The key for this to work BEST is to NOT
be FAKE about the topic you choose to open.
Choose something that YOU are genuinely
interested in, that is also upbeat, inspiring,
or meaningful.
You can go in with MANY different angles,
and there is absolutely an angle that is consistent
with your personality so that you are not acting
like someone else.
So, for example, if you were the kind of guy
who is very interested in living an inspired
life, in feeling that your life has meaning,
in making the MOST of everyday, etc,
then you might say something like this
to a woman in a bookstore: "Hi there,
can you answer this question- what
do you think of the phrase "Don't die
with the song still in you"????
NOW, if she asks you what you mean,
this is FANTASTIC, because it gives
you another chance to talk MORE but
more importantly it is you giving value
to HER, which is the name of the game.
So, you can continue with something like
this: "What if we all spent our lives doing
things that we didn't really love but we
thought we had to do, and then right
at the end we found out that all those
things were just LIE and we never let
our "song" out, the thing we were meant
to do?"
Now, THIS is meaty stuff, it's got tons
of potential. She can not only reply to
this in detail, but you can LISTEN to
what she is saying and really pay
attention and then be able to give
BACK meaningful conversation as
well.
The genius behind this is that now
you are LISTENING to HER, which
makes HER feel awesome, and yet
she is talking to you about something
that you care about, so none of this is
fake. You can can go on an on about
this for hours. And this leads to
DEEP connection, which means
mo more FLAKY number or
emails- girls only flake because
they don't feel a sense of connection.
That's why they don't answer emails
or phone calls or don't give out
numbers.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE WITH
A DIFFERENT TYPE OF
PERSONALITY:
Now, let's say you are more of just
a happy go lucky guy that isn't really
that "deep" at least not in that way.
That's fine, it's all good. You can
THEN go in with a more humorous
angle, i.e. if you are in the supermarket
and you notice the same woman twice,
i.e. let's say you saw her in the fish
dept., then you see her in the cereal
aisle, you can give her this mischievous
look and say "Hey, are you following me?
I'm getting nervous!"
And if she says "Noooo, what makes you
say that??" You can reply with "well
for all I know you want to raid my
grocery cart here, I got all the low-fat
yogurt on special today and you just
want to take one out of my cart!"
Even here, in this situation though, the
key is to open with something that is
MEATY in the sense that you must light
the switches in her mind called
"INTERESTING and FEELS GOOD."
You can tell her that you bet she is one
of those healthy type women who is
all about good fitness and nutrition,
etc, which will either prompt her to
say that she IS or she ISN'T.
If she says she IS, then you can
now give her a sincere compliment for
that and tell her that with work or
school taking up so much time, it
takes a lot of discipline to do that.
And if she says she DOESN'T work
out or eat healthy, you can tease
her for not being honest, or you can
say she is being modest, and that she
can just open up with you, you are
just the official supermarket public
relations guy, and if she takes you
SERIOUSLY on that, that's even
MORE reason for you to have fun
and then you can pretend you are
asking her a serious survey question,
and then let her know you are totally
joking.
And THEN you can both get into
a "normal" conversation about things
like "what's your name" what do
you do, etc, because NOW she is
interested and you are interested
in knowing more about her.
What you have read is just the TIP
of the ICEBERG. This stuff works,
and I want you to see the FULL power
of ALL the tools that can be at your
fingertips, from learning how to
fully tap into the power of your
INNER GAME so you can rise to the
next level of success with women,
to learning how to DETECT a quality
woman, to learning how to KEEP a
woman attracted to you long term,
and much, MUCH more.
To get a SOLID FOUNDATION on ALL
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And I'll see you again soon.
Be cool,
Michael Marks
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