WINNING THE STATUS GAME

If you think about it, it’s pretty obvious
that in general, the biggest difference
between what men and what women
use to attract each other is that MEN
try to use social status, and women try
to use their looks.

So men do everything they can to show
confidence, power, accomplishment,
social leadership, etc.

 

Women try to accentuate their looks
by wearing makeup, wearing the right
clothes, going on diets, emphasizing
certain body parts or areas, etc.



That doesn’t mean there isn’t overlap,
as men also try to look their best, and
women also try to show they are “cool”.

But in terms of the greater EMPHASIS,
men tend to use more social status, women
tend to use more looks.

The other thing to remember, is that women
AND men are motivated by social status
more than anything.  So women feel
they get increased social status from
looking their best.

You can see this in every society
on earth, whatever that particular
society says is a sign of being
a person who is “important” is what
those people will STRIVE for and feel
really BAD about if they CAN’T be
in that level of “importance”.

It doesn't matter whether it’s
having two more sheep in your herd,
(so the fact one guy has twenty
and the other has twenty-two)
or having a woman with a MUSTACHE.

(Yes, there are cultures where women
are considered HOTTER if they have
a mustache, and if they don’t have
a real one, they PAINT one on!!)

It’s important to realize how ARBITRARY
the STATUS indicators usually are.

What is NOT arbitrary is the human need
to FEEL worth, and we tend to feel worth
based on what OTHER people think of us.

Now, before you jump and say “Hey, not
me” the thing to remember is that it doesn’t
have to be what EVERYONE thinks of
you, but whoever YOU think is important.

So as a child, it’s parents, then friends,
then the dominant social personalities,
and hopefully at a young age you get the
approval you need so that you aren’t
as needy for the other forms of social
approval later, but we all still want it
to some degree, even the strongest of us.

The main thing to remember though is that
the things that show status are very
ARBITRARY in the sense they have
little to do with practical value.

So why is it that a lot of men and women
want to drive a four wheel drive, ALL-TERRAIN
SUV vehicle when they are always on regular
concrete roads and don’t even have kids so
they don’t need a large vehicle?

Because it’s a status symbol.

By the way, I’m not judging anyone here,
just saying how the mind works.

Why do women paint the mustache on themselves
in other parts of the world?

Arbitarily, that society has deemed it “good”
or “attractive” and the man with such a woman
has elevated status compared to a man with
a woman with no mustache.

Psychologists have determined that NOT
getting social approval AT ALL would
be more painful than PHYSICAL TORTURE.

The negative effect on our self-esteem
would be WORSE THAN PHYSICAL
TORTURE.

This is all VERY IMPORTANT to remember
as we continue here.

We are all, by human design, part of this.

This is why I say, that if you can truly
give a woman the gift of self-esteem,
she will be yours forever.

Women are actually under more pressure
to fit social approval than men are. 

That's why you'll notice that women
in general are more concerned about
what people think of them.

One POWERFUL WAY of giving a
woman the gift of self-esteem is by
LIBERATING HER FROM THE
PRESSURE OF FEELING SHE
DOESN’T “MEASURE UP”.

And even the most beautiful woman
in the world has her own insecurities
regarding status.



The crazy thing about social status is that
beyond the basic foundation of love, the
rest of the social status race never really
ends, and in fact, the more you chase it,
the more you want even more, the hungrier
you get for more, the less secure you feel,
because you become more and more reliant
on the external which gives back very little.

But you can’t TELL a woman this and
expect to get the best results, as it’s
LOGICAL TALK, and human beings
don’t really emotionally respond to
cold logic.

Human beings respond when their EMOTIONS
get tapped.

So if you could help a woman see the
COMEDY and the SILLYNESS of
99% of things, in a way that actually
got her LAUGHING, ahhhhh now
THEN you are getting THROUGH
and she is understanding on a very
PRIMAL LEVEL, which she is also
ENJOYING AT THE SAME TIME!

And of course, the key is ALSO to make
sure that you YOURSELF see this comedy
in 99% of things, as you can’t make other
people feel things that you yourself don’t
feel when it comes to this kind of comedy.

The entire insecurity around STATUS is
DEMOLISHED the second you are
genuinely LAUGHING.

What woman hungers for more than anything
is to FEEL GOOD.

But it’s not enough to just be FUNNY.

If a woman feels you are trying to make
her laugh because YOU need HER
approval, you will obviously not inspire
the emotion of BEING FREE FROM
SOCIAL STATUS SLAVERY.

And this is where some guys make the mistake
of thinking they have to be MEAN-SPIRITED
or ARROGANT in their humor with women.

I often tell guys who are starting out,
to avoid SELF-DEPRECATING humor
because it often comes out of a neediness
for approval and being willing to do
anything for a laugh.

However, SELF-DEPRECATING humor
can work if it’s CLEAR from your tonality
that you aren’t seeking APPROVAL and
that you don’t care if other people love
your jokes or not.

In fact, it can work SUPREMELY WELL
when mastered.  It can make a woman
MELT.

The best kind of humor is motivated by
a desire to entertain YOURSELF and
ALSO others, you ENJOY making other
people laugh, you WANT other people
to feel good, but you ALSO personally
enjoy it for YOURSELF, it’s funny
to YOU, so you don’t NEED the
approval that much.

This is slightly more advanced, but when
this kind of self-deprecating humor is used,
it often IMMEDIATELY makes a woman
warm up to you because it shows her that
she can let HER guard down too.

So now you both can RELAX AND TRULY
BE CONFIDENT AND HIGH SELF ESTEEM
with each other, rather than having
to “act” confident!

And nothing, nothing on earth, is
a greater aphrodisiac than feeling
AMAZING.

Eliminate the insecurities and the slavery
to social status, and she feels AMAZING
around you.

When you master the RIGHT kind of comedy
skills, you can DESTROY status insecurities
in an instant, because NOTHING is so “cool”
that it can’t be DEMOLISHED in an instant
with COMEDY.

In fact, you’ll notice that people who are so
stuck up on themselves and how “important
and serious and cool they are”, are actually
NOT cool, and make a lot of people laugh.

Well, the reality is that the ENTIRE status
race is ALL about trying to be cool, and
with COMEDY you can point out the
HILARITY in all of it, thereby FREEING
a woman from all that tension and stress
and torture – and THIS is why in real
life, a lot of guys who have THIS kind
of humor are EXTREMELY successful
with women.

And this is where you’re in extreme luck.

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can use these PARTICULAR skills
of comedy to BYPASS the status
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This man truly knows the pain of at one
time not being successful with women at
ALL. In fact, he was a virgin until 26
years old, never kissed a girl before that,
and also had to deal with some other
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he eventually became one of the most
skilled men on the PLANET with women.

I can attest to this as I have not only seen
him successfully approach and attract women
who were total strangers while just casually
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and attract women in real time.

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Not only did he share his brilliant insights
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because the interview ITSELF is often
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because I believe we learn best not just
from “book learning” but also from
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you will FEEL and EXPERIENCE
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Be cool,

Michael Marks