Being a REAL MAN is not always easy,
but's it's always sexy.
Being a REAL MAN means there aren't
always "easy way outs" or gimmicks to
solve issues.
So for example, all the way back in 2003,
in my first book, "The Dating Wizard",
I use a principle I coined being "THE MAN"
several thousands of times throughout the
book and in my newsletters.
I use this term as an approach to doing things,
the masculine way of going about things when
it comes to women and life in general, and how
this naturally is attractive to women.
In order for a woman to feel feminine,
it's crucial that you behave in a way that
is masculine, as this polarity brings out
her femininity.
This concept of being THE MAN sometimes
get distorted by supposed "experts" who are
always cooking up some gimmicky "Get the
babes with my EASY strategy" type thing.
If only that worked, I would be the first one
to tell you.
There's another thing I need to make clear:
Some people think it's important to know the
CAUSE of your approach anxiety if you want
to destroy it.
This is, put simply, wrong.
You can spend ten thousand years in the
psychologist's chair trying to figure out
WHY you are a certain way, but when
it comes to beating approach anxiety,
figuring out the WHY is NOT really
relevant or required for SOLVING
the anxiety.
(In fact, a good psychologist already
knows this and would not waste time
on that.)
For example, let's say a guy started smoking
cigarrettes as a young adult due to PEER
PRESSURE. Or due to wanting to experiment
with cigarettes.
Now, the guy is ADDICTED to cigarettes.
He needs to get over the CHEMICAL ADDICTION
TO NICOTINE now.
It doesn't matter anymore HOW he got into this mess,
talking about things like peer pressure and not giving
into peer pressure, or whatever, is actually NOT
the main thing here for getting over NICOTINE
ADDICTION.
Similarly, the things that caused or are causing the
approach anxiety (the anxiety of approaching
a woman who is a stranger to get to know her)
are NOT that important to figure out.
Let's say the issue that caused him to get
into smoking and get addicted was originally
peer pressure and lack of self-esteem--well,
even if we now help his self-esteem and boost
it into the STRATOSPHERE, it doesn't change
the fact he is still ADDICTED TO NICOTINE!!!
What is important to do now is end the chemical
dependence.
And similarly, in a way, what is causing the approach
anxiety is a DIFFERENT kind of chemical "storm"
going on in the mind that is actually causing the
anxiety. Remember, ALL emotions are nothing but
chemicals in the mind, whether released naturally
or otherwise.
And to change the chemical state of the anxiety, it is
CRUCIAL to, in your mind, slowly EMBRACE THE FEARS,
even the worst case scenarios, playing them in your mind
over and over again, till they become dull and boring.
This changes the CHEMICAL STORM in your mind
to a different chemical reaction, one that feels a
hell of a lot better and allows you to see the
situation in a far more empowering perspective.
THIS IS BEING THE MAN, AND IT TAKES
MASSIVE GUTS AND COURAGE TO DO.
Rather than the illusion of the "easy way out" gimmicks,
this is the REAL way.
And this is just the beginning of the process,
it's explained in full depth in my program called
"Obliterating Approach Anxiety", which I SERIOUSLY
suggest you get IMMEDIATELY by going here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/obliterating.html
I have made this program is available to you via
INSTANT MP3 download, so you can be
listening to it in MINUTES from now, and be
using it to approach women TODAY.
So don't waste precious time on the wrong
strategies for solving approach anxiety.
Get the REAL goods and start enjoying all
the world of opportunity right NOW.
It's summer and there are TONS of women
out and about!
Again, this important program is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/obliterating.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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