Women And Narcissism: What Men Need To Know (URGENT)

Today is an EXTREMELY important newsletter
for any man who wants to do better with women,
or who wants to understand the truth about what
is REALLY happening today with many women.

It is the result of some very powerful insights,
including not just my own that come from YEARS
of observation and actual experience, but also from
the observations and experience of another person
who is someone I have been working closely with
on this topic for many years.

In the western world, (specifically, the countries
where feminist propaganda is in full effect, which
means primarily the English speaking countries,
also known as the "Anglosphere") - the greatest
single source of the problem when it comes to the
areas of dating, relationships, and meeting women,
approaching women, attracting women, (and in fact
many OTHER issues in life these days) ALL that stuff is:

AN OVERBLOWN SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT IN
MANY WOMEN IN THEIR BASIC SENSE THAT
MEN SHOULD KISS UP TO WOMEN AND TOLERATE
ANYTHING FROM WOMEN.

Those words should be EMBLAZONED in your
mind, they should ECHO forever in your soul,
if you want to know what the REAL ISSUE is
in the current INSANE situation out there.

So let me get to the FIRST manifestation of this
OVERBLOWN SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT.

The Stereotypical Feminist Propaganda

In a nutshell, I can explain the whole thing.

Women, as human beings, deserve to be respected
just like men deserve to be respected. There was
a time when women in our culture were not
given the vote (just like there was a time when
most men also did not have any political power)
and various forms of discrimination were in play
against women.

For the most part, that time in our culture has
PASSED. Today, women are more present in
universities than men, men are the ones committing
suicide more often than women, men are the ones
dropping dead more often than women from illness,
women tend to make the same wages for the same
work, etc, etc. etc.  Today, when a woman is an
astronaut, it’s not even news, it’s just another day.

However, FEMINISTS tend to act as if women in
in the western world (they tend to do very little
for women outside the western world) are being treated
HORRIBLY by men in the west, as if women are these
victims of a non-stop nightmare situation at the hands
of men.

Over the years, the basic message given to women
was, and still is:

YOU ARE SUPER DUPER SPECIAL, YOU DESERVE
TO HAVE YOUR BUTT KISSED BY MEN, BY ALL MEN. 

YOU ARE SUPER SPECIAL JUST BECAUSE YOU
ARE A WOMAN.

WOMEN CAN DO ANYTHING MEN CAN DO,
BUT WOMEN CAN DO IT BETTER.

MEN ARE EVIL, DISGUSTING, SCUM BAGS

WOMEN MUST STICK TOGETHER AGAINST MEN,
REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THE MEN ARE RIGHT
OR NOT.

INTERPRET ALL ACTIONS BY MEN AS SUSPECT.

There are other destructive aspects of feminism as well,
such as the attempt to destroy the very concept of
FEMININITY, which is of course the very thing that
men are attracted to in women in the first place! 

I don’t want to go off on a tangent here, but this is also
extremely destructive, of course. 

What’s crazy about this is that most women actually
WANT to be feminine, as it is a natural inclination for
most women, but because the leaders of most feminist
groups tend to be MASCULINE, they want to actually
force all the OTHER women to ALSO be masculine-
this is a perverted attempt by feminist leaders to
feel “normal” by forcing all the other women to
NOT BE NORMAL and imitate the feminist
LEADERS’ aberrations from most women’s
natural inclinations.

But for now, let’s just stick to the general issue
of feminists teaching women to think they are
all SUPER SPECIAL, SUPER IMPORTANT,
AND SUPERIOR TO MEN.

It doesn’t take a ROCKET SCIENTIST to
see the general TRUTH of this, and to see
the IMPACT this has made in our society,
ONCE YOU HAVE BEEN WOKEN UP
OUT OF THE ‘MATRIX’.

In other words, when you are ‘asleep’ under
the brainwashing you have been exposed to
from an entire lifetime, including most importantly
being BORN into a society that teaches you from
BIRTH that as a man, you must make a SPECIAL
effort to CATER to women, because WOMEN
ARE INHERENTLY the SUPERIOR ONES,
you might not see how insane this is.

But let’s take it FURTHER.
Not only do MEN get brainwashed from birth
that they are somehow under the OBLIGATION
to prove to women that they are GOOD AND
NICE AND NOT RAPISTS OR ABUSIVE,
but at the SAME TIME women are being told
the OPPOSITE message in terms of how WOMEN
should behave:

In other words, while MEN are being brainwashed
to KISS UP to women, women are being brainwashed
to LOOK DOWN at men.

And then we wonder why it is that men will line
up around the block to get into a nightclub to meet
women, men will pay big bucks to get into the club,
only to get mostly rejected for acting in the very
ways they were told to act, i.e. buying drinks, showing
how nice they can be, showing how they don’t plan
to do anything sexual, etc, etc, etc.

And of course, the women will get in free, will
get free drinks, etc, etc.

If a man wants to get a woman attracted, he must
NOT try to behave in a FEMININE way. He must
behave in a MASCULINE way.     

And, contrary to feminist nonsense, he will be
MORE SUCCESSFUL with women by actually
making women FEEL MORE FEMININE, not
LESS FEMININE.  And women will feel MORE
feminine in the presence of a man who is MASCULINE.

So, NOT kissing up to women is one way to do that.
NOT apologizing for being interested in a woman
in a physical way is another way to do that.

NOT acting like a woman is doing a FAVOR
for you by going out with you is ANOTHER way.

NOT spending big bucks on a woman is another way.
Spending big bucks on a woman you just met is saying
that you feel you don’t have enough value as a MAN
for her, so you have to COMPENSATE by giving her
big bucks in terms of gifts, favors, etc.

But let me get back to the challenges created
by women being told, from birth, that they are
so GREAT just for BEING women.

What this results in, is that women in the west
go from being innocent creatures to being
indoctrinated with the belief that they are
so special, that men are inherently INFERIOR.

When someone believes that OTHERS are not
as important, it is basically saying the others
are SUB-HUMAN compared to one’s self.

So, these women grow up COMPLETELY IGNORING
THE MALE PERSPECTIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A man has an EVOLUTIONARY, BIOLOGICAL
HARD-WIRING to not want a PROMISCUOUS
woman as a girlfriend?     
The feminist-brainwashed woman’s response to
that is: MEH

Actually, it’s LESS than MEH.
IT NEVER EVEN GETS HEARD IN THE FIRST
PLACE, the VERY THOUGHT OF CONSIDERING
ANYTHING A MAN HAS TO SAY IS NEVER
SERIOUSLY CONSIDERED, SINCE IT’S,
IN HER OPINION, NOT IMPORTANT, IT’S
SUB-HUMAN, IT’S LESS HUMAN, LESS
WORTHY.

So basically, to so many women, the opinions
of even the MOST IGNORANT FELLOW WOMAN,
is worth more than a man’s opinion, unless of course,
that man PARROTS the FEMINIST PERSPECTIVE.

So if a woman has a difference of opinion with
her boyfriend on something in the relationship,
she will value the opinion of her fellow female
friend FAR MORE than what her boyfriend says.

And if this results in the boyfriend dumping the
woman, the woman’s girlfriend will just say
to the woman that “she deserves BETTER”.

And when ultimately every guy gets sick of her
b.s. and dumps her, again, she will FIGURE
THAT FOR SURE IT’S ALL THE MEN WHO
HAD THE PROBLEMS, IT CAN’T POSSIBLY
BE HER, SINCE AFTER ALL, SINCE BIRTH,
EVERYWHERE SHE TURNED, SHE WAS
CONSTANTLY TOLD SHE IS SUPER-DUPER
SPECIAL AND ALWAYS SUPERIOR TO MEN
AND THAT ALL MEN WANT HER NO MATTER
WHAT THE HECK SHE DOES.  

Such is the degree of feminist infiltration into the
cultural mindset.

And this is why you see so many men spewing
out feminist nonsense, they are usually either
BRAINWASHED, or they are scared of what will
happen if they don’t agree with their girlfriends or
wives, or they are scared of not pleasing women in
general, lest, they fear, they will not get any approval
from women.

Of course, the irony is that the men who KNOW
THE TRUTH actually attract women far easier
than the men who kiss up to the feminist nonsense.

By the way, just in case any one doubts
what I am saying, I want to make it clear
that the general effect of telling someone
they are PERFECT when in fact they are
NOT, is SUPER DESTRUCTIVE and a
FORMULA for DISASTER, regardless of
WHO is being told they are perfect always
since birth.

In fact, this is a HUGE problem with parenting
in our generation. For thousands of years, if
not millions, CHILDREN grew up FAST.

They had to face HARDSHIPS very early.

And parents did NOT baby their children for
very long at ALL.

I know that growing up, my father was NOT
one to baby ANYONE in the family. I NEVER
got the feeling that I was super special.

In fact, when I got a good mark on a test,
I never thought I was going to get some kind
of REWARD for it.  I figured it’s my job to
work HARD, just like it was my dad’s job to
go to work. I felt DECENT for getting a good mark
on a test, but not AMAZING. 

I was raised being told to just do my best and
to not screw around, and that I should appreciate
the OPPORTUNITY because the world had so much
more ROUGH situations than what I was facing.

So there was not really a huge UP for “success”,
nor a big DOWN for “failure”, at least not from
THEM, it was more my own PERSONAL feeling
of frustration if I didn’t do well. And THAT motivated
me to work even HARDER- IT WAS ALL SELF-
MOTIVATION.

And basically, this was the standard parenting
practice, this was OLD SCHOOL.

But then, the so called “experts” came in and
started telling parents that it’s so important to
make sure children feel SPECIAL, to the point
that parents KISS UP TO KIDS LIKE CRAZY
to keep them feeling happy and special, and the
result is that this creates a HUGE problem.

The problem is that if someone is told to believe
they are SPECIAL for doing NOTHING, regardless
of their BEHAVIOR, regardless of their achievements,
you end up creating a person who is INFINITELY
SELFISH, INFINITELY NARCISSISTIC.

In the movie FIGHT CLUB, there is a scene
where one of the characters talks about how
we were all promised we would be ROCK STARS
but we HAVEN’T ALL BECOME ROCK STARS.

And I think the point is not rock stars verbatim.
The point is SUCCESS.

The point is, you don’t just become a SUCCESS
in life because it would be NICE.

You don’t get special treatment just because you exist.

It’s the result of HARD WORK, and often there is
a bit of luck to it as well. 

So, if you want to experience INNER PEACE, it’s
important to EXPERIENCE AND SUSTAIN
INNER PEACE WITHOUT getting special
ADORATION from anyone!!!!

This actually IS possible.
This is where things like meditation come into play.

You don't NEED much external stuff to feel inner peace.

Whether it’s fans, or whether it’s getting the desire
from men if you’re a woman, or getting the desire of
of women if you’re a man.

Do you see the common link with feminism?
Feminism preaches to women that they are all
SPECIAL just for being women.

To be special, DO something special.
Have a special character.

And the number ONE special thing that person
‘A’ REALLY cares about in person ‘B’ is how
much person ‘B’ gives a DAMN about person ‘A’!

Meanwhile, though, feminists have taught women
to NEGATE the importance of MEN, and also
to a degree MANY youngsters in the latest generation
of WESTERNIZED men and women have been taught
by their well-intentioned but misguided parents that
they are MORE IMPORTANT than everyone else.

So, of course, this spells DISASTER on the
HUMAN COMMUNICATIONS FRONT!

Women who by and large DISRESPECT men and
feel men are to be USED, and many of the younger
generation both male and female being taught that
NO ONE ELSE’S PERSPECTIVES are valid since
no one else is as important as them.

It is important to note that both feminism and
modern parenting are the result of PENDULUMS
swinging too far to one extreme.  

So in the effort to help women get equality, men
have succumbed to an INSANE dose of FEMINISM,
and in the effort to help give their own children a
more “caring” environment than what they had,
parents are giving kids WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY
tooo much CREDIT AND POWER, with HORRIFYING
EFFECTS.

And again, I must use the word HORRIFYING.

The absolute worst thing for a human being is to
think he or she is perfect.

If someone feels they are perfect, then what happens
is that it then becomes OKAY to ABUSE others,
since those others are SUB-HUMAN, they are
LESS HUMAN, LESS WORTHY, and so they
don’t have any MERIT to what they say.

And because human GREED, not just for money,
but for fame, for honor, for respect, for ALL
SELFISHNESS, knows NO BOUNDS, NO LIMITS,
it is the most DANGEROUS THING to allow humans
to think they are perfect.

Once people think they are perfect, or even superior,
they can then do ANY NIGHTMARISH BEHAVIOR
YOU CAN IMAGINE, and feel PERFECTLY GOOD
ABOUT DOING IT AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN
TILL THE LAST BREATH OF THEIR LIVES.

Does this mean YOU SHOULD HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM?

Of course not, you can and should have high self-esteem,
but NOT as the result of thinking you are perfect.

High self-esteem should come from being able to
FORGIVE OURSELVES for not being perfect!

After all, we are all just HUMANS who ain’t
PERFECT, and we NEED to have interactions
with others who are HONEST with us in order
for ourselves to have an accurate picture.

We’ve all F-ED up in our lives.
We’ve all SCREWED up.
NOBODY has never made any mistakes.

The trick is to LEARN from it, to forgive ourselves
and genuinely LEARN.

Stay away from those kinds of people who
INTENTIONALLY TRY TO DESTROY YOUR
SELF-ESTEEM, but don’t negate the opinions
of EVERYONE.  

There needs to be a healthy balance of self-love
and also of self-critique, that comes from not
instantly negating all other perspectives. 

Without self-critique, all humans, and all human
organizations, are DOOMED.

Feminism has resulted in women that are UNABLE
to even PERCEIVE of the possibility that maybe
AT LEAST SOME MEN actually DO have a VALID
WORTHY  PERSPECTIVE- and not just the men
who parrot the feminist perspective.

So, in summary, there are two major issues when
it comes to dating and interactions between men
and women today:

One is the effect of feminism- it has made many
women far too narcissistic to even be CONSIDERED
as a relationship possibility. 

The second is the general effect of modern parenting
on both boys and girls – it is resulting in a society
where people are addicted to anything that can
REINFORCE the narcissistic tendencies that their
parents have unintentionally instilled in them –
such as the addiction to Facebook and to creating
a false image that seems cooler than they think
they really are, such as by doing whatever they
can to get more followers on Facebook, etc.

But to blame it all on Facebook is ridiculous-
as it is the DESIRE to be worshiped that is the
problem, which resulted from misguided parenting.

The bottom line is, people need to start seeing
how it is not only OKAY to not be perfect,
but how it is IMPERATIVE to see it, and to
FORGIVE ONE’S SELF FOR IT, and to
TRY TO GIVE MORE OF A RAT’S ASS
ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE, and also of course
women need to wake up to how they have been
screwed over by feminists, because men aren’t
interested for real in being in a relationship with
women who are not going to respect them.

And now for what this all means for you as man:

You probably already know that humans want
to be respected. The key with women (and don’t
waste your time on feminist-brainwashed women)
is to show respect, but not to become a kiss up, not
to become needy with women. 

The irony is that the reason acting a bit cocky
works with women is in the INITIAL STAGES,
because it actually shows LESS SELFISHNESS
in the current dating climate.

Currently, most men are SO NEEDY (and
we can understand why, since feminism has
screwed up the balance) they will make a woman
into their ENTIRE MEANING FOR EXISTENCE,
and they will call the woman ten times a day every
day and it’s just too overwhelming and too much
and too needy. 

So when a man meets a new woman, and
exhibits some playful cockiness, that’s good,
but that DOESN’T MEAN that he should
CONSTANTLY ACT COCKY once he is
already past the initial interaction.

The confidence displayed is important not
because narcissistic behavior is attractive,
as it’s not, the confidence is important and
attractive because it shows a woman early
on when she is in the deciding stage, it
shows her that you are not going to be needy
and weak and to be demanding all her time
and controlling her out of fear, etc.

The second take-away from all this is just
how important it is to not let YOURSELF
get caught up in this narcissistic culture.

Find a woman who doesn’t think she is perfect,
and tries to improve herself, but also is able to
forgive herself for not being perfect.

Be the same way yourself- realize that nobody
is perfect, try to improve, and forgive yourself
for not being perfect- NOBODY is perfect.

One can be confident even while still having
HUMILITY. This was one of the biggest lessons
I had to learn growing up. 

The number one way I was able to get over
some woman I was obsessed with, when I
was 17, and it took years for me to develop this,
was to realize that HUMILITY is a GOOD THING.

I had a mentor, who basically told me to have
more HUMILITY.

When I realized that I wasn’t so special just because
I EXISTED, I started to realize, why SHOULN’T
I have to go through this? What makes me so special
that I should get this woman, just because I want her
so much? Sure, I might want her, but so what? Yeah,
I’m a decent enough guy, I would treat her well, but
why does the universe OWE ME this? 

So, yah, it’s gonna be hell getting over this disappointment,
(and believe me, it was, even though ultimately it did turn
out to be the best thing, since it freed me to finally realize
that indeed there really ARE more fish in the sea and it
ultimately led to me helping men across the planet) but
why does the universe owe ME some kind of special
treatment?

The HUMILITY part of the lesson was more important
to me than all the other women in the world, since at
the moment, I didn’t care for all the other women in the
world, I wanted one particular woman. But the
HUMILITY worked.

This is another reason why showing off is so unattractive.
It reeks of someone who is so narcissistic with so little
humility that he thinks everyone else actually CARES
about those things more than the actual SOCIAL
element of the interaction.

In other words, what REALLY matters is how he
contributes to the way everyone ELSE feels
in the interaction.

And it’s so simple- just think more about respecting
the OTHER person, without kissing up.

When you meet women, be on the LOOKOUT for
signs of  an overblown sense of ENTITLEMENT.

If she disrespects you or anyone else, FORGET HER.

It’s not worth the HELL she will create in your life.

Get yourself a GREAT GIRL.

Because the RIGHT women are not easily
found, you have to meet LOTS of women
in order to find the RIGHT one.

And that is why it is SO IMPORTANT TO LEARN
THE SKILLS OF THE ‘COLD APPROACH’.

You can meet HUNDREDS of times the
amount of women that the ordinary man
meets through regular methods by learning
how to approach women ANYWHERE
you see them.

I have been passionately working in this field
for over TEN YEARS, constantly refining,
constantly tweaking, constantly improving
the methods, and I have been teaching men
how to do this by actually TAKING GUYS
with me and showing them FOR REAL how
it all works, as they actually watch me demonstrate
on women in all types of places. Then, after
performing the demonstrations, I then coach
YOU on how to do it as well, showing you
every last detail.

This is the way to meet a great woman, and
this is the way to do it EFFICIENTLY.

Sign up for a bootcamp with me NOW.

Bootcamp is at:  

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Creating The Flirty Vibe With Women

One of the big things in making an approach
WORK when you are trying to attract a woman
is to switch the vibe of the interaction
from PROPER SOCIAL CONVENTION to a more
FLIRTY, playful, naughty, and sexual vibe.

Now, don't get me wrong- the FIRST skill
is to simply learn how to approach in a smooth
way, where the very act of STARTING the
conversation with a woman who is a total
stranger, does not seem weird.

I have written several posts about that
topic but today I want to focus on
CREATING THE VIBE.

Formal, proper, official social convention
is not a bad thing- for when you are just
going about your everyday business, but
when you are trying to attract a woman
you have to help her get OUT of that
formal, official, non-sexual, non-flirty
state of mind, or it's too easy for her
to simply not even SEE you in the context
of being a man she is sexually interested in.

One of the BEST ways to accomplish the
transition from formal to sexual is to
FIRST go into playful in a very specific
way-the way of displaying more PRIMAL
behavior but in a measured, playful way.

To be more specific, I'm talking about
displaying more SELFISH behavior, ironically,
but again, in a playful way.

The reason this works, is because sex is
actually not all about politeness, it is
about MUTUAL PLEASURE, and it is about
having fun, and taking, and it is primal,
carnal, and selfish to an extent.

This applies to both men and women.
It's not a polite thing, it's a PRIMAL thing.

So, it HELPS a woman enter that state of
mind if YOU lead the way first.  If YOU
show some more indulgence in FUN and in
breaking social convention, and in doing
what you WANT, it helps HER feel comfortable
about letting her guard down as well.

So, for example, let's say you are texting
a woman, and she is in a library, and she
texts you back saying she is going to call
you in ten minutes because she doesn't want
to disturb others in the library, you
might playfully write back that being banned
from the library is a small price to pay
for the pleasure of being with you.

She will know you're joking, but at the same
time you are displaying SELFISH behavior,
you are clearly putting your needs first,
all of which shows you are 'a male animal'
plus you are being sexual, and you are showing
confidence, which helps make her feel comfortable
being a female sexual animal.

I'm one of the most polite people on the planet,
and I also understand that there is a time for
it and a time to put it away or to temper it,
when you are trying to transition things to
a more sexual level with a woman.

The sex drive is not a modern development,
it is the oldest part of our brains, it is
PRIMAL. It is not triggered by appealing to
logic and the more modern developments of
the brain. 

It is triggered by appealing the OLDEST
and most PRIMITIVE part of the mind.

So in one move, you are doing all the right
things- and you are helping her to feel more
comfortable abandoning social convention rules
to be all prim and proper and to indulge in
some selfish pleasure.

This is part of the reason "bad boys"
do well with women- it's because women
are brought up with competing ideologies,
on one hand, they watch Disney movies where
they are all innocent, and on the other hand
they have all the same primal drives that men
do (albeit in a different manifestation but
with equal intensity to men's drives) and
bad boys help women feel free to be as
'bad' as they want in a sexual way.

Of course, there is nothing 'bad' about
the sex drive anyway, but because of social
conditioning, there will always be this
benefit to those men who understand how to
pour on a little bad-boy behavior into their
communication.  There is no need to go overboard
and be a jerk or get arrested.

The trick to doing all this correctly is
to calibrate properly.  Go too far, and you
will freak her out, do too little and you
don't make an impact. A good rule of thumb
is push the envelope just a bit. 

And also, remember that this is not just about
being selfish, it's also about pouring on the
PARTY vibe- the emotional state that is all about
having fun, letting go, and not thinking too much.

This used to be the hardest thing for me to do,
to let go of thinking and just have fun, and to
just enjoy the moment- the irony is that attracting
women has to do with actually LETING GO of so many
things that stop us, as opposed to having to learn
SPECIAL TACTICS.

In other words, we are already equipped with the
know-how on how to approach women and attract
women, we've just repressed these instincts through
social conditioning.

If you want to learn the skills of how to approach
women anywhere and how to attract them, I seriously
suggest you take my live bootcamp program because
in bootcamp, you will SEE exactly what it all looks
like, sounds like, feels like, IN PERSON.

The benefit of bootcamp with me is that I have spent
over ten years learning how to CALIBRATE the various
elements of a successful interaction, and I can SHOW
you this by demonstration on real women, and plus
my experience will also allow me to remove any
issues in your approaches since I will see exactly
where you may be going off track and I can teach
you exactly what to do to fix the issue.

Learning these skills is like learning how to drive.
There are MANY aspects to a successful interaction,
just like there are many aspects to driving.

When you first learn to drive, it all seems overwhelming-
checking surounding traffic, the guages, your mirrors,
how much pressure to apply to the accelerator and the
brake, how to park, etc., but then after a while, it
all seems instinctive.

It's similar with attracting and approaching women.

You have to know how to guage the situation, how
much dominance, humor, sexuality, rapport, etc,
to pour on, and when to ease up. You have to
develop the ability to react quickly, because
so often when approaching a woman who is a
stranger, you only get one chance to do it right,
and so when a challenge in the conversation comes
up, you need to solve it immediately.

I can teach you these skills, and how to get great
at these skills.

And make no mistake about it- without learning
these skills, you are at a SERIOUS disadvantage
when it comes to meeting and attracting women-
you are forced to rely on OTHER people to hopefully
introduce you to some women, which almost NEVER
works out, or you are forced to rely on online dating,
which has really become worse than it used to be,
and where all you have to represent yourself is
an online profile instead of your REAL, live, self.

These days, if you are a man, you MUST learn
these skills to have a real sense of CHOICE
when it comes to women.

With these skills, you can meet and attract
more women in one day than most men
will attract in their entire LIVES. This might
sound crazy, but it is the absolute truth,
and it's one of those things that you want
to learn as EARLY in your life as you can.

Personally, I wish I had learned these skills
when I was in high school, but I sure am glad that
I learned them, and it's NEVER TOO LATE to
learn these skills, it's just better to learn them
as soon as possible.
 
My bootcamp program is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting Women: The Importance Of BALANCE

Approach anxiety is one of those topics
that is mostly misunderstood, so I thought
I would clear it up.

If a guy is feeling a little nervous before approaching
a woman, that is NOT really approach anxiety.

MOST GUYS on the planet are going to feel
SOME anxiety before approaching a woman,
especially if it is a woman they are really attracted to,
and especially if they are approaching a woman
who is a complete stranger, and especially if
she is in some place that is not particularly made
for socializing.

But there is a much more INTENSE issue of
approach anxiety- a TRUE anxiety.

I’m talking actually feeling ANXIETY to the
point of NOT BEING ABLE TO TAKE ACTION
when seeing a woman you want to get to know.

So, I made a program that is designed for guys
who REALLY experience APPROACH ANXIETY-
a program designed to OBLITERATE that
anxiety.

It is, without exaggeration, the absolute BEST
program on the PLANET for obliterating approach
anxiety.

I am so one BILLION percent confident about this,
I actually WANT guys to please try the competition
and compare the difference.

I KNOW this program is the best, because it is
NOT based on GUESSWORK. It is based on
REAL PROVEN RESEARCH and it is the most
METHODICAL, STEP BY STEP, LOGICAL,
and  COMPREHENSIVE APPROACH to
SOLVING this issue for GOOD.

This program is NOT about all the STRATEGIES
for how to attract- those are in my other programs-
this program is EXCLUSIVELY about how to
OBLITERATE APPROACH ANXIETY.

It is called OBLITERATING APPROACH ANXIETY.

It has NOTHING to do with “thinking positive”.
It is NOT the same old advice.
It is not about “just go approach and do it”.

And I’ve made it so there is very little excuse
NOT to get this program. It’s priced at $19.97.

Get this program and learn full details HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/approach-anxiety.html

I should mention one other thing here as well-
the most important things in life  usually have
government regulation around them. On one hand,
it kind of sucks that this is necessary, but on the
other hand, it PURE PROFIT was allowed to
be the ONLY FORCE driving things, you could
imagine what a nightmare it would be- imagine
if doctors, police officers, fire fighters, and countless
other crucial services operated ONLY on a
principle of profit, and decided to abandon
all other concerns.

When it comes to the dating advice field,
it's pretty much the WILD WEST, there is
almost NO regulation at all. So you can understand
that the dynamics of the market reward those
"dating coaches" who cater to those men who
desire EXCESS in this area of their lives.    

To me, helping men meet women is a VITAL
service. The thing is, it’s only vital in the sense
of MAN needs WOMAN in order to have BALANCE.

It’s not vital in that man does not need to
have tons of one night stands and orgies.
In fact, in my opinion, that would probably
lead to a LACK of balance.

In general, engaging in any form of excess is not
satisfying, and in fact it usually is far more destructive
than helpful.    

I have always known since childhood that
BALANCE is the important thing.

So, food is important, but PIGGING OUT
on junk food and drinking to excess is NOT
the same as the importance of food from a
BALANCED perspective.

BALANCE, BALANCE, BALANCE.
We truly lack BALANCE in society today.

People want to have SUPER-SIZE portions.
They want things EXTRA SWEET.
EXTRA SALTY.
TONS OF WOMEN.
INSTANT PLEASURE, LESS WORK. 

But in the BIG PICTURE, we were not
DESIGNED to take in MORE THAN
A BALANCED AMOUNT of STIMULATION,
whether it is food, women, status, fame, etc.

A lot of people want to be famous so bad that
they are slaves to having FACEBOOK followers
or TWITTER followers. People want to be on
REALITY TV to be famous.

People want to be famous just to be famous, but
they don't realize that EXCESS in any these things
(it's one thing to appreciate your friends, it's
something else to want a million people adoring you)
is not going to give them the feeling they seek-
a feeling of BALANCE.

Just like too much sugar eventually
gives you an energy CRASH, so too does
INDULGING TOO MUCH in the desire
for women, social status, respect, etc.,
result in a short-lived adrenaline rush,
followed by a feeling of emptiness.

We are HARDWIRED to want to have these things
because we need them IN SMALL AMOUNTS.

If we had no MOTIVATION for the opposite sex,
for food, for social approval, etc, we, or rather our genes,
our DNA, would be wiped out from the gene pool.

But in today’s society, the NEW challenge is not
how to GET QUANTITY, as the “price” of quantity
has come down. It’s EASY to get promiscuous women,
it’s EASY to get LOTS OF CALORIES, it’s easy to
get ATTENTION.

It's even easy for some to avoid PHYSICAL work
and it's easy for some to never engage in exercise.

It's also easy to get caught up in EXCESS of things-
including even things like exercise.

The new challenge is EXERCISING DISCIPLINE
AND FINDING BALANCE.

The middle road, when it comes to most things,
is where the wise man goes.
So this is what GET A GREAT GIRL is about.
I take it VERY seriously.

It’s NOT important to me to teach men how to
get strippers, how to get orgies, etc.

It IS important for me to teach those men out there
who just seek BALANCE when it comes to women.

Since there is so little money in actually helping people,
because people are weak and are attracted to EXCESS,
no one else out there really seems to give a damn 
that there actually is a NEED for someone to HELP
GOOD GUYS OUT, guys that aren’t interested in acting
all arrogant about pick up artist skills, guys that are wise
enough to know that orgies are ultimately not where
it’s at in REAL LIFE.

I believe in balance.

I don't go around telling men to avoid women.
I don't go around telling men to try to score
with as many women as possible.

I think it’s IMPORTANT to be able to learn these
skills and have choices, so that you are not in a position
of DESPERATION with women, but rather a position
of calm and empowerment.

I think it’s important that the woman you choose
feels EXCITED to be with you. It’s important for
you, and it’s important for her. You don’t want
her to be with you as some sort of FAVOR, you
want her to be with you because she is ATTRACTED
to you.

If you want to learn the BALANCED perspective
on finding the right woman, attracting women,
and keeping the right woman, I suggest you take
my bootcamp, arrange a consultation, or check out
my home study programs.

BOOTCAMP is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Phone Coaching Is At:

http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Home Study Programs Are At:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Secret Of "The Pick-Up That Wasn't There"

Many years ago, I introduced a revolutionary concept 

regarding how to approach and attract women.

At first, just about every single "pick up artist" on 

the PLANET thought it was a HORRIFYING idea,

but they never TESTED it, so they didn't know the

truth.

Ultimately, however, this concept that I had been 
using and teaching my clients was proven to be 
SO POWERFUL, that over the course of MANY
YEARS ultimately won over practically EVERY 
pick-up artist on the planet, so that by these days 
it has finally been proven as ONE HUNDRED 
PERCENT TRUE. 

So in case you haven't been following my work for years,

allow me to re-introduce this concept that I worked tooth

and nail for and fought an uphill battle for YEARS for

before finally it became clear to everyone that is was

indeed TRUE:

The BEST "pick up" happens in a way that feels NATURAL,

and SUBTLE. There is no feeling of "GAME" happening.

Which is where my years-old saying comes in: 

The best “pick-up” is actually the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

In other words, it is so NATURAL, it is really just a 

CONVERSATION between a MAN and a WOMAN,

that PRESERVES the natural underlying CHEMISTRY 

between man and woman, instead of repressing that chemistry.   

The whole problem stems from overcompensation, which

itself stems from insecurity. So the EXAGGERATION of 

any "game" strategy stems from feeling insecure, which leads

to the belief that "more is better" - which, as you probably 

know, is actually not true- it's not true for attracting women,

and it's not true for most things in life.  

So often, less is more. It's about being WISE in the 

APPROPRIATE use of "game" as opposed to just

pouring it on thick.  

So, with that in mind, let's begin the article:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
my Bootcamps is that I’m constantly seeing
the TRUTH of what works and what doesn’t
with attracting the women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop, it
may be a good idea to let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.

The purpose of this is not to hide your approach,
but the opposite in fact, it's to actually give her
a moment to recognize that you are there, instead
of jolting her with a "surprise" out of nowhere.

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.

And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
you might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

And if you are reading this right now, you
can probably see that I am all about giving
you the steps for taking action with women,
no matter where you meet them.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

If You Think Approaching Women Isn't "Normal", Read This NOW

Just a quick yet VITAL message today
regarding ensuring your dating success.

One of the biggest reasons why single men
do NOT approach women is because they
think that it is not “normal”.

Well guess, what?
Whether it is “normal” or not really doesn’t
matter, does it?   What matters is whether a
guy can GET the kind of woman he wants
by approaching women.

See, the word “normal” bothers me.
For some people, the word NORMAL is equivalent
to the word “average”.

So, if you want to be NORMAL in the sense of
being like MOST PEOPLE, then sure, DON’T
approach women.

I remember George Lucas, the creator of Star Wars,
once being asked what method he recommends for
film-makers who want to break into Hollywood,
and his answer was “somehow”.

My point is that as long as it is all legal and no one
is getting hurt, the METHOD does not matter.

In fact, the very DESIRE to want the road to success
with women to be so “normal” is IN ITSELF indicative
of not really understanding the whole dynamic of
attraction.

It has to do with having too much desire for CONFORMITY
for no good reason; it actually stems from the desire
to not be ostracized, and from the desire to be APPROVED
so badly by everyone.

And yet, when it comes to attracting a woman,
SEEKING APPROVAL from her is a TERRIBLE
way to get things started.

I didn’t say to be mean or nasty or unkind.
But KISSING UP from the GET GO is
NOT ATTRACTIVE.

It doesn’t show dominance, confidence, or
PRIDE in one’s self.

And women want a man with dominance,
confidence, and PRIDE.     

So, if anything, the very fact that approaching
women is NOT something that MOST men
would find comfortable, is what actually will
make a woman find the fact that YOU are
doing it to be an ATTRACTIVE quality
about yourself.

The FEAR of not fitting in is what keeps so many
people, sometimes even guys with BILLIONS of
dollars and guys with huge muscles and other intimidating
factors STILL imprisoned and at a serious WEAKNESS
when it comes to attracting women.

And again, I’m not saying to just go out and
be a rebel without a cause, as there is a very
GOOD reason to approach women even if
it might not be “normal”.

By the way, from a WOMAN’S point of view, it
actually IS a very normal thing for a CONFIDENT
MAN to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The kind of man SHE wants WOULD feel it is
NORMAL of him to DO THAT.

The great thing about this is that you can CHANGE
how you feel about approaching women by simply 
getting enough experience doing it!

You see, what’s so crazy is that men do all these
things to impress women, they amass great fortunes,
they build big muscles and houses and drive in fancy
cars, and although having all that stuff is AWESOME
because it HELPS, it ABSOLUTELY NEVER
REPLACES a POWERFUL SELF-IDENTITY.

And that identity must be one that EMBRACES
and RELISHES the path to getting the woman
you want, not an identity that asks “but will
every pathetic guy on the planet also give me
a PAT ON THE BACK and approval if it do it?”

WHO CARES WHAT OTHER GUYS THINK!!!

Also, you may occasionally hear some women say
things like “I hate it when guys try to hit on me”
but the truth is, it all depends on the WHO and
the HOW.

When you are a cool guy that does it RIGHT,
it is WELCOMED. 

And why wouldn’t it be? Imagine a woman who
is attractive and single.  Most guys just LEER
at her, they don’t ACTUALLY have a real
CONVERSATION., and they don’t CONVEY
much personality if they do chat to her.

On a related note, it’s also important to remember
that subconsciously, it is easy to fall into the trap
of LOOKING FOR EXCUSES for why we shouldn’t
bother with approaching women.

By the way, I DO NOT BLAME YOU for making
excuses, as the mind has a crazy powerful way of
RATIONALIZING our lack of TAKING ACTION,
and I used to do the SAME THING.

It took me YEARS to realize how much
TOTAL B.S. my MIND was feeding me!!!!!!!!

Then, when I realized it, I gave myself a good  ol’
BEYOTCH-SLAP TO MY INNER WUSS!!!

So I am trying to save you YEARS by
making my message as CLEAR as possible.

I know all about how the MIND can DESTROY
your happiness and your success with women.

I think it would be CRUEL of me to
NOT BE AS CLEAR AS POSSIBLE.

If your mind is giving you B.S. excuses, then it’s
time for you to BEYOTCH-SLAP those excuses
out of existence!

So, if you find yourself having all kinds of excuses
for not approaching and chatting with women, STOP it.

REALIZE that your mind is trying to find a way
to EXCUSE you from having to FACE any fears,
or it is finding a way for you to find an excuse to
NOT have to put some ENERGY into taking ACTION.

If there are no women in one place you are at,
GO TO ANOTHER PLACE, or GO AT ANOTHER
TIME, or go to a place where you KNOW there
will be women.

It’s as simple as making the decision:
DO I WANT A CERTAIN KIND OF WOMAN
OR DO I JUST WANT TO SETTLE FOR ANYONE?

And if you are reading this right now, and want
a FANTASTIC start on how to approach women
ANYWHERE, there are TWO programs you
should get IMMEDIATELY if you don’t already
have them.

They are Attraction Accelerators and Acing The Approach.

If you haven’t already, then you should download
these programs by going to these two places now:

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And Acing the Approach is at:

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Then, it's time to take your training to the ULTIMATE
level- by taking my BOOTCAMP.

For most men, BOOTCAMP is the absolute FASTEST,
most effective way to learn how to approach and
attract women anywhere.

Bootcamp is at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. If you are in Toronto and interested in a 2-hour
free seminar, where I will be teaching some of my latest
insights on attraction and women, just send me an email
letting me know.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

What You Should Really Be Doing In The Opener

I've been getting a bunch of emails
regarding my last newsletters, so 
I'm going to try to quickly answer
something and clear something up.
 
An opener to a conversation might be,
for example, some topic or theme that
would be appropriate as an ice-breaker
or conversation starter, in a certain
type of environment.
 
There are tons of possible topics,
so for example, in a coffee shop
you can start a conversation about
how addicted to caffeine we've
become as a society, or you can
ask her what her worst vice is,
and that your worst is coffee,
or you can ask her to rate 
these vices in order - coffee,
chocolate, or chick flicks,
or any other guilty pleasure
she might indulge in.
 
Now, notice I'm keeping the topic
relatively flexible and open-ended
to allow for maximum customization
for the actual situation, as opposed
to memorizing endless details and
endless pick up lines.
 
It's easier this way, and it's more
effective, and it encourages you
to think on your feet and be more
spontaneous and real.
 
And yet, there is another point to
the opener- what it does is it allows
you the chance to RELAX about the
opener, and to instead FOCUS on
HER, and I mean focusing on anything
about her that will provide the next
phase of the conversation.
 
It allows you to put your brain to work
on observing her and listening to her,
instead of getting all nervous about
what the heck to say.

THIS is how you come up with the 
perfect way to continue the interaction
in a natural way that really fits her
and the situation instead of just
using some rehearsed line.

Now, getting into all the details regarding that
NEXT phase is a whole other topic, and this
is a newsletter, not a book, and also it's the
reason I offer consultations and bootcamps
which allow me to teach you it all in detail-
and to customize it all for your needs, 
and in bootcamps to also demonstrate it all-
and to observe you as you approach,
kind of like how a driving instructor is
in the car with you and observing and
helping you out when required. 
 
Now, after a while, you won't even
need to memorize ANY theme or topic,
if you follow my method of learning,
which is focused on weaning you off
any training wheels and getting you
as independent and powerful and
flexible as possible for any situation.
 
But my point is, the purpose of the opener
is not necessarily to OVERWHELM HER
WITH YOUR AWESOMENESS - although
you MIGHT sometimes do this as well
if you are really in the zone and you have
something REALLY perfect to say for the
moment, and you deliver it right, etc.
 
But the main point of the opener is that
it is a RELIABLE way for YOU to buy
some time to actually get to glean some
understanding of her- whether it comes
from observing something she is saying,
doing, wearing, etc. 

It is not a time to be falling asleep thinking
that you don't have to do anything else.

It is the time to be so focused on her that
you have a MOUNTAIN of things to talk
about based on those observations. 

So the opener is not just a random thing,
it has purposes, and it is there to help you
get to the NEXT stage, although like I said
pick up does not follow the exact same
order of sequencing in every interaction,
and sometimes more than one thing
is happening at once- for example,
attraction and connection can be
happening at the same time.
 
But again, the purpose of this newsletter
is just to give more understanding of the 
opener.
 
Also, I want to make it clear that if you
have no coach, if you can't take my bootcamp,
if you can't take my consultations, if you can't
get my programs, it is TOTALLY FINE to approach,
open with WHATEVER you can possibly think of, 
try your best to keep the conversation going, 
and if it collapses, SO BE IT, you will 
GROW MASSIVELY FROM THIS.
 
As you keep up this style, it will eventually lead 
to you lasting LONGER in the conversation, and
making the interaction more meaningful and
compelling. 
 
This is because forcing yourself NOT TO EJECT
for as long as you can forces your MIND to
grow in skill. 

The thing is, learning from me will save you
PRECIOUS time. 

I believe TIME is far, FAR more precious than money.

In bootcamp, I share a PLETHORA of crucial
insights customized to your particular needs, that
will shave off MONTHS and often YEARS from your
learning time- things that you would have to see
the hard way over and over and over again to
notice the patterns- but that I point out to you
and save you from, saving you from wasting time, and 
saving you from wasting emotions, IMMEDIATELY. 

I'm a careful judge of when to help, and exactly
how much to help, ESPECIALLY REGARDING THE
ACTUAL WORDS TO SAY.
 
When it comes to memorized material to say to
a woman, I always coach my guys with just the 
MINIMUM of help- this is very similar to working
out with a partner who is "spotting" you at the gym, 
so if you are lifting the weight, the partner is not 
supposed to LIFT THE WEIGHT FOR YOU, he gives
you just the MINIMUM you need, and THAT is the 
best training partner.

I want you to get the girl, as they say.
And I want you to do it with as little help from me
as possible, so that you grow in skill as fast as
possible.

Now, there are some exceptions for particular situations,
but in general, if the spotter is getting more of a workout
than the guy lifting the weight, something is wrong.

And as your COACH and not just your training partner,
I know what is going to work best for you in terms
of what skills you need the most.

It's not about me spitting out every fact on
pickup to you, and it's not about helping you
too much.  It's about giving you what
is best for your development.

It's similar to bodybuilding- a guy who easily puts on
size but not definition, should focus on definition 
more, and a guy who is easily defined but doesn't
have much size should work on putting on some size.
 
I love it when my students grow in skill as
fast as possible, so that's why I am adamant
about not babying them- and about making sure
they put their focus on the areas that are going
to most help them attract the women they want.
 
So if you are ready for the ultimate training,
then BOOTCAMP is for you.
 
It's at:
 
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
 
P.S. If you are in Toronto and interested in a 2-hour
free seminar, where I will be teaching some of my latest
insights on attraction and women, just send me an email 
letting me know.
 
Till next time,
 
Michael Marks
 

Passion, Action, And Attraction

Just a very short newsletter today,
but an important one for you to get
this year off to the right start.

Everybody talks about making resolutions
this time of year, and there are probably
more books and more experts on how to
cause change in your life than ever
before in human history, yet one
thing BOGGLES MY MIND:

WHY DO THEY MAKE IT ALL SO COMPLICATED?????????

You need two ingredients for effective
change: PASSION and ACTION.

If you think you are going to create
change in your life by dragging your
feet, you're wrong.  Yes, it's better
than nothing, but it's not the way
to EXCELLENCE.

And if you think you're going to
get the change you want just because
you WANT something badly enough, but
you aren't taking ACTION, ain't nothing
gonna happen then either.

But put the two TOGETHER-
PASSION and ACTION, and then
EVERYTHING happens as a result,
including all the other steps.

Let me give you an example- I recently had
a bootcamp client that I was not even HALF-WAY
through training, I'd done several demonstrations,
and it was time for him to put more of what
he had been taught and what he had observed
into action.

So what followed showed a TON of passion,
AND he took action- and this was highlighted
when we were walking in the cold outside,
past a trendy restaurant and through the
the window a stunning sight could be seen.

A beautiful woman was having dinner with
a group of friends, and it ignited the
fire of his PASSION.

He took ACTION.
Even though this was the kind of restaurant
where you need to have reservations, where
you must wait for someone to come to you
to help you find a table, and  even though he
had no connection to her or her friends, NONE
of this stopped him.

He went STRAIGHT in, and when the staff
asked if they could help him find a
table, he just said he had to speak
with someone at a table- his passion
and conviction made it clear he was
genuine, and they just let him
straight on in.

He went directly up to her, no games,
no faking, no trying to look like
it was a matter of coincidence.

By the way, this is far more attractive
than trying to cover it all up - the key
though is to also have the conversation
skills to spontaneously start and
continue a conversation with a woman
who is a total stranger- which comes
from a combination of learning through
instruction and through practice as well.

Now, not only did the woman not react
negatively, she was warm to his approach,
the only problem is that he was so new,
that he actually ejected due to a
combination of not knowing what else
to say after his initial genuine opening,
but also the pressure was a lot for a
beginner, and so he ejected, which is
perfectly fine- this was one of his
FIRST approaches during bootcamp, so
it's impossible to get all the conversation
skills down that fast.

But SHE was ready for him to CONTINUE.
See, women aren't trained to do pick
up themselves, so you have to kind of
get the ball rolling a bit before they can
even be able to close the gap and help
you along- it's not like they don't want
to, but it IS a skill.

But my point is, with THAT level of
PASSION and ACTION- I can take a student
VERY VERY VERRRRRRRRRRRY FAR.

Yes, there ARE many different skills involved
in the actual approaches/pick ups- and they are
vital, absolutely crucial - but if you have the
PASSION, and you are a person who takes ACTION,
then you can truly BENEFIT from my teaching
you all the skills.

You are the kind of person who I will be able
to teach those SKILLS- the skills of calibrating
your approach perfectly, the skill of knowing
how to approach in terms of every nuance,
from the angle you approach her to the level
of connection you make to the things you
say to start off the conversation, to making
her feel comfortable, to conveying the best elements
of your personality, to the kind of humor
to use, to keeping the conversation going,
to making her want to feed the conversation
herself, etc., etc., etc.

And when it comes to THIS field itself, it
is a PASSION of mine, and I have put over
a DECADE of passionate ACTION into it,
CONSTANTLY refining.

One of the things that I have always been
passionate about in this field, is how to
attract women without using lies, and
without engaging in any malfeasance.

No one, absolutely no one else on the planet,
has been teaching men this no-nonsense way,
for as long as I have. No one.

There have been some people who have tried
to imitate me, but that is all they have done.

Tried to imitate.
Because their passion is not this field,
their passion is trying to make an easy
income from doing nothing original.

In fact, one company thought it would be
cool to film men approaching women,
but forgot to mention that the women
were paid to act happy to meet the men.

They then of course, when caught, mentioned
it later. I'm sure they're reading this newsletter
right now, hoping to get something from
me, but they don't understand the thing to
copy from me is having good ethics- believe
it or not, without ethics, there IS NO connection
between human beings, and that includes
between men and women.

Another thing to copy from me is my emphasis on
the fact that this is a SKILL that takes PRACTICE.

There are TONS of important elements to learn,
and ABSOLUTELY having an experienced professional
as your instructor will make your learning infinitely
faster than having to learn it all through trial and error
completely on your own, but you will STILL NEED
TO PRACTICE.

Other companies like to focus on drunk women.
To me, that's not a real connection, but I understand
that some men don't care.  At least those guys
are honest.

I like to keep it real.
I could make a hundred time more profit
by screwing guys over with endless marketing
nonsense, from pretending they've seen spirits,
to enlightenment, to all sorts of stuff that no one
can ever prove.

I want to simply help you attract women without
using anything sketchy.  

Some men lie about their age, their accomplishments,
their finances, their social status, their job, etc. and
so to me that would feel SUCKY even if it DID result
in getting the woman, because you'd always feel
like it wasn't real, or like you were in jeopardy of
losing her if you were honest.

But what is so crazy is that if you are
actually ATTRACTING a woman, that's all she
CARES about- SO nothing else matters, including
the things you THOUGHT you needed to lie about-
and what is IRONIC is that the giving into
the INSECURITY AROUND whatever issue you
think you need to lie about -- well that
INSECURITY is the REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
ANTI-ATTRACTOR!

Is it every attractive woman on the planet?
No, but it's more women though than you could
ever have the time for in a dozen lifetimes.

I've seen it happen SO often, it's RIDICULOUSLY
obvious to me at this point. I'm talking about
women FIGHTING to convince YOU to call them,
just MINUTES after approaching them- women
that most men would think they had 'no chance'
with.

And this is one of the reasons I'm not a fan
of online dating- it doesn't give you the best
way to SHOW YOUR FULL PERSONALITY and to show
what you can do with that personality.

In person, you not only have your voice and
body language, but you also get to REACT
and INTERACT with women, so they get the
FULL EXPERIENCE of what it means to be
in your aura.

So, if you are PASSIONATE about having the
power to attract the women of your choice,
and if you are prepared to take ACTION,
then I already know you are going to
learn EVERYTHING and I already know it's
going to be a THRILL to teach you.

Take ACTION now- contact me TODAY for your
BOOTCAMP program.

BOOTCAMP is where I take your passion, your
commitment to ACTION, and then EQUIP you with
all the SKILLS covering EVERY SITUATION you
can find yourself in with ANY woman you want
to attract, no matter WHERE you happen to
see her.

BOOTCAMP is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks