Just a quick yet VITAL message today
regarding ensuring your dating success.
One of the biggest reasons why single men
do NOT approach women is because they
think that it is not “normal”.
Well guess, what?
Whether it is “normal” or not really doesn’t
matter, does it? What matters is whether a
guy can GET the kind of woman he wants
by approaching women.
See, the word “normal” bothers me.
For some people, the word NORMAL is equivalent
to the word “average”.
So, if you want to be NORMAL in the sense of
being like MOST PEOPLE, then sure, DON’T
approach women.
I remember George Lucas, the creator of Star Wars,
once being asked what method he recommends for
film-makers who want to break into Hollywood,
and his answer was “somehow”.
My point is that as long as it is all legal and no one
is getting hurt, the METHOD does not matter.
In fact, the very DESIRE to want the road to success
with women to be so “normal” is IN ITSELF indicative
of not really understanding the whole dynamic of
attraction.
It has to do with having too much desire for CONFORMITY
for no good reason; it actually stems from the desire
to not be ostracized, and from the desire to be APPROVED
so badly by everyone.
And yet, when it comes to attracting a woman,
SEEKING APPROVAL from her is a TERRIBLE
way to get things started.
I didn’t say to be mean or nasty or unkind.
But KISSING UP from the GET GO is
NOT ATTRACTIVE.
It doesn’t show dominance, confidence, or
PRIDE in one’s self.
And women want a man with dominance,
confidence, and PRIDE.
So, if anything, the very fact that approaching
women is NOT something that MOST men
would find comfortable, is what actually will
make a woman find the fact that YOU are
doing it to be an ATTRACTIVE quality
about yourself.
The FEAR of not fitting in is what keeps so many
people, sometimes even guys with BILLIONS of
dollars and guys with huge muscles and other intimidating
factors STILL imprisoned and at a serious WEAKNESS
when it comes to attracting women.
And again, I’m not saying to just go out and
be a rebel without a cause, as there is a very
GOOD reason to approach women even if
it might not be “normal”.
By the way, from a WOMAN’S point of view, it
actually IS a very normal thing for a CONFIDENT
MAN to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The kind of man SHE wants WOULD feel it is
NORMAL of him to DO THAT.
The great thing about this is that you can CHANGE
how you feel about approaching women by simply
getting enough experience doing it!
You see, what’s so crazy is that men do all these
things to impress women, they amass great fortunes,
they build big muscles and houses and drive in fancy
cars, and although having all that stuff is AWESOME
because it HELPS, it ABSOLUTELY NEVER
REPLACES a POWERFUL SELF-IDENTITY.
And that identity must be one that EMBRACES
and RELISHES the path to getting the woman
you want, not an identity that asks “but will
every pathetic guy on the planet also give me
a PAT ON THE BACK and approval if it do it?”
WHO CARES WHAT OTHER GUYS THINK!!!
Also, you may occasionally hear some women say
things like “I hate it when guys try to hit on me”
but the truth is, it all depends on the WHO and
the HOW.
When you are a cool guy that does it RIGHT,
it is WELCOMED.
And why wouldn’t it be? Imagine a woman who
is attractive and single. Most guys just LEER
at her, they don’t ACTUALLY have a real
CONVERSATION., and they don’t CONVEY
much personality if they do chat to her.
On a related note, it’s also important to remember
that subconsciously, it is easy to fall into the trap
of LOOKING FOR EXCUSES for why we shouldn’t
bother with approaching women.
By the way, I DO NOT BLAME YOU for making
excuses, as the mind has a crazy powerful way of
RATIONALIZING our lack of TAKING ACTION,
and I used to do the SAME THING.
It took me YEARS to realize how much
TOTAL B.S. my MIND was feeding me!!!!!!!!
Then, when I realized it, I gave myself a good ol’
BEYOTCH-SLAP TO MY INNER WUSS!!!
So I am trying to save you YEARS by
making my message as CLEAR as possible.
I know all about how the MIND can DESTROY
your happiness and your success with women.
I think it would be CRUEL of me to
NOT BE AS CLEAR AS POSSIBLE.
If your mind is giving you B.S. excuses, then it’s
time for you to BEYOTCH-SLAP those excuses
out of existence!
So, if you find yourself having all kinds of excuses
for not approaching and chatting with women, STOP it.
REALIZE that your mind is trying to find a way
to EXCUSE you from having to FACE any fears,
or it is finding a way for you to find an excuse to
NOT have to put some ENERGY into taking ACTION.
If there are no women in one place you are at,
GO TO ANOTHER PLACE, or GO AT ANOTHER
TIME, or go to a place where you KNOW there
will be women.
It’s as simple as making the decision:
DO I WANT A CERTAIN KIND OF WOMAN
OR DO I JUST WANT TO SETTLE FOR ANYONE?
You may have noticed that I haven’t mentioned
INTERNET dating. That is because it usually
is much more rare for a quality woman to be
online than it is to find her in “real life”. The
internet may be a great place to practice, but
it’s also too tempting a place to be LAZY AND
to go to INSTEAD of GOING OUT INTO THE REAL
WORLD to get women.
I’m not saying the internet never works, just saying
that you can’t rely on it.
And if you are reading this right now, and want
a FANTASTIC start on how to approach women
ANYWHERE, there are TWO programs you
should get IMMEDIATELY if you don’t already
have them.
They are Attraction Accelerators and Acing The Approach.
If you haven’t already, then you should download
these programs by going to these two places now:
Attraction Accelerators is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
And Acing the Approach is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
And of course, if you would like to take a
BOOTCAMP with me, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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