One of the great TRAGEDIES of modern
times is that actually BEING A GOOD MAN
is not as celebrated as it used to be,
and this in itself has caused a lot of
good guys to actually be good QUIETLY
AND SECRETLY so as not to get labelled
UNCOOL, or simply because they think
it is wrong to have this pride.
Well, if you are one of those good
guys with good values, and you seek
a woman with good values as well,
you REALLY need to be PROUD AS
HELL ABOUT THEM!
I sure hope you are feeling the
PRIDE that you should be experiencing,
because not only of course is it just a
cool thing on its own, but science has
shown that women find PRIDE in men
to be attractive.
What is insane is that the SLEAZY
guys seem to have no problem high-fiving
each other for being sleaze bags and
screwing around and promoting things
like infidelity and cheating, while
the GOOD GUYS are so good, they think
they need to be good quietly.
Not only does having more pride in being
who you are end up inspiring OTHER people,
but it actually helps you with WOMEN
big-time.
A while ago, I sent out an important
newsletter regarding how women find
men with PRIDE to be more attractive,
as well as how, in a study on these
matters, men smiling seemed to
be less attractive to women than
men who were not smiling.
Also, in that newsletter, I mentioned
how for women, it was actually reversed,
that in fact smiling INCREASED a woman's
attractiveness, and PRIDE actually
DIMINISHED her attractiveness.
I thought it was important to not only
resend out that newsletter, but to make
it clear that none of this means that
the solution is to go around with a
FROWN on your face or being all upset
or negative.
If you remember, in another recent newsletter,
I mentioned how HAPPINESS is actually
an attractive quality and makes you
more likely to succeed with women.
Yet the key to remember, is that happiness
can take many forms. It does not have
to only take the form of a big smile
on one's face.
So, for example, a runner who has just
completed a marathon, or a leader who
works exhausting hours but is impacting
many people in a positive way, may not
have smiles on their faces, but they may
very well be experiencing a deep sense of
inner joy/peace/meaning/contentment/inspiration.
In the book, The How Of Happiness, this
definition of happiness is explained, and if
you study my actual programs and materials,
you will see how these ideas are integrated,
for example in my book "Get A Great Girl" I
discuss how having CONVICTION in your
values, your beliefs, is attractive, as opposed
to just doing them to make SOMEONE
ELSE happy.
Being a quality man is not about just
having good values because it attracts
women, it is because they are what
give you a sense of meaning no matter
WHAT. INCLUDING a sense of PRIDE.
And of course, the irony, is that THIS
is super attractive, when a woman knows
this is your CORE.
And by the way, these are all GENUINE
studies conducted by a respected university.
So here we go:
Since day one, the biggest thing to me has
been to stay AWAY from all gimmicks.
I ONLY CARE ABOUT EVIDENCE.
BOATLOADS of solid EVIDENCE.
And MAN, do I have a BIG one for you today.
In fact, if you read my very first book,
The Dating Wizard, which was published
in 2003, you can see that I was against the
use of all sorts of gimmicks back then, and
that this book teaches how you can truly
BECOME the man that women want instead
of how to put on an "act".
One of the biggest things I have been teaching
throughout the years are things that fly in the
face of "accepted practice", and that’s because
"accepted practices" such as smiling at women
and showing them how NICE I could be got me
NOWHERE with women.
On the other hand, as I started to become far
LESS NICE, and did a LOT LESS SMILING, I
noticed way, way, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY
better results.
This used to drive me nuts, and I couldn’t figure
it out, as I used to think women loved MEAN men.
Then, I finally realized that it was all about a
tiny SUBTLETY – it was about the SUBTLE
messages being given off by all that smiling
and niceness.
The message was:
"I HAVE LOW VALUE AND STATUS AND WILL
KISS YOUR BUTT JUST FOR THE CHANCE
TO BE WITH YOU."
And women, across ALL cultures and geographic
regions of the PLANET, are not attracted to men
who behave with LOW confidence, men who
behave as if they have no POWER.
In other words, men with no PRIDE.
So, you COULD smile at a woman, but the fact
is, the way MOST men smile at women who
are hot is a SUBMISSIVE smile.
It is not the kind of smile that says YOU want ME.
It’s a smile that says the following:
"I want YOU but I don't have the value to be
WORTHY of you. Therefore, I am going to SHOW
you through this smile how much I will SERVE
you, be submissive to you, and do whatever
you want, because I feel that is a fair deal
since YOU have the value and I don't'."
And there's MORE.
The "MORE" is the fact that CHANGING YOUR
PHYSIOLOGY, i.e. TAKING ON THE FACIAL
EXPRESSIONS OF CONVICTION, PRIDE,
CONFIDENCE, ETC, ACTUALLY END UP
MAKING YOU FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL
THOSE EMOTIONS AS WELL!!!!!!
And when you FEEL something, you end up
showing it even MORE CONVINCINGLY
SINCE IT IS NOT AN ACT.
And, ultimately, a woman feels far more DESIRABLE
when the desire is coming from a man who KNOWS
he is wanted and who ALSO wants HER.
After all, if a man feels he has no value, then his
desire for her is NOT as flattering as it would be
if he KNEW and FELT and BEHAVED like he
was the ULTIMATE man.
Yes, women DO want to be lusted after, but it has
to be by a man who isn't behaving as if HE has
no worth.
So, for example, you could even TELL a woman
a compliment IF that compliment is delivered
in a way that shows you BELIEVE she will be
FLATTERED by it, rather than if you believe
you NEED to do those kinds of things to
get her to "agree" to be with you.
And I have received an important email from a cool guy
with yet even MORE RESEARCH that PROVES
every thing I have been saying.
In fact, not only is MALE PRIDE something that is
viewed by women as making men MORE attractive,
but FEMALE PRIDE is viewed by men as making
women seem LESS attractive, and also men SMILING
seems to HURT men's "attractiveness" while WOMEN
SMILING seems to IMPROVE women's attractiveness.
So much for the B.S. advice that boys have been brainwashed
to believe by politically correct forces of how women just
want a "SMILING NICE guy".
This doesn't mean that you should never smile.
That would be insane advice for me to give.
What it means is that men should stop TRYING SO HARD
TO SMILE SO MUCH TO MAKE WOMEN HAPPY,
SINCE WOMEN DON'T EVEN LIKE IT ANYWAY!
There is a REASON that in all of CLINT EASTWOOD'S
MOVIES, he almost NEVER smiles, and it is not a
COINCIDENCE that he was (and probably still is by
many women) considered so absolutely DESIRABLE.
His characters were NOT the SMILEY types
His characters DID have TONS of pride.
He DID have a sense of conviction, meaning,
contentment, and of course pride, to his
demeanor.
Same thing with the BOND character.
He doesn't smile much, but he sure has LOADS of PRIDE.
Not smiling does not mean not happy
or not feeling good about one's self.
If you think of the character of ROCKY,
in all those matches, his face is bloodied,
but UNBOWED, and his expression oozes pride.
And also, when you think of the WOMEN that men have
been CRAZY ATTRACTED TO, the most COMMON
stereotype is a woman who SMILES GENUINELY
and who does NOT come across as having too much
pride or arrogance.
Think of, for example, MARILYN MONROE.
This is UNIVERSAL across cultures.
It is HOGWASH when SOME feminists say that
"it’s just a matter of "culture" and environment that
makes men prefer women who DO smile, who DO
behave friendly."
Men do NOT get turned on by the same behaviors
in women as women get turned on by in MEN.
It makes SENSE, that men, who have more TESTOSTERONE,
won't be SMILING as much as women. It makes sense, that
a man with PRIDE in fact WOULD be more attractive to
a woman, because it would mean he is a man who is an
ACHIEVER/PROTECTOR/PROVIDER or all THREE.
It makes SENSE that a man would find a woman who seemed
GENUINELY FRIENDLY to be ATTRACTIVE, because
she would be WARM to him, she would be TRUSTWORTHY
to be the MOTHER of his children and to be a CARING
MOTHER and more than just a sexual companion but
rather a sexual companion that would be loyal.
Men should exhibit PROUD expressions and
women should exhibit FRIENDLY expressions
IF they want to be at their "sexiest".
Here are some quotes from the study by
Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall from the
University of British Columbia concerning
"The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual
Attraction."
"Across two studies using different images
and samples ranging broadly in age (total N _ 1041),
a large gender difference emerged in the sexual
attractiveness of happy displays: happiness was
the most attractive female emotion expression,
and one of the least attractive in males.
In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern;
it was the most attractive male expression, and
one of the least attractive in women."
The study also goes on to say that while smiling
may be SOCIALLY the right thing to do for
both men and women, it HARMS men’s initial
attractiveness to women, but it INCREASES
women’s attractiveness.
This is why for MEN, not exactly trying to "fit in"
is often PART of what makes a man attractive, even
though it costs him some social points with the
rest of society.
So now you can understand why so many women
LOVE "bad boys" but why most men don't find
"bad girls" to be sexy.
But you don’t HAVE to be a "bad boy", you just
have to behave with DOMINANCE.
Going too far with being a "bad boy" will
DESTROY your relationships. Ultimately,
if your behavior makes her feel WORSE
rather than better, then you're going
too far.
And if you haven't yet got my E-Book called
"Get A Great Girl" then do that NOW.
A lot of guys out there take the "don't
be a nice guy" advice OUT OF CONTEXT
and end up destroying their chances with
women.
If you plan on actually getting a quality
girlfriend, and KEEPING her, you NEED to
get this book IMMEDIATELY.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
I also suggest you subscribe to my important
new monthly program on attracting quality
women, it's called 'The Quality Man', and
it's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/thequalityman.html
If you would like to book a private
consultation with me regarding any
dating or relationship issue, simply
email me with the best time that works
for you, and I will get back to you
asap.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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