The Happy Attractor

A SUPER INSANELY IMPORTANT message
today regarding the truth about attracting women.

Have you ever wondered why a guy will
suddenly do better with ALL women
once he GETS a woman interested in him?

Maybe you thought that this is because
he suddenly now has CONFIDENCE.

This is true, but it actually goes DEEPER
than this.

What has happened is that he is also
HAPPIER (and confidence is PART of
being happy), and it is THAT EMOTION
that is a BIG part of what I am talking
about when I talk about the COMBINATION
of emotions that form the “magic mix”
to attract women.

One of the craziest ironies is that we are
living in a time that emphasizes the
INDIVIDUAL’S happiness.  So each
person is really busy focusing on themselves,
their career, their personal lives, etc.

As opposed to a long time ago when it
was all about getting married young,      
and focusing on love of family, country,
religion, etc.

And yet, people are no happier now that
they get to focus on themselves so much.

The reason is because HAPPINESS is
all about the EFFORT one puts into
doing the DEEP INNER WORK on
himself or herself.  And unfortunately,
people THINK that a good life is a life
where they don’t have to expend EFFORT,
and unfortunately people simply DON’T
BELIEVE the truth which is that a huge
portion of happiness comes from working
on one’s attitude.

There is a great book, called “The How
of Happiness”, that I suggest everyone
read. It is one of the ONLY books on this
topic that is not full of gimmicks but rather
has taken the SCIENTIFIC METHOD to
its approach.  I was delighted to find out
how INSANELY MUCH it has in common
with my WARRIOR WITHIN program,
because for example, in my program,
I explain how you don’t have to be a
JERK to show you are tough, or to attract
women,  and you don’t have to manipulate
women to get them interested in you, and
that in fact the better you are able to
experience POSITIVE EMOTIONS,
the easier it will be to attract women.

The reason why this is, is because people
want to feel RELAXED around others,
they want to feel GOOD.

A lot of guys mistake this with KISSING
UP to a woman, but KISSING UP TO
A WOMAN is actually doing the opposite
because it reeks of DESPERATION.

The fact is, when a guy is really worshipping
a woman out of a scarcity mentality, out of
desperation, out of fear of not being able
to find another woman, out of fear of thinking
that SHE is the sole provider of his self-esteem
and happiness, he is ACTUALLY giving off
a horrifyingly REPULSIVE “vibe” where
a woman can FEEL all those negative emotions
in him- those emotions can be DETECTED,
and they don’t feel good to be around.

On the OTHER HAND, when a man can
STILL be good to a woman, but it’s all
coming from a sense of HIS OWN HAPPINESS,
his own calm, and NOT his DESPERATION
for her, or his need for her, THEN a woman
LIGHTS UP around him.

Now, the thing is, when FIRST approaching
a woman, in a non party environment, you CAN’T
just go up to her in TOTAL EXTREME HAPPY
mode on the surface, or she will think you are nuts.

And this is where a lot of guys get mixed up
and confused.

You can’t just go up to a woman in the
bookstore and be BEAMING with a smile
and just EXPLODING WITH HAPPINESS.

Or rather, you can, but you have to actually
NOT SHOW IT IN THAT FIRST SECOND.

The reason is that people like that are SO RARE,
that a woman will just think something is wrong
with you.

So, in that FIRST MOMENT, just be DEAD
SERIOUS in your expression on your face.

Say whatever it is that you are going to say,
as your conversation opener, in that super
serious tonality.

BUT THEN, once she is starting to TALK
to you, you should THEN reveal and unleash
the FULL INTERNAL POWER of your
EXPLODING SUNSHINE.

Take the conversation to the most inspiring
place, the funniest place, the most meaningful
place, the kindest place, the most interesting
place, MAKE THE CONVERSATION
DAMN POSITIVE, AND MAKE SURE
YOU MEAN IT WITH EVERY MORSEL
OF YOUR SOUL.

Man, you do this, and you are going to
have so many women at your fingertips,
you are going to need a new program from
me called HOW TO STOP WOMEN FROM
CONTACTING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE
TOO MANY CONSTANTLY BEGGING YOU
FOR YOUR ATTENTION ALL THE TIME.

We are brainwashed to think that acting mean,
tough, negative, etc, is somehow “cool”, that
being depressed is stylish, while being happy
is cheesy and for idiots.

NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM
THE TRUTH.

It’s EASY to get depressed, to be negative,
to be pessimistic. THAT is why so many
people frame it as COOL, because they
HAVE BEEN DUPED by their own
negative emotions to think that negativity
IS the right emotion.

But it ain’t.
In fact, if you ever see a knockout of a woman
who is constantly single, it just might be because
she is a really negative person, so she drives away
any normal guy, and she herself is repulsed by the
negative desperate guys.

Negativity IS REALLY A REPULSOR, even
if a woman is gorgeous on the outside, and
even if a guy has EVERYTHING ELSE
going on for him on the outside. 

Also, it is VITAL to realize, and this
is pointed out in "The How of Happiness",
that one's EXTERNAL circumstances ONLY
account for 10 percent of one's sense
of happiness.

Yup, 10 percent.
This is why it is so important, if you
want to KEEP a woman attracted to you,
that you learn how to STAY happy in
general, otherwise when the initial
excitement you felt from getting her
wears off, your happiness will go away.

If your entire sense of happiness
depends on her and if you think
that without her, life will be
pointless, you won't be happy,
and THAT will definitely push
her away.      

On the other hand, if you learn how
to be deeply positive in your own way,
and feel a deep sense of meaning in
your life, then you will actually
enjoy her more, because you are
not expecting her to be the source
of all your positive emotions,
and of course this superior state
of mind that you are in will
also ATTRACT HER MORE TO YOU.

So, let me give you some tips for CHANGING
your INTERNAL STATE:

ONE: REFRAME

What I mean by this, is FIND A NEW
perspective on things that you think
are NEGATIVES or WEAKNESSES
about yourself or your life.

So, if you think you are too old for
a woman, just remember that most
women complain that the guys they
meet are emotionally immature, and
that tons of women CRAVE older men.

If you think you are too young for a woman,
just remember how IMPRESSIVE it will
be if you show that you actually HAVE
the maturity of an older man WHILE ALSO
being super young.

If you think you are too short, just
think about how the vast majority of
heart throbs in Hollywood are actually
shorter than average.

If you think you are too tall, just remember
that plenty of women will find themselves
feeling very feminine in your presence
and crave that masculine polar opposite
feeling that you will give her.

If you think that you are not rich enough,
remember that money does not PHYSICALLY
attract a woman, so you can easier know if a
woman that is with you is genuinely attracted
to you or not.    

There is ALWAYS another perspective,
but it is up to YOU to put the ENERGY
into FEELING that perspective.

I can tell you that most people simply
DO NOT PUT ANY EFFORT IN
to actually doing ANY reframing
in their mind.

It is INSANE.

It is like going to the gym and expecting
to get BIG MUSCLES by SITTING
on the bench press machine or STANDING
with the squat bar on you, and the author
of that book gives a similar analogy.

TWO: DO KIND THINGS FOR NO REASON
FOR TOTAL STRANGERS

The very ACT of doing this sends a
DIRECT SIGNAL to your brain that
YOU are living in ABUNDANCE,
that you are ABLE to do GOOD
for others.

It makes you feel POWERFUL and it
makes you feel GOOD.

It is a GREAT thing to do for your own
MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL STATE.

This is why I don’t like it when guys
say nasty things about women who
aren’t physically attractive, or who
will be rude or give the cold shoulder
to them.

It suggests a very DESPERATE state
of mind to one’s SELF, never mind that
is is kind of cruel.

Your MIND follows your ACTIONS.
Take the ACTIONS of a man who believes
he’s got it all, and the EMOTIONS of a man
that “has it all” then come as well.

This gets me to number three:

THREE: PHYSICALLY CHANGE
YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

It sounds SOOOOOOOO CHEESY, but
doing things like SMILING actually DO
change your OWN emotions.

Now, like I said before, don’t START
your approach to a woman with a big
smile, but for your OWN self, in general,
DEFINITELY SMILE.  Do it for
YOURSELF, and then, of course, what
will happen is that your smile even when
around women will be the smile that
is from feeling good and not from
kissing up.

Don’t be like the masses who say and
think that this stuff is CHEESY.  

The very fact they think it is CHEESY
is why so FEW people MASTER these
skills even though they ARE THE VERY
SECRETS for MASSIVE SUCCESS.

Now, these are just THREE tips, and in my
WARRIOR WITHIN program I share with
you TONS more, ESPECIALLY as they
relate to approaching women, attracting
women, getting over fears, creating a
deep connection with women, and much,
much more.

Remember, when a woman experiences
what life is like with you in just a few
MINUTES of her first interaction with you,
she will then KEEP ON THINKING OF YOU
as she goes back to her regular life and her
regular social circle and keeps comparing
how much better she felt around YOU than
around ANYONE else.

And she will want you then more than EVER.

It all boils down to what is going on INSIDE
of you; it is about being the MASTER of
the internal emotions, especially as they
relate to interacting and attracting women.

And the very best program that you can get
on this topic is my WARRIOR WITHIN
DVD Set that has been designed for
EXACTLY this purpose.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my program
on CONFIDENT HUMOR, then definitely do that
as well:

When you see a gorgeous woman somewhere
who is a total stranger, there is often nothing
better for "breaking the ice" and getting her
phone number than using CONFIDENT HUMOR.

This program is not about learning corny jokes,
it’s about becoming more confident in your
humor, and using that to skyrocket your
sense of humor. 

Get this program right now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/confident-humor.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks