been to stay AWAY from all gimmicks.
I ONLY CARE ABOUT EVIDENCE.
BOATLOADS of solid EVIDENCE.
And MAN, do I have a BIG one for you today.
In fact, if you read my very first book,
The Dating Wizard, which was published
in 2003, you can see that I was against the
use of all sorts of gimmicks back then, and
that this book teaches how you can truly
BECOME the man that women want instead
of how to put on an "act".
One of the biggest things I have been teaching
throughout the years are things that fly in the
face of "accepted practice", and that’s because
"accepted practices" such as smiling at women
and showing them how NICE I could be got me
NOWHERE with women.
On the other hand, as I started to become far
LESS NICE, and did a LOT LESS SMILING, I
noticed way, way, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY
better results.
This used to drive me nuts, and I couldn’t figure
it out, as I used to think women loved MEAN men.
Then, I finally realized that it was all about a
tiny SUBTLETY – it was about the SUBTLE
messages being given off by all that smiling
and niceness.
The message was:
"I HAVE LOW VALUE AND STATUS AND WILL
KISS YOUR BUTT JUST FOR THE CHANCE
TO BE WITH YOU."
And women, across ALL cultures and geographic
regions of the PLANET, are not attracted to men
who behave with LOW confidence, men who
behave as if they have no POWER.
In other words, men with no PRIDE.
So, you COULD smile at a woman, but the fact
is, the way MOST men smile at women who
are hot is a SUBMISSIVE smile.
It is not the kind of smile that says YOU want ME.
It’s a smile that says the following:
"I want YOU but I don't have the value to be
WORTHY of you. Therefore, I am going to SHOW
you through this smile how much I will SERVE
you, be submissive to you, and do whatever
you want, because I feel that is a fair deal
since YOU have the value and I don't'."
And, ultimately, a woman feels far more DESIRABLE
when the desire is coming from a man who KNOWS
he is wanted and who ALSO wants HER.
After all, if a man feels he has no value, then his
desire for her is NOT as flattering as it would be
if he KNEW and FELT and BEHAVED like he
was the ULTIMATE man.
Yes, women DO want to be lusted after, but it has
to be by a man who isn't behaving as if HE has
no worth. So, for example, you could even TELL a woman
a compliment IF that compliment is delivered
in a way that shows you BELIEVE she will be
FLATTERED by it, rather than if you believe
you NEED to do those kinds of things to
get her to "agree" to be with you.
And I have received an important email from a cool guy
with yet even MORE RESEARCH that PROVES
every thing I have been saying.
In fact, not only is MALE PRIDE something that is
viewed by women as making men MORE attractive,
but FEMALE PRIDE is viewed by men as making
women seem LESS attractive, and also men SMILING
seems to HURT men's "attractiveness" while WOMEN
SMILING seems to IMPROVE women's attractiveness.
So much for the B.S. advice that boys have been brainwashed
to believe by politically correct forces of how women just
want a "SMILING NICE guy".
This doesn't mean that you should never smile.
That would be insane advice for me to give.
What it means is that men should stop TRYING SO HARD
TO SMILE SO MUCH TO MAKE WOMEN HAPPY,
SINCE WOMEN DON'T EVEN LIKE IT ANYWAY!
There is a REASON that in all of CLINT EASTWOOD'S
MOVIES, he almost NEVER smiles, and it is not a
COINCIDENCE that he was (and probably still is by
many women) considered so absolutely DESIRABLE.
His characters were NOT the SMILEY types
His characters DID have TONS of pride.
Same thing with the BOND character.
He doesn't smile much, but he sure has LOADS of PRIDE.
THIS IS NOT JUST ABOUT MOVIE STAR LOOKS,
BECAUSE THERE ARE TONS OF OTHER MOVIE
STAR LOOKING MEN WHO WOMEN DON'T FEEL
NEARLY THE SAME LEVEL OF ATTRACTION FOR.
And also, when you think of the WOMEN that men have
been CRAZY ATTRACTED TO, the most COMMON
stereotype is a woman who SMILES GENUINELY
and who does NOT come across as having too much
pride or arrogance.
Think of, for example, MARILYN MONROE.
This is UNIVERSAL across cultures.
It is HOGWASH when SOME feminists say that
"it’s just a matter of "culture" and environment that
makes men prefer women who DO smile, who DO
behave friendly."
Men do NOT get turned on by the same behaviors
in women as women get turned on by in MEN.
It makes SENSE, that men, who have more TESTOSTERONE,
won't be SMILING as much as women. It makes sense, that
a man with PRIDE in fact WOULD be more attractive to
a woman, because it would mean he is a man who is an
ACHIEVER/PROTECTOR/PROVIDER or all THREE.
It makes SENSE that a man would find a woman who seemed
GENUINELY FRIENDLY to be ATTRACTIVE, because
she would be WARM to him, she would be TRUSTWORTHY
to be the MOTHER of his children and to be a CARING
MOTHER and more than just a sexual companion but
rather a sexual companion that would be loyal.
Men should exhibit PROUD expressions and
women should exhibit FRIENDLY expressions
IF they want to be at their "sexiest".
Here are some quotes from a recent study by
Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall from the
University of British Columbia concerning
"The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual
Attraction."
"Across two studies using different images
and samples ranging broadly in age (total N _ 1041),
a large gender difference emerged in the sexual
attractiveness of happy displays: happiness was
the most attractive female emotion expression,
and one of the least attractive in males.
In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern;
it was the most attractive male expression, and
one of the least attractive in women."
The study also goes on to say that while smiling
may be SOCIALLY the right thing to do for
both men and women, it HARMS men’s initial
attractiveness to women, but it INCREASES
women’s attractiveness.
This is why for MEN, not exactly trying to "fit in"
is often PART of what makes a man attractive, even
though it costs him some social points with the
rest of society.
So now you can understand why so many women
LOVE "bad boys" but why most men don't find
"bad girls" to be sexy.
But you don’t HAVE to be a "bad boy", you just
have to behave with DOMINANCE.
Going too far with being a "bad boy" will
DESTROY your relationships. Ultimately,
if your behavior makes her feel WORSE
rather than better, then you're going
too far.
And if you are reading this right now, I would
love to show you the RIGHT WAY on HOW to
incorporate this vital concept for attraction,
as well as TONS of other essentials for
attracting the women of your choice.
In my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM, you
will learn TONS of pure GOLD for
attracting women ANYWHERE.
This program contains TONS of strategies and
concepts that you will not find in any of my other
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program will SKYROCKET your success with
the women of your choice.
You can even check out a great free SAMPLE
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going HERE:
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And by the way, if you haven't yet got my
E-Book called "Get A Great Girl" then
DEFINITELY do that as well. A lot of guys
out there take the "don't be a nice guy" advice
OUT OF CONTEXT and end up destroying
their relationships.
If you plan on actually getting a quality
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
5 comments:
I know that your rolemodel when it comes to attracting women are James Bond. ..i just noticed actually that; he almost NEVER LAUGHS! !I have tried that approach and it ended up making me feel restricted, boring, cold and the women just felt that i was so damn serious and never laughed at anything. I have also noticed like Hugh Jackman, Brad Pitt, Dalai lama, often starts off a conversation with laughing themselves and i actually think it makes the other person more relaxed and disarmed. What are your thoughts about this? :)
The thing about the character of James Bond not laughing has more to do with the situations he is in, than being a sign that a "real man" should never laugh or joke around. In the Bond stories, the situations are usually too dramatic to be "laughing matters".
However, the overall confidence of the character is the key point, which has implications regarding many behaviors, including not having big emotional reactions to everything, and not seeking validation, and not engaging in "validation-seeking" behaviors.
One example of a validation-seeking behavior is when a guy is TOO SMILEY around a woman, or laughing too much when she has barely said anything funny. These are subconscious things that happen when one feels that a woman has so much superior value; those behaviors are designed to try to create rapport.
Regarding the examples you mentioned of guys like Hugh Jackman, if they are being interviewed, it is ALREADY SO CLEAR to the interviewer that a guy like JACKMAN is sooooooooooooooooooooooo high in terms of desirability and value and fame, that Jackman KNOWS that if he shows super friendly behavior, it only comes across as "WOW HE IS SOOOO IN DEMAND, AND STILLLLLLLLLLL SUCH A DECENT GUY, HE IS IN FACT EVEN MORE SPECIAL THAN SOME STUCK UP SUPERSTAR".
So once it's clear to a woman that your value is super duper high, then in fact it can be very IMPORTANT to actually HELP HER FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE by doing "rapport seeking" behavior, because it is then REQUIRED since the woman might actually feel insecure otherwise.
So the right thing to do depends on the specific situation. In general, though, most men will benefit from not STARTING with "intense seeking rapport" behavior when approaching a attractive woman who is a stranger.
However, once a woman LIKES the guy, then the guy SHOULD create more rapport, because that rapport will be VALUED by her.
I hope this clears things up. :)
Also, it's possible a woman might start to show interest very QUICKLY, in which case again, a man should then help a woman feel GOOD for being interested in him, so he should then create more RAPPORT with her.
Finally, I wanted to also mention that is important to have a fun range of emotions to engage in with a woman. It's part of the human experience and part of what makes humans special.
All this is part of the larger context that communication plays between men and women when it comes to attraction, sex, and relationships.
In fact, part of the reason humans (unlike animals) have sex facing each other, is the massive importance communication plays in all human interactions with each other, and this includes sex. So a man and woman facing each other allows them to communicate so much more. This includes things like at times smiling, laughing, etc.
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