If you are the kind of man who is serious
about finding a woman who is loyal, not
promiscuous, who has the highest standards
of fidelity, who is truly loving, who is
not just into the superficial or into money,
you can start to really feel like things are
HOPELESS quite easily.
Take a quick look around and you know what
I mean.
Well, I want to help you see REALITY, which
is a little better than you might think.
It's certainly not all sunshine and rainbows,
to quote Rocky, but it's not all Sodom and
Gomorrah either.
Here's what I mean:
The truth is, when it comes to personalities,
people, both men and women, tend to fall into
DIFFERENT categories.
And not everyone is MOTIVATED by love.
Sure, just about every straight woman WANTS a
man to love her, and just about every straight
man WANTS a woman to love him, there are different
DEGREES to how IMPORTANT this is to each individual.
NOT KNOWING THIS CAUSES ALL SORTS OF TERRIBLE PROBLEMS.
So, for example, if you meet a woman, and she likes
you, and you like her, you might think all is great.
But then, pretty soon, you might start finding that
you are feeling she is not treating you the way
you thought she would, because when she told you
she liked you, or loved you, or was attracted
to you, you interpreted those words to mean
what YOU think those words mean to YOU.
But it's very possible a woman might be attracted
to you, but have a very different set of NEEDS
than you when it comes to relationships, and
more importantly, when it comes to what
MOTIVATES her in life.
People tend to give others what they themselves
appreciate, because often they don't even realize
that anyone else can BE different from them.
It is important not to make value judgements here
and to simply just see things for what they ARE.
So a woman who doesn't really need a really close
intimate relationship, but who DOES need a lot of
adventure, who is paired up with a man who DOES
want and need a really intimate relationship,
is not going to be happy for long.
Sure, she will enjoy the loyalty stuff, but not
so much that it's worth the cost of her having to
give back the same level of loyalty and seriousness.
This is not even so much a man woman thing as it is
a HUMAN thing.
People are different, and so it is important that
as a man you find a woman who SHARES the same
NEEDS as you to a large extent. You don't have
to be carbon copies of each other and that would
not even be fun or good, but you do have to share
CORE needs, so that you can passionately connect
to each other.
When you yourself really NEED something relationship wise,
you are PASSIONATE about it, you can understand it,
you can really RELATE, you can GIVE it.
When you yourself don't really need that thing, then
you can never be as passionate about that thing.
So you can't train a woman to give you what you need,
she has to NEED it herself, if you want her to be
PASSIONATE about it.
Are there exceptions to this rule? Yes, but I'm
trying to make life easy for you instead of you
having to reinvent the wheel.
You must date TONS OF WOMEN and find the women who
SHARE your PARTICULAR sense of what is a NEED
and not just a "nice" thing.
And if you want to date tons of women, you
better learn how to APPROACH tons of women
in the most effective way possible.
Life doesn't meet you half-way, to paraphrase
another line from a Stallone movie (Over the Top).
You want to meet the right woman? Then get out
there and meet TONS of women, and find the one
who is RIGHT FOR YOU.
And I can think of no better way for you to get
STARTED on that than by downloading my program
called ACING THE APPROACH, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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