If you are ready for the truth, you are about to get a BOAT LOAD of it regarding women, dating, and relationships.
ONE: A Bit Of FEAR Is Required
What I mean by this, is that in ANY situation where
someone VALUES something, there is a bit of
FEAR regarding losing that thing.
Anyone who tells you otherwise is full of crap.
Even great martial artists have SOME fear in them,
but they learn to HARNESS their fear and use it
to their advantage.
A bit of FEAR regarding being IMMORAL is a
DRIVING force for EXCELLENCE and prevents
CORRUPTION as well. (In ALL areas of life,
not just in dating.)
Similarly, if a woman has ZERO FEAR of losing you,
if she feels SOOOOOOOO at ease around you that she
feels NOTHING could possibly be bad about LOSING
you, she is going to be a HORRIBLE GIRLFRIEND
OR WIFE.
There NEEDS to be a bit of fear to keep the human
traits of WEAKNESS, LAZINESS, and COMPLACENCY
at bay.
Usually, the greatest performers in their respective fields
feel the same way. I believe Steven Spielberg has mentioned
that he STILL feels a bit of fear every time he gets on set
to direct a movie. He also feels that this is a GOOD sign
that the movie will turn out right.
Great fighters often will tell you that it is not true that they
have NO FEAR, it is just that they have learned to USE
their fears.
Similarly, a QUALITY WOMAN is the kind of woman
who APPRECIATES a GOOD MAN so much, that she
has just a BIT of FEAR inside her regarding wanting to
NOT SCREW THINGS UP WITH THIS GOOD MAN,
which makes her VERY ALERT TO BEHAVING PROPERLY.
Now how many attractive women like this are there out there?
They do exist, and you ABSOLUTELY CAN find them with
persistence and know-how, but the answer to the question is
that these kinds of women are VERY RARE.
This is because things like morality, family, long-term thinking,
dedication, and sensitivity are not as popular as promiscuity,
selfishness, and thinking only about the short-term.
There are very few men and women who really CARE
ABOUT THIS STUFF.
So, as SOON as you detect a woman is a little TOO
CONFIDENT around you, I suggest you get the heck
OUT of that situation. (Obviously if you are married
or have kids with this woman or if you have been
together for a long time, I would suggest you try
to fix the situation first.)
I don’t mean to say that a woman should be shivering
around you in fear.
What I DO mean is, that the same way YOU would
not want to screw things up with a great woman,
so too SHE should show some signs of this caution
as well.
Here’s something else I need to tell you:
THE MOMENT YOU START PAYING ATTENTION
TO THIS STUFF, AND TRYING TO PUSH THE
WRONG WOMEN AWAY, THESE SAME WRONG
WOMEN WILL TRY HARD TO WIN YOU BACK
BUT YOU SHOULD IGNORE IT.
The REAL TRUTH is that most people, both men and
women, KNOW when they are mistreating someone,
but CORRUPTION sets in when there is too much
power, and those who are corrupted will try to
PUSH THEIR LUCK AS FAR AS THEY CAN.
So, with women who are spoiled, they will PUSH
THEIR LUCK AS FAR AS THEY CAN, and
when YOU call them on their CRAPPY BEHAVIOR,
especially if you do this with TOTAL CONFIDENCE
and with TOTALLY BEING PREPARED TO WALK
AWAY, they will SUDDENLY FEEL A VACUUM
IN THEIR LIFE-FORCE.
Suddenly, such a woman, for the first time in her LIFE,
is being told in no uncertain terms that she is behaving
in a WRONG WAY, by a man who has NO FEAR in leaving her.
This is FRIGHTENING for a spoiled woman, and
it also TEMPORARILY sets her BACK ON THE
PATH OF DECENCY.
She will then TRY TO APOLOGIZE OR GET
YOU BACK IN SOME OTHER WAY.
To all this, I say SCREW IT, DON’T GO THERE,
AND GET THE HECK AWAY, unless she did something
SUPER MINOR that cannot be considered an insult,
and even then, you should still call her on it.
So many men, they take my materials, they use them
only a DROP, and they see how women IMPROVE,
but they don’t take my FULL ADVICE, which is
to F-ING FORGET THESE WOMEN and move
on IMMEDIATELY to BETTER WOMEN.
When I talk about BEING THE MAN and not
taking B.S. from women, I really MEAN IT,
it is not some TEMPORARY TACTIC just
to get a woman into bed. If you use it as a
TACTIC and are somehow willing to sleep
with a woman just because calling her on
her b.s. was enough to get her to have sex
with you, you still haven’t learned the
BIGGER LESSON, which is that this is
not about tricks to get women into bed,
it’s about STAYING AWAY FROM THE
WRONG WOMEN, and MAKING YOUR
MIND STRONG to not get involved with
the WRONG women.
Just because you CAN get a woman who is
attractive into bed does not mean you SHOULD.
You will lose your CONVICTION AND DEEP
SEATED BELIEF in the VALUE of only being
with quality, trustworthy, decent women if you
allow yourself to also be in the circle of corrupt
women.
And then, when you lose your INNER GAME
In this sense, you lose EVERYTHING, including
your ability to even get the selfish and corrupt
women.
So, to get back to the main point, you WANT
a woman who indeed has just a bit of fear
around you in the sense that she does not
want to SCREW THINGS UP.
She does not and should not feel this fear
ALL THE TIME, and it should not be
overwhelming, but she MUST have some
of this fear, or the relationship WILL be
headed for DESTRUCTION.
Now, even a good woman is human, and she might
do something super MINOR, and in those situations,
you should just call her on her behavior, tell
her it was wrong, and she should immediately
improve permanently on that issue. If she
does not, then she is not a quality woman
and you should leave her.
Next:
TWO: FAITHFULNESS IS ABOUT MAKING
THE CHOICE
There are endless debates about whether it is
possible or natural for a man and woman to
be faithful to each other for life.
The truth is, on one hand, it is NOT natural.
We will always feel SOME attraction to
gorgeous members of the opposite sex,
no matter how much we love and are
attracted to the person we are with.
On the other hand, it IS natural, in the same
sense that human beings have succeeded in
doing all kinds of challenging things.
So, for example, plumbing and toilets are NOT
natural. Should we, therefore, crap on the floor?
Instead, human beings make the CHOICE to
elevate themselves, through philosophy, through
science, through spirituality, and through discipline,
to IMPROVE THEIR LIVES.
Going to the MOON is not natural, but most
people would argue that human beings exploring
space is something that human civilization
SHOULD do.
And to really focus in on the issue of faithfulness,
there really is one key question, which is HOW
to do it, right?
And the answer to the HOW is simple:
One makes the CHOICE.
If you want to become a DOCTOR, you are
going to have to do a lot of studying. More
studying than might feel “natural”.
But if one makes the CHOICE to become a
doctor, they ACCEPT all the studying they
will have to do, and suddenly it no longer feels
like a BURDEN, but rather a way of LIFE
that is meaningful.
It is the same thing with FAITHFULNESS
and monogamy.
I’m not telling anyone they shouldn’t date
more than one woman, and I’m not telling
any woman they shouldn’t date more than
one man.
What I AM saying is that if you are already
the kind of man who knows HE can be faithful
to one woman, you need to meet a woman who
already has made the CONSCIOUS CHOICE
to live a life of faithfulness.
If she has never thought about these things,
you should NOT date her. You CANNOT
make someone faithful or feel that fidelity
is right for them.
Instead, THEY MUST MAKE THAT CHOICE
LONG BEFORE THEY EVEN MET YOU.
It has to be the way they APPROACH the
whole CONCEPT.
A woman should make it clear to you
through conversation and through actions
that she has already made that choice.
This concept goes back to the concept of
EXISTENTIALISM, which in a nutshell
means that an individual can DEFINE his
own reality by CHOOSING what meaning
he gives to his own reality or situation.
Faithfulness can be looked at as a burden,
or it can be looked at as a special act of love,
a joyful form of giving, a reflection of one’s
character, and a constantly growing bond
between a man and a woman.
But you can’t go around trying to TEACH
a woman any of this. She must already BE
that woman.
If you have any questions, I do have a personal
consultation service, and I do have the most
powerful programs on the planet for helping
you meet and attract a quality woman.
Consultations are at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
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meeting and attracting quality women is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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