There are TONS of crucial insights that I want to
share with you today on successfully approaching
and attracting women who are total strangers.
Please keep in mind that what you are about to
read all comes from REAL LIFE evidence based
on THOUSANDS of examples from my Real World
Bootcamps where the goal is simple:
Teach men how to approach and attract women,
anywhere, instantly- and get live results
on women that they can see immediately.
So every word you are about to see has been
examined and cross-examined in REAL LIFE
from every angle for ACCURACY and TRUTH.
Here we go:
NUMBER ONE: AUTHORITY
When you are approaching a woman at a place
that is NOT an official ‘meat-market’, she is
far more likely to wonder what’s going on than
if you approached her at a dance club or some
other venue that is all about mingling with new
people.
So, therefore, it’s important that you BYPASS
this potential problem IMMEDIATELY by
pouring on the AUTHORITY in your tonality
and in your mannerisms.
Remember, this is NOT a club where it’s all
about socializing. And you do NOT want to
come across as a weirdo OR as desperate.
You avoid all these problems by pouring on the
authority.
In bootcamp, a lot of guys ask me, “But is it
NORMAL for this to happen? Won’t she
still wonder what the heck is going on?”
The answer is that when you come in with
AUTHORITY, she’s not wondering ANYTHING!
INSTEAD, she is FEELING one thing that can be
summed up as the following statement in her mind:
“It’s important that I LISTEN to what this guy
has to say.”
I didn’t say she wants to make LOVE right away.
But she DOES feel it’s important to GENUINELY
listen to what you have to SAY.
And that’s all you NEED, because this buys you
an IN to the conversation, and sets the foundation
right for all the right vibes of you being ‘the man’.
This is another reason why coming to Bootcamp
is so powerful, because experiencing and seeing
and hearing everything live helps you immediately
“get” exactly what I am saying here.
NUMBER TWO:
DON’T START WITH A SMILE
This is simple and related to number one, but it’s
very important.
If you are in a party atmosphere, then you can
smile, but if you are in a non-social atmosphere,
then starting with a smile just says all the wrong
things and can, ironically, creep her out.
This is why I say OBLITERATE the smile for
the first few moments, until SHE starts to really
dig into the conversation herself.
NUMBER THREE:
DON’T START WITH QUESTIONS,
ESPECIALLY BORING ONES
When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you need to convey in indirect ways
who YOU are before you can expect her to
do anything for YOU.
That just makes perfect sense, doesn’t it?
So instead, start with a COMMENT about something
RELEVANT, and make that comment interesting.
For example, at this time of year, if you were
in a busy store in a mall, it could be a comment
about ‘how important it is to not forget that behind
all the things people are buying, should be the
THOUGHT and the GENUINE caring for another
human being, as opposed to emphasizing the
material elements’.
NUMBER FOUR:
LISTEN, AND LISTEN WELL
Then, when she comments back to you, you LISTEN
to whatever she is saying, and you ‘pick up’ on what
she is saying.
Remember, if you want to ‘pick up’ a girl, then forget
the pick up lines and instead focus to ‘pick-up’ ON
what she is saying!
Her feedback to you is CRUCIAL for how you respond.
This is where the "pick up line" mentality ruins guys, because
men get caught up on their memorized pick up lines and in
performing an "act", that they forget to LISTEN and to be
in the MOMENT!
So let’s say she says back to you something like:
“Yes, it is so important, I just came back from
visiting so-and-so country/city/family/friend
and they/it/he/she said xyz that made me realize
abc.”
Now, with this, you have a ton to reply back to her with
that actually connects specifically with HER as opposed
to any other woman in the world.
So now YOU stand out as being a lot more than just
another guy who spits out pick up lines to women.
NUMBER FIVE:
GENUINE VALIDATION
It’s important to understand here that you are dealing
with a woman who is a TOTAL stranger, so social skills
must be super POLISHED in order to quickly bridge the
distance from stranger to man-she-wants-to-know.
Human communication, at its emotional primal roots, is
really about confirmation.
It’s the reason behind the social greeting and response
of “hello”.
The real point behind “hello” and “how are you” and
“very well, thanks” between total strangers is not
necessarily to ask all the details, but to CONFIRM
each other’s WORTH.
This is known as confirming feedback, confirming each
other socially, and this is the REAL point of mutual “hellos”.
Well, to AMPLIFY the effect of this confirmation, you
want to find a MEANINGFUL way of expressing it.
You do this by listening to what she is saying so you can
find something you GENUINELY respect about her,
and you then express that.
So, for example, let’s say it’s Friday night at the mall,
bookstore, and there are tons of people around because
the movie theater is nearby and most people are seeing
movies.
And this woman is checking out books by herself.
You approach her, with the right authority, you make
a comment that is relevant, she gives you feedback,
and then discover that she is genuinely looking for
a book for herself for enjoyment, and that this is the
reason she came out tonight.
You might GENUINELY VALIDATE her with
something like this:
“Oh, you’re actually here for yourself on a Friday night?
You’re definitely not the kind of person that conforms
and just follows the crowd. You’re independent minded
and think for yourself.”
Here’s the other thing too:
Once you detect that a woman has something positive
you respect about her, well THEN it’s okay to ask
a question, such as “How did you get to know so
much about xyz topic?”
She will very likely ENJOY telling you the answer.
NUMBER SIX:
IT’S STILL ALL SEXUAL
This is one of those things that’s all INTERNAL.
You don’t SAY sexual things to her in a place that
is not a nightclub designed for making out and
dancing, but you SHOULD be in a sexual state.
This means that in your mind, you are not
ASHAMED of the fact you are approaching
her because you find her ATTRACTIVE.
It ALSO means, that in a subtle way, through
your demeanor and expression and tonality,
that you are suggesting that all this small talk
is your way of showing RESPECT.
This is a very important distinction.
You see, it should be that you COULD go right
up to her and be DIRECT and say, “Hi, I wanted
to get to learn more about you since I found you
attractive and would like to know if we could
get along and if we share core values” but the
reason you don’t do this is not because YOU
don’t have the guts to be direct, it’s because
you know that this is simply too direct for our
culture.
But, at YOUR emotional CORE, YOU should
be feeling this matter-of-fact-direct about the
whole interaction.
YOU realize that this more elaborate way of
approaching a woman that I am describing is
the way to SUCCESFFULY do it, however
you also know that I am telling you that
DEEP DOWN, a woman DOES know what
is going on, she just APPRECIATES the
fact that you are RESPECTING THE DAMN
PROCESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YES, THE TRUTH IS A WOMAN INDEED
WOULD LIKE TO SKIP RIGHT TO THE FUN
STUFF!!!!
HOWEVER, SHE ALSO FEELS THIS IS
WAYYYYYYYY TOO RISKY AND THAT
THE MORE ELABORATE PROCESS IS
SAFER.
Okay, that is the culture we live in, alright?
So let’s show some respect for the PROCESS.
Because ultimately, if you do want her to enjoy
screaming your name in delight in bed, then you
will respect the process that WORKS to get that
result.
At the same time, your EMOTIONAL state is
still sexual, you are NOT just trying to have
a conversation, in your mind indeed IS the
fact that she IS a woman and you are a man.
This conversation stuff is just you showing
respect for the PROCESS. But underneath
it all is the sexual animal.
This mindset DOES affect your expressions,
your tonality, and your behavior in all the
right ways, and a woman WILL register them
ALL as well subconsciously, and these are all
GOOD things for increasing her attraction.
NUMBER SEVEN:
SPRINKLE IN SOME CONFIDENT PLAYFULNESS
At any point in this interaction, feel free to
sprinkle in some PLAYFULNESS.
I said SPRINKLE, not DROWN.
So, for example, even at a meaningful moment such
as you and her speaking about caring about a fellow
human being, you could still playfully say..
“Of course, charity begins at home, so I always make
sure to get myself something fun too..”
And this could even lead to a bit more playfulness:
“If you’re a good girl, you might even get my number.”
SPRINKLE with confident playfulness, and she feels you
are a fun, confident guy.
DROWN with confident playfulness, and she figures you
are immature or arrogant.
A man with real confidence does not need to constantly
suggest he is desirable.
And if you are reading this right now, and would like
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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