on attracting and approaching women-what
you are about to read will save you YEARS
of learning the hard way!!
1. ON TAKING IMMEDIATE ACTION
The first is on taking IMMEDIATE action
when you see a woman.
This topic came up recently on the Get A
Great Girl Forum, so I’ll paraphrase my
message here.
A lot of times, when you see a woman you
want to approach, if she is really attractive,
the first thing that happens is that you want
to make sure you don’t screw up, so what
happens?
YOU START TO THINK.
Guess what?
THIS IS A HUGE MISTAKE.
And it's a mistake that almost ALL men make.
Regarding taking that instant action the very
moment you see the woman you like, there
many powerful reasons for this.
First of all, as a man on the forum has explained,
it is liberating, you are no longer chained to the
fear, and this itself is empowering for your emotional
state, which is attractive to women.
There is something else as well, and this is
documented scientifically:
By taking action right away, you are subconsciously
drawing upon the literally HUNDREDS OF
THOUSANDS if not MILLIONS of times your
mind has consciously and subconsciously thought
about what to do when you see a woman you want
to chat with, and you are able to subconsciously use
the BEST information in these "data banks" of
your mind by INSTINCT.
This is far superior to ANYTHING you can
come up with in the five, ten, or 20 minutes of
THINKING about "what to do".
Those minutes can't compete with the literally
hundreds of thousands of hours have already
come up with!
The key is to develop your knowledge and skills
beforehand, but in the MOMENT of that woman
appearing, you must then act IMMEDIATELY.
Immediate action allows you to make a far
SUPERIOR choice of action, when it comes
to THIS kind of thing, because you have already
thought about it.
When learning from my programs, the time to
THINK is when you are listening or reading or
watching the program.
THAT is the time to let your mind go analytical
and to really think hard. That is the time to take
your time, to let your mind really get a chance to
soak it all in and to see the points from all angles.
THEN, when you see a woman, take IMMEDIATE
action. Do NOT think at that point, because whatever
few minutes you use to think at that point will not be
able to compete with the HOURS you already spent
beforehand both consciously and subconsciously
thinking about what to do when you see a woman
you want to approach.
The IMMEDIATE action you take will allow you
instinctively take the BEST course of action.
Then, after the interaction is over, THEN you can
again think about it, and think how to be even
BETTER in the future.
There is a lot of evidence for this strategy for
how the mind works, as evidenced in the book
called "Blink".
So, to sum up, take your TIME when learning
from my programs, and take IMMEDIATE action
when you see the woman, then AFTER the interaction,
take your time again to think about how to improve
for the future.
2. MOVING ON FROM A PREVIOUS WOMAN
There is something else I want to share with
you today, and it’s about moving ON from
any woman where things didn’t work out.
I know this is not always easy to do, but there
are DEFINITELY things that you must know
to make the process EASIER and to make
sure you don’t dig yourself deeper into the
hole of despair, as that can become an endless
abyss of misery and self-destruction.
Let’s start this with a recent genuine email:
***EMAIL FROM A READER***
Hi Michael,
Hi Michael,
The Attraction Mastery Program is fantastic
thank you. I’m using it to slowly to get me
back in the game.
I just cannot seem to get over my ex. I have to
see her every weekend when picking up/dropping
off my daughter. Every time I see her, I picture
how our life could have been together. I know
she’s moved on. I just cannot do the same.
Any other advice / tips you can give me on
getting over my ex. As many as possible please.
Signed,
Mr Desperate”
>>>MY REPLY<<<
First of all, I am sorry to hear about the pain
you are going through. I really do mean that.
And of course, thank you for the kind words.
I want to tell you a few things that I think will
HELP you, and that are all REAL things, not
just "pump up positive thinking":
What's happening right now is a VERY
POWERFUL "trick" being played on you by
your mind, I’ll call this ‘PART A’:
PART A OF THE CONTRAST TRICK:
The Power Of Contrast MIXED With The Power Of FANTASY PERFECTION.
So the CONTRAST is:
Now that you DON'T have this woman in your
life, what you DID have with her seems so much
BETTER than it actually was.
PLUS there is a SECOND contrast trick, that
I will call “Part B”:
PART B OF THE CONTRAST TRICK:
You Are Comparing What Could Be In The Future, To What You Have Now.
And this contrast is PARTICULARLY MIND-TRICKING,
BECAUSE.......YOU COULD CREATE ANY FANTASY
OF A PERFECT FUTURE!!!
And nothing on earth could match that perfect
future that you think you "could" have "if only" you
could be back together again!!!!!!!
PLUS, there is a third element to all this!!!!
I’ll call this “Part C”.
PART C OF THE CONTRAST TRICK:
Perfection Fantasy Thinking Screws Your Future With Any Other Woman!
So not only is the CONTRAST principle in effect,
but also you are SUBCONSCIOUSLY comparing
any other woman who is actually REAL around you,
to the PERFECT FUTURE that you 'could have had'!!!!
You see, by not having to deal with the REAL women
around you, and instead focusing on the "what if" of
"what if you could get back with your wife", your
mind will not create the REALISTIC scenario of
what things would be like between you and your wife!
Instead, your mind is enjoying the FANTASY of
being in a FICTITIOUS PERFECT FUTURE
with your ex-wife!!
And NO WOMAN can compete with a FANTASY!!!
I explain this in greater detail in my ‘Get A Great Girl’
book, I don't know if you already have it, but I think
you will love it!!!! In fact, you were so cool to share
your letter with others, that I have decided to send
it to you- check your email for details!
So you need to REMIND YOURSELF every time
you START to go into ‘fantasy mode’ thinking and into
‘contrasting mode’ thinking, you need to REALIZE
right away before you get sucked in deep into the
vortex of brainwashing that things are so horrible,
because if you catch yourself right away, it's EASIER
to pull out of!
YOU MUST MEET OTHER WOMEN AND REMIND
YOURSELF OF REAL VS. CREATING FICTION
VERSIONS OF EX-WIFE, ETC.
By the way, I do realize that being married is MORE
than having a girlfriend, so I realize that it takes a lot
of STRENGTH to do this, but I believe you can do it.
The fact you contacted me and are seriously studying
the Attraction Mastery program tells me that you
already sense there is a far better reality awaiting you,
all you have to do is get the right know-how and then
put in the guts it takes to follow through on the
instructions, which you now have at your fingertips.
What I am telling you are things that I find to be
useful personally as well, not just "nice things that
sound cool on paper" but real psychological principles.”
3. REAL-LIFE SUCCESS STORIES
I thought I would also share two recent successes
from men who are using the Get A Great Girl
materials.
***EMAIL FROM A READER***
It's been a little more than a week that I'm out
of Brazil. As soon as I get back I'll start the
(Warrior Within) DVD number 3. Yes I'm a little
late hehehe.
Well I just wanted you to know that the things I
have learned, especially the humor stuff, is very
powerful.
I tried it in Dubai and everything works, the girls get
together to talk and even more girls come as soon as
they see that someone is having fun, and I'm talking
about daily situations.
And now I'm in Shanghai, here is much easier, the
Chinese girls love to have fun, I even got a date with
one that I met inside the metro.
Just wanted to tell you how much fun I'm having.
And I forgot to tell you that one day before I got
off Brazil, I kissed a woman who has a perfect body,
man you should see..
This never happened to me.
I have to thank you for the changes I'm having in my life.
It affects everything- the professional and the personal life.
Jake T., Brazil”
>>>MY COMMENTS<<<
Thank you so much for that awesome email.
What is so cool about your email is that it shows
how these principles work no matter WHERE
you live, they are UNIVERSAL when it comes
to attracting the most incredible women!
Please keep up the great work you are doing, you
will KEEP ON PROGRESSING!!!
And here is ANOTHER important email that
just came in:
***EMAIL FROM A READER***
Hey Michael, wanted to say hello and thank you.
Your work has helped me tremendously and now
things are great. I remembered what you said about
not expecting anything from a woman. It's easier
said than done. I was having problems for a while,
up until May.
So I had a profile on a website where I had often
gotten messages from different women who loved
my profile. Even the ones who weren't interested
per say took the time to message me and say that
I was really funny and refreshing. I had some help
writing the profile as to tweak a few things here
and there.
So, this girl hits me up from Chicago. Now, I am in
NYC and don't take women from out of town seriously,
but I still communicated with her because she seemed
nice and I would have loved to meet her if she or I
ever crossed paths.
At first she sent me a request, but I could not approve
of it for weeks because I was training with my army
unit at the time from late May to mid June. When I was
able to get back, I approved it and e-mailed her, but
she didn't respond. I had some administrative issues
with the site, but I finally got to reply to her and get
her e-mail and phone number.
Now, by this time she was a bit annoyed at me
thinking that I was just gaming her. First, the delayed
acceptance and then the issues with my profile being
deleted for a while. So when I called her, she wouldn't
pick up. She would text back though. I immediately
thought snobby party girl. I didn't expect anything
from her, so I just took it as a chance for me to
improve my flirting skills.
This flirting with the texts went back and forth
for a while, but she still wouldn't return calls. I then
sent her one text that reminded me of something
Barney Stinson did on "How I Met Your Mother."
One of the gang on the show had this emotional
problem and vented to the group. Barney then chimed
in about a story of something that happened to him.
The funny thing was that the story was just something
self-centered about something he did great and not
relevant to the discussion...hence the joke. I took
that spirit and sent my girl a text message something
along the lines of:
"There are times that you're going to feel like you
can't go on anymore. On those days you're feeling
alone and helpless, remember one thing...at least
my life is awesome."
She died with laughter after that and then asked me
to call her. I was supposed to call her a certain night
around 9pm, but I accidentally got locked out of my
apt while my phone was in it. It took me an hour to
get back in. She had started watching tv as a result.
I called her and told her how dumb I was for locking
myself out and made fun of myself because of it.
Then I asked her what she was doing and she told
me she was watching a documentary on human
sexuality. I immediately called her out on watching
a porno.
We talked almost every night. She was really friendly,
really into sports and loved talking about sex. She said
she wanted to come see me and set a date to stay with
a friend. The thing is this friend of hers is VERY
superficial and flaky, and didn't return her calls/texts/
emails/etc. She wound up having a ticket to NYC with
no place to stay, so she had to stay with me. When I
went to receive her at the airport, I walked to her,
spun her around and kissed her. I then said "it's a
pleasure to meet you."
On the bus and train ride home, I actually rubbed
up my crotch on her. She was embarassed, but turned on.
I knew I could do this just based on how easily she
talked about sex.
By the time she got back to my place, I immediately
started taking her clothes off. We had sex for an hour
and half...until SHE said she couldn't take any more.
When my friend found out about it, he joked that her
flight took longer than the time it took from me meeting
her to get her clothes off haha.
Since then we have shared some deep thoughts and
experiences. She told me she loved me before the
trip was over (she had already been getting to know
me prior with our phone conversations). I told it back
to her a couple of months later...first time ever I told
a woman that. Things are wonderful now. I'm getting
ready to head to deploy for a year, but she wants to
wait for me and is currently looking for work in NYC.
All of the work I've done has helped me get to this point.
She is wonderful and I find that out more and more
each day. Keep preaching the good word. Things may
not work out at first, but we can't get discouraged
and we can't have anger. The next woman doesn't
deserve the scorn the last one may. Each experience
is a potentially new and wonderful one.
Embracing the woman for who she is and being
genuine about our interest towards them will make
them feel good. Making them feel better than before
they met us is what all of our goals should be.
If a woman is receptive to that, she'll feel amazing
and reciprocate genuine feelings of caring for us too.
If she is not receptive, then it's OK because we don't
have to have someone like that in our lives in that
role at that time anyway.
We should not ever try to manipulate the situation...
just accept it. A smart, loving woman is going to
see through any manipulation on our part. If
things work, awesome. If not, best of luck to them.
Thanks for your emphasis on all of this. It was
a process and it sometimes felt long, but it is
definitely worth it if guys just work on themselves.
We can't control how she'll receive us, but
we can control how we portray ourselves
and that starts with developing ourselves to
be the best man we can be.
Dan S.”
>>>MY COMMENTS<<<
Thank you for that fantastic email, I appreciate it!
Congratulations on both finding a great woman,
and on persevering throughout the process!
And of course, you deserve kudos for being a
great guy!
Also, I particularly appreciate the details on
how we can't carry the anger with us from previous
relationships into new ones.
You wrote:
"The next woman doesn't deserve the scorn the last
one may. Each experience is a potentially new and
wonderful one."
BRAVO!
Taking the scorn to an innocent woman will only
SABOTAGE any potential relationship with her and it
will be mutually destructive.
You did so many of the right things, like being
straight up honest when you couldn't get to your
phone, rather than playing games or trying to act
like it was all part of some "hard to get" act, etc.
And the strategy from that show was the perfect
use of confident humor, as well as the perfect time
for using it to turn the negative tension into a
positive release!
And if you are reading this right now, and are
serious about getting the kind of woman you
really want, I suggest you get my Attraction
Mastery Program that is now available through
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Get this program, use it, and you will have the
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It’s at:
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And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book
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http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
A new year is about to start- make this year
the year that you GET this part of your life
MASTERED.
Getting the right woman in your life is the ‘JUICE’
that adds zest to EVERYTHING else you do.
I’ve never met any man, at any age, who ever
regretted getting this part of his life handled.
The only regret is NOT learning these skills
and letting the women of your dreams pass
you by!
Make THIS moment the moment you change
your life with women forever!
I assure you, you will look back at this moment
as the moment your life began to change forever.
See you again here soon…
Michael Marks
P.S. Do you hesitate to approach women because
you think they might act ‘COLD’ to you?
Well it’s damn IMPOSSIBLE for any woman
to be COLD if she is feeling ‘giggly’, which
is exactly what she will be if you know how
to use CONFIDENT HUMOR to properly
FLIRT with her right away.
If you’d like to learn how to do this, I suggest
you go here immediately:
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