Detecting a quality woman is sometimes
about SMALL things. Not trivial, but
The reason why, is that EVERY WOMAN
knows that to say something VERY
rude or mean is obviously going
to make her look like a bee-yotch.
So one of the keys is to be on the
lookout for the SMALLER kinds of things
that would go under the radar of a
This is why the example of the "door-test"
from the movie "A Bronx Tale" is powerful.
It's because it's the kind of thing that
if you aren't genuinely a thoughtful
person, is easy to overlook because
the OPPORTUNITY TO DO KINDNESS only
lasts for a brief moment.
The man will get to open his own door
in just a second when he walks around
to his side.
The problem is, that these days, since
so many people know the movie, a lot
of girls can remember to do it now,
so it's not as powerful a signal.
Plus, they have automatic remote control
locks now that take care of the the whole
issue before it can even be an issue.
But the PRINCIPLE remains- that it's
important to be on the lookout for
the things that can easily be
overlooked by a woman who is not
a caring person.
Thoughtful actions which have small
windows of time and opportunity to
get them done are great examples.
The best women will seek out opportunities
to do small acts of kindness that come out
of nowhere, which will make massive impact
because you will not be expecting them.
Maybe she understands that you like
a certain food, and she picked some
up or cooked some up.
Maybe it was something as simple as
she knew you were hungry even though
you didn't say a word about it, and
she could have easily ignored your
needs because there was no proof
she even knew about it- and you
were both supposed to meet at a
movie theater, and then when you
arrive, she has a hot dog and
popcorn waiting for you.
A woman who uses opportunities to be
kind or thoughtful, and incorporates
this into her everyday lifestyle, and
who makes it all feel easy for her,
is definitely getting off to the right
Similarly, of course, this works vice-versa
as a man doing this for a woman.
Women will not remember much about the
formal details of your interaction with
her, but she will remember how she FELT.
And the key of course is that this must
be done from a very comfortable position
in your mind, it must not be some kind
of desperate need to impress her, but
rather an act that flows from a feeling
Getting back to detecting HER character,
it's important that indeed you DO take
the attitude that you have high STANDARDS.
These are high standards of behavior
you have for yourself and high standards
you have for any woman in your life.
You can test women, in a good way and
for good reasons, just as much as any
woman tests any man, if not much MORE.
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on detecting and attracting a quality woman
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Till next time,