In today's blog, I'm going to share some
information that isn't the kind of thing
I would put in my newsletter, because
I really don't know if most guys would
appreciate the level this is on.
So it's going here, where I know only
the die-hards come.
Ok, so what is the thing that most guys
want? They want a woman who is attractive
and faithful and fun to be around.
Well, then here are the things you have to
watch out for:
WOMEN WHO ARE WEAK ON LOGIC
A LOT of women believe in things that
have zero logic or evidence. Although
many men do lots of illogical things
of their own, here are a list of things
that are statistically more likely to
be things that women are into as opposed
to men:
#1 Astrology
Yup, a lot of women take this stuff a little
too seriously. There are many women who will
make decisions based on their horoscope.
It's a bit difficult to try to have a
genuine conversation with a woman who
seriously believes in this stuff.
#2 Infinite "Feelly Goody" "Self Help" Books
So, for example, the Law of Attraction, this
is a nice idea. Or "The Secret", it's all
nice.
And the general principle of you attract
what you are YES is something I believe
in, however this is not an EXACT law
of science either.
So for example, a woman who has suffered
rape HAS NOT "attracted" this into her
life any more than a millionaire who wins
the lottery.
Similarly, a man who has suffered from
the way women have treated him has NOT
necessarily "attracted" that either.
To believe in this craziness as if it's
a science is morally barbaric.
That would assume insane things such as
blaming the children in Africa for their
own starvation, or blaming all genocides
on the victims!
That's INSANE, yet MILLIONS of women
will somehow not SEE this insanity and
still WORSHIP books like The Law of Attraction
or books like "The Secret".
The truth about the "The Secret" is that
it's not secret that if you want something,
OF COURSE you have to seriously WANT it,
but WANTING it is NOT enough, you have
to ALSO bust your ASS in order to get it.
The REAL REASON, or rather the most COMMON
reason for why people fail to achieve
their goals is because they DO NOT BUST
THEIR ASS LONG-TERM to get their goal.
Instead, they would prefer to read books
like The Secret that make it seem all you
have to do is just "want" it and then you
can go back to your astrology books and
other "feeeely goody" books that don't
require you to actually be logical and
bust your ass working and being smart
as well about achieving your goals.
Bill Gates didn't read "The Secret" to
build Microsoft. Instead, he slept at
his own desk for years because he was
so ambitious and driven and he loved
what he did.
Sylvester Stallone didn't read "The Secret"
to become a movie star. Instead, while
his friends were busy getting suntans,
he would be writing, script after script,
auditioning after auditioning and being
turned down by every agent in New York,
TWICE!
He kept trying different avenues, until
FINALLY he broke through.
But all this LOGICAL stuff isn't as "feely
goody" as the books which appeal to the
human LAZY factor.
WOMEN WHO HAVE LOW MORAL STANDARDS
Today, maybe because of things like
Sex and the City or maybe because of
screwed up men with poor morals themselves,
or maybe because of mass confusion in an
era where no one but the religious stand
up for things like fidelity (and even
there there is much corruption), many
women today refuse to see how they
are exhibiting low moral standards.
This is related to having lack of logic
as well.
So, for example, women will complain that
they have dated so many men who were unfaithful,
who cheated on them, etc.
And yet, many of these women will refuse to
date men with higher moral standards because
these higher moral standards require being
different than the majority of society.
What I mean by this is that today, everything
is up for grabs morally. So many men and women
think it's fine to be in a relationship but
still flirt with others. They will be flirting
in person, they will be flirting on twitter,
they will be flirting on facebook, etc.
When they meet a man who does NOT do those
things, they are not prepared to ALSO be
like that.
Suddenly, they now label those good men as
"controlling".
In reality, this is not control, it's mutual
SELF control. Both the man and the woman should
be doing this, instinctively, not as a result of
anybody forcing them to do this.
Similarly, hanging out with ex-girlfriend or
girls hanging out with ex-boyfriends, this
kind of thing usually does not breed the
best foundation for the kind of serious
level of trust and commitment that is
required for a long term relationship.
Having your partner not hanging out with
ex girlfriends or girls hanging out with
ex-boyfriends has nothing to do with trust,
it has to do with being the kind of person
who is SENSITIVE to the PRECIOUSNESS of
the person they are committed to.
This person you are committed to has been
chosen by you as your soul-mate, is this
not something to ELEVATE above the rest?
And no matter how much each partner trusts
each other, is it really NORMAL and HEALTHY
to try to force ourselves to feel NOTHING?
I have found that the only people who truly
feel "nothing" or nothing major if a boyfriend
or girlfriend is hanging out with an ex or
is hanging out with some "platonic" friend
of the opposite gender to always be the
SAME types of people who themselves would
find it perfectly morally fine to be hanging
out at strip clubs, flirting with others,
etc.
So in other words, the only people who are
so "cool" and "trusting" are the people who
have lower moral standards in this department,
they are the same people who will find it
fine to be flirting and going to strip clubs
and in general not making the relationship
sacred.
So of course, if that's what you want as
a man, then you can have that as a woman.
And if that's what a woman wants, she can
have that.
But if you want your relationship to be
special and you want to know that your
partner is not flirting behind your back,
then all this stuff of higher moral standards
should be NATURAL and instinctive to the
woman you meet.
If she feels this is an issue of "control"
you can be sure she IS flirting behind
your back, and she does NOT have the
same concept of what it means to treat
fidelity as something sacred in a relationship,
and that her friends are the same way.
In fact, her friends will accuse you of
being the worst evil on earth.
And then, of course, when they date a man
who DOES cheat on them, they will cry and
say that all men are terrible cheaters.
Again, this whole thing goes back to
having poor logic and not seeing
the consequences of behaviors long term.
There is more, but for today, I think that's
enough ;)
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