How To Meet The Right Woman

Finding the RIGHT woman for something
long term means first realizing the importance
of values such as:

Emotional Maturity
Fidelity
Being Able To See The Other Perspective
High Self-Esteem
Loyalty
Wisdom
Discipline
The Ability To Think Long Term VS The Moment
Mutual Appreciation
Being Happy With Yourself And Your Life
Feeling A Purpose To Your Life
Emotional Balance
Not Afraid To Do What Is Right

Today, the combination of these values
is very rare, and it’s because everyone
is caught up in thinking that they can
get something “better”, no matter
HOW MANY CHOICES they have, as a result
of endless campaigning by companies
selling stuff.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a pair of jeans, a car,
a house, a snack, a meal, a vacation, or a
loving partner.



It would actually RADICALLY CHANGE our entire
system and way of life if we as a society ever
woke up to this insanity.

Think about it:
How many kinds of toothpaste are there?
How many kinds of jeans?
How many kinds of cars?
How many kinds of colognes?
How many kinds of vacation packages?
How many kinds of fast food?
How many kinds of restaurants?

Has this led to anyone being happier than
before? Notice, by the way, how much of
this stuff is also associated with being “sexy”.

And you will be CRUCIFIED by many, if you
dare to say that relationships that are long term
should be CHAMPIONED.

This is because so many people are so scared
of changing their own attitudes, because it
would mean running the risk of possibly getting
emotionally HURT, or possibly losing out on
all that “better stuff out there” that exists in
their imagination.

Long term relationships and being happy also
doesn’t sell more jeans, or commercials.
So there is no media incentive to promote this.

Only discontent and stimulating a sense of
lack and the need for something more, only
THAT sells.

Of course, in the end, it seems that even
the party girls and the Hugh Hefners all
want something more, but they only realize
this when they are stripped of their youth.

I’m not saying the answer is to have low
standards and not seek to improve your life.

But there needs to be a wise sense of what
is an IMPROVEMENT and what is HARMFUL.

So if you’re looking for a great woman who
will be fantastic long term, you need to be
the kind of man that can APPRECIATE what
he has, and to be with a woman that shows
she APPRECIATES what she has, and does
not slowly start to take you for granted.

Most men don’t screen for this, they just
go for the first woman they find attractive
on the outside who also finds them attractive
as well. This is like hiring a guy who likes the
way a rocket ship LOOKS to actually FLY it.

If you want a quality woman, the first step
is to put some serious time into thinking
which VALUES are truly crucial to you
long-term, and then not only must you
stay congruent to those values, you
must screen the women you date for
having these values as well.

If you are with a woman, and dating her,
screen to see if she is willing to work
hard or is the type of person who seeks
"short-cuts" that don't exist in real
life, be it in work or relationships.

What type of friends does she have?
People are not friends with others
because they DESPISE that person's
qualities, they are with them
because they LIKE that person
overall.

So if a woman's friends are not
exactly the best when it comes
to morals and fidelity and
not being light-headed about
relationships, then that tells
you a lot about the woman.

Find out also just how logical
she is vs irrational. No one
is 100% logical, we all have
our own quirks, but the question
becomes how logical will she be
when it comes to the things that
actually matter, i.e. regarding
respecting you, working together
to build a future, etc.

What values does she have regarding
lifestyle and health?

If you value a healthy lifestyle
and she's a chain smoker, that's
simply not going to work.

Screen, screen, and screen some
more, till you find the woman
that shares your values.