What SCIENCE Says On Getting The RIGHT Woman Vs. Just Getting The "One Night Stand"

Some SUPER IMPORTANT news for you today
if you care about meeting and attracting
the RIGHT woman for a great relationship.

The first is regarding a message I have
been teaching for many years, which is
now gathering even MORE MASSIVE evidence
for being absolutely true.

In an article by Andrea Bartz, there
is a review of recent research in the
Journal of Social Psychology which examined
how the evolutionary drives of women might
affect how they respond to stereotypical
pick-up artist style approaches.

Here are some of the highlights of this article:

1. Women who were looking for love (or at least
a long-term relationship) favored MEANINGFUL
positive comments, or even something innocuous,
however, pushing the flirty too far conveyed
lower trustworthiness and intelligence.

This falls totally in line with what I have
been saying for years, because a woman who is
interested in something long-term needs to
feel TRUST.

But the reports gets even better:

2. Researchers from the University of Kansas
recently examined who follows pick up artist
methods, and which women actually like it.

Here is more of the report:

"Turns out the offenders are men with a preference
for one-night stands and negative sexist attitudes
towards women. (Lovely.) In response, women
with a preference for no-strings-attached sex who
also have negative attitudes toward other women
tend to respond to dudes' aggressive tendencies.
(Even lovelier.)

So now you know: So-called pick-up
artistry serves an important function. It helps
sexist men and women find each other in
dim and crowded bars."

MY COMMENTS:
As I have been saying for years:
LIKE attracts LIKE.

If you want women who are looking for
one night stands, then do NOT emphasize
the MEANINGFUL, do NOT emphasize the
TRUST, do NOT focus on the deep connection.

Getting too meaningful, too deep, will
SCARE OFF the women who are looking for
one night stands.

On the other hand, if you are looking for
a great GIRLFRIEND, for a true long term
RELATIONSHIP, then you MUST be able to
COMBINE a fun approach without going into
the land of the vulgar, and without getting
too aggressive. 

The REASON for this is SIMPLE:
A woman looking for a genuine, long term,
and thriving great relationship is putting
a LOT on the line:

She is investing her EMOTIONS, her TIME, her ENERGY, her FUTURE.

So she ain't about to RUSH into something just
in order to get the physical gratification
of sex.

So OF COURSE the element known as TRUST
becomes HUUUUUUUUUUGELY important.

And the element known as INTELLIGENCE becomes
VERY important as well.

And I teach the WHOLE thing, the whole big
picture on attraction, which is what you
NEED to know if you want a great girlfriend
for the long term. 

To make a LONG TERM relationship work, you need to have two things in addition to ATTRACTION, you need to have created a strong foundation of mutual TRUST, and you need to have someone who is intelligent.

This is where showing some WIT becomes
very helpful as well.  And you can convey
wit and playfulness together with a
confident sense of humor.

This is also why IN GENERAL night clubs, full
of alcohol and party vibes, are NOT the best
places to meet a great girlfriend, although
it CAN happen, because sometimes a woman
is out at a birthday party at a club, etc.,
and it is not because she is really into
the nightclub lifestyle.

Some, but not all, "pick up artists" like
to pretend that all women are exactly the
same, but the fact is they ARE NOT.

And it is not just about LOCATION in terms
of finding the right woman.  Just because
NIGHTCLUBS usually are not the best place
does not suddenly mean that you are going
to meet your future girlfriend or wife
at a nice grocery store like WHOLE FOODS,
although there is probably a much HIGHER
CHANCE of it happening there.

It is for THESE reasons that I also teach
how to DETECT a woman's character and
her values as well, so that you can
find out quickly what kind of a woman
she is no matter WHERE you meet her.

For one powerful insight into DETECTING
a woman's character, keep THIS in mind:

DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL JUDGED. 
Encourage her to speak her mind.
LET HER REVEAL HERSELF TO YOU. 

Do not make serious opinion statements too fast, or you risk her FEELING that in case her thoughts or values do not match yours, you will judge her negatively.  It is because of this fear that she will then feel the need to HIDE her honest thoughts and feelings.

You don't want that, you want her to SPILL THE BEANS as much as possible about her real self, and the cool thing is that most people love talking about themselves anyway as long as you don't make them feel uncomfortable.

The study also shows that women who DO
only want one night stands are NOT attracted
to personality. They ONLY care about the SEX.

In other words, there really are NO strategies to LEARN when it comes to these types of women who are looking for one night stands, aside from looking your best, being in PARTY MODE, and being persistent.

She's just looking for a little "fun" for the night and she has NO long term thoughts about it at all. She's the female version of a promiscuous guy, that is all there is to it.

And there is nothing wrong with people getting what they want if they are not hurting anyone else, but it is ridiculous to pretend that ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME, as if the women who are drunk every weekend at the club are in the SAME MINDSET as the women looking for a great relationship.  

THIS IS WHY it is so RANDOM, so ARBITRARY when it comes to bars and clubs, and why one woman will ignore a guy and another will think he is great, even if he says NOTHING!

It is because in these environments of clubs and alcohol, there IS no strategy except to be in party mode, aggressive, and persistent by approaching different women, because the women are already liquored up and some of them just need to meet a guy who clearly wants the same thing as badly as they do.

The drunk party girl is not thinking long term, DEDICATION to a guy.

She  is not thinking of the kind of dedication, day-in and day-out, that is required between a man and a woman to make a LIFE for two people, a FUTURE for two people, a FAMILY, etc.

Now, do I think that her article is PERFECT?
No, as I believe that a CERTAIN amount of
dominance IS important and is very attractive
EVEN if you are looking for a great woman
for a long term relationship.

ESPECIALLY in the initial moments when you
are having to approach a woman who is a
TOTAL STRANGER and it is NOT happening in
a place that is particularly socially ENDORSED
for meeting strangers for the purpose of DATING.

In other words, just about EVERY PLACE, whether
it is the bus, the bookstore, the cafe- none of
these places are OFFICIALLY where you are
"supposed" to approach women, but where you
indeed CAN and SHOULD.

I ABSOLUTELY suggest men approach women in these
everyday places, because even the greatest
quality women simply have to get out and about,
they have to go grocery shopping, go to the
post office, take transit, etc. 

So it takes a certain amount of "OOMPH!"
and of DOMINANCE and DRIVE to OVERPOWER
the momentary "strangeness" of it all,
and to come in with an air of AUTHORITY
to OVER-RIDE the initial DOUBTS she may
have about meeting men who are strangers
even though deep down she probably
WISHES she could find the right guy
and it does not matter to her WHERE
that happens. 

And in the name of total honesty, I also
believe that what STARTS out as just
some mild interest in a man from a woman,
even if they just met in a club, can then
be AMPLIFIED, even if a woman is not that
attracted from the start, and even if she
was not thinking long-term from the start.

However, if you are looking for a SERIOUS
girlfriend for a great relationship, you
really want to have EVERYTHING working in
your favor, so you may as well start RIGHT
by having the RIGHT approach and detecting
the right kind of women, and going to the
places that have the higher percentage
chance of meeting the RIGHT woman.

One of the things that I really learned
is to NOT look at things as totally black
or white, so I learned from EVERYTHING
and incorporated it ALL into the most
powerful way of meeting, approaching,
attracting, and keeping a GREAT quality
woman, the kind of woman who is loyal
and would make for a great long term
relationship.

And the fact of the matter is, that if
you want to meet that GREAT woman, the
fact is that if she is a total stranger
somewhere, you do not KNOW her, so you
have to APPROACH her from scratch, without
knowing a thing about her.

At this point, this INITIAL starting
point, you need to SMOOTHLY get past
the potential awkwardness and social
conditioning that she has to AVOID
talking to strangers, even though
deep down she WANTS to find out
about you. 

So this is where it becomes important
to get her mind OFF of the awkwardness,
and instead get her to FEELING GOOD, 
which allows you the opportunity to actually
then convey some personality and for her 
to see that indeed she SHOULD be chatting
with you.

This is where you THEN begin the massive
emphasis on creating a CONNECTION with her,
and on being a genuinely confident man
deep within yourself and not just on the
surface.

Getting the right woman is about REFINING
certain ELEMENTS of pick up artist skills
ALONG with developing a very DIFFERENT set
of skills as well, and I have made it my
mission in life to teach men this COMBINATION
of skills for the purpose of meeting and
keeping the kind of women who are truly
GREAT- who make relationships something
SPECIAL.

And for my most powerful program on how to
get a GREAT girlfriend and how to KEEP her,
go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

For my BOOTCAMP program on mastering the skill
of approaching and attracting women who are total strangers,
no matter where you see them, go HERE:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

POWER - "The Ultimate Aphrodisiac"

Many years ago, Henry Kissinger said the
following words:

"Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac."

Indeed, power is attractive, and you can almost
NEVER convey TOO MUCH POWER to a woman.

Ironically, when most men approach women
who they want to attract, the men behave as
if they are walking on EGGSHELLS with
women.

In other words, men behave as if WOMEN must
be treated super-delicately and cautiously.

This type of behavior is MISGUIDED.

It would NOT be misguided if we really WERE
living in a society where women did not have
equality.

It would also make sense in an environment where
most men really WERE bad to women, so that
women really REQUIRED a man to show
he is not abusive.

In such environments, men walking on eggshells
in their initial interactions with women would be
APPRECIATED by women.

But since women in our society DO have equality,
and since most men are NOT bad to women,
behaving this way is very UNATTRACTIVE. 

It prevents men from giving off the VIBES of POWER.  

And make no mistake about it, women are
ATTRACTED to vibes of POWER.

Now, I UNDERSTAND the mistake most men
are making, as I used to do it myself.

I was SO worried about doing the WRONG
thing, I was so worried about trying to show
that I was NOT a psycho, that I was NOT
a rapist, that I was not just interested in
a woman for her body, etc., etc., etc.

All this was because for my entire life I was
IMMERSED in the popular culture that tells
men how TERRIBLE men are in the way that
they treat women, from things like sexual
harassment to cheating on women, to not
viewing women as equals, etc., etc., etc.

So the picture I got as a child and young adult
growing up, is that women just want a NICE GUY
who will RESPECT them and NOT cheat on them,
and who won't be too focused on the SEXUAL,
because "women just want to be viewed as equals".

Again, I need to repeat, this thing about how so many
women complained that men are a bunch of CHEATERS.

This is a HUGE thing that men have heard from women
from the time they were little boys all the way into adulthood.

So all this results in men behaving in a SUPER CAUTIOUS
way with women, showing ultra-high level respect and not
taking any risks that can POSSIBLY be misinterpreted.

Men end up trying to PLEASE women to the ultimate
degree in the effort to show that men DO sincerely
and genuinely care about relationships and about
being faithful and about looking at women as equals.

Men will answer any question women ask, men will
give over all the power to women in an effort to
SHOW good faith.

MEN ARE GIVING UP THEIR OWN POWER. 

This would be OKAY if we really WERE living in a world
where most men were BAD GUYS with women.

Because if that were really the case, then women would
APPRECIATE all this "giving up power" because men
would be having SO MUCH power that giving up power
would just be a way to restore SOME form of BALANCE.

But the FACTS ARE that actually most men are NOT
bad guys at ALL with women.  MOST MEN are actually
pretty damn GOOD to women.  And the men who ARE
the "bad apples" who abuse women are no more numerous
than the "bad apples" among women who abuse MEN.

Women are attracted to men who convey power,

but men are giving AWAY that power!

And by power, I am referring to the power that you
ALREADY possess but you don’t realize it.

That power comes in the form of NOT giving
up your various forms of power with women.

One way of giving up your power is by
behaving in a NEEDY way with women.

Another way of giving up your power is by
OVER-VALIDATING a woman who has
NOT earned it.

Another way of giving up your power with
women is if you feel you need to ANSWER
every single question a new woman asks you,
if she is asking it in a way that reeks of her
thinking the following:

“I’m the one in demand, I ask the questions,
and you answer them.”

Another way of giving up your power with 
women is telling a woman all your problems,
as if you are not her MAN, but as if you are
her CHILD.

Now, I need to bring all this up because unfortunately
there is no MEN’S LIBERATION movement like
there was/is a women’s liberation movement.
Women’s lib told men that men are a bunch of
rapists, abusers, and that men take all the jobs,
and that women just wanted to be treated with
equality and respect.

Okay, there are some women like that.

But the FACTS are that women make up 60%
of the students in universities. Men only make
up 40%.

Where is the MEN’S liberation movement here?
Where is the movement to create EQUALITY
for men?

How about regarding sex and cheating?
Supposedly it was all the MEN who were doing
the cheating.

But recent stats show us that actually women cheat
almost as much as men, and if anything women
are better at covering it up, so it’s possible they
actually cheat more but don’t honestly report it
on the stats.  Plus, it also depends on how you
define cheating.

Plus, most men don’t go reporting it when a woman
is physically abusive to them, or physically assaults
them.  So a man is supposed to just let a woman
do whatever she wants and just stand there as she
assaults him, because he usually won’t report it to
the police.

And as far as nice guys being what women want,
most women will trade a nice guy for a POWERFUL  
guy who wants to have wild sex.

In a society where clearly men do NOT have
"all the advantages over women" it is ABSURD
for men to "give up all their power" unless they
want to REPEL women. 

Now, I created get a GREAT girl for the very
SPECIFIC reason that it’s NOT about just getting
ANY girl, it’s about getting those RARE women
today who actually HAVE some decent values
and who APPRECIATE a good guy.

But a good guy is not the same thing as a
POWERLESS guy.

In fact, this is the reason I wrote my BOOK
called "Get A Great Girl".  It's for those
rare, super special women out there, on
how to attract and keep them.

But the thing is, it’s STILL important to understand
the DYNAMICS of power in our current society
regarding men and women. 

For one thing, people want what they CAN’T have.

I can tell you something- when it comes to sex,
most women today can have that VERY easily,
and with almost ANY GUY.

I’m not saying they can easily get the RIGHT
guy, but they can easily get TONS of guys.

Let me give you an example: I knew a woman
who was very attractive and who seriously
was interested in "one night stands".

So you would THINK  that this would be an
easy thing for her to get from men, right?

SUPPOSEDLY, most men aren’t interested in
relationships.

SUPPOSEDLY, most men just want to have sex
with lots of women. 

That might be the case with some men, but in
today’s society of brainwashed men, MOST men
become VERY needy for relationships very quickly.

It's because of the PERCEPTION that it's hard
to get women, which makes men want women
to "settle" down with them even if the women
are NOT treating them right!

So, getting back to this real-life situation with this
attractive woman who wanted to get some simple
one-night stands, and who was HONEST with every
man she met, telling them UPFRONT that this
was all she was looking for, guess what happened?

Guess what happened with every SINGLE guy that
slept with her, even though she TOLD each guy right
away that this was supposed to be a one night stand?

Guess what happened even though each guy AGREED
to it just being a one night stand?

EVERY SINGLE GUY kept ON contacting her, wanting to turn it into something MORE than a one night stand.

In other words, it seems to me, that for the MOST
part, in our current society, the MEN have become
the WOMEN, and the WOMEN have become the MEN.

The WOMEN are the ones having to tell guys
"it’s just sex".

The women call the shots.
The women are confident.
The women have the power.
The women aren’t needy.
The women understand "the game".

The men are willing to accept almost ANY woman.
The men quickly become needy.
The men feel that it is almost impossible to get women
and treat even TERRIBLE women as if these women
were GOLDEN in character.

The men have become needy for relationships
for the WRONG reasons.

It’s one thing to love a woman, it’s something
else for a guy to THINK he loves her because
his mind is in a place of SCARCITY, thinking
that there aren’t TONS of options for himself.

Etc, etc, etc.

All this ALSO ends up making men all bitter and
jaded as they fail to attract women.

So jaded, in fact, that when men DO meet great
women with integrity, loyalty, and all the other
traits that men seek in women, the men do all
the wrong things that make the virtuous women
think that life will be very miserable with them.

ALL THIS CAN EASILY BE CHANGED
IF MEN WOULD JUST STOP THE INSANITY
OF GIVING UP ALL THEIR FORMS OF POWER
SO FAST WITH WOMEN!

Trust me, no matter WHAT happens, NATURE
is STILL the stronger force in our primal beings,
for both men and women.

What I mean by this is that the natural order
of things is for men to BEHAVE like men,
and NOT act needy with women, and men
WOULD behave this way if their minds
were not so brainwashed.

Women really only WANT men who behave like MEN.

Most men are NOT rapists.
Most men are NOT abusive.
Most men are DECENT PEOPLE.

And guess what?
Most women KNOW this, even though the
women’s lib propaganda keeps touting the
extremes of the worst examples of male
behavior.

The women who spread the propaganda do
NOT represent most women. What is really
twisted is that the propaganda sometimes
DOES make women worry a bit more than
they should that every man might be a psycho.

However, most women will NOT think
you are a psycho just because you decided
to approach them and chat with them,
ESPECIALLY if you do it the RIGHT way
as I show you in my materials.

And most women DO want sex.
Most women do NOT need you to PROVE
that you are not a rapist or something before
you talk to them.

Most women actually ENJOY it when you
approach them in a PLAYFUL way that
is NOT too serious.

Being too serious shows a feeling of LACK
OF POWER because if you KNEW that you
could have TONS of women,  you would
treat the interaction with a lot more FUN.

You would be LESS FORMAL, because
formal is something we do to ensure we
do not offend.  But if you KNOW you
have value, you don’t WORRY about
trying so hard not to offend.

At the same time, you should NOT force
yourself to make women laugh, instead
the PLAYFULNESS should come from
your OWN state of mind that is NOT
needy for women.  So you are being
playful with her from a place of
CONFIDENCE and DOMINANCE
and NOT from trying to be a court JESTER
who is a clown trying to be her entertainer.     
     
Next time you chat with a woman, see
how much of your OWN power you can
RETAIN.

Stop trying to CONVINCE a woman of
your value.

Don’t try to IMPRESS her.

Ironically, THIS is the way to ATTRACT her, because you are communicating on a deep primal emotional level that you are so powerful that you don't NEED to prove yourself.

Don’t act FORMAL with her, instead, treat
her like you have already KNOWN her for
YEARS, and that you don’t HATE her, but
that she is kind of a pain in the ass that you
still have some affection for. 

Because the truth is, she is just human, she
probably WILL have some things about her
that will be a pain in the ass, but at the same
time there are probably some GOOD THINGS
about her as well.

So this is a far more REALISTIC picture and
actually by you behaving this way, you show
her that you understand the REAL picture
of who she is, which makes her a lot more
interested in YOU, since she can be HERSELF
instead of the fantasy that most men create
about her. 

If anything, turn the TABLES on the whole
DYNAMIC that is going on with most men
and women.

YOU be the one who is interviewing HER.
YOU behave the way you would if too MANY
women were trying to contact you and be with
you and sleep with you.

Finally, let me state one more POWERFUL thing.
As soon as your mind makes the JUMP to
the RIGHT WAY of thinking,  you suddenly
start to SEE and EXPERIENCE just about
EVERYTHING differently with women, in
a way that EMPOWERS you like CRAZY.

So, for example, the statistic I told you above,
regarding how women are the ones getting
the better education today?  Well if women
are 60% of the COLLEGE students, then
colleges are a GREAT place for men to
pick up women!!!!!!!

You have great odds in your favor!
You can even tease women that you’ll
have to settle for being a boy toy while
the women work at the office and you
just sit home watching tv and movies
while the women work hard and bring
home the dough for you, and that they
will be happy as long as they know
they have a hot guy like you waiting
for them at home…

But of course, you would continue
the tease, right?  That with all that
time on your hands at home, your
mind might start to drift and that
you might end up sleeping with
the milk-WOMAN!  (Yes, I know
that there is no MILK-MAN delivering
the milk anymore.)

Giving off the vibes of POWER this way,
is not only FUN, it's actually super
ATTRACTIVE.

And as you GET THE DESIRED RESULTS
you want with women, you will notice
that it becomes EASIER and EASIER
to do all the RIGHT things because
you won't be ACTING, you will truly
be FEELING all the right instincts.
  
And if you have not yet read my book,
"THE DATING WIZARD", then DEFINITELY
do that IMMEDIATELY, before anything else. 

The reason I don’t constantly mention this book
is because I figure that if you have been reading
my columns or newsletters for a while, that it’s
OBVIOUS that this book is where it all begins.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

This book is ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL if
you want to get ANYWHERE with good women
and if you want to prevent yourself from getting
turned into MINCED MEAT by the wrong women
as well. 

Another great step would be to download my
program “Attraction Accelerators”, which will
give you TONS of IMMEDIATELY APPLICABLE
tips you can use to attract women INSTANTLY.
I’m talking SUPER POWERFUL STRATEGIES that
are EASY to apply from the very first SECOND
you see a woman that you want to approach
ANYWHERE.

It’s at:

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ALL of my programs give you at least TEN TIMES
THE VALUE of your investment in them.  You’ll
see how much POWER I deliver for you when it
comes to attracting women.

To check out ALL my programs, go here:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks