There's a VERY important newsletter that
I want to get to, it gets to the HEART
of what is so important for attracting
women, and it has nothing to do with
pick-up lines or any other gimmicks.
Before we get to that, there's a VERY
quick bit of news that I need to mention:
So here's the situation:
I've been getting a LOT of emails asking
me for advice, and I do appreciate it.
Here's the thing, though: There's no way
I can answer all of them in a quick time
frame. Even at just 1o minutes per email,
that would be about 10 STRAIGHT NON-STOP
HOURS a day of me doing NOTHING but
answering emails, leaving me with
absolutely zero time to do anything
else at all.
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Alright, let's get to this newsletter, it's
an extremely important one:
THE ASSERTIVE MAN:
HOW HE ATTRACTS WOMEN
One of the key traits that defines a
MAN as opposed to a player or to a
“nice guy” is that a MAN is assertive,
a player is manipulative, and a nice
guy is submissive.
The nice guy tends to only get the
few women who happen to feel sorry
for him in a poor puppy kind of way.
The manipulative player type ends up
showing some form of confidence compared
to the nice guy but ultimately his true
colors show and he loses a quality woman.
The MAN however, he’s an expert at driving
through life in the ASSERTIVE lane.
Here’s where people get confused though:
They think that the only way to be assertive
is to be “in your face” or “nasty”, and this
makes it really hard to consistently be
assertive for them.
And yet, being assertive is a MASSIVE factor
in what turns on women, and it’s not only
your being assertive with women, but when
women seeing you being ASSERTIVE with
everyone in your life- including at the workplace,
with your friends, family, associates, etc.
What tends to happen with a lot of good guys
is that at some point in our lives a long time
ago, we learned that it’s better to NOT be
assertive, this way we wouldn’t be considered
a “threat” to the bullies, we wouldn’t get
any undue attention, and we would be more
“submissive” just to get along.
Unfortunately, we often eventually EXPLODE
after years and years of bottling up our own
self-esteem and repressing our own dignity
and even repressing our own desires.
Which ends up causing us to go to the OPPOSITE
extreme and blowing up on the people we feel
are being unfair to us. And when we explode,
our behavior is not seen as assertive, it’s seen
as imbalanced and irrational and nasty.
The real answer is to more ASSERTIVE in general,
which solves so many problems and prevents the
build up that can explode later otherwise.
Let me give you an example of a technique
of being more assertive:
THE BROKEN RECORD
In “the broken record” technique, you simply
make sure you know what you want, and you
keep on repeating that every time you hear
the other person saying they want you to do
something else.
This also involves another strategy called
using the “I” statement, because you are
saying it’s YOU who wants or feels something,
thereby taking on full responsibility for how
you feel, and this actually is empowering
because it means you have the right to
express yourself and not have to blame
anyone else for it, and that others should
respect the way you feel.
So here’s how the broken record and the
I statement could work together in a situation:
Let’s say you approach a woman and you chat
and you want to see her again.
Now, you know what you want- you want to
see her again.
Watch how being assertive is actually attractive
here:
You say:
“I enjoyed meeting you. We should meet up.
How’s Tuesday night for some Starbucks and
wonderful conversation with yours truly?”
She says: “Oh, Tuesday night I tutor piano lessons.”
The non assertive guy already feels REJECTED
and then, maybe but not likely, says something,
but it’s very UNSPECIFIC at best, like, “Maybe we can
meet up sometime”.
Being more assertive, he would say:
“I want to see you again. How about before your lesson”
Or even:
“I want to meet up. How about after?
Tuesday is a great day for me, but if it doesn’t
work by you, then let me know what day does.”
If she says a day that does NOT work for you,
like for example Monday, a non assertive man
might AGREE to it just because he doesn’t want
to displease the woman or lose her, and of course
the fear shows up in subtle ways, so even when
he says “yes” he has actually LOST the woman
because she can tell in his body language that
something has just been given up in terms of
his own dignity.
This PERSISTENCE with a relaxed demeanor
shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you believe
you have value, it shows also on a subtle level
that you get what you want in life, which is
another sign of a winner. And none of this
is being a jerk.
Similarly, when a woman sees how you deal
with pressure from OTHER people in your
life, it can be a turn on for her to see that you
are assertive with them as well.
So let’s say at work everyone is used to taking
advantage of you helping them with their work,
and asking you to do an unfair amount of work.
One of the things you can do here is again
the broken record
Example:
“Ted, I need you to help me this weekend again
with completing the project”
You: “I can’t do that, as I have a major family
engagement this weekend”.
“But this is really important, I don’t know what’s
going on”
“I understand, and I really have a major engagement
this weekend that is going to take all my time.”
You’ll notice that after you keep on STICKING
to your “broken record that keeps repeating”
they will eventually BREAK and give in.
They may say something like:
“Okay, but can you at least sign these forms
That allow me to use the resource centre this
Weekend?”
You: “Yes, I can do that.”
Then they will say thank you, and you’ll say
“you’re welcome.”.
Notice how in the above statements, you
Were using *I* statements and repeating
like a broken record, sticking to your point.
Here’s another thing:
Once you’ve stated your assertive position,
don’t EXPLAIN it for a half hour.
Instead, seal your lips.
By going on and on explaining yourself, you
are actually WEAKENING the entire assertive
core to your message.
This INCLUDES of course in your interactions
with women when you are in a RELATIONSHIP
as well!
Being assertive never ends, from the moment
you meet her, to long after you are having
wild nights together and beyond.
But the thing is, it’s important to realize that
this is a TRANSFORMATION that must come
GRADUALLY and consistently, with an intelligent
ROAD-MAP for how to go about all this so that
you STICK to the path of becoming The Assertive
Man.
Now unlike all the hype out there for everything
from bodybuilding magazines that feature steroid
injected men who claim they got their results
from some workout routine, or the hype out
there from folks who sell pick up artist tactics
and claim they got supermodels from using
pick up artist tactics instead of the real truth
which is that they got nothing of the sort,
what I am teaching you here, as you can see,
actually makes SENSE.
It’s not HYPE.
It’s based on REAL RESEARCH in the real world.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
I have MOUNTAINS-FULL of effective strategies
and insights on this topic, including explicit
clear examples of how to apply ALL the
different strategies for skyrocketing your
assertiveness with women all without
coming across as a jerk or arrogant,
and all in a way that feels it’s consistent
with your personality.
To get this important program for success
with women, go here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/the-assertive-man.html
And to check out ALL my programs for getting
and keeping a fantastic woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
For now, tomorrow, and for always, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Sunday, October 21, 2012
How To Stop A Woman & Attract Her On The Spot
There are some very eye-opening
letters that have come in recently,
so I thought I would share them
with you because they reveal a TON
about how to attract a woman, on
the deepest, most powerful level.
By the way, some of these letters were
even longer than they are here, and
editing them down was really tough
since there was so much powerful
content in every letter. In the end,
what you read here is at least 98%
of the content of the original letters.
Names were removed or changed to
protect the privacy of people.
LETTER FROM A READER:
Michael,
Your Warrior Within DVD program arrived
Friday, and I was anticipating great
things. I’ve studied many “gurus”
before finally discovering your site
by accident – an accident that changed
my life.
Long before Warrior Within, about a year
ago, I bought your Attraction Mastery
Program, and was so blown away that
I stayed up all night and through the
next morning listening to it all non-stop
while taking copious notes.
That program changed me from
a guy who could barely look a pretty
girl straight in the eyes, to being
able to not only approach women, but
also actually get myself two knockout
fantastic girlfriends over the course
of last year!
(Not at the same time in the same room,
that’s not what I wanted!)
Both of these girls were great girls, but
as a guy with no experience with women
before these girls, I knew that it was not
the right decision, at least for me, to
make a lifetime commitment with either
of them at that point.
And rather than hurt them, I stayed
honest and always told them that I
might not be able to make this a
lifetime thing. And the cool thing is
your program helped me keep myself
honest and keep my self-esteem.
The great thing is that these girls were
cool with my honesty- in fact, they said
they had never met a guy that was this
open and honest and direct about his
intentions, and one of the girls actually
wanted to keep on seeing me - but I
felt that she was conflicted and I didn’t
want to hurt her over the long haul.
As you teach, if you aren’t true to yourself
and your beliefs, you lose your charisma
because you no longer feel congruent to
your words and actions.
So I was really looking forward to your
new program, Warrior Within – as it
came out at the perfect time of me being
newly single again: And man, you
did not disappoint.
Within the first 15-20 minutes of the very
first DVD, I already got what I like to call a
“coolness” transfusion injected into my
system on what feels like a cellular level!
It was when you were explaining how
“who we are” is a total artificial
construct, and that in fact, we are
“asleep at the switch” when we are
thinking that our limits with women are
“who we really are”, and that we can’t be
whatever we WANT, on the deepest level.
I started to ask myself what were the
limitations that I was imposing on myself
as a result of thinking that, “This is simply
who I am!”. I realized that you hit the nail
on the head!!
For example, so far in the past, I’ve
still had to “pump myself up” to get into
state in order to make my successful
approaches with women, because it
wasn’t who I felt I “really was”, so
I needed to “pump” myself up to
“reach” that level that was not my
“normal, real” self.
So last night, which was Saturday night,
I was walking along the sidewalk downtown,
in middle of all the fun cafes, lounges, etc,
letting the evening take me where it may,
when three girls, dressed to the nines
clearly for a night on the town, were
walking the opposite direction,
toward me.
My heart set sail, Michael, at the sight
of one of them in particular, a woman who
looked like an exotic bond girl, she had
dark black hair and a slender, curvy shape,
and this tasteful shimmering jade skirt
that could not hide her gorgeous derriere.
Of course, the first thing that then went
through my mind was the fact that every
guy in a three block radius was looking
as well, and then I realized that allllllll
of these guys were not approaching
because they allllllllllll thought “it’s not
who they are” which of course as you
put it is total b.s.!!!
So then I simply thought of someone who
I thought *would* be perfectly at home
approaching her, and I thought of this
guy I used to know really well when I was
in the Reserves, who was not only a super
cool guy and would do this kind of thing,
but also I could trust this guy with my life.
So I took on the role of being him, I
“threw out” myself for the time being,
and walked into an identity I had never
allowed for myself, but because I was
just “pretending” to be this role, somehow
I gave myself permission to suddenly
be free!
Michael, what happened next was the
most exhilarating experience I have
ever had: Something came over me
that I had never felt before, a sense
of permission, entitlement, and power:
I stopped walking, and looked directly
at the girl I was interested in the most,
as she got within about 10 feet.
And I just said: “STOP.”
I put out my hand and said, “You.”
And the crazy thing, Michael, is that
inside of me, I knew they were going
to listen to every word I had to say,
because somehow through sheer
force of will, I was exuding a sense
of command and leadership – and
all wrapped up in a sense of fun.
I walked right up to the one that caught
my eye, and with an unwavering look,
looked straight into her blue eyes and
said, with command, “Where do you
think you’re going? I’m here.”
Then, her friends started to giggle but
she did not even look at them, and now
I know why- it was because I focused
and zeroed in on her exactly as you
said, as if the only two people who
existed in the universe at that moment
was me and her, and that’s it.
I was giving her my total focus, and all
the infinite vibes of power and sexuality.
She didn’t even giggle, she responded
very matter of factly, as if this was
the most normal thing in the world,
with what sounded like a Slavic accent,
“We are celebrating her birthday (
pointing to her blonde friend)!
You’re late!”
For a split second, I couldn’t believe that
this insanity was working. It was like the
rules of the universe were up to me, and
I had no idea of exactly what the limits
and rules of this universe were!!!
And then I realized that the rules
are all up to me, and that I better
figure them out quick, as just like
you said, if your conviction is not
iron-clad, others will put their
beliefs in place of yours and create
your reality for you instead.
The best way to describe the feeling
was like the situation in that movie
Inception, where the ground bends
upward into the sky, and buildings are
hanging upside down, and all of reality
becomes freaky and unnerving, and also
cool as hell.
So I went WITH it, exactly as you also
explain in Warrior, and I told her “Of
course I’m late, I was busy preparing
and bringing the best present!”
“You brought a present????”
“Of course, the best present – I brought
me!”
And I made a gesture with my arms out,
palms facing up, presenting myself for
exactly who I am.
She went wide eyed and smiled, and I
could hardly stop myself from gazing at
her gorgeous smile and her lips, damn!
At this point, one of her friends said,
“She’s an awesome girl” as if she needed
help being “endorsed”!!!!!!!!!!
I swear to God man, to have women
trying to prove and endorse to you a
girl that already is a knockout, is kind
of crazy.
Now, I know that obviously I had no
clue about what kind of person she is,
but as an initial encounter, as you
explain, it’s all up to you at this stage.
And man, I never understood before
last night that this is a fantastic
positive thing- I used to think this was
a negative thing because it meant that
as men we had to do all the work- but
now I realize it means that as men we
get to create our reality and make that
reality happen!
Knowing the cardinal rule you explained
long ago, to always add to the vibe,
and especially in a fun place and time
like Saturday night, to make it more
upbeat, so I played with her friends
as well, telling them that I would
be willing to share myself with them
because it was a birthday, and gave
them all a group hug!
Of course, this gave me bonus points
because it meant I had approval of
the entire group, and the honest truth
is that I DID enjoy their friendliness,
it was not a “move” to manipulate them!
We ended up chatting on the sidewalk
for about ten minutes, talking about
the best places to celebrate, and then
I told the girl I was interested in that
I was interested in learning more about
her, to which she joked:
“What parts of me do you want to learn
about?”
And I knew this was a playful test,
where most guys would melt and either
get tongue-tied, or embarrassed.
I made sure to not sell my soul, and to
be honest about my thoughts.
So I said to her:
I prefer to go from the inside out,
if I like you inside, then I’ll REALLY
like your outsides.
The crazy thing, Mike, is that this actually
had an awesome double meaning that was
sexual but also deep and non-superficial
as well! A shining example of what you
said about the power of brutal self
honesty and not “censoring” your own
thoughts but rather letting them fly
in the moment.
Her jaw dropped, and I stroked her
shoulder with my hand, looked
deep into her eyes, and said,
“what’s your number?”
She asked for my cell phone, which
I was not carrying. So she pulled out
her lipstick, grabbed my arm, and wrote
her number on the inside of my forearm,
and then one of her friends told me that I
better call her!!!!!
I hugged her and gave her a light kiss
on the neck ( I know this would not be
appropriate during daytime normal
approaches, but this environment
was more energy) and bid her friends
farewell.
I texted her once later that evening,
telling her we should meet up the
next day. She replied within 15 minutes
and now I’m looking at a date with this
gorgeous creature tomorrow!
I can’t wait to put all the things into
action tomorrow that I learned from
Warrior Within about creating a powerful
and authentic connection!
Another thing I really love about your
programs is that they don't require
pick up lines, and it has nothing to
do with trying to play manipulative
mind games on women- it's about
generating so much attractive power
that a woman simply is drawn to you
no matter what.
Anyway, man, I’m going on and on.
All I want to say is one gigantic
thank you.
And allow me to say to your readers, that
any guy who doesn’t get this program has
no clue what he’s missing. Now I understand
what the guys on your site are talking about!
Troy R.,
Miami, FL.
MY RESPONSE:
Man, thank YOU for that incredibly detailed
account of what happened, and of course
thank you for the props on Warrior Within.
One of the things I really appreciate
is when guys actually explain HOW they
are using the materials. Obviously, I
appreciate positive words, but explaining
how you are using the materials is even
more helpful to other guys.
There were so many things you did right,
that I believe reading your letter twice is
excellent advice – it’s JAMMED with great
applications of the concepts you learned.
What I really loved was the way you kept
BUILDING on each thing you did, and how
a lot of this ends up happening when you
START THINGS RIGHT to begin with.
So for example, by going in STRONG and
COMMANDING, you then have a way more
ENERGIZED reception.
This then creates the opportunity for the
GIRL to give YOU some feedback that has
“spunk” and “fun” to it, like when she said
to you in a playful way that you were “late”
for the celebration- as if of COURSE you
WERE supposed to be there with her!!!
And then you followed the principle of
GOING with it perfectly by not saying
something like “I’m not late”:
Instead, you said that indeed of COURSE
you were late, because you were preparing
a great present!
And then for you to add the POWER touch
was icing on the cake, when made it clear
that this present was actually YOU.
This is exactly the kind of thing
I’m talking about.
The truth that is not even a secret
is that a woman WANTS to BELONG to
her man, but the keyword here is
MAN. Be that man, and she WANTS
to be YOURS.
I also love the way you initially REALIZED
how YOU were the one limiting yourself
because of your beliefs of “who you are”
and how you allowed your REAL identity
to shine by pretending it’s someone else
who you DID give permission to be that
cool! That person is actually YOU!
Your letter has tons and tons of valuable
applications for attracting a woman in the
most powerful way, thanks for sending it in.
NEXT LETTER:
Hey Michael,
I just finished your Dating Wizard book!
I must tell you thanks for sharing your
knowledge with me.
I MUST SAY IM PISSED THE F*** OFF
AT ALL THE TIME(MONEY) IVE WASTED!!
But I know now what to do and how to
handle my new encounters! Man it’s crazy
how the media warps your brain to make
you think that you must act like the NICE GUY!
I feel a whole lot better after reading your
book. I have hope now and knowledge!
I just have a couple of questions I need
help with!
1. I’m 27 and a virgin(it is what it is) if things
get sexual how do I show that im still the MAN
and not look like a total noob?
2.If another man tries to challenge my
masculinity (in front of other women) by
let’s say, trying to make me look like a punk
so he looks like the alpha male.
What would be the best way to handle it?
3.What made me pull the trigger to buy
your great book was that I have a speed
dating event at this comic book convention
I’m going to this Friday. What section of
the book should I read again to better my
chances, and any tips you can give me?
And thank you Michael for helping and
showing me the way. I JUST WISH YOU
MADE THIS BOOK WHEN I WAS IN
HIGH SCHOOL!
So thankful,
Paul K.
New York, NY
MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for the props on the book.
If things get sexual, you do not have
to say you are a virgin (even though
there's nothing wrong with it), and
also remember that FOREPLAY is a
huge part of making the sexual stuff
as powerful as possible, so that she
can be so insanely lustful for you
that you can't go wrong by the time
it comes for actual “deed”.
Also, I always like to remind people,
make sure to wear a condom properly.
Regarding if another guy tries to "tool'
you by challenging your masculinity or
anything like that, in my Attraction Mastery
Program, I go into a full explanation of
the best way to handle it, but for now one
quick suggestion is to simply AGREE with
whatever the guy says:
This is a bit like “aikido” where you use
his force against him, because you aren’t
trying to counter him, and the more he
says things, the more he looks like he is
trying HARD to get your attention, which
is the ultimate sign of being BENEATH
someone else, and is proof that he is
less cool than you.
Sometimes, you could even EXAGGERATE it,
so if he says you're a punk you could say,
"Yeah, man, I'm a total punk, for sure, yeah".
..If he says you're a loser you say "I'm THE
BIGGEST LOSER, didn’t you see the show?"
This really drains the guy of any fuel and
also takes the guy by surprise so he is now
unsure of what the heck is going on!!!
In my Warrior Within program, you’ll learn
how to give off the vibes so that guys won’t
even think about doing this in the first place.
For the Speed Dating, the best thing to do
is get into CONVO with her and use “The Man's
Sense of Humor” as explained in the book, as
well as give her ONE meaningful compliment
but only if you can truly find something really
worth giving her a compliment for:
The reason for this is because there is so
little time in speed dating so you want to
show both sides of yourself-the challenging
fun side and the warm side.
Don't compliment her on her looks in a speed
dating event- it's too obvious and you need
the time to show other things about your
personality.
Best,
Michael
PAUL WRITES BACK:
Well after reading your DATING WIZARD
I decided to try out the knowledge I’ve
learned.
I had a speed dating convention to go to
last Saturday but when I went to show up
the vendor told me they didn’t have a slot
for me!
I felt cheated because I found so much
useful knowledge in your book and the
event was tailor-made to meet women!
So as I’m going home I decide to take in
the scene (Times Square NY) and as I’m
sitting down chilling, two girls sit down
to relax.
Now I wasn’t even looking to start any convo
but I saw one of the girls eat a can of Pringles.
She was digging for crumbs from the can, so
I looked at her and motioned (in a joking way)
just tilt the can down your mouth so you can
get the crumbs! She laughed! So she finally
finished the can, then started reading the
nutrition facts label.
So I TEASED her and said you don’t read that
after you eat something! She really started
laughing then her friend jumped in on the fun
and asked where I was from. I told them I
was from around the area. In turn they told
me they where from Germany and they work
as nannys in Connecticut.
The convo went towards work and soon it
really became very friendly. After awhile I
noticed it was getting late and I had to go.
I didn’t ask for their emails because they
lived pretty far away. So I gave them both
a gentlemen kiss on the cheek and told them
goodbye nice meeting you.
As I was walking, it dawned on me that I
should have asked for the emails anyway
because even though we lived in different
states we could have setup something.
Who knows! I knew I messed up right there!
I know most of your write backs end with the
guys either getting the female, but I kind of
feel good about myself. I usually just sit there
and HOPE they notice me!
I knew your knowledge worked, but I thought
it was going to be hard for me to execute!
Well I know it’s in my best interest to
get the Actions For Attraction CD Set.
I need more knowledge and examples because
I’m so inexperienced in this realm.
I would like it if you critique my experience,
don’t hold nothing back!
I just got one question - the Actions For Attraction
CDs i see you have a box set and a monthly package.
Does the box set have less content than the monthly?
Also, I see you have a new program, Warrior Within,
do you suggest this for me instead?
MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for your follow up letter and showing
how FAST you can put the materials into action!
You don’t have to wait around forever to get
RESULTS from this, you can start putting it
all into action RIGHT AWAY!
To answer your question, I have made many of
these important Actions For Attraction programs
available now for instant download so you can
easily get them no matter where you are on
the planet. They are at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/mp3.html
And of course, as you realize now,
always go for the contact info –
you can always NOT follow up if
you prefer not to!
Regarding Warrior Within, I absolutely
do suggest this program IMMEDIATELY.
It's that important.
After that, I would then get the 'Actions'
programs, as they contain important strategies
for attracting women and approaching women that
you won't find in any of my other programs.
WARRIOR WITHIN includes important strategies
as well, but it goes even deeper than "strategy":
It is designed to CHANGE YOU ON THE DEEPEST LEVELS,
which will make ALL MY PROGRAMS that more effective
for you, plus Warrior Within will also serve as a
SUPREMELY powerful program all on its OWN as well.
NEXT LETTER:
Awesome dude!!
I'm really looking forward to studying
Warrior Within! In the mean time, I'm
still learning new things from your
Attraction Mastery Program every time
I listen to it.
Also, I've been in an exclusive relationship
for over 1.5 years now, that started shortly
after reading your second book, “Get A
Great Girl”.
She is really cool and funny never played
a single game, and it couldn't have worked
out the way it did without reading your
book and weaning myself of some of the
crap that is out there.
In the past I repelled some really cool girls
that sensed that I'm naturally an awesome
guy, but got confused by the opposing
messages I subconsciously communicated
to them.
It's also helped me tremendously in other
social relationships: Your materials clearly
show how to make other people feel good,
and make them feel good about themselves.
But in the first place, they show you how
to make yourself feel good, the place where
it all starts and where true abundance is
created.
And the depth of information in your programs
is just staggering. One day I hope to interview
you regarding some of the processes behind
the creation of your programs and your
discoveries, but that's for a later day.
Looking forward to this new level, and
we'll keep in touch.
Will, The Netherlands
P.S. The people that attended your seminar
look really mature and smart, it makes
sense hehe
MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for the kind words, and it’s always
awesome to hear from guys that are with
a great girl, as to me, this is ultimately
what it’s all about.
And your letter is yet ANOTHER part of
the clearing up the confusion for all
good men out there who have been
brainwashed and who have actually
unfortunately chased away the RIGHT
women and attracted the WRONG
women from following the wrong
advice.
Thanks again.
NEXT LETTER:
Hello Michael. I think that I am
in deep trouble with my girlfriend.
The relationship goes for almost
3 years. It is a long distance
relationship. But for the past
6 months, I've been such a jerk
(that was before I found out
your material).
I stopped text messages, calls,
and less dates. And I did lots
of things that hurt her feelings.
I can list down all of them,
but to save your time, I’ll
make it short:
1-When we had a date, I usually
ended up being selfish and everything
was planned according to my plan.
I never asked what she wants to
buy or things she want to do
together when we hang out.
2-I was tested by her and I didn’t
even have a clue about it!!
And guess what? I failed.
There was one time she asked,‘’Do
I take this relationship seriously?’’
and I answered, ’I’m not serious
nor being playful’’.
I’m so screwed..it shows her how
unconfident I am and that is so
uncool.
3-When I have money problems, I
overcompensate it by telling her
all the time that I can’t afford
this and that. Being cheap is
also my weakness.
I let her spend a lot of her
money rather than using up my own.
At the end of this relationship,
she told me that she felt being
used by her own boyfriend.
4-I delayed her birthday gifts
several times, even forget to
wish her on the day.
She’s such a great girl. But I think
she can’t take it anymore and that
she's finding someone else while
still having me as her boyfriend.
I feel betrayed and disappointed
because she never told me about all
those things that hurt her (I swear
I didn’t know and I didn’t realize
that I constantly hurt her until it
is almost too late).
When I knew she have someone else
as her boyfriend, it’s like there’s
no second chance for me to redeem
myself back.
But most of all, I think all of my
actions backfired. It all come back
to me. All actions that I took lead
her to go further from me and she
doesn’t think twice to find someone
else who’s ready to love her.
After using your newsletters, there
are so much lessons that I’ve learnt.
I was being selfish, not a good
listener, not consistent in showing
that I love her and overcompensating
my insecurities.
And like you said, a girl won’t test
you unless you make them want to.
All of your materials are proven to
be VERY TRUE.
Michael, I need your advice about this
going-to-end-relationship. She was a
great girl and it’s hard for me to
go through a breakup.
Is there anything I could do/think
before meeting her up again and
facing her? Any actions or advice?
I understand if you don’t want to
help me out. But, please…I am lost
and I just don’t know what to do.
I need your guidance.
MY REPLY:
First of all, I'm sorry it's taken
so long to get back to you, as there
are so many emails it's hard to reply
to all of them right away, even if
I were to spend all day on emails.
It sounds like you were really
were led astray, as I myself was,
and it's heart-breaking to hear how
good guys INTENTIONALLY FORCE THEMSELVES
to act like jerks because they think
it's the being a jerk part that is
attractive to a woman.
The best thing to do now is simply
to be one trillion percent honest
with her, and then allow her the
space she needs to process it all.
The reality is that most likely she
will be so pissed off she will be very
angry and try to get some form of even
with you, so you might want to just
move on and forget about it as hard
as that sounds.
If you do try to make it work with her,
be prepared for a flood of backlash
for a while, where you must stay calm
throughout it all, and if she doesn't get
over it, then you have to move on.
And definitely for the next woman
you meet, I suggest you start with
the "Get A Great Girl" book.
And if you're reading this right now
and want to be able to go RIGHT UP
to a woman and attract her in the most
powerful way INSTANTLY, then I suggest
you take advantage of my WARRIOR WITHIN
DVD Training Program.
It's LOADED with TONS of my most in-depth
insights for attracting a woman upon first approach,
and for building the kind of supreme connection
with her that she knows happens only once
in a lifetime- and that will be with YOU.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then do that now at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
Be cool,
Michael Marks
P.S. You can check out ALL my programs for
skyrocketing your success with women at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
letters that have come in recently,
so I thought I would share them
with you because they reveal a TON
about how to attract a woman, on
the deepest, most powerful level.
By the way, some of these letters were
even longer than they are here, and
editing them down was really tough
since there was so much powerful
content in every letter. In the end,
what you read here is at least 98%
of the content of the original letters.
Names were removed or changed to
protect the privacy of people.
LETTER FROM A READER:
Michael,
Your Warrior Within DVD program arrived
Friday, and I was anticipating great
things. I’ve studied many “gurus”
before finally discovering your site
by accident – an accident that changed
my life.
Long before Warrior Within, about a year
ago, I bought your Attraction Mastery
Program, and was so blown away that
I stayed up all night and through the
next morning listening to it all non-stop
while taking copious notes.
That program changed me from
a guy who could barely look a pretty
girl straight in the eyes, to being
able to not only approach women, but
also actually get myself two knockout
fantastic girlfriends over the course
of last year!
(Not at the same time in the same room,
that’s not what I wanted!)
Both of these girls were great girls, but
as a guy with no experience with women
before these girls, I knew that it was not
the right decision, at least for me, to
make a lifetime commitment with either
of them at that point.
And rather than hurt them, I stayed
honest and always told them that I
might not be able to make this a
lifetime thing. And the cool thing is
your program helped me keep myself
honest and keep my self-esteem.
The great thing is that these girls were
cool with my honesty- in fact, they said
they had never met a guy that was this
open and honest and direct about his
intentions, and one of the girls actually
wanted to keep on seeing me - but I
felt that she was conflicted and I didn’t
want to hurt her over the long haul.
As you teach, if you aren’t true to yourself
and your beliefs, you lose your charisma
because you no longer feel congruent to
your words and actions.
So I was really looking forward to your
new program, Warrior Within – as it
came out at the perfect time of me being
newly single again: And man, you
did not disappoint.
Within the first 15-20 minutes of the very
first DVD, I already got what I like to call a
“coolness” transfusion injected into my
system on what feels like a cellular level!
It was when you were explaining how
“who we are” is a total artificial
construct, and that in fact, we are
“asleep at the switch” when we are
thinking that our limits with women are
“who we really are”, and that we can’t be
whatever we WANT, on the deepest level.
I started to ask myself what were the
limitations that I was imposing on myself
as a result of thinking that, “This is simply
who I am!”. I realized that you hit the nail
on the head!!
For example, so far in the past, I’ve
still had to “pump myself up” to get into
state in order to make my successful
approaches with women, because it
wasn’t who I felt I “really was”, so
I needed to “pump” myself up to
“reach” that level that was not my
“normal, real” self.
So last night, which was Saturday night,
I was walking along the sidewalk downtown,
in middle of all the fun cafes, lounges, etc,
letting the evening take me where it may,
when three girls, dressed to the nines
clearly for a night on the town, were
walking the opposite direction,
toward me.
My heart set sail, Michael, at the sight
of one of them in particular, a woman who
looked like an exotic bond girl, she had
dark black hair and a slender, curvy shape,
and this tasteful shimmering jade skirt
that could not hide her gorgeous derriere.
Of course, the first thing that then went
through my mind was the fact that every
guy in a three block radius was looking
as well, and then I realized that allllllll
of these guys were not approaching
because they allllllllllll thought “it’s not
who they are” which of course as you
put it is total b.s.!!!
So then I simply thought of someone who
I thought *would* be perfectly at home
approaching her, and I thought of this
guy I used to know really well when I was
in the Reserves, who was not only a super
cool guy and would do this kind of thing,
but also I could trust this guy with my life.
So I took on the role of being him, I
“threw out” myself for the time being,
and walked into an identity I had never
allowed for myself, but because I was
just “pretending” to be this role, somehow
I gave myself permission to suddenly
be free!
Michael, what happened next was the
most exhilarating experience I have
ever had: Something came over me
that I had never felt before, a sense
of permission, entitlement, and power:
I stopped walking, and looked directly
at the girl I was interested in the most,
as she got within about 10 feet.
And I just said: “STOP.”
I put out my hand and said, “You.”
And the crazy thing, Michael, is that
inside of me, I knew they were going
to listen to every word I had to say,
because somehow through sheer
force of will, I was exuding a sense
of command and leadership – and
all wrapped up in a sense of fun.
I walked right up to the one that caught
my eye, and with an unwavering look,
looked straight into her blue eyes and
said, with command, “Where do you
think you’re going? I’m here.”
Then, her friends started to giggle but
she did not even look at them, and now
I know why- it was because I focused
and zeroed in on her exactly as you
said, as if the only two people who
existed in the universe at that moment
was me and her, and that’s it.
I was giving her my total focus, and all
the infinite vibes of power and sexuality.
She didn’t even giggle, she responded
very matter of factly, as if this was
the most normal thing in the world,
with what sounded like a Slavic accent,
“We are celebrating her birthday (
pointing to her blonde friend)!
You’re late!”
For a split second, I couldn’t believe that
this insanity was working. It was like the
rules of the universe were up to me, and
I had no idea of exactly what the limits
and rules of this universe were!!!
And then I realized that the rules
are all up to me, and that I better
figure them out quick, as just like
you said, if your conviction is not
iron-clad, others will put their
beliefs in place of yours and create
your reality for you instead.
The best way to describe the feeling
was like the situation in that movie
Inception, where the ground bends
upward into the sky, and buildings are
hanging upside down, and all of reality
becomes freaky and unnerving, and also
cool as hell.
So I went WITH it, exactly as you also
explain in Warrior, and I told her “Of
course I’m late, I was busy preparing
and bringing the best present!”
“You brought a present????”
“Of course, the best present – I brought
me!”
And I made a gesture with my arms out,
palms facing up, presenting myself for
exactly who I am.
She went wide eyed and smiled, and I
could hardly stop myself from gazing at
her gorgeous smile and her lips, damn!
At this point, one of her friends said,
“She’s an awesome girl” as if she needed
help being “endorsed”!!!!!!!!!!
I swear to God man, to have women
trying to prove and endorse to you a
girl that already is a knockout, is kind
of crazy.
Now, I know that obviously I had no
clue about what kind of person she is,
but as an initial encounter, as you
explain, it’s all up to you at this stage.
And man, I never understood before
last night that this is a fantastic
positive thing- I used to think this was
a negative thing because it meant that
as men we had to do all the work- but
now I realize it means that as men we
get to create our reality and make that
reality happen!
Knowing the cardinal rule you explained
long ago, to always add to the vibe,
and especially in a fun place and time
like Saturday night, to make it more
upbeat, so I played with her friends
as well, telling them that I would
be willing to share myself with them
because it was a birthday, and gave
them all a group hug!
Of course, this gave me bonus points
because it meant I had approval of
the entire group, and the honest truth
is that I DID enjoy their friendliness,
it was not a “move” to manipulate them!
We ended up chatting on the sidewalk
for about ten minutes, talking about
the best places to celebrate, and then
I told the girl I was interested in that
I was interested in learning more about
her, to which she joked:
“What parts of me do you want to learn
about?”
And I knew this was a playful test,
where most guys would melt and either
get tongue-tied, or embarrassed.
I made sure to not sell my soul, and to
be honest about my thoughts.
So I said to her:
I prefer to go from the inside out,
if I like you inside, then I’ll REALLY
like your outsides.
The crazy thing, Mike, is that this actually
had an awesome double meaning that was
sexual but also deep and non-superficial
as well! A shining example of what you
said about the power of brutal self
honesty and not “censoring” your own
thoughts but rather letting them fly
in the moment.
Her jaw dropped, and I stroked her
shoulder with my hand, looked
deep into her eyes, and said,
“what’s your number?”
She asked for my cell phone, which
I was not carrying. So she pulled out
her lipstick, grabbed my arm, and wrote
her number on the inside of my forearm,
and then one of her friends told me that I
better call her!!!!!
I hugged her and gave her a light kiss
on the neck ( I know this would not be
appropriate during daytime normal
approaches, but this environment
was more energy) and bid her friends
farewell.
I texted her once later that evening,
telling her we should meet up the
next day. She replied within 15 minutes
and now I’m looking at a date with this
gorgeous creature tomorrow!
I can’t wait to put all the things into
action tomorrow that I learned from
Warrior Within about creating a powerful
and authentic connection!
Another thing I really love about your
programs is that they don't require
pick up lines, and it has nothing to
do with trying to play manipulative
mind games on women- it's about
generating so much attractive power
that a woman simply is drawn to you
no matter what.
Anyway, man, I’m going on and on.
All I want to say is one gigantic
thank you.
And allow me to say to your readers, that
any guy who doesn’t get this program has
no clue what he’s missing. Now I understand
what the guys on your site are talking about!
Troy R.,
Miami, FL.
MY RESPONSE:
Man, thank YOU for that incredibly detailed
account of what happened, and of course
thank you for the props on Warrior Within.
One of the things I really appreciate
is when guys actually explain HOW they
are using the materials. Obviously, I
appreciate positive words, but explaining
how you are using the materials is even
more helpful to other guys.
There were so many things you did right,
that I believe reading your letter twice is
excellent advice – it’s JAMMED with great
applications of the concepts you learned.
What I really loved was the way you kept
BUILDING on each thing you did, and how
a lot of this ends up happening when you
START THINGS RIGHT to begin with.
So for example, by going in STRONG and
COMMANDING, you then have a way more
ENERGIZED reception.
This then creates the opportunity for the
GIRL to give YOU some feedback that has
“spunk” and “fun” to it, like when she said
to you in a playful way that you were “late”
for the celebration- as if of COURSE you
WERE supposed to be there with her!!!
And then you followed the principle of
GOING with it perfectly by not saying
something like “I’m not late”:
Instead, you said that indeed of COURSE
you were late, because you were preparing
a great present!
And then for you to add the POWER touch
was icing on the cake, when made it clear
that this present was actually YOU.
This is exactly the kind of thing
I’m talking about.
The truth that is not even a secret
is that a woman WANTS to BELONG to
her man, but the keyword here is
MAN. Be that man, and she WANTS
to be YOURS.
I also love the way you initially REALIZED
how YOU were the one limiting yourself
because of your beliefs of “who you are”
and how you allowed your REAL identity
to shine by pretending it’s someone else
who you DID give permission to be that
cool! That person is actually YOU!
Your letter has tons and tons of valuable
applications for attracting a woman in the
most powerful way, thanks for sending it in.
NEXT LETTER:
Hey Michael,
I just finished your Dating Wizard book!
I must tell you thanks for sharing your
knowledge with me.
I MUST SAY IM PISSED THE F*** OFF
AT ALL THE TIME(MONEY) IVE WASTED!!
But I know now what to do and how to
handle my new encounters! Man it’s crazy
how the media warps your brain to make
you think that you must act like the NICE GUY!
I feel a whole lot better after reading your
book. I have hope now and knowledge!
I just have a couple of questions I need
help with!
1. I’m 27 and a virgin(it is what it is) if things
get sexual how do I show that im still the MAN
and not look like a total noob?
2.If another man tries to challenge my
masculinity (in front of other women) by
let’s say, trying to make me look like a punk
so he looks like the alpha male.
What would be the best way to handle it?
3.What made me pull the trigger to buy
your great book was that I have a speed
dating event at this comic book convention
I’m going to this Friday. What section of
the book should I read again to better my
chances, and any tips you can give me?
And thank you Michael for helping and
showing me the way. I JUST WISH YOU
MADE THIS BOOK WHEN I WAS IN
HIGH SCHOOL!
So thankful,
Paul K.
New York, NY
MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for the props on the book.
If things get sexual, you do not have
to say you are a virgin (even though
there's nothing wrong with it), and
also remember that FOREPLAY is a
huge part of making the sexual stuff
as powerful as possible, so that she
can be so insanely lustful for you
that you can't go wrong by the time
it comes for actual “deed”.
Also, I always like to remind people,
make sure to wear a condom properly.
Regarding if another guy tries to "tool'
you by challenging your masculinity or
anything like that, in my Attraction Mastery
Program, I go into a full explanation of
the best way to handle it, but for now one
quick suggestion is to simply AGREE with
whatever the guy says:
This is a bit like “aikido” where you use
his force against him, because you aren’t
trying to counter him, and the more he
says things, the more he looks like he is
trying HARD to get your attention, which
is the ultimate sign of being BENEATH
someone else, and is proof that he is
less cool than you.
Sometimes, you could even EXAGGERATE it,
so if he says you're a punk you could say,
"Yeah, man, I'm a total punk, for sure, yeah".
..If he says you're a loser you say "I'm THE
BIGGEST LOSER, didn’t you see the show?"
This really drains the guy of any fuel and
also takes the guy by surprise so he is now
unsure of what the heck is going on!!!
In my Warrior Within program, you’ll learn
how to give off the vibes so that guys won’t
even think about doing this in the first place.
For the Speed Dating, the best thing to do
is get into CONVO with her and use “The Man's
Sense of Humor” as explained in the book, as
well as give her ONE meaningful compliment
but only if you can truly find something really
worth giving her a compliment for:
The reason for this is because there is so
little time in speed dating so you want to
show both sides of yourself-the challenging
fun side and the warm side.
Don't compliment her on her looks in a speed
dating event- it's too obvious and you need
the time to show other things about your
personality.
Best,
Michael
PAUL WRITES BACK:
Well after reading your DATING WIZARD
I decided to try out the knowledge I’ve
learned.
I had a speed dating convention to go to
last Saturday but when I went to show up
the vendor told me they didn’t have a slot
for me!
I felt cheated because I found so much
useful knowledge in your book and the
event was tailor-made to meet women!
So as I’m going home I decide to take in
the scene (Times Square NY) and as I’m
sitting down chilling, two girls sit down
to relax.
Now I wasn’t even looking to start any convo
but I saw one of the girls eat a can of Pringles.
She was digging for crumbs from the can, so
I looked at her and motioned (in a joking way)
just tilt the can down your mouth so you can
get the crumbs! She laughed! So she finally
finished the can, then started reading the
nutrition facts label.
So I TEASED her and said you don’t read that
after you eat something! She really started
laughing then her friend jumped in on the fun
and asked where I was from. I told them I
was from around the area. In turn they told
me they where from Germany and they work
as nannys in Connecticut.
The convo went towards work and soon it
really became very friendly. After awhile I
noticed it was getting late and I had to go.
I didn’t ask for their emails because they
lived pretty far away. So I gave them both
a gentlemen kiss on the cheek and told them
goodbye nice meeting you.
As I was walking, it dawned on me that I
should have asked for the emails anyway
because even though we lived in different
states we could have setup something.
Who knows! I knew I messed up right there!
I know most of your write backs end with the
guys either getting the female, but I kind of
feel good about myself. I usually just sit there
and HOPE they notice me!
I knew your knowledge worked, but I thought
it was going to be hard for me to execute!
Well I know it’s in my best interest to
get the Actions For Attraction CD Set.
I need more knowledge and examples because
I’m so inexperienced in this realm.
I would like it if you critique my experience,
don’t hold nothing back!
I just got one question - the Actions For Attraction
CDs i see you have a box set and a monthly package.
Does the box set have less content than the monthly?
Also, I see you have a new program, Warrior Within,
do you suggest this for me instead?
MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for your follow up letter and showing
how FAST you can put the materials into action!
You don’t have to wait around forever to get
RESULTS from this, you can start putting it
all into action RIGHT AWAY!
To answer your question, I have made many of
these important Actions For Attraction programs
available now for instant download so you can
easily get them no matter where you are on
the planet. They are at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/mp3.html
And of course, as you realize now,
always go for the contact info –
you can always NOT follow up if
you prefer not to!
Regarding Warrior Within, I absolutely
do suggest this program IMMEDIATELY.
It's that important.
After that, I would then get the 'Actions'
programs, as they contain important strategies
for attracting women and approaching women that
you won't find in any of my other programs.
WARRIOR WITHIN includes important strategies
as well, but it goes even deeper than "strategy":
It is designed to CHANGE YOU ON THE DEEPEST LEVELS,
which will make ALL MY PROGRAMS that more effective
for you, plus Warrior Within will also serve as a
SUPREMELY powerful program all on its OWN as well.
NEXT LETTER:
Awesome dude!!
I'm really looking forward to studying
Warrior Within! In the mean time, I'm
still learning new things from your
Attraction Mastery Program every time
I listen to it.
Also, I've been in an exclusive relationship
for over 1.5 years now, that started shortly
after reading your second book, “Get A
Great Girl”.
She is really cool and funny never played
a single game, and it couldn't have worked
out the way it did without reading your
book and weaning myself of some of the
crap that is out there.
In the past I repelled some really cool girls
that sensed that I'm naturally an awesome
guy, but got confused by the opposing
messages I subconsciously communicated
to them.
It's also helped me tremendously in other
social relationships: Your materials clearly
show how to make other people feel good,
and make them feel good about themselves.
But in the first place, they show you how
to make yourself feel good, the place where
it all starts and where true abundance is
created.
And the depth of information in your programs
is just staggering. One day I hope to interview
you regarding some of the processes behind
the creation of your programs and your
discoveries, but that's for a later day.
Looking forward to this new level, and
we'll keep in touch.
Will, The Netherlands
P.S. The people that attended your seminar
look really mature and smart, it makes
sense hehe
MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for the kind words, and it’s always
awesome to hear from guys that are with
a great girl, as to me, this is ultimately
what it’s all about.
And your letter is yet ANOTHER part of
the clearing up the confusion for all
good men out there who have been
brainwashed and who have actually
unfortunately chased away the RIGHT
women and attracted the WRONG
women from following the wrong
advice.
Thanks again.
NEXT LETTER:
Hello Michael. I think that I am
in deep trouble with my girlfriend.
The relationship goes for almost
3 years. It is a long distance
relationship. But for the past
6 months, I've been such a jerk
(that was before I found out
your material).
I stopped text messages, calls,
and less dates. And I did lots
of things that hurt her feelings.
I can list down all of them,
but to save your time, I’ll
make it short:
1-When we had a date, I usually
ended up being selfish and everything
was planned according to my plan.
I never asked what she wants to
buy or things she want to do
together when we hang out.
2-I was tested by her and I didn’t
even have a clue about it!!
And guess what? I failed.
There was one time she asked,‘’Do
I take this relationship seriously?’’
and I answered, ’I’m not serious
nor being playful’’.
I’m so screwed..it shows her how
unconfident I am and that is so
uncool.
3-When I have money problems, I
overcompensate it by telling her
all the time that I can’t afford
this and that. Being cheap is
also my weakness.
I let her spend a lot of her
money rather than using up my own.
At the end of this relationship,
she told me that she felt being
used by her own boyfriend.
4-I delayed her birthday gifts
several times, even forget to
wish her on the day.
She’s such a great girl. But I think
she can’t take it anymore and that
she's finding someone else while
still having me as her boyfriend.
I feel betrayed and disappointed
because she never told me about all
those things that hurt her (I swear
I didn’t know and I didn’t realize
that I constantly hurt her until it
is almost too late).
When I knew she have someone else
as her boyfriend, it’s like there’s
no second chance for me to redeem
myself back.
But most of all, I think all of my
actions backfired. It all come back
to me. All actions that I took lead
her to go further from me and she
doesn’t think twice to find someone
else who’s ready to love her.
After using your newsletters, there
are so much lessons that I’ve learnt.
I was being selfish, not a good
listener, not consistent in showing
that I love her and overcompensating
my insecurities.
And like you said, a girl won’t test
you unless you make them want to.
All of your materials are proven to
be VERY TRUE.
Michael, I need your advice about this
going-to-end-relationship. She was a
great girl and it’s hard for me to
go through a breakup.
Is there anything I could do/think
before meeting her up again and
facing her? Any actions or advice?
I understand if you don’t want to
help me out. But, please…I am lost
and I just don’t know what to do.
I need your guidance.
MY REPLY:
First of all, I'm sorry it's taken
so long to get back to you, as there
are so many emails it's hard to reply
to all of them right away, even if
I were to spend all day on emails.
It sounds like you were really
were led astray, as I myself was,
and it's heart-breaking to hear how
good guys INTENTIONALLY FORCE THEMSELVES
to act like jerks because they think
it's the being a jerk part that is
attractive to a woman.
The best thing to do now is simply
to be one trillion percent honest
with her, and then allow her the
space she needs to process it all.
The reality is that most likely she
will be so pissed off she will be very
angry and try to get some form of even
with you, so you might want to just
move on and forget about it as hard
as that sounds.
If you do try to make it work with her,
be prepared for a flood of backlash
for a while, where you must stay calm
throughout it all, and if she doesn't get
over it, then you have to move on.
And definitely for the next woman
you meet, I suggest you start with
the "Get A Great Girl" book.
And if you're reading this right now
and want to be able to go RIGHT UP
to a woman and attract her in the most
powerful way INSTANTLY, then I suggest
you take advantage of my WARRIOR WITHIN
DVD Training Program.
It's LOADED with TONS of my most in-depth
insights for attracting a woman upon first approach,
and for building the kind of supreme connection
with her that she knows happens only once
in a lifetime- and that will be with YOU.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then do that now at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
Be cool,
Michael Marks
P.S. You can check out ALL my programs for
skyrocketing your success with women at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Saturday, October 20, 2012
The Truth About Being Her Man
There’s a ton I’m about to share with you
that is all GOLD. Ready, set, GO:
NUMBER ONE:
MASCULINITY
This is such a huge factor in your success
with women that I started speaking about
even in even in my very first book years ago.
In order for her to feel like a WOMAN,
you must behave like a MAN.
This has absolutely NOTHING to do
with acting arrogant, or with thinking
that women are less intelligent, less
capable, or with thinking that women
should all be barefoot and pregnant
in the kitchen all the time.
In fact, that kind of thinking comes from
ignorance and insecurity, which are the very
opposite things from being the essence
of a man.
What I mean by masculinity is a certain
type of ruggedness in essence.
Grooming and hygiene is EXTREMELY
important, obviously, but spending hours
in front of the mirror, primping, is NOT
rugged.
When a man behaves too feminine, it makes
him seem more FEMININE THAN THE WOMAN,
and this robs a woman of her feelings of femininity.
That means in bed she will not feel PASSIONATE
as a woman.
Being a MAN is a good thing, regardless of
what some feminists say.
This brings us to the next point, on dominance:
TWO:
DOMINANCE
Dominance is definitely one of the most important
concepts for attraction, but it is misunderstood, and
then gets perverted and distorted, and turned into a
mockery by most people.
The reality is that most women although they
expect to be treated with equality in general,
they want to feel WOMANLY around you,
and especially so in bed, and they want you to
be the MAN.
However, in order for a woman to SUBMIT to
a man’s dominance, she must be able to TRUST him
and ALSO feel he is genuinely worthy and masculine.
This means that you must not only exude
CONFIDENCE in general so that she feels
you are THE MAN, but you must also earn
her COMPLETE TRUST, so that she feels
SAFE in and womanly in submitting to you.
And what I mean by trust is not just the trust that
you will not cause her any actual HARM, what
I mean is that she trusts you on a deep level that
you will still totally respect her and in fact
CHERISH her for all this.
She must know that you do NOT think that women
are ANY less than men, that you do not think she is
less than you in any way, not less intelligent, or less capable,
or less worthy.
This is NOT about being a Neanderthal.
It’s about knowing that a woman is a human
being with all the same rights as a man, but
ALSO knowing that she is WOMAN sexually
and that she naturally wants to FEEL that role,
and she cannot feel that role if you do NOT
act dominant and assertive in bed.
Old fashioned society knew the importance of
PRESERVING the polarity between masculinity
and femininity. They knew how each one brings
out the full intensity of the other.
Unfortunately, old society also had some screwed
up concepts of women. Modern society has
progressed in some ways, which is good, but
it has also LOST the concept of how important
it is to protect femininity and masculinity and
to cherish and preserve those identities, and losing
that is a great loss as well.
You want to be the BEST of both worlds-
respecting a good woman who has earned
your respect, and ALSO making her feel
like a WOMAN by you being THE MAN.
It’s when you COMBINE this best of both
worlds that you spark the MAGIC in her
known as INSANE ATTRACTION TO YOU!
Show your masculinity through your demeanor,
your tonality, your decisiveness, your conviction
in yourself, and show your respect through being
sensitive to her as a fellow human being as well,
and when it comes to being under the sheets,
be way more assertive than you have been, and
you’ll be surprised to find out that 99% of women
LOVE it when you take control.
This doesn’t mean that she can never take control or
be assertive, of course it doesn’t mean that. And it
doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be that softer
kind of lovemaking as well. Of course it doesn’t
mean that. It means that as a general principle,
being more DOMINANT is key, key, KEY.
I really do believe that this has its roots in our
biological makeup and chemistry, and is not just
a cultural thing, because in fact our culture seems
to imply we should all be identical, and yet that
doesn’t create attraction at all. So that’s why
I think it’s really in men’s and women’s genes
to be this way, to only feel chemistry this way.
THREE:
YOU HAVE TO MEET A LOT OF WOMEN
If you’re not MEETING a lot of women, then
unless you have special connections it’s going to
be impossible to ever meet the RIGHT woman.
So whether you are meeting these women in
person by approaching them as strangers, or
you are meeting on the internet, or through
speed-dating, or whatever other method,
the key is to be meeting MANY women
and checking out their personalities.
Now this has nothing to do with being a
womanizer or with dating several women
at once. I’m not into either of those things,
as you know I’m all about how to find the
RIGHT woman and I actually believe
that if you are dating several women at
once, you will not be able to focus on
the woman properly, which will not only
suck for her, but will prevent you from
properly being able to sense who she
REALLY is and whether she is really
right for you or not.
However, if you want to meet the RIGHT
woman, that means a woman who is not
only attractive but who also shares and
cherishes the same VALUES as you do.
In order to meet a woman who shares the
same “blueprint” regarding your values
and perception of things, you will HAVE
to meet many women, it’s the only way,
anything else is playing the lottery game
which is just plain ridiculous.
Laziness is the ENEMY here.
You will have to WORK it, my man.
If you are deciding to meet women through
cold approaches to strangers, (which is the
method that I prefer, since you get to
see them in person right away and you
get to use all your body language in
person right in front of them) and you
will have to do it again and again.
If you decide to work the online personals,
then you will have to WORK it there as well.
Don’t expect that the first woman you message
will be the one. Don’t expect to get too far with
a half-assed profile, make your profile as damn
good as possible, and get the best photo of yourself
as possible.
But if you WORK it, over and over again,
for WEEKS at a time, you WILL get the
kind of results you are looking for.
Now, whether you are meeting in person,
online, or any other way, here’s another key:
FOUR:
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND BE
COMPLETELY CONSISTENT WITH IT
It’s really a turn off to a quality woman who
is looking for the real thing when she sees
MASSIVE INCONSISTENCIES in the
things you are saying, doing, or writing.
Inconsistencies come from trying to be
someone you are not.
And that comes from FEAR that you will
be rejected for who you ARE.
So I have news for you:
PLEASE ALLOW WOMEN TO REJECT
YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Embrace that because trust me, you WANT
to get RID of the women who do NOT want
who you really ARE!
Seriously, the best thing I ever did was when
I stopped trying to be “Mr. Cool” and instead
realized that I believed in my OWN values
enough to the point that if a woman or even if ALL
women didn’t share those values then I really had
no DESIRE to be with them in the first place,
I would rather be SINGLE.
It’s amazing the crazy things we will do out
of the fear of being alone, as if being alone
was the worst thing that could happen to
a person.
Being alone is like being in HEAVEN compared
to pretending to be someone you are NOT.
But that’s just the tip of the iceberg, because
guess what?
The kind of woman who really IS the right match
for you, the kind of woman who really DOES share
your values, will ONLY be attracted to you if she
can DETECT that you have those values, and she
will NEVER detect them if you are trying to be
someone else.
Now, seriously think about your values before you go
following them without analysis. Some people have
some very destructive values and cherish them
and they aren't even aware how their values
are harming themselves and others around them.
However, once you have seriously thought about
your values, you should be CONSISTENT with
them, and every few months REFLECT on
them to see if they are truly positive values.
Your VALUES are the most clear indication of
who you truly ARE on the deepest level. This
is where you as a man have the FREEDOM
to decide to do whatever you feel is truly
RIGHT instead of just following everyone
else without thinking. This takes COURAGE
and is what separates the MEN from the boys:
Start embracing and cherishing and defending your
values and LIVE them, breathe them, let them
exude from your every action and word, and, if
you are doing the online dating thing, then from
your every WRITTEN word.
For example, let's say you are looking for a
real long term relationship, then it would
be incongruent with your values if you were also
messaging the girls who were looking for one
night stands.
These kind of inconsistencies end up confusing
you on a subconscious level and make you behave
in ways that are incongruent and that end up
telling the RIGHT WOMAN that you are
WRONG for her!
What kind of man will you be if you aren’t
confident enough in your own values to
BELIEVE they are worth it, that they are
worth the sacrifice of losing some of the
women out there- if you are not ready to
say NO to some women out there, then
you will never really be qualified to say
YES to ANY of them.
FIVE:
LISTENING TO QUALIFY HER
If you are serious about meeting the right woman,
then when you do meet a woman anywhere, I
urge you to get her TALKING about herself
and what’s important to her, and I urge you
to start listening better than ever before.
This is not to “show” you are a nice guy-
it’s to ACTUALLY FIND OUT if she
is right for you!
Now, the thing is, if you DO detect from the
things that she is saying that she DOES have
the right things you are looking for, well then
now you have something extremely POWERFUL
for attracting her, which is that you can
GENUINELY QUALIFY HER.
It’s interesting, because in sales, the best salesmen
on the planet are not the sleazy stereotypes of
a salesman. Nope, rather they are consultative
sales people. They are trying to find out if
what they have is what you are looking for,
and if not they will help lead you in the
right direction so you can find it somewhere
else, because at least then they have STILL
provided VALUE and will be remembered
which helps increase the possibility the
customer will come BACK.
Well, it’s not THAT different when it comes
to being great with women. You should
genuinely be listening to see what it is
she is really about, what she is really looking
for even if she is not conscious of it- and
then if you know you are the MATCH
for her, you now have all the reasons
that she has given you - either she has directly
given them to you through what she has said
or she has indirectly told you, and now you
can qualify her for being the right MATCH
for all the reasons she has actually given to you.
A woman wants to be chosen, not settled for.
and she wants to be with the RIGHT guy,
and she wants to know she is the woman
for that guy.
SIX:
ENTER THE MINDSET OF THE WINNER
If you are looking to attract a great woman who is
the total deal – inside and out, well chances
are she knows she’s got VALUE, and yet she’s
also not ARROGANT.
Like attracts like, and similar mindsets attract as well.
It’s incredibly, massively RARE to meet people who
have VALUE and who aren’t spoiled.
Those people who have value and who still keep
themselves GROUNDED and not arrogant are
like the PLATINUM of PERSONALITIES.
So, for example, if you exude confidence and
masculinity and yet you don’t reek of player
infidelity and lack of integrity, a great woman
will pick up on this FAST.
So, in order to accelerate the process of becoming
this kind of man, start asking yourself:
“Is this thing that I am doing or saying or writing
flow from CONFIDENCE, or from ARROGANCE?”
“Does this action I am about to do come from
LOVE or from NEEDINESS?”
Become STRICT with yourself to annihilate
NEEDINESS and ARROGANCE from your soul, and
replace them with the kind of quiet confidence
that is like a wolverine- quiet, not seeking
attention, yet devastatingly powerful and
resolved to win in all situations.
And if you are reading this right now and
are resolved to getting a GREAT woman, then
I seriously suggest you get your hands
on my program called Warrior Within.
This program works through transforming yourself
on the most authentic level, from the INSIDE out,
and not from the "outside in". It's not about
pick up lines or any other artificial 'act'.
It's about truly BECOMING the kind of man
women crave for on the deepest level.
It’s at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my program
'Attraction Accelerators', then do that now,
it's a great way to get started taking action
with women immediately.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
that is all GOLD. Ready, set, GO:
NUMBER ONE:
MASCULINITY
This is such a huge factor in your success
with women that I started speaking about
even in even in my very first book years ago.
In order for her to feel like a WOMAN,
you must behave like a MAN.
This has absolutely NOTHING to do
with acting arrogant, or with thinking
that women are less intelligent, less
capable, or with thinking that women
should all be barefoot and pregnant
in the kitchen all the time.
In fact, that kind of thinking comes from
ignorance and insecurity, which are the very
opposite things from being the essence
of a man.
What I mean by masculinity is a certain
type of ruggedness in essence.
Grooming and hygiene is EXTREMELY
important, obviously, but spending hours
in front of the mirror, primping, is NOT
rugged.
When a man behaves too feminine, it makes
him seem more FEMININE THAN THE WOMAN,
and this robs a woman of her feelings of femininity.
That means in bed she will not feel PASSIONATE
as a woman.
Being a MAN is a good thing, regardless of
what some feminists say.
This brings us to the next point, on dominance:
TWO:
DOMINANCE
Dominance is definitely one of the most important
concepts for attraction, but it is misunderstood, and
then gets perverted and distorted, and turned into a
mockery by most people.
The reality is that most women although they
expect to be treated with equality in general,
they want to feel WOMANLY around you,
and especially so in bed, and they want you to
be the MAN.
However, in order for a woman to SUBMIT to
a man’s dominance, she must be able to TRUST him
and ALSO feel he is genuinely worthy and masculine.
This means that you must not only exude
CONFIDENCE in general so that she feels
you are THE MAN, but you must also earn
her COMPLETE TRUST, so that she feels
SAFE in and womanly in submitting to you.
And what I mean by trust is not just the trust that
you will not cause her any actual HARM, what
I mean is that she trusts you on a deep level that
you will still totally respect her and in fact
CHERISH her for all this.
She must know that you do NOT think that women
are ANY less than men, that you do not think she is
less than you in any way, not less intelligent, or less capable,
or less worthy.
This is NOT about being a Neanderthal.
It’s about knowing that a woman is a human
being with all the same rights as a man, but
ALSO knowing that she is WOMAN sexually
and that she naturally wants to FEEL that role,
and she cannot feel that role if you do NOT
act dominant and assertive in bed.
Old fashioned society knew the importance of
PRESERVING the polarity between masculinity
and femininity. They knew how each one brings
out the full intensity of the other.
Unfortunately, old society also had some screwed
up concepts of women. Modern society has
progressed in some ways, which is good, but
it has also LOST the concept of how important
it is to protect femininity and masculinity and
to cherish and preserve those identities, and losing
that is a great loss as well.
You want to be the BEST of both worlds-
respecting a good woman who has earned
your respect, and ALSO making her feel
like a WOMAN by you being THE MAN.
It’s when you COMBINE this best of both
worlds that you spark the MAGIC in her
known as INSANE ATTRACTION TO YOU!
Show your masculinity through your demeanor,
your tonality, your decisiveness, your conviction
in yourself, and show your respect through being
sensitive to her as a fellow human being as well,
and when it comes to being under the sheets,
be way more assertive than you have been, and
you’ll be surprised to find out that 99% of women
LOVE it when you take control.
This doesn’t mean that she can never take control or
be assertive, of course it doesn’t mean that. And it
doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be that softer
kind of lovemaking as well. Of course it doesn’t
mean that. It means that as a general principle,
being more DOMINANT is key, key, KEY.
I really do believe that this has its roots in our
biological makeup and chemistry, and is not just
a cultural thing, because in fact our culture seems
to imply we should all be identical, and yet that
doesn’t create attraction at all. So that’s why
I think it’s really in men’s and women’s genes
to be this way, to only feel chemistry this way.
THREE:
YOU HAVE TO MEET A LOT OF WOMEN
If you’re not MEETING a lot of women, then
unless you have special connections it’s going to
be impossible to ever meet the RIGHT woman.
So whether you are meeting these women in
person by approaching them as strangers, or
you are meeting on the internet, or through
speed-dating, or whatever other method,
the key is to be meeting MANY women
and checking out their personalities.
Now this has nothing to do with being a
womanizer or with dating several women
at once. I’m not into either of those things,
as you know I’m all about how to find the
RIGHT woman and I actually believe
that if you are dating several women at
once, you will not be able to focus on
the woman properly, which will not only
suck for her, but will prevent you from
properly being able to sense who she
REALLY is and whether she is really
right for you or not.
However, if you want to meet the RIGHT
woman, that means a woman who is not
only attractive but who also shares and
cherishes the same VALUES as you do.
In order to meet a woman who shares the
same “blueprint” regarding your values
and perception of things, you will HAVE
to meet many women, it’s the only way,
anything else is playing the lottery game
which is just plain ridiculous.
Laziness is the ENEMY here.
You will have to WORK it, my man.
If you are deciding to meet women through
cold approaches to strangers, (which is the
method that I prefer, since you get to
see them in person right away and you
get to use all your body language in
person right in front of them) and you
will have to do it again and again.
If you decide to work the online personals,
then you will have to WORK it there as well.
Don’t expect that the first woman you message
will be the one. Don’t expect to get too far with
a half-assed profile, make your profile as damn
good as possible, and get the best photo of yourself
as possible.
But if you WORK it, over and over again,
for WEEKS at a time, you WILL get the
kind of results you are looking for.
Now, whether you are meeting in person,
online, or any other way, here’s another key:
FOUR:
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND BE
COMPLETELY CONSISTENT WITH IT
It’s really a turn off to a quality woman who
is looking for the real thing when she sees
MASSIVE INCONSISTENCIES in the
things you are saying, doing, or writing.
Inconsistencies come from trying to be
someone you are not.
And that comes from FEAR that you will
be rejected for who you ARE.
So I have news for you:
PLEASE ALLOW WOMEN TO REJECT
YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Embrace that because trust me, you WANT
to get RID of the women who do NOT want
who you really ARE!
Seriously, the best thing I ever did was when
I stopped trying to be “Mr. Cool” and instead
realized that I believed in my OWN values
enough to the point that if a woman or even if ALL
women didn’t share those values then I really had
no DESIRE to be with them in the first place,
I would rather be SINGLE.
It’s amazing the crazy things we will do out
of the fear of being alone, as if being alone
was the worst thing that could happen to
a person.
Being alone is like being in HEAVEN compared
to pretending to be someone you are NOT.
But that’s just the tip of the iceberg, because
guess what?
The kind of woman who really IS the right match
for you, the kind of woman who really DOES share
your values, will ONLY be attracted to you if she
can DETECT that you have those values, and she
will NEVER detect them if you are trying to be
someone else.
Now, seriously think about your values before you go
following them without analysis. Some people have
some very destructive values and cherish them
and they aren't even aware how their values
are harming themselves and others around them.
However, once you have seriously thought about
your values, you should be CONSISTENT with
them, and every few months REFLECT on
them to see if they are truly positive values.
Your VALUES are the most clear indication of
who you truly ARE on the deepest level. This
is where you as a man have the FREEDOM
to decide to do whatever you feel is truly
RIGHT instead of just following everyone
else without thinking. This takes COURAGE
and is what separates the MEN from the boys:
Start embracing and cherishing and defending your
values and LIVE them, breathe them, let them
exude from your every action and word, and, if
you are doing the online dating thing, then from
your every WRITTEN word.
For example, let's say you are looking for a
real long term relationship, then it would
be incongruent with your values if you were also
messaging the girls who were looking for one
night stands.
These kind of inconsistencies end up confusing
you on a subconscious level and make you behave
in ways that are incongruent and that end up
telling the RIGHT WOMAN that you are
WRONG for her!
What kind of man will you be if you aren’t
confident enough in your own values to
BELIEVE they are worth it, that they are
worth the sacrifice of losing some of the
women out there- if you are not ready to
say NO to some women out there, then
you will never really be qualified to say
YES to ANY of them.
FIVE:
LISTENING TO QUALIFY HER
If you are serious about meeting the right woman,
then when you do meet a woman anywhere, I
urge you to get her TALKING about herself
and what’s important to her, and I urge you
to start listening better than ever before.
This is not to “show” you are a nice guy-
it’s to ACTUALLY FIND OUT if she
is right for you!
Now, the thing is, if you DO detect from the
things that she is saying that she DOES have
the right things you are looking for, well then
now you have something extremely POWERFUL
for attracting her, which is that you can
GENUINELY QUALIFY HER.
It’s interesting, because in sales, the best salesmen
on the planet are not the sleazy stereotypes of
a salesman. Nope, rather they are consultative
sales people. They are trying to find out if
what they have is what you are looking for,
and if not they will help lead you in the
right direction so you can find it somewhere
else, because at least then they have STILL
provided VALUE and will be remembered
which helps increase the possibility the
customer will come BACK.
Well, it’s not THAT different when it comes
to being great with women. You should
genuinely be listening to see what it is
she is really about, what she is really looking
for even if she is not conscious of it- and
then if you know you are the MATCH
for her, you now have all the reasons
that she has given you - either she has directly
given them to you through what she has said
or she has indirectly told you, and now you
can qualify her for being the right MATCH
for all the reasons she has actually given to you.
A woman wants to be chosen, not settled for.
and she wants to be with the RIGHT guy,
and she wants to know she is the woman
for that guy.
SIX:
ENTER THE MINDSET OF THE WINNER
If you are looking to attract a great woman who is
the total deal – inside and out, well chances
are she knows she’s got VALUE, and yet she’s
also not ARROGANT.
Like attracts like, and similar mindsets attract as well.
It’s incredibly, massively RARE to meet people who
have VALUE and who aren’t spoiled.
Those people who have value and who still keep
themselves GROUNDED and not arrogant are
like the PLATINUM of PERSONALITIES.
So, for example, if you exude confidence and
masculinity and yet you don’t reek of player
infidelity and lack of integrity, a great woman
will pick up on this FAST.
So, in order to accelerate the process of becoming
this kind of man, start asking yourself:
“Is this thing that I am doing or saying or writing
flow from CONFIDENCE, or from ARROGANCE?”
“Does this action I am about to do come from
LOVE or from NEEDINESS?”
Become STRICT with yourself to annihilate
NEEDINESS and ARROGANCE from your soul, and
replace them with the kind of quiet confidence
that is like a wolverine- quiet, not seeking
attention, yet devastatingly powerful and
resolved to win in all situations.
And if you are reading this right now and
are resolved to getting a GREAT woman, then
I seriously suggest you get your hands
on my program called Warrior Within.
This program works through transforming yourself
on the most authentic level, from the INSIDE out,
and not from the "outside in". It's not about
pick up lines or any other artificial 'act'.
It's about truly BECOMING the kind of man
women crave for on the deepest level.
It’s at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my program
'Attraction Accelerators', then do that now,
it's a great way to get started taking action
with women immediately.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Friday, October 12, 2012
To Attract A Woman, Create MEANING In Her Life
Today's newsletter goes DEEP, this is not
KOOL-AID drink here, this is ADVANCED
FUEL FOR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.
One of the coolest things to me is the fact
that a man CAN attract virtually any woman
by the power of his PERSONALITY.
This personality is really a combination of
PSYCHOLOGICAL SKILLS at a supremely
high level, and these skills have nothing to
do with controlling HER, they have to do
with accessing parts of your mind you
mat not even realize you HAVE.
Three fundamental components of
these skills involve:
1. Creating MEANING in her life.
2. Creating HUMOR through emotional
RISK, VULNERABILITY, and TRUTH.
3. Social INTELLIGENCE.
NUMBER 1:
CREATE MEANING IN HER LIFE
Help give a woman MEANING in her life,
and she will be yours forever. Especially
if this meaning is linked to improving her
self-esteem on a very deep level.
Of course, step one in this is practicing
what you preach.
We are currently living in a time where there
is almost ZERO pressure on anyone to have
ANY values whatsoever.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that more
people are depressed and find their lives
meaningless, ESPECIALLY attractive
women, than ever before, during a time
when there is very very VERY little
moral code being enforced socially.
So, because there is no moral code to live BY,
there is very little for people to life FOR.
Let me be specific:
In previous generations, there was a value
on various different things, for example,
things like FAMILY, things like LOYALTY,
things like FIDELITY, things like EXPERIENCE,
things like INTELLIGENCE.
These were actually promoted.
Today, however the OBSESSION is with YOUTH.
Companies/marketers know that if they can get the
KIDS, they can have them for LIFE, and milk them
financially for LIFE.
I remember being a teenager myself and how
just about any movie with hotties and/or
violence was totally captivating.
This is because as teens, we are totally
experiencing a massive INFLUX of hormonal
chemicals, and feeling it for the FIRST TIME
as well, which means that our emotions at that
time can be TRIGGERED at full BLAST very
easily by things that appeal to RAGE and LUST.
It takes EXPERIENCE and time to gain perspective
and balance and to NOT be so easily manipulated
by EMOTIONS, especially emotions linked to violence
and to the most basic sexual things.
So for example, the vast majority of the movies
that come out are focused on youth, to get the
youth audience, they are also focused on
violence and sex in the most non-creative,
non-artistic, and primitive ways, because
to a bunch of teenagers whose hormones
just kicked in, this appeals to them, it’s
all a new thing to them.
And I'm not "judging" teens here, as I know what
this is like from personal experience.
But while in the past this was just one part
of what was available in our culture, now it’s
virtually EVERYTHING.
In the 1950’s, Superman was played by
an actor in his 40’s. Today, Superman
is played by an actor in his 20s.
In the 1950’s, sure, a woman’s beauty was
attractive, but today it’s her YOUTH that is
the main thing. In fact, I would say that if
you took a sample of the women who were
in billboards, movies, tv shows in the 50’s
and 60’s, and 70’s, they were on average
MORE beautiful than the women being
celebrated today, but they weren’t as
young in general.
In even the recent past, Cindy Crawford and Madonna
were hitting their prime only PAST the age of 25, while
today it’s gone nuts with child celebrities being EVERYWHERE.
And the obsession with the sexual,
as soon as most female celebrities
get any fame whatsoever, it’s BOOM
straight to the maximum graphic
display immediately.
It’s not just movies, it’s almost everything that is
being advertised- and that totals BILLIONS of
dollars a year, billions worth of MESSAGES
being bombarded everywhere telling us it’s
only about youth.
So of course women are uptight and nervous,
especially the ones who think they have a chance,
i.e. the attractive ones, because other ones have
to let go of this illusion fantasy and are probably
happier for it, learning the lesson early that
self-esteem is not about being under 20 years old.
This obsession with youth stems from
marketing efforts by companies, and on a
smaller level, there is nothing that is
considered TABOO now- so there are
companies that sell dating sites on cheating
on your spouse with other cheating people,
companies will do whatever they need to
do to SELL, period, regardless of the
moral questions involved, in fact they
will turn things around and try to make
it seem like a morally good thing.
It’s not a coincidence that more women than
ever are on PROZAC. It’s not a coincidence
that relationships are disintegrating while the
obsession with material and youth is on the
rise. People are chasing after what they
hope will bring them MEANING, but
they ain’t getting it no matter how high
they climb.
If you want to attract a woman on the deepest level,
then you need to have a STRONGER SENSE OF
MEANING than most people have. And this means
a stronger sense of VALUES than most of our
society has.
This requires taking a RISK, it means that
you have to NOT be afraid of going
AGAINST social convention in this
respect and in fact you should be
PROUD of it.
This is part of what I mean by the difference
between a GREAT MAN and a “nice guy”:
“Nice guy” seems to have a weak connotation
to it, while a great man does everything in
his life out of genuine CONVICTION, he doesn’t
do things out of PRESSURE to “fit in”.
Next time, you’re chatting to a woman,
see if you can make a comment or lend
a perspective that ILLUSTRATES that
in fact you HAVE MEANING in your
life and that it shows through the things
you say.
If you’re in a bookstore and a woman
is reading VOGUE in the magazine
section or whatever, maybe TELL
her, with a sense of HUMOR, “I hope
you don’t take those articles seriously.
They’re just trying to make women
insecure, in fact there’s a big conspiracy
where the men’s and women’s magazines
just share the same articles but change
the titles so they can sell them to each
audience!”
And when you say this, COMMIT to it
with your voice tonality, don’t say it
with a namby-pamby attitude.
Make it REAL.
This is TRUTH mixed with HUMOR
mixed with a sense of VALUES,
particularly the value of SELF-ESTEEM!
NUMBER 2:
HUMOR IS RISK, VULNERABILITY, TRUTH
The reality is that humor makes a woman
FEEL good, and women are often MORE
affected by FEELINGS when it comes to
most things than men are. Men DO
get emotional about CERTAIN things,
but not as MANY things as women
do, in general. So humor is VERY
POWERFUL with women.
The irony of making humor work is that
you have to say the very things that most
people would NOT say, and the things
you say have to have TRUTH behind
them, AND the things have to be said
in a way that is not mean-spirited.
Most guys don’t want to take the
emotional RISK that there won’t
be a laugh, they’re too afraid of
their own ego.
But as Robin Williams says, this is
COMEDY, this isn’t about you having
to jump off a building, it’s about TALKING,
the worst thing is that they don’t LAUGH,
so what??????
You can actually learn to get an
adrenaline RUSH from this risk,
and get ADDICTED to it in a
good way, which will make you
VERY FUNNY VERY FAST.
And again, there has to be truth to it.
Like when Robin Williams talks about
how UNREALISTIC beer commercials
are and how people “get sucked into
drinking beer by believing it’s a healthy
thing! All these beer commercials
usually show BIG MEN, MANLY MEN,
doing manly things! ‘You’ve just killed
a small animal, it’s time for light beer!
Why not have a REALISTIC beer commercial
show a REALISTIC thing about beer? –
It’s 5 o’clock in the morning, you’ve just
pissed on a dumpster- IT’S MILLER TIME!’
Or when Dave Chappelle makes the comment,
“Chivalry is dead. And women killed it!”
This is FUNNY, because it takes guts
to say, and it is TRUE in many ways
because FEMINISM tried to make
women and men the SAME, thereby
destroying things like chivalry.
So you have to take the comedy RISK,
and you also have to be VULNERABLE,
you can’t be afraid to BRING OUT WHO
YOU REALLY ARE.
Yes, the irony is that being courageous enough
to bring out the perspectives that you see, that
other people won’t say, INCLUDING THE
THINGS THAT MAKE YOU VULNERABLE,
are actually very often the things that everyone
has on their mind but are just afraid to say,
and so now you have her RESPECT as well,
and she sees all this as STRENGTH.
So you are revealing your identity, you are
being strong, you are being vulnerable, you
are being honest, and you are being FUNNY
all at once. No wonder humor is such a
powerful drug when used right.
NUMBER 3:
SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
This is a HUGELY important concept you
want to put into action when socializing
or interacting with any woman.
The other day I happened to see something
on television. Talk show host Jimmy Fallon
had a certain guest on, she was talking about
one of her many luxurious homes, and how
she was enjoying FISHING from the very
backyard of one of her homes, how it connects
right to a POND, etc, etc.
Now, I know everyone knows these people
are wealthy, but really, do people WANT to
know about all of her homes? Do people
want to hear HER talking about her luxury
life? The answer is NO, it’s not cool to talk
about this and no one is interested really in this-
and Jimmy Fallon KNOWS that this is
not making the audience feel better, so
what does he do?
He says how he just went ICE FISHING
and froze his butt off, and how he didn’t
even make the hole himself and how
he and his friend just froze out in the
cold trying to catch a fish but ended
up getting NOTHING.
Ahhh, now the audience LAUGHS and
feels GREAT. It’s winter now and they
are all freezing their butt off too.
And do they think that Jimmy Fallon is a
loser for this?
If anything, they like him even more from
all this, and it’s obvious from the audience
response.
When chatting up a woman, don’t kiss up
to her, but definitely think about HER emotions,
and realize that showing off is basically
NEVER the right thing to do, and I’m not
just talking morally, it’s actually NOT cool.
It makes you seem needy and insecure.
By the way, I’m sure the guest didn’t
intend anything negative at all, and that in reality
she IS a cool person who was just nervous at
the moment. Just like a lot of guys who are
decent guys UNINTENTIONALLY sabotage
their results with women. And I used to be
the KING of these mistakes, thinking to
myself “I really want to impress this woman,
so I’ll tell her the most impressive things
about myself possible”. I cringe to think
about the mistakes I made even if they
were years ago.
And if you’re reading this right now, and
want to learn the RIGHT way to interact
with women, and especially the right way
to get a GREAT quality woman for a
fantastic relationship, then I suggest you
get my intensive video program, called
Warrior Within.
This program is ALL about how to transform
yourself on a DEEP level, and how to attract
and keep the kind of quality women that truly
ADD joy to your life.
This is also a program that is VERY important
if you are looking for a woman that will truly
be FAITHFUL to you and bring out the BEST
in you as well.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Also, I wanted to let you know that this is
probably your last chance to sign up for my
Real World Bootcamp for the rest of this year.
Spaces have mostly run out, but there are a few
slots still available.
You can check out the available Bootcamp dates at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
You can also check out ALL my other special programs
for skyrocketing your success with women by going HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Every single one of these programs is crammed with
NEW and PROVEN strategies for ensuring your success
with women. Each of these programs is DIFFERENT
from each other and will provide you with further
empowerment when it comes to attracting women.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
KOOL-AID drink here, this is ADVANCED
FUEL FOR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.
One of the coolest things to me is the fact
that a man CAN attract virtually any woman
by the power of his PERSONALITY.
This personality is really a combination of
PSYCHOLOGICAL SKILLS at a supremely
high level, and these skills have nothing to
do with controlling HER, they have to do
with accessing parts of your mind you
mat not even realize you HAVE.
Three fundamental components of
these skills involve:
1. Creating MEANING in her life.
2. Creating HUMOR through emotional
RISK, VULNERABILITY, and TRUTH.
3. Social INTELLIGENCE.
NUMBER 1:
CREATE MEANING IN HER LIFE
Help give a woman MEANING in her life,
and she will be yours forever. Especially
if this meaning is linked to improving her
self-esteem on a very deep level.
Of course, step one in this is practicing
what you preach.
We are currently living in a time where there
is almost ZERO pressure on anyone to have
ANY values whatsoever.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that more
people are depressed and find their lives
meaningless, ESPECIALLY attractive
women, than ever before, during a time
when there is very very VERY little
moral code being enforced socially.
So, because there is no moral code to live BY,
there is very little for people to life FOR.
Let me be specific:
In previous generations, there was a value
on various different things, for example,
things like FAMILY, things like LOYALTY,
things like FIDELITY, things like EXPERIENCE,
things like INTELLIGENCE.
These were actually promoted.
Today, however the OBSESSION is with YOUTH.
Companies/marketers know that if they can get the
KIDS, they can have them for LIFE, and milk them
financially for LIFE.
I remember being a teenager myself and how
just about any movie with hotties and/or
violence was totally captivating.
This is because as teens, we are totally
experiencing a massive INFLUX of hormonal
chemicals, and feeling it for the FIRST TIME
as well, which means that our emotions at that
time can be TRIGGERED at full BLAST very
easily by things that appeal to RAGE and LUST.
It takes EXPERIENCE and time to gain perspective
and balance and to NOT be so easily manipulated
by EMOTIONS, especially emotions linked to violence
and to the most basic sexual things.
So for example, the vast majority of the movies
that come out are focused on youth, to get the
youth audience, they are also focused on
violence and sex in the most non-creative,
non-artistic, and primitive ways, because
to a bunch of teenagers whose hormones
just kicked in, this appeals to them, it’s
all a new thing to them.
And I'm not "judging" teens here, as I know what
this is like from personal experience.
But while in the past this was just one part
of what was available in our culture, now it’s
virtually EVERYTHING.
In the 1950’s, Superman was played by
an actor in his 40’s. Today, Superman
is played by an actor in his 20s.
In the 1950’s, sure, a woman’s beauty was
attractive, but today it’s her YOUTH that is
the main thing. In fact, I would say that if
you took a sample of the women who were
in billboards, movies, tv shows in the 50’s
and 60’s, and 70’s, they were on average
MORE beautiful than the women being
celebrated today, but they weren’t as
young in general.
In even the recent past, Cindy Crawford and Madonna
were hitting their prime only PAST the age of 25, while
today it’s gone nuts with child celebrities being EVERYWHERE.
And the obsession with the sexual,
as soon as most female celebrities
get any fame whatsoever, it’s BOOM
straight to the maximum graphic
display immediately.
It’s not just movies, it’s almost everything that is
being advertised- and that totals BILLIONS of
dollars a year, billions worth of MESSAGES
being bombarded everywhere telling us it’s
only about youth.
So of course women are uptight and nervous,
especially the ones who think they have a chance,
i.e. the attractive ones, because other ones have
to let go of this illusion fantasy and are probably
happier for it, learning the lesson early that
self-esteem is not about being under 20 years old.
This obsession with youth stems from
marketing efforts by companies, and on a
smaller level, there is nothing that is
considered TABOO now- so there are
companies that sell dating sites on cheating
on your spouse with other cheating people,
companies will do whatever they need to
do to SELL, period, regardless of the
moral questions involved, in fact they
will turn things around and try to make
it seem like a morally good thing.
It’s not a coincidence that more women than
ever are on PROZAC. It’s not a coincidence
that relationships are disintegrating while the
obsession with material and youth is on the
rise. People are chasing after what they
hope will bring them MEANING, but
they ain’t getting it no matter how high
they climb.
If you want to attract a woman on the deepest level,
then you need to have a STRONGER SENSE OF
MEANING than most people have. And this means
a stronger sense of VALUES than most of our
society has.
This requires taking a RISK, it means that
you have to NOT be afraid of going
AGAINST social convention in this
respect and in fact you should be
PROUD of it.
This is part of what I mean by the difference
between a GREAT MAN and a “nice guy”:
“Nice guy” seems to have a weak connotation
to it, while a great man does everything in
his life out of genuine CONVICTION, he doesn’t
do things out of PRESSURE to “fit in”.
Next time, you’re chatting to a woman,
see if you can make a comment or lend
a perspective that ILLUSTRATES that
in fact you HAVE MEANING in your
life and that it shows through the things
you say.
If you’re in a bookstore and a woman
is reading VOGUE in the magazine
section or whatever, maybe TELL
her, with a sense of HUMOR, “I hope
you don’t take those articles seriously.
They’re just trying to make women
insecure, in fact there’s a big conspiracy
where the men’s and women’s magazines
just share the same articles but change
the titles so they can sell them to each
audience!”
And when you say this, COMMIT to it
with your voice tonality, don’t say it
with a namby-pamby attitude.
Make it REAL.
This is TRUTH mixed with HUMOR
mixed with a sense of VALUES,
particularly the value of SELF-ESTEEM!
NUMBER 2:
HUMOR IS RISK, VULNERABILITY, TRUTH
The reality is that humor makes a woman
FEEL good, and women are often MORE
affected by FEELINGS when it comes to
most things than men are. Men DO
get emotional about CERTAIN things,
but not as MANY things as women
do, in general. So humor is VERY
POWERFUL with women.
The irony of making humor work is that
you have to say the very things that most
people would NOT say, and the things
you say have to have TRUTH behind
them, AND the things have to be said
in a way that is not mean-spirited.
Most guys don’t want to take the
emotional RISK that there won’t
be a laugh, they’re too afraid of
their own ego.
But as Robin Williams says, this is
COMEDY, this isn’t about you having
to jump off a building, it’s about TALKING,
the worst thing is that they don’t LAUGH,
so what??????
You can actually learn to get an
adrenaline RUSH from this risk,
and get ADDICTED to it in a
good way, which will make you
VERY FUNNY VERY FAST.
And again, there has to be truth to it.
Like when Robin Williams talks about
how UNREALISTIC beer commercials
are and how people “get sucked into
drinking beer by believing it’s a healthy
thing! All these beer commercials
usually show BIG MEN, MANLY MEN,
doing manly things! ‘You’ve just killed
a small animal, it’s time for light beer!
Why not have a REALISTIC beer commercial
show a REALISTIC thing about beer? –
It’s 5 o’clock in the morning, you’ve just
pissed on a dumpster- IT’S MILLER TIME!’
Or when Dave Chappelle makes the comment,
“Chivalry is dead. And women killed it!”
This is FUNNY, because it takes guts
to say, and it is TRUE in many ways
because FEMINISM tried to make
women and men the SAME, thereby
destroying things like chivalry.
So you have to take the comedy RISK,
and you also have to be VULNERABLE,
you can’t be afraid to BRING OUT WHO
YOU REALLY ARE.
Yes, the irony is that being courageous enough
to bring out the perspectives that you see, that
other people won’t say, INCLUDING THE
THINGS THAT MAKE YOU VULNERABLE,
are actually very often the things that everyone
has on their mind but are just afraid to say,
and so now you have her RESPECT as well,
and she sees all this as STRENGTH.
So you are revealing your identity, you are
being strong, you are being vulnerable, you
are being honest, and you are being FUNNY
all at once. No wonder humor is such a
powerful drug when used right.
NUMBER 3:
SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
This is a HUGELY important concept you
want to put into action when socializing
or interacting with any woman.
The other day I happened to see something
on television. Talk show host Jimmy Fallon
had a certain guest on, she was talking about
one of her many luxurious homes, and how
she was enjoying FISHING from the very
backyard of one of her homes, how it connects
right to a POND, etc, etc.
Now, I know everyone knows these people
are wealthy, but really, do people WANT to
know about all of her homes? Do people
want to hear HER talking about her luxury
life? The answer is NO, it’s not cool to talk
about this and no one is interested really in this-
and Jimmy Fallon KNOWS that this is
not making the audience feel better, so
what does he do?
He says how he just went ICE FISHING
and froze his butt off, and how he didn’t
even make the hole himself and how
he and his friend just froze out in the
cold trying to catch a fish but ended
up getting NOTHING.
Ahhh, now the audience LAUGHS and
feels GREAT. It’s winter now and they
are all freezing their butt off too.
And do they think that Jimmy Fallon is a
loser for this?
If anything, they like him even more from
all this, and it’s obvious from the audience
response.
When chatting up a woman, don’t kiss up
to her, but definitely think about HER emotions,
and realize that showing off is basically
NEVER the right thing to do, and I’m not
just talking morally, it’s actually NOT cool.
It makes you seem needy and insecure.
By the way, I’m sure the guest didn’t
intend anything negative at all, and that in reality
she IS a cool person who was just nervous at
the moment. Just like a lot of guys who are
decent guys UNINTENTIONALLY sabotage
their results with women. And I used to be
the KING of these mistakes, thinking to
myself “I really want to impress this woman,
so I’ll tell her the most impressive things
about myself possible”. I cringe to think
about the mistakes I made even if they
were years ago.
And if you’re reading this right now, and
want to learn the RIGHT way to interact
with women, and especially the right way
to get a GREAT quality woman for a
fantastic relationship, then I suggest you
get my intensive video program, called
Warrior Within.
This program is ALL about how to transform
yourself on a DEEP level, and how to attract
and keep the kind of quality women that truly
ADD joy to your life.
This is also a program that is VERY important
if you are looking for a woman that will truly
be FAITHFUL to you and bring out the BEST
in you as well.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Also, I wanted to let you know that this is
probably your last chance to sign up for my
Real World Bootcamp for the rest of this year.
Spaces have mostly run out, but there are a few
slots still available.
You can check out the available Bootcamp dates at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
You can also check out ALL my other special programs
for skyrocketing your success with women by going HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Every single one of these programs is crammed with
NEW and PROVEN strategies for ensuring your success
with women. Each of these programs is DIFFERENT
from each other and will provide you with further
empowerment when it comes to attracting women.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Creating Attraction From SCRATCH
What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good";
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like, “Oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a, “You’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN.
GUTS.
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILEY,
TOOTHY, KISSING UP, IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
weak in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this interaction till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say, “Hi, I’m Joe" (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a "YES ladder"
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine, yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING on igniting a
woman's raw animal attraction for
you, I seriously suggest you get my
"Attraction Mastery Program"at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program contains 12 HOURS of
cream-of-the-crop advanced insights
into what ANY MAN can do to ignite
a woman's raw physical attraction
for him.
And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is the very FIRST
thing every man needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good";
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like, “Oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a, “You’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN.
GUTS.
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILEY,
TOOTHY, KISSING UP, IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
weak in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this interaction till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say, “Hi, I’m Joe" (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a "YES ladder"
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine, yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING on igniting a
woman's raw animal attraction for
you, I seriously suggest you get my
"Attraction Mastery Program"at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program contains 12 HOURS of
cream-of-the-crop advanced insights
into what ANY MAN can do to ignite
a woman's raw physical attraction
for him.
And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is the very FIRST
thing every man needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Monday, October 8, 2012
Deep Insights Into Finding, Approaching, Attracting, And Keeping A Quality Woman
Alright, so there are a few important things
I need to tell you about getting quality women.
I’ve been really busy lately so this has
been on my mind and it’s cool to finally
be able to tell you.
The first thing is that, as you know,
"Get A Great Girl" is really about that,
how to get a GREAT woman, a woman
who is that total package of being
faithful, beautiful, fun to be around,
health conscious, and woman who
helps you be your best, even if it
means challenging you sometimes
so that you can BE your best because
she BELIEVES in you.
So one question a lot of guys want to
know is where to even MEET such
a woman. Well, here’s one example,
and that is at a Yoga class. That doesn’t
mean that every woman at the Yoga
class is going to be that woman, but
there’s a lot higher chance of meeting
a woman that has an open mind, that
has a great personality, that is into
improving herself not only physically
but also appreciates the importance
of being in the right state of mind,
and a woman who is not only about
the material things in life, at a yoga
class than at a really smoky deafeningly
loud club.
At the same time, in my Warrior Within
program, you will learn how to QUICKLY
detect a woman’s personality through her
behaviors. And when I say quickly, I mean
usually in just SECONDS, not days or weeks.
So you can easily be hopping on the bus,
sit next to a woman, strike up a chat with
her and find out VERY quickly if she has
the characteristics you are looking for.
By the way, ONE of the keys to determining
a woman’s personality very quickly is through
realizing that people give away their picture
of the world and of their perception of what
is right and what is wrong ALL THE TIME.
They do this because this is how they genuinely
feel. So a woman who enjoys manipulating
other people is often PROUD OF IT.
As long as you are careful not to make her
feel judged, she will reveal EVERYTHING
about herself to you.
So that’s another key: When meeting a
new woman, do NOT give away YOUR
values right away, this way she can feel
free to convey HER values.
This leads me to my next point:
I got into this whole field to help the good guys.
I saw how so many JERKS were successful
with women, and it took me many years
to realize that it’s not that women are truly
attracted to jerky behavior, it’s that they
are attracted to confidence, to sexuality,
to men who don’t get brainwashed by
stupid social conventions that say
only “bad” people are sexual and only
“bad” people are flirty and only “bad”
people don’t follow all the stupid rules
of society such as being boring to make
sure you don’t offend anyone.
In FACT, the whole reason so many good
guys act boring when they chat up women
is BECAUSE they have been taught that
being GOOD means FITTING IN, and
the only way to ENSURE you fit IN
is by making sure to NOT SHAKE
THE BOAT, to NOT stand out, to
NOT offend anyone even by accident.
And so, this PLAYING IT SAFE
style of behavior ends up making
sure that most men do NOTHING.
The SAFEST way to NOT OFFEND
is to do NOTHING. That way, you
for sure won’t offend anyone.
Meanwhile, the truth is that inside of
every good guy is an INFINITE fire
of creativity, of spark, of sexuality,
of so much awesome stuff that women
would love if they were just SHOWN
that instead of the “play it safe” stuff.
At the SAME TIME THOUGH, there
is something that GOOD GUYS tend
to do that is a HORRIBLE mistake,
and it truly is BECAUSE they are
so good.
The mistake is FALLING FOR A
MANIPULATIVE AND CRUEL
WOMAN and not even realizing
that she indeed is a terrible person.
The reason so many good guys don’t
realize it when they are with a horribly
behaved woman is because as human
beings, we tend to see OTHERS through
the same perspective which we see
OURSELVES.
So, if we treat others fairly, if we are good
to others, if we have empathy, if we believe
in justice, then we tend to think that OTHERS
do as well.
And so it’s not the FIRST INSTINCT to
think that a woman can possibly be so
horrible. Instead, we tend to think that
there must be SOMETHING ELSE wrong
with the picture. i.e. Maybe you feel YOU
did something wrong. Maybe you feel that
it is YOUR responsibility to “fix” the
situation with a woman. Maybe you feel
“she must just be having a bad day”.
Of course, this is HORRIFYING MISTAKE
to make, because you now start to justify
all the bad behavior that a woman does to you.
And THEN, you start to backwards rationalize
all the EFFORT you are pouring into her.
You start to think, “Well, she MUST be worth
all this pain, or there is no way I would be
doing all this for her!”
You start to think that this woman is MORE
special BECAUSE of the very fact you are
SUFFERING for her, when in reality you
are suffering BECAUSE of her.
Then, the next horrifying thing happens:
You start to FEAR the idea of LOSING her.
Oh man, this is the final disaster, because
then there is no LIMIT to the abuse you
will be willing to take. And of course,
since she is a terrible woman she indeed
WILL abuse you as far as she can take it.
And of course, all this suffering will be
backwards rationalized in your mind as
being MORE OF A REASON why she
must be so special, you will think that
the reason you are taking all this pain
is because she is “so hot” or “so special”
or that “you will never find such a woman”
as if she is somehow a GOOD CATCH.
Your mind will come up with the weirdest
reasons, like finding ONE GOOD THING
about her and then exaggerating that thing
to somehow make her seem noble.
So, I want to make it clear here that
getting a “great girl” is not only about
what you say and do, it’s also about
being able to see how your OWN mind
is communicating with you and what it
is telling you about a woman, and being
able to know when your own mind is
actually making a MISTAKE.
So, as a good guy, it's important to understand
that if a woman is constantly doing things that
make you feel BAD, then you need to slap
yourself awake out of your trance and
determine if she is REALLY so special
to begin with, and if she’s not, then you
must rip the cord, you must pull away,
you must wean yourself off of her no
matter how much you think you can’t
live without her, because she has become
an ADDICTION for you, she is a harmful
substance that you THINK you need to
survive.
Now, at the SAME TIME, I also am
not on some kind of RANT against
all women. There are MANY good
women out there, and there are even
some GREAT ones out there, that’s
the whole reason I made “Get A Great
Girl”.
So, my next point is, that if you are in
general finding that you think ALL
women are nasty, or that all attractive
women are nasty, or that all attractive
women do not want to be approached,
then I suggest you consider RE-EXAMINING
the facts to see if it’s possible that you
are allowing your own emotions to
negatively filter the truth into something
much worse than it really is with women.
Because even the greatest woman on earth
can’t be expected to JUMP into the arms
of a man who is a total stranger who just
approached her, even if she DOES want
to meet the right man.
People aren’t so quick to trust ANYONE
anymore, and I don’t blame them. All
you hear about in the news are scandals
about people you are supposed to trust
or people you used to look up to, including
even the NEWS organizations themselves.
Now, if you’re a woman, you ALSO have
to deal with the constant barrage on the
news about rapists, psychos and other
types like that, even if they don’t represent
the majority of the population, it’s a little
frightening to say the least.
And by the way, THIS is PART of why
giving women COMPLIMENTS as a
way to “pick them up” does NOT work.
Not only does it seem like it’s too easy
for any guy to say that because so many
guys use the same approach of the compliment,
but it has almost come to be synonymous
with SELFISHNESS.
In fact, if you were an attractive woman,
and you got a COMPLIMENT from a
man, the TRUTH is, the FIRST thing
you would be thinking is, “OK, NOW
COMES THE PART WHERE HE
WANTS SOMETHING FROM ME.”
In other words, the compliment is not
a form of giving at all.
It is almost like Pavlov’s dogs where
a bell would ring, and THEN the dogs
would be given food.
It got to the point that just THE BELL
would cause the dogs to SALIVATE.
Well, with women, it’s the exact
OPPOSITE feeling when most men
give the compliment, because most
men will give the compliment and
immediately be showing the verbal
and non verbal signs of “I WANT TO
TAKE FROM YOU”.
I know this is hard to understand as being
a bad thing, because I myself as a man
used to fantasize about what it would
be like to have women “chase” and
give compliments and try to “get” me.
But it’s not exactly a great feeling when
every single time a guy starts a conversation
with a woman with something like, “Nice
day today, isn’t it”, she KNOWS it’s really leading
up to, “Can I go out with you?”.
Women DO want to meet men.
They just need to feel NON-PRESSURED
and SAFE doing it.
Now, the TRUTH also is, that body language
and tonality says the majority of your message.
Here’s an experiment for you:
Go up to a woman today and give her a
COMPLIMENT, but DO NOT EVEN
TRY TO TAKE THE CONVERSATION
ANYWHERE.
Do not try to get her number.
Do not try to GET anything.
In fact, do this at the most “creepy” time
and location you can think of.
Perhaps late at night in a store that is
not busy.
Go RIGHT UP TO A WOMAN and tell
her a stereotypical compliment.
Don’t even worry about walking up to
her in some special way. Just go right
up to her, and tell her she is beautiful.
You will notice two things usually:
She will be a BIT freaked out initially,
and then as she SEES you are totally
not trying to take anything or do anything,
she will actually SMILE and be a bit
speechless looking at you with wonder
and curiosity and INTEREST.
This ONLY works if your MINDSET
is FOCUSED on the fact you are NOT
taking ANYTHING from her, and is
focused on the fact you are totally
just GIVING.
This is an important experiment to
PROVE to you that most women are
in fact NOT “beeeyotches” and if they
just had a chance to KNOW that you
are NOT going to be the guy who
pressures them into feeling they need
to do something right then and there
like becoming your girlfriend without
even knowing you, they would be
MUCH MORE OPEN to actually
in fact doing that very thing- becoming
your girlfriend!
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to know how to MEET,
how to ATTRACT, and how to KEEP
a fantastic quality girlfriend that is
the “total package” of inner and outer
beauty, I seriously suggest you get my
program “Warrior Within”.
This program goes DEEP. It’s not a
“Band-Aid” superficial solution. Rather,
it transforms you for real on the deepest
level to make you the kind of man that
the most fantastic women on earth can’t
help but fall in love with.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
I need to tell you about getting quality women.
I’ve been really busy lately so this has
been on my mind and it’s cool to finally
be able to tell you.
The first thing is that, as you know,
"Get A Great Girl" is really about that,
how to get a GREAT woman, a woman
who is that total package of being
faithful, beautiful, fun to be around,
health conscious, and woman who
helps you be your best, even if it
means challenging you sometimes
so that you can BE your best because
she BELIEVES in you.
So one question a lot of guys want to
know is where to even MEET such
a woman. Well, here’s one example,
and that is at a Yoga class. That doesn’t
mean that every woman at the Yoga
class is going to be that woman, but
there’s a lot higher chance of meeting
a woman that has an open mind, that
has a great personality, that is into
improving herself not only physically
but also appreciates the importance
of being in the right state of mind,
and a woman who is not only about
the material things in life, at a yoga
class than at a really smoky deafeningly
loud club.
At the same time, in my Warrior Within
program, you will learn how to QUICKLY
detect a woman’s personality through her
behaviors. And when I say quickly, I mean
usually in just SECONDS, not days or weeks.
So you can easily be hopping on the bus,
sit next to a woman, strike up a chat with
her and find out VERY quickly if she has
the characteristics you are looking for.
By the way, ONE of the keys to determining
a woman’s personality very quickly is through
realizing that people give away their picture
of the world and of their perception of what
is right and what is wrong ALL THE TIME.
They do this because this is how they genuinely
feel. So a woman who enjoys manipulating
other people is often PROUD OF IT.
As long as you are careful not to make her
feel judged, she will reveal EVERYTHING
about herself to you.
So that’s another key: When meeting a
new woman, do NOT give away YOUR
values right away, this way she can feel
free to convey HER values.
This leads me to my next point:
I got into this whole field to help the good guys.
I saw how so many JERKS were successful
with women, and it took me many years
to realize that it’s not that women are truly
attracted to jerky behavior, it’s that they
are attracted to confidence, to sexuality,
to men who don’t get brainwashed by
stupid social conventions that say
only “bad” people are sexual and only
“bad” people are flirty and only “bad”
people don’t follow all the stupid rules
of society such as being boring to make
sure you don’t offend anyone.
In FACT, the whole reason so many good
guys act boring when they chat up women
is BECAUSE they have been taught that
being GOOD means FITTING IN, and
the only way to ENSURE you fit IN
is by making sure to NOT SHAKE
THE BOAT, to NOT stand out, to
NOT offend anyone even by accident.
And so, this PLAYING IT SAFE
style of behavior ends up making
sure that most men do NOTHING.
The SAFEST way to NOT OFFEND
is to do NOTHING. That way, you
for sure won’t offend anyone.
Meanwhile, the truth is that inside of
every good guy is an INFINITE fire
of creativity, of spark, of sexuality,
of so much awesome stuff that women
would love if they were just SHOWN
that instead of the “play it safe” stuff.
At the SAME TIME THOUGH, there
is something that GOOD GUYS tend
to do that is a HORRIBLE mistake,
and it truly is BECAUSE they are
so good.
The mistake is FALLING FOR A
MANIPULATIVE AND CRUEL
WOMAN and not even realizing
that she indeed is a terrible person.
The reason so many good guys don’t
realize it when they are with a horribly
behaved woman is because as human
beings, we tend to see OTHERS through
the same perspective which we see
OURSELVES.
So, if we treat others fairly, if we are good
to others, if we have empathy, if we believe
in justice, then we tend to think that OTHERS
do as well.
And so it’s not the FIRST INSTINCT to
think that a woman can possibly be so
horrible. Instead, we tend to think that
there must be SOMETHING ELSE wrong
with the picture. i.e. Maybe you feel YOU
did something wrong. Maybe you feel that
it is YOUR responsibility to “fix” the
situation with a woman. Maybe you feel
“she must just be having a bad day”.
Of course, this is HORRIFYING MISTAKE
to make, because you now start to justify
all the bad behavior that a woman does to you.
And THEN, you start to backwards rationalize
all the EFFORT you are pouring into her.
You start to think, “Well, she MUST be worth
all this pain, or there is no way I would be
doing all this for her!”
You start to think that this woman is MORE
special BECAUSE of the very fact you are
SUFFERING for her, when in reality you
are suffering BECAUSE of her.
Then, the next horrifying thing happens:
You start to FEAR the idea of LOSING her.
Oh man, this is the final disaster, because
then there is no LIMIT to the abuse you
will be willing to take. And of course,
since she is a terrible woman she indeed
WILL abuse you as far as she can take it.
And of course, all this suffering will be
backwards rationalized in your mind as
being MORE OF A REASON why she
must be so special, you will think that
the reason you are taking all this pain
is because she is “so hot” or “so special”
or that “you will never find such a woman”
as if she is somehow a GOOD CATCH.
Your mind will come up with the weirdest
reasons, like finding ONE GOOD THING
about her and then exaggerating that thing
to somehow make her seem noble.
So, I want to make it clear here that
getting a “great girl” is not only about
what you say and do, it’s also about
being able to see how your OWN mind
is communicating with you and what it
is telling you about a woman, and being
able to know when your own mind is
actually making a MISTAKE.
So, as a good guy, it's important to understand
that if a woman is constantly doing things that
make you feel BAD, then you need to slap
yourself awake out of your trance and
determine if she is REALLY so special
to begin with, and if she’s not, then you
must rip the cord, you must pull away,
you must wean yourself off of her no
matter how much you think you can’t
live without her, because she has become
an ADDICTION for you, she is a harmful
substance that you THINK you need to
survive.
Now, at the SAME TIME, I also am
not on some kind of RANT against
all women. There are MANY good
women out there, and there are even
some GREAT ones out there, that’s
the whole reason I made “Get A Great
Girl”.
So, my next point is, that if you are in
general finding that you think ALL
women are nasty, or that all attractive
women are nasty, or that all attractive
women do not want to be approached,
then I suggest you consider RE-EXAMINING
the facts to see if it’s possible that you
are allowing your own emotions to
negatively filter the truth into something
much worse than it really is with women.
Because even the greatest woman on earth
can’t be expected to JUMP into the arms
of a man who is a total stranger who just
approached her, even if she DOES want
to meet the right man.
People aren’t so quick to trust ANYONE
anymore, and I don’t blame them. All
you hear about in the news are scandals
about people you are supposed to trust
or people you used to look up to, including
even the NEWS organizations themselves.
Now, if you’re a woman, you ALSO have
to deal with the constant barrage on the
news about rapists, psychos and other
types like that, even if they don’t represent
the majority of the population, it’s a little
frightening to say the least.
And by the way, THIS is PART of why
giving women COMPLIMENTS as a
way to “pick them up” does NOT work.
Not only does it seem like it’s too easy
for any guy to say that because so many
guys use the same approach of the compliment,
but it has almost come to be synonymous
with SELFISHNESS.
In fact, if you were an attractive woman,
and you got a COMPLIMENT from a
man, the TRUTH is, the FIRST thing
you would be thinking is, “OK, NOW
COMES THE PART WHERE HE
WANTS SOMETHING FROM ME.”
In other words, the compliment is not
a form of giving at all.
It is almost like Pavlov’s dogs where
a bell would ring, and THEN the dogs
would be given food.
It got to the point that just THE BELL
would cause the dogs to SALIVATE.
Well, with women, it’s the exact
OPPOSITE feeling when most men
give the compliment, because most
men will give the compliment and
immediately be showing the verbal
and non verbal signs of “I WANT TO
TAKE FROM YOU”.
I know this is hard to understand as being
a bad thing, because I myself as a man
used to fantasize about what it would
be like to have women “chase” and
give compliments and try to “get” me.
But it’s not exactly a great feeling when
every single time a guy starts a conversation
with a woman with something like, “Nice
day today, isn’t it”, she KNOWS it’s really leading
up to, “Can I go out with you?”.
Women DO want to meet men.
They just need to feel NON-PRESSURED
and SAFE doing it.
Now, the TRUTH also is, that body language
and tonality says the majority of your message.
Here’s an experiment for you:
Go up to a woman today and give her a
COMPLIMENT, but DO NOT EVEN
TRY TO TAKE THE CONVERSATION
ANYWHERE.
Do not try to get her number.
Do not try to GET anything.
In fact, do this at the most “creepy” time
and location you can think of.
Perhaps late at night in a store that is
not busy.
Go RIGHT UP TO A WOMAN and tell
her a stereotypical compliment.
Don’t even worry about walking up to
her in some special way. Just go right
up to her, and tell her she is beautiful.
You will notice two things usually:
She will be a BIT freaked out initially,
and then as she SEES you are totally
not trying to take anything or do anything,
she will actually SMILE and be a bit
speechless looking at you with wonder
and curiosity and INTEREST.
This ONLY works if your MINDSET
is FOCUSED on the fact you are NOT
taking ANYTHING from her, and is
focused on the fact you are totally
just GIVING.
This is an important experiment to
PROVE to you that most women are
in fact NOT “beeeyotches” and if they
just had a chance to KNOW that you
are NOT going to be the guy who
pressures them into feeling they need
to do something right then and there
like becoming your girlfriend without
even knowing you, they would be
MUCH MORE OPEN to actually
in fact doing that very thing- becoming
your girlfriend!
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to know how to MEET,
how to ATTRACT, and how to KEEP
a fantastic quality girlfriend that is
the “total package” of inner and outer
beauty, I seriously suggest you get my
program “Warrior Within”.
This program goes DEEP. It’s not a
“Band-Aid” superficial solution. Rather,
it transforms you for real on the deepest
level to make you the kind of man that
the most fantastic women on earth can’t
help but fall in love with.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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