Sometimes the answers to guys' questions
about "pick up" and attracting women can be
VERY useful to many OTHER guys.
That's the case today, so here we go:
***LETTER FROM A READER***
"Hi Michael,
On Sunday I met this gorgeous girl from
south Africa. I managed to get her email
by being THE MAN. Unfortunately we have
a very limited time frame because she's
leaving on wednesday. So, it's most
likely sex or nothing.
I'm from Berlin and she only speaks a
little German. So, we communicate in
English using email. This is cumbersome
because she's only online in pubs and
internet cafes.
However, I think she's playing games
(gorgeous and probably used to lots
of ass kissing). On sunday she mentioned
that she would like to go to a museum
today (Monday). So I proposed to visit
a museum together via email.
First she agreed and then canceled the
date in a second email ten minutes later
claiming she just met a friend.
She said she would get back later today
to fix a date for tomorrow (tuesday).
She didn't. So currently I'm thinking
about waiting till Tuesday noon until
I send her the following mail:
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Hi xxxx,
This is the second time you kind of stood
me up. So, I think your playing games.
However, I don't like being played with.
Please think about it. If you agree that
this is inappropriate behavior I'll accept
an apology and we should go out tonight.
Otherwise, enjoy your trip and good luck
with your internship.
x
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Is this appropriate or should I just ignore
her and see if she gets back? Is the
language OK? Am I too rude?
It's also possible that she's just hung over
from Sunday night. But then she should say so.
What do you think?
Thanks for any advice and your excellent programs.
Ronnie"
***MY REPLY***
Hi xxxxx,
Thanks for contacting me and for the kind words.
Regarding your question, I think the best
thing to do is NOT to IN ANY WAY let her
know she is pissing you off until you have
LEVERAGE in the situation.
And since she has just met you, there isn't
much leverage in your situation right now.
Showing frustration at this point to her,
or telling her that you think she is standing
you up, etc, will just come across as her
being the prize.
Also, as you mention, it's possible that
there are reasons, i.e. hung over, etc.
I would just PERSIST, but in the way that
a man who HAS OPTIONS and is ALREADY in
a great mood would persist.
And I would keep it ALL playful.
Tell her to get her ass to the museum or
anywhere else, in a PLAYFUL confident way
that shows NONE OF THIS is bothering you
because you are the kind of man who
UNDERSTANDS the reality of a hot woman
and that until she knows you better
it's simply hard for her to know who
you really are and how awesome it is
to be with you.
And think how you would behave as the
MAN WHO IS IN A GREAT MOOD with tons
of options who just happens to also
find her attractive.
One of the great ironies is that until
you EXPERIENCE the amount of choice that
a hottie gets, it often seems almost
IMPOSSIBLE to understand things from
that perspective, and yet it is THAT
perspective that is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important for success.
Think and behave like a HOT woman who
is on CLOUD NINE when it comes this
part of her life (dating)!
Then, when you behave THAT way, you automatically
become a BILLION times more attractive in your
BEHAVIOR and your mannerisms reflect the right
level of confidence, fun, and sensuality.
Also, when you understand her perspective, you
understand that nothing is meant by her maliciously,
and that in fact she probably DID enjoy meeting you,
it's just not an EMERGENCY to have to meet up again
in so little time, especially when she really does
not know you and how awesome you are.
The irony is that as you adopt this attitude,
you start to get so many women in your life
who are actually the ones chasing you, and
you find yourself behaving just like this
chick and without being malicious at all,
in fact you would think that if a chick
who was almost a stranger got upset at you
for not being able to meet up, you might
start to wonder why on earth is she
getting upset.
By the way, I want to say that I learned
all this the hard way, but it made a
MASSIVE difference once it sunk in
and will make a massive difference
for you too, I am sure.
And now, let's move to our next reader's questions:
***ANOTHER LETTER FROM A READER***
"Good day Michael,
I want to ask your help regarding cold approaches.
In your Dating Wizard ebook, you mention that
the very first step in making approach is to
"Establish eye contact and walk right up
to her".
But from my decent experience, I noticed most
of the time, she would rather talk to her
friends (if she’s in a group) or tend to be
busy/pre-occupied to noticed a stranger like
me if they are alone ie. Phone-calling,
shopping, reading books etc.
Sometimes, they are walking way too fast before
I even have time to make my move.
So, my question is, does the approach always
have to start with eye contact?
What are the exceptions?
And how do I get started if she just keeps
busy doing her things?
Ever since I started out, I do get polite
responses from women, (sometimes their number)
but hardly get a date.
But that’s okay. I am still trying to get
the hang of it.
Now I am currently living near my capital city.
And on the weekend, I do go out to public places
which are normally crowded with people (shopping
mall, train stations etc) and have a high chance
to meet some hotties.
But the problem is, I have several difficulties
in approaching women in such places.
I noticed at first that whenever I screen for her
looks (face, body, dress, or anything particular
that fills my taste), most of the time, I take
way too long to figure out whether she’s my
taste or not.
By the time I decide to do something, the women are
probably halfway down the escalators or far enough
that requires me to chase just for the sake of the
approach, which later on, I decided to stop halfway
since…
1. It burns a lot of my energy to chase her
around like that.
2.It looks creepy especially if she noticed me,
which tend to make her walk even faster.
3.It changes my positive state from being playful
or intrigue to just a tired exhausted guy.
It happens A LOT that sometimes I feel that
this style of approach is just too much for me.
Where did I messed up?
How do I approach a moving target without affecting
my inner state, and make that SPLIT-SECOND decision
to check her out and approach before she was long gone?
How can I improve and develop the right skills to
approach women in such a tough environment?
Michael, I need your help right now, because deep
down inside I know you are the BEST advice that
I can get.
Feel free to share this if you want to. Maybe
the good guys out there can benefit from this
information too
Thanks for your time.
Sincerely,
A., Malaysia"
***MY REPLY***
First of all, congratulations on taking ACTION
and not just being an observer of attractive women.
Also, I think it's cool how the art and skill
of approaching and meeting women and attracting
them is often so similar even halfway across
the world. In other words, getting these skills
will get guys women ANYWHERE they go.
ABOUT EYE-CONTACT:
Onto your first question regarding eye-contact
and how it seems so many women have their
attention on a book, phone call, or talking
to their friends, shopping, etc.
If you can't make eye-contact right away,
DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, and GO RIGHT AHEAD
with the approach anyway.
The real point behind the eye-contact is that
eye-contact is VERY important.
The Dating Wizard book is an important
FOUNDATION for any man's success with
women, so that is why I stress the
CORE FOUNDATION concepts in that book.
Giving eye contact right away shows that you
aren't a creepy guy, that you aren't afraid
of revealing your interest in her.
Giving eye contact also says you are
interested in learning more about HER,
as the expression goes, "the eyes are
the window to the soul".
And giving eye contact and maintaining it
instead of looking away when she looks
back shows you are CONFIDENT because you
are implying that you feel you have
the value and that you are ready to
PROCEED with her rather than EJECT.
So eye contact is IMPORTANT.
You should be making steady eye-contact and
not darting your glance all around the place
instead of focusing it on her.
Being able to look right into the eyes of
a woman who is super hot, and MAINTAIN
eye contact is sometimes a challenge if
a guy is new at this thing, because she
is so hot that it almost feels like
you're being COOKED in her hotness, but
this is GOOD, as the longer you force
yourself to stay in there, the easier
it gets in the future, and the more
your mind calibrates itself and
perceives yourself as being the
kind of guy that has these women
in his everyday reality.
So again, if you can't make eye contact
BEFORE speaking, then just go right ahead
and START speaking and she will then
TURN toward you and THEN you will easily
make eye contact, which you should maintain.
This is where using the RIGHT voice tonality
for opening is even MORE important, so that
whatever she was doing PRIOR to your approach
becomes VAPORIZED in her mind and all her
attention immediately goes toward YOU.
Remember, the right tonality is often a
combination of SEVERAL states of mind,
being upbeat, being in touch with your
sensual side (imagine the slow delivery
of the way a person might say that
"the chocolate cake was sinnnnnnnnfully good,
it was friggen awwwwwwwwwwwwwwsome"),
and being dominant.
These EMOTIONAL STATES can be CONVEYED in
your TONALITY, and they help like crazy
to open your conversations with women
successfully.
So from now on, you no longer will be held
back from taking action just because you
can't immediately make eye contact, right?
Now, regarding your other point:
WOMEN WHO ARE MOVING TARGETS
You mentioned that by the time you finish
screening the women they are usually out
of reach, i.e. "halfway down the escalators"
or that the situation would then require
you to chase after them, which would
burn your energy, get you out of the
right state of mind, and that it looks
CREEPY.
EXACTLY, I agree TOTALLY.
This is why, as you notice in the beginning
of the book, I mention how the skill of
attracting women is a skill that you spend
time practicing so that when the skill is
required you can go into action IMMEDIATELY.
This INCLUDES the ability to quickly make
a decision on whether to make the approach
or not.
In fact, this is a HUGE, HUGE, HUUUUUUUUUGE
thing that will make a MASSIVE difference
for you in the future.
And, if you CAN'T make the decision fast enough,
then I ALWAYS believe you SHOULD make the approach.
There is NOTHING to lose, because at WORST
if the woman is not exactly your interest,
you can always decide that LATER, i.e.
during your chat with her.
If you notice while chatting to her that she
is NOT what you are interested in, you can
just treat the chat as a social interaction
and let her go without leading her on.
AND, the practice will just make you better
anyway for the NEXT approach.
There's no DOWN side to making the approach.
I do agree that CHASING after women in terms
of PHYSICALLY trying to catch up with them
is bad strategy for all those reasons, it
gets you out of the right frame of mind
and puts you into a more desperate one
by the very nature of the act of running
after these women, plus it can be exhausting
if you do this all day, plus it can look
creepy.
Save yourself from ALL that by taking action
IMMEDIATELY. Get yourself into the habit
of taking immediate action, and this will
ALSO help you speed up your ability to know
whether you are physically attracted or not
to where it only takes a split-second.
When you get good at this skill, it only
takes a SPLIT-SECOND to know if you are
interested or not in a woman.
I also want to add one little comment here:
To any guy that thinks this all seems like
a lot of WORK to get a chick, let me PLEASE
make one thing SUPER DUPER-FRIGGEN DUPER
CLEAR:
Until you are actually IN THE ACTUAL MOMENT
of doing this stuff, I can't possibly describe
to you with enough justice just how much
EXCITEMENT is sparked by the knowledge that
WOMEN WHO ARE TOTAL STRANGERS RIGHT IN FRONT
OF YOU CAN SOON BE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS OR LOVERS
OR WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH THEM by simply
TAKING THE RIGHT ACTIONS.
All the entertainment in the world, and believe
me I absolutely LOVE movies, and I used to be
addicted to video games, all these things are
still NOTHING compared to the EXCITEMENT of
not only MEETING women, but MEETING THEM
AS TOTAL STRANGERS out in the REAL WORLD.
On a very basic primal level, this is really
what we are all HARDWIRED to do, even more
than enjoying video games or watching movies,
the idea of GETTING WOMEN is in fact a huge
part of a lot of movies and video games!
And the action and skills and strategies
of meeting women out there for real
actually forces your mind to use just
about ALL it's resources, it uses your
sense of timing, your social skills, your
wit, your humor, your passion, your empathy,
your courage, it uses ALL OF YOUR EMOTIONS.
To be honest with you, for a while I was
ADDICTED to this as well, it was an escape
I used for some personal issues which I have
since worked on for years. I still believe that
meeting women is a great POSITIVE motivator
for making progress in many OTHER important
areas of life as well.
When the right woman or women are in your life, you are ON.
When the right woman or women aren't in your life, it almost feels like being ASLEEP.
The key of course is balance, and meeting
the kind of women who give you great
emotions and not negative ones.
So again, if anyone thinks that meeting women
this way is some kind of challenge, the answer
is that it is the most exciting, fun, rewarding
and PRIMAL challenge there is, it's what we
were all BORN to do.
And if you're reading this right now,and would
like to get these skills for attracting women
out there who are total strangers and turning
them into the women who are crazy about you,
crazy about getting naked with you, crazy
about driving you wild in bed, and who can't
wait to be with you again, I would LOVE to be
the guy who serves you as your most dedicated
coach all in REAL TIME on tons of real women.
I will teach you in an EXCLUSIVE private bootcamp,
one-on-one, for two entire days as you learn the
skills for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE.
To sign up for the Real World Bootcamp go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
I'd also like to mention a very important program
of mine, called the Attraction Mastery Program.
For many men, before they are ready to meet
that special girl who is THE ONE, they need
to DATE a lot of women. That makes sense,
you get experience with women before you
know exactly what you want.
In my Attraction Mastery Program, I focus on
ONE THING, and that thing is ATTRACTION.
And by attraction, I also mean the attraction
that makes a woman want to get "down and dirty"
with you, if you know what I mean.
This program ANSWERS all the "nitty gritty"
questions guys have, it EVEN shows you exactly
how to walk right into a club, get a woman
seated privately with you in seconds, and
be hard-core making out with her in just
moments from then, even if she is NOT drunk
or tipsy at all.
This program also shows you how to do "pick up"
ANYWHERE you meet a woman.
This program is so powerful, that I personally
think that you are going to have to be CAREFUL
about which women you decide you WANT in your
life and which ones you don't, because this
program is not particularly designed for
any ONE kind of woman, it is going to get
you TONS of women, and it's up to YOU to
decide what kind of woman you want after that.
This program was professionally recorded in
the studio and contains TWELVE HOURS of pure
GOLD on how to attract women no matter WHERE
you find them.
You can take what you learn from this program and
be using it on women IMMEDIATELY.
Download it NOW, at:
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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