How To Build A Connection With A Woman

One of the important things to me is to constantly
be in touch with “the real thing” of going out
to approach and attract women who are total
strangers, so that I am never just speaking from
the comfort of a computer, but from actually
experiencing it in the real world.

Even more importantly, seeing in real life in
my bootcamps how these tips work not just
for me, but for all kinds of men from all
over the world, week after week.

What I want to focus on today is the power of
CONNECTING to a woman.

There are many important areas when it comes
to approaching and attracting women, such as
humor, wit, and style, but CONNECTION is
one of those areas that is CRUCIAL and yet
is most MISUNDERSTOOD.

A lot of men think that developing a connection

with a woman is the same thing as being a “nice

guy”. As if connection is all about trying to

MAKE yourself GET ALONG with a woman,

so that she will feel that you both connect.

But that is NOT what connection is.

In fact, when a typical guy goes up to a woman
and just tries to get her with compliments and
when he tries to do favors for her, he is actually
HARMING the connection.

This is because women can tell RIGHT AWAY
that the guy is not trying to connect, he is just
trying to get into her pants in this indirect way!

So when a guy acts like that, she will just put
UP an invisible barrier to him, because she will
not WANT to connect with him.

In fact, this is even why some guys think that
“jerks” do better with women.

The “jerk” does not try to HIDE the FLIRTATIOUS
nature of his approach to her.

For example, the “jerk” might jokingly tell a woman
to stop staring at him like he is a piece of meat, and
he might jokingly say that he expects to be taken
to dinner and to be respected for his mind and
not just his body.

Now, although that is not a deep connection, as a
FIRST statement, it is not HIDING the flirtatious
GENUINE sexual tone of his interaction, even if
that sexuality is being expressed PLAYFULLY.

So far, the “jerk” hasn’t done anything that is
“jerky” at all.

In fact, because SHE is a woman with a sexual
side to her personality, the fact that he has shown
he is COMFORTABLE with his sexuality, allows
HER to feel comfortable to ALSO get a little flirty
without fear of being labeled as “cheap”.

So, in a way, he HAS connected already to her in
a much more GENUINE and effective way than
the supposedly “nice” guy has!

In fact, now that the “jerk” has clearly made this
interaction a SEXUAL one in it’s tone, he can,
if he is SMART, then continue to BUILD the
connection with her in OTHER ways as well,
including the MENTAL, the EMOTIONAL,
the SPIRITUAL, etc.

I’m going to stop using the word “jerk” here,
since as you can see, none of this so far is
JERKY.

CONNECT THROUGH INTELLIGENT LISTENING

After flirting with her a bit, the key is to REALLY
LISTEN WELL to anything she says to you,
so that you are detecting and LEARNING things
about her personality that can FURTHER help
you CONNECT to her in a genuine way.

Yes, a genuine way.
If you DON’T find anything about her that you
feel you can genuinely connect with, i.e. that you
can genuinely appreciate, respect, or admire, then
why the heck would you want to BE with such
a woman unless you were NEEDY?

And if you are feeling needy, you need to slap
yourself silly to snap out of that!

The art and skill of connecting to a woman is
something that will help you not only attract
a woman in the first place, but also as you
build deeper and deeper connections, it will
KEEP her attracted to you long term and
it will INCREASE the intimacy between
you and any woman.

Never underestimate the power of LISTENING.
Even if she says something as simple to you
like the fact she is cooking CHICKEN for
dinner, can be a great window into a deeper
connection.

For example, you can find out if she enjoys

cooking, and if she does, you can find out if

it is because she is creative, or if it’s because

she is health-conscious, or if it’s just a form

of relaxation for her because it is one of the

few things that humans can still do slowly

that resembles our ancient past the way things

were meant to be, instead of ordering it all

instantly via fast food.

Whatever her answer IS, it tells you MORE about
her actual PERSONALITY, and this gives you
more opportunities to discover if there are things
about her that you genuinely CONNECT with.

For example, maybe you've never cooked at all,

but you also have your own hobby that is

all about you escaping from the modern

world of rush and hustle-bustle and allows

you to slow it down and enjoy life in

a more 'present' state of mind instead

of always worrying about the future.

This might lead to a common appreciation for
enjoying the moment and making the most out
of life's little pleasures, and you might
even give her a relaxation exercise right
then and there in the store, perhaps
describing a winding staircase that goes
down, down, down, and you tell her to
visualize the staircase, and how as
she visualizes each descending, winding
layer of stairs, she is getting more
and more relaxed.

Or perhaps have her visualize a candle,
that is slowly burning, and as the wax
slowly melts, so too are her thoughts,
and concerns, just melting away....

By doing this together with her, you
have just BONDED as well, since you
both SHARED an activity together,
PLUS you connected on this shared
VALUE of escape from the mundane
worries or the hustle-bustle of life.

THE ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

One of the great tragedies of our time is that many
men and women have made ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS
between the genders in a way that causes men and
women to see each other as the enemy, or even as
just “too different”.

Yes, men and women are DIFFERENT.

That is part of the whole attraction!

The being different is part of why men and women 

were also meant to be TOGETHER.

The difference is what provides the BALANCE.

So whether it is extreme feminists who go around
trying to make men feel guilty for even LOOKING
or ADMIRING the beauty of a woman, (even though
women look at men as well), or whether it’s some
pick up artists who go around trying to tell men
they must NOT connect their REAL SELVES
to women but rather must use pick up lines
or memorized routines or manipulative tactics,
all this serves to SEPARATE men and women
in a very UNHEALTHY WAY.

It’s enough to make any GOOD man so self-conscious
that when he sees a woman he’d LIKE to approach,
he ends up doing NOTHING, for fear of doing the
WRONG thing.

The extreme feminists make him worry he might
be committing some form of sexual harassment.

The sleazy cheesy pick up artists make a man feel
that he didn’t learn enough “control” tactics to
make sure a woman gives him the desired response.

And all a man wants is to just be a man!
No desire to harass her, no desire to control her
with sleazy tactics, etc.

The GOOD NEWS is that just because millions
of people are ‘brainwashed’ and victims of
‘GROUP THINK’, (which is the effect of being
particularly INFLUENCED by an idea if one
sees that many OTHER people believe) you
don’t have to be a victim of this brainwashing!

If you are reading this right now, then WAKE UP

from the spell!!!!

The TRUTH does not change just because millions

of people subscribe to a LIE.

No matter how many people subscribe to the
extreme feminists OR the sleaze promoted by
some men, the TRUTH is that men and women
were made to be to TOGETHER!!!

So the great news is that a lot of the work has
already been DONE for you by NATURE!

This is why even some of the biggest feminists
of all time ended up getting married to some
of the most traditional and masculine MEN.

And it’s why even the biggest players of all
time like Hugh Hefner have gotten married,
often again and again and again!

Obviously, men and women WERE made to
CONNECT, and not just in superficial one
night stands, but in deeper connections,
mentally, spiritually, physically, and yes
sexually as well, because there are different
levels of sexual intimacy that stem from
different levels of connection.

This is one of the reasons I try to wean guys
OFF of pick-up lines, because I want men
to learn the best ways to connect with women,
and it’s impossible to connect your real self
to her if you are pretending to be someone else
or saying words that are not consistent with
your core personality.

THE DISTORTION OF THE TERM "ALPHA MALE"  

I want to make it clear that all these matters
of CONNECTION don’t make you a “nice
guy” in that “nice guys finish last” sense
or “weak” sense, but rather it makes you
the STRONGEST ‘ALPHA’ THERE IS.

You’ll notice over the years, I have almost
NEVER used the term “Alpha Male”.

It’s because the term has been so MISUNDERSTOOD.

Some people think the man who gets the

woman or his choice of women is the man

who goes around bossing everyone else

around and basically being in charge of

everything.

Well guess what?

This is B.S.!!

The real truth is that in order to GET to be
in such a position of power, one must actually
BE SERVING the rest of the community.

Just being SELFISH doesn’t work long-term,
unless you want to become EXTINCT.

Deer, for example, when they must go for
water, are making a complex set of decisions.
Go to early, or go to fast, and some deer
get left behind or don’t need water yet and
won’t drink much and will then die later
when they DO need water but there is
none around. Go to late, and similar
disasters happen.

And do you want to know who decides
when the herd of deer should go to the
watering area?

It’s NOT the big bad “Alpha Deer”.

Nope.
Rather, it’s a GROUP decision, a
democratic process!

Yup.
Similar democratic GROUP decision making
processes happen among fish and birds.

Even in human society, it’s a known fact that
corporations that focus on making their employees
happy and giving them what they need are the
ones who tend to flourish.

In other words, if you want to SUCCEED, you must CONNECT.

If you want to FAIL and become EXTINCT, then become an Alpha Jackass.

THE FREAKY CONNECTION TO CONNECTION

The importance of CONNECTION goes even FURTHER,
and here’s where it gets a bit FREAKY.

It seems that not only does it “feel good” and SERVE
our own interests when we CONNECT, but even down
to our most SUBATOMIC PARTICLES, science is
showing us that the entire UNIVERSE is connected
in the most POWERFUL and MIND-BOGGLING ways:

Subatomic particles possess a trait called 'spin'. 

When two particles are separated, even by TRILLIONS of kilometers, determining the spin of one SIMULTANEOUSLY and INSTANTLY sets the exact SAME spin of the other! 

This is true, INSTANTLY, even if the distance is way too far for the SPEED OF LIGHT to reach instantly!

And CERTAINLY, men and women were DESIGNED
TO CONNECT, and I don’t just mean physically,
but we ENJOY each other’s company as well.

YOUR BELIEFS ABOUT WOMEN AND ATTRACTION

So the next time you see a woman you want to approach,
don’t think, “She’s DIFFERENT. She lives in ANOTHER
reality. She is so attractive she doesn’t even realize
what it’s like to have challenges.”

The BELIEFS you have will affect the ACTIONS you take.

So it's CRUCIAL that you have the RIGHT beliefs, the RIGHT perspectives about approaching and attracting women.

The truth is that no matter how beautiful she is,
she HAS her own challenges. She still needs
that connection- remember this is NOT THE
SAME THING as compliments, kissing up,
or just ‘getting along’ and agreeing with
everything she says.

In fact, to think that any person has no problems,
is to DEHUMANIZE that person and SEPARATE
that person, and it’s not even TRUE. Every human
being has some challenges, it’s part of BEING
human. New challenges step in with every good
thing in life as well.

Beautiful women sometimes wonder if anyone
really digs the REAL version of themselves,
and beautiful women are BOMBARDED
by the WRONG guys, and beautiful women
often wish they could meet a guy who was
CHALLENGING in all the RIGHT ways
and none of the wrong ones. In other words,
a man who can stimulate her and challenge
her to be her best, a man who also has high
standards and is a challenge himself, a
man who is not needy and yet is a man who
can also be intimate, honest, and open with her.

So the next time you see a woman, see her
as another part of you that you don't know
yet, but that you would like to FIND OUT
about, because you know that there IS a
connection, it's just up to you to find it.


Feel free to use the tips, insights, and examples
in this newsletter for MAKING that connection!

And remember, just because you make that
connection and a woman likes you, doesn't mean
that you have to turn her into your girlfriend.

You might decide that you want a woman with an
even stronger connection to you.     

And if you’re reading this right now, I can
assure you this is just the TIP of the iceberg.

You can MASTER the ENTIRE art and skill
of approaching and attracting women of
particularly high quality inside and out,
by taking my real life BOOTCAMP.

In Bootcamp, you will learn and be coached
one-on-one by me in real time on tons of different
women, for two days of TOTAL IMMERSION.

Ten years of experience has allowed me to
refine this program to give you accelerated
results: In just TWO DAYS, you will have
the skill to successfully approach and attract
women ANYWHERE.

Does this mean you will get EVERY SINGLE
WOMAN????

Only a liar would tell you that.
What it DOES mean, is that with these skills,
you could get up at any time, anywhere, and
get yourself a new girlfriend in ONE DAY.

So let’s just say you completed Bootcamp on Saturday.
That means by Sunday night you could EASILY get
yourself a brand-new fantastic girlfriend by going
out and approaching women for ONE day, and
applying what you learned in Bootcamp.

To a lot of guys who haven’t seen this in real life,
this sounds IMPOSSIBLE.

But I can tell you, and SHOW you, that it’s absolutely
REAL and happens ALL THE TIME to guys who take my Bootcamps.

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Most men will NEVER learn these skills.
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to somehow MAGICALLY meet the right woman.

And I can tell you, life doesn't work that way
for the vast majority of men.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks